| What makes a man decide whether a woman is too tall for him?
Posted: 12/13/2007 11:04:37 PM | | Hi all, I am actually 5 8 1/2 in socks, but in my profile i state 5'9". Naturally when i meet people i am wearing shoes, generally 3-4" heels, or hiking type shoes, both of which present me as taller. I've had guys describe themselves as "confident", but when it came down to it for some of them they felt i was "too tall" even though they might have been 6' 4". But then i went with a guy for 2 years who was all of 5.4" and loved that i was taller than him, & he liked it when i wore 4" heels. What's the word out there?? Thanks a bunch! | |
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| What makes a man decide whether a woman is too tall for him?
Posted: 12/13/2007 11:07:27 PM | | I kind of laugh when I come across my old wedding pics. My ex was about a half inch taller than me in 'her socks'. She was taller in the pics. I remember joking that I was going to have to stand on a step higher when the pics were taken...either that, or get a 'booster stool'.....I really could care less. It's usually the women who have more of a problem with the height issue than men...... | |
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| What makes a man decide whether a woman is too tall for him?
Posted: 12/13/2007 11:16:56 PM | No matter how tall the woman is she can never get the lid of a jar off or carry a bottle opener ;-) About half the women I have dated have been taller than me, I really couldn't care less about height but if you peruse the pages you'll see a lot of women say they want a tall guy so they don't look stupid standing next to him in heels(I've seen this excuse at least ten times now!).
As a result I tend to avoid women who are taller than me 'online' for this reason, in person though I'll chat with any woman and the taller the better! :-) | |
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| What makes a man decide whether a woman is too tall for him?
Posted: 12/14/2007 4:49:32 AM | I am 5'7 barefoot and heels add 3-4 inches. The man I most recently dateis my height-but does not wear heels, thank goodness--I showed up in heels the first two times and flats the next. I wanted his reaction as I too have had rejection as being too tall. But when the shoes come off--we would fit--nose to nose and toes to toes...........if it ever gets that far   | |
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| What makes a man decide whether a woman is too tall for him?
Posted: 12/14/2007 6:47:10 AM | | I am 6' tall, so not many women are taller than me. But I have dated two women who were at inch or two taller. They were kind, beautiful ladies who appreciated a man who is not dismayed by a woman who is taller. No big deal anyway becase when I sit down I was taller! | |
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| What makes a man decide whether a woman is too tall for him?
Posted: 12/14/2007 7:08:19 AM |
I kind of laugh when I come across my old wedding pics. My ex was about a half inch taller than me in 'her socks'. She was taller in the pics. I remember joking that I was going to have to stand on a step higher when the pics were taken...either that, or get a 'booster stool'.....I really could care less. It's usually the women who have more of a problem with the height issue than men......
LOL Well, we're both in this boat---and it's not a bad boat at that I'd say! My wife was all of 5'10" in socks so of course the wedding she just HAD to have some stunning heels since they went so well with the rest of her ensemble. When I slightly complained she simply said "get over it---I'm taller and you like it so shut up........." which I did---gladly---she WAS stunning! Our wedding photos show her a good 6" taller than me but since she's such a looker most don't even see me. LOL
OP this 5'81/2" as opposed to 5'9" is NOT important---guys don't measure women down to the 1/16th of an inch---but most gals do--at least to the 1/4" anyway. You probably already know a guy who is truly confident in himself would NOT be put off by your height regardless the difference. Your 5'4" guy was into YOU and it seems he also actually enjoyed your height---HE is the confident one in all this!
We can't do anything about our heights so just have to deal with it all. Anyone who "rejects" us for that alone just doesn't matter in our bigger picture of life. I've been passed over many times strictly based upon this but even more often I've dated women taller who had no problem with me at all. In fact, during one summer I had a steady g/f who was varsity volleyball and every bit of 6'1" AND a terror at basketball. When we played together I almost never made a basket since she was the better player but that didn't phase me a bit. In fact it was fun trying to beat her in BB and I was never shy about being seen with her regarless the shoes she was wearing. She too seemed to not have a problem with me------it was a good time.
So I'm thinking the word is you be yourself and let others find the good qualities in you. If they show up with a tape measure and a look of fear or desperation then you'll know right away they might not be for you..................!! | |
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| What makes a man decide whether a woman is too tall for him?
