| Could my boyfriend be gay?
Posted: 12/13/2007 7:22:09 PM | | Not really sure where to start. I am a successful, attractive independent woman and I have been dating this guy for over a year. The problem is I almost have to beg for sex. We only have sex 1-2 times a month and I have to initiate it everytime. If I try more than that- he always has a reason why we cant ( h/a, stomache, tired). I have asked if there is something wrong with me and he tells me no- then he gets angry and ask if all I care about is sex. If I ask him to do anything for me like go to the store or go out of his way for me he gets angry and says I am too demanding and expect too much from a relationship. I am not sure if he is right because I was in an 18 year marriage prior to dating him and I havent dated anyone else except him after the end of my marriage. I am a very loving and giving person and I give 200 percent to the person I am in a relationship with- I just want him to show me that he cares and that I matter enough for some effort on his part. Some objective-candid opinions would be greatly appreciated. | |
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| Could my boyfriend be gay?
Posted: 12/13/2007 7:24:12 PM | | My bet is he's faking it... it's the gentle let down for a woman whose profile states looking for dating but is in a year long relationship... *shrug* | |
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| Could my boyfriend be gay?
Posted: 12/13/2007 7:30:15 PM | | if that's the case-why doesnt he just break up with me and move on-why keep me hanging on? What does he have to gain by doing that? | |
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| Could my boyfriend be gay?
Posted: 12/13/2007 7:32:08 PM | | No-he's not married. I have met his x-wife and his whole family. Children, mother, father and siblings. His sisters and I have become good friends. | |
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| Could my boyfriend be gay?
Posted: 12/13/2007 7:34:48 PM | if that's the case-why doesnt he just break up with me and move on-why keep me hanging on? What does he have to gain by doing that?
Same thing you have to gain by being here claiming to look for a man to date, and yet having a boyfriend. | |
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| Could my boyfriend be gay?
Posted: 12/13/2007 7:35:49 PM | | Could you be more specific. Faking it? How and why? I did join this site in November when he broke up with me- then he came back and said he was crazy. That he loved me and he didnt want to lose me. But he doesnt behave like a man that is really interested. | |
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Joined: 10/2/2007
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| Could my boyfriend be gay?
Posted: 12/13/2007 7:36:47 PM | | I don't understand why you are asking people in a Forum about that,but it could also be that he feels like sex is a demand and speak with him,not people here.You will only be more confused. | |
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| Could my boyfriend be gay?
Posted: 12/13/2007 7:38:32 PM |
Could you be more specific. Faking it? K... let me spell this out for you in small, easily understood words...
You are in a relationship, on a dating site, with a profile that states you are separated and looking for dating...
You still with me? Good...
People can sense deception in others... and he's being a gentleman by allowing you the upper hand to leave him... hell, since you're bound to anyway... what's the point of this thread other than for attention? | |
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| Could my boyfriend be gay?
Posted: 12/13/2007 7:39:27 PM | I don't really understand the problem. You're on here dating. So you have broken up with him. Right? Or are you dating him and dating on dating sites too? Do you have an open relationship?
Am I missing something here?
Oops. Never mind. Pssssst spelled it out for everyone. You are trolling for attention and men. Ahhhhhhhhhhh. Oh you clever girl. :)
Oh me thinks she is not confused. She knows exactly what she is doing.
Does he ever call you a silly savage?
Does he prance about?
Does he like opera?
Does he like Oprah?
I thank you. | |
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| Could my boyfriend be gay?
Posted: 12/13/2007 7:41:52 PM | Depending on his age, there could be some issues that he has not dealt with or may not realize that he can address. His lack of libido may be related to testosterone levels. As men age, usually 40 or after, their testosterone levels can decrease and will affect libido. A hormone panel conducted by a urologist will be able to measure his levels and either rule in or rule out that as an issue. If it is low, a regimen of testosterone gels will bring him back up to speed after a time. If that's not the issue, there can also be side affects from diabetes II, work-related stress, performance anxiety, and a host of other issues that can be physical or emotional.
I'm betting on testosterone levels being deficient if he's over 40. It's highly unlikely that your boyfriend is gay.
Best of luck.
ACP | |
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Joined: 10/13/2007
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| Could my boyfriend be gay?
Posted: 12/13/2007 7:42:51 PM | When he comes home from work does he smell of another mans aftershave?
Does he have 'razor rash' around his mouth?
Has he ever had a pedicure?
Does he wear a thong?
Does he have any 'work clothes' in the closet that resemble anyone from Village People?
Enquiring minds want to know! | |
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Joined: 6/19/2007
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| Could my boyfriend be gay?
Posted: 12/13/2007 7:43:22 PM | G.A.Y.