Posted: 12/14/2007 7:21:22 AM | If all I ever see is her navel......then she is to tall...... ......either that or she has a fetish that I think we need to talk about...... 
OT........If it does not bother her, and she is not flaunting her tallness, then it should not bother me. The whole point is to make not only yourself, but the one you are with feel as comfortable as possible, and to make the match a good look for the both of you.
Just my opinion.......   | |
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| What makes a man decide whether a woman is too tall for him?
Posted: 12/14/2007 8:44:33 AM |
What makes a man decide whether a woman is too tall for him? I don't know, I'm a woman. You could try posting this where it should go... "ask a guy".
I'm tall... the men I knew never minded at all.
Now I'm short...LOL!!!! | |
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| What makes a man decide whether a woman is too tall for him?
Posted: 12/14/2007 8:52:26 AM | > What's the word out there??
Well, it's rather well known that the only physical characteristic that women are consistent on is men's height -- taller being better. Men don't have a corresponding preference for shortness in women. Only a percent or two of marriages involve the woman being taller than the man, so I think the OP's question is rather irrelevant since it's women's preferences here which determine whether anything happens. IOW, it doesn't matter that I might think a woman who I look straight in the tits would be cool. | |
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| What makes a man decide whether a woman is too tall for him?
Posted: 12/14/2007 11:45:17 AM | Your's is not to reason why, your's is but to do, and try.
Ride and rope and brand 'em, don't try to understand them, in other words.
Heightism (and related discrimination) is almost as rampant here as weight issues. Forrest Gump would suggest anyone who thinks they have any deficit to focus their attention elsewhere. Don't compensate, don't second guess. Tall guys are for cowardly women (just as are skinny girls for wimps).
Too tall, too smart, whatever graceful bow somebody ties around not being ready to choose you, fuggedabout it. This pathetic chemistry stuff is profound, but ignored at one's own risk, imho. Haven't we all come to deeply appreciate someone (like a co-worker, or other casual acquaintance) when our non-dating interaction meant we overlooked chemistry issues? But this is a dating pool, and there doesn't seem to be the luxury of "getting to know you, getting to know all about you."
As Hedwig quipped in The Angry Inch "it's what I have to work with."
Or MJBlige's overplayed iPod spot "work what you got."
You're blessed, deal with it. And why are women so enthralled by high heels anyway? | |
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| What makes a man decide whether a woman is too tall for him?
Posted: 12/14/2007 2:49:37 PM | What makes a man DECIDE anything is his brain. (Oh dear! Did I raise some concept that ins't talked bout? The male brain)
Fact is that everybody has their tastes. I know several litle guys have a real thing about tall girls, usually over 6 feet.
Others like em normal size.
Come to think of it, how tall's Elle McPherson? | |
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| What makes a man decide whether a woman is too tall for him?
Posted: 12/15/2007 2:30:27 PM | My guess is he may be less imaginative regarding maneuvers.
You go to kiss her and you find yourself kissing her navel? Lotta confident buds out there, some powerfully kind, clever, ingenious (verbally, socially, tactially, vertically, hortizontally... etc.) Whatever happened to creative use of stairs? With a confident male, I don't see a problem; but then, at 5' 9" I've been on the receiving end. | |
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| What makes a man decide whether a woman is too tall for him?
Posted: 12/15/2007 5:55:38 PM | | I like tall women too. My wife was just an inch taller. never mattered to me but I do see a lot of tall men with really short women. Makes me wonder too. Maybe it's a mating thing, looking for an "opposite" to balance things out. | |
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| What makes a man decide whether a woman is too tall for him?
Posted: 12/15/2007 6:18:49 PM | Too tall at 5 81/2? Pshah!
I couldn't help but notice the statement that you are "too tall" rather than that they are "too short".
Rejecting a woman for not being the proper height designation is shallow and juvenile. Consider it your good fortune to find out right away that that's the kind of person they are and then can get on with finding someone better. | |
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| What makes a man decide whether a woman is too tall for him?
Posted: 12/15/2007 6:20:35 PM | Well OP....I wouldn't mind at all if a woman was taller than me....
However, when i breeze thru some profiles that appeal to me and the woman is tall.....I read further and she always tends to put a height preference down.....
And thats cool....there is nothing wrong with having preferences for height at all....and that goes for short women who have preference to taller guys....its ok to have preferences.
Hopefully....I will meet the right woman for me  | |
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