Going to let you do all the asking?
And it dosen't matter what you do?
You just may not turn him on...
Ouch, or he could just be G.A.Y. ....
:laugh:
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| Could my boyfriend be gay?
Posted: 12/13/2007 7:44:40 PM | Oops!
Inquiring minds want to know!
Maybe some folks could add to my list of helpful hints ;-) | |
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| Could my boyfriend be gay?
Posted: 12/13/2007 7:46:39 PM | Well that is a little judgmental- as I previously explained- I joined this site in November when he broke up with me. After I started seeing him again I didn't come back on this site until a friend I work with told me to check out her profile. I didnt even know there were forums. Then I started reading them and thought I might ask for some advice. I didn't change my profile because I haven't been on the site lloking to date. I have never cheated on anyone in any capacity and I never will. There is no honor or character in it. You work out a relationship or you leave it. You don't cheat.
I will edit my profile- not looking to mislead anyone- just looking for some help. | |
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| Could my boyfriend be gay?
Posted: 12/13/2007 7:54:19 PM | | When a man turns down sex from an attractive women there is something SERIOUSLY wrong.I'd need more info to make an accurate assessment but right now I'd say ditch him and move on.Its been over a year and this is it? it'll only get worse.A couples sexual compatibility is either there or its not and if its not your done.This is why men have always wanted to see if there was sexual compatibility as soon as possible cause the "get to know you" routine would be a total waste of time if your not.You need someone who sex drive matches yours or you'll never be happy then your likely to inevitably cheat. | |
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| Could my boyfriend be gay?
Posted: 12/13/2007 7:57:12 PM |
Could my boyfriend be gay?
If while you're doing his laundry,
you notice that his underwear have
the brown stains in the front, and
the semen stains in the back......
he's probably gay.
Seriously, OPchick, as was pointed out
more than once. You have a profile on
a dating site, seeking a relationship with
someone else.
Odds are, that he senses your disinterest
in him, and he's already let go, or he's in the
process of letting go. | |
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| Could my boyfriend be gay?
Posted: 12/13/2007 7:58:50 PM | | Thank you for you serious and reasonable advice. Unfortunately we have already been down that road. He did find out about 9 months ago that he had very low testosterone levels. I told him that I really cared about him and that I would wait for the treatment to kick in. Well it did give him more energy, and helped him lose some body fat but it really did nothing to increase his libido. Then he told me he had some emotional issues and he started therapy but he still has a very inactive libido. I think he is a wonderful man but this a serious deficit in our relationship and I did come on here seeking serious help not attention. You were the only person to give actual advice not criticism or judgement. Thank you! If you have any other suggestions on treatments or therapy we might pursue I would be happy to hear it. | |
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| Could my boyfriend be gay?
Posted: 12/13/2007 8:00:49 PM | well are you living together
is he much younger than you
is he supporting himself
or are you
dose he ride a bike
why did you break up last time | |
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| SEX AND CHORES
Posted: 12/13/2007 8:01:42 PM | | youre married and dating,but you want sex and chores doing.guess hes really `special` | |
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| Could my boyfriend be gay?
Posted: 12/13/2007 8:03:20 PM | Okay, I must comment because he sounds so much like my exhusband. We were married for 14 years and he sounds just like this guy. (Hopefully it is not my ex you are referring to...) Hmmm......
Anyway, it turns out that my ex had his heart wrapped around another woman for the entire marriage. He never was that "into" me. He became very controlling and withhheld any help of any kind, or became very angry with me.
Sounds like a multitude of huge red flags to me. My counsel..... RUN!!!!!! RUNAWAY while you can before you get seriously hurt.
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| Could my boyfriend be gay?
Posted: 12/13/2007 8:03:22 PM | LMAO!!! Nooooooo OP ..you didn't! Slick, very slick!! A woman starts a thread claiming she Begs for Sex from her b/f and .. sigh.. he just can't give her all she wants. I don't think there is a b/f (let alone a gay one!), me thinks this is just another type of bait! lol
Happy trollin' - I mean fishin'!! Yeah, I meant fishin. ;)
A.S.is | |
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| Could my boyfriend be gay?
Posted: 12/13/2007 8:05:35 PM | | No we don't live together. I own my own home and he lives in an apartment. He doesnt really have a pot to pea in and I am financially secure. He does support himself and his children. Yes, he does ride a bike. He broke up with me because he said I expect too much from a relationship and he said he didnt have it to give. One week later he called and said he had made a huge mistake and didn't want to lose me and that we should work it out. | |
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| Could my boyfriend be gay?
Posted: 12/13/2007 8:06:47 PM | | Doesnt matter which way his boat sails... if you are gettuig satisfaction, leave the relationship. | |
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