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|Lets' just be absolutely honest: |
1) What are your deepest needs ( beside food and shelter)?
2) Where is meaning to be found, according to your own personal philosophy?
These two questions could or could not be related, depending on your point of view.
Of course I am asking 'personal' questions: do not relate this to humanity in general
but to your own experience.........Feel free to express your own judgment as it relates to you.
| c note|
Posted: 12/15/2007 12:27:37 AM
|1) Coca-Cola and cigarettes. I'm emotionally inept, and completely serious. Without these two things, I die. At least on the inside.|
2) I don't have a personal philosophy, and there's meaning to be found in practically everything. I'm confused, please stop making me think.
Posted: 12/15/2007 2:59:39 AM
|can't live without the coca cola|
Posted: 12/15/2007 6:58:42 AM
Eh...first, may I say that you are not "minding your own business" with this question. LOL
1) Well this morning I NEED coffee...real bad. I could also use a hug or two...a kiss...some chocolate would be nice...a better night sleep would do real good...a back rub. But truly, I am at the stage of life where all my NEEDS have been taking care of many years ago, got all the needs...and the toys that a boy would ever need.
2) I find all my "meaning" around me, from the people, the animals and all other things that surround me.
Posted: 12/15/2007 8:56:23 AM
|The closeness of family and friends around you, and having your financial house in order would be my two picks.|
Posted: 12/15/2007 9:00:23 AM
|c note - good for you for being so honest about your needs. LOL|
Physically - at this point in my life, I need a lot of sleep and coffee. I have been working hard.
Emotionally, I need to feel safe and then the best comes out in me. I also need to contribute to my community, which is why I am so tired. I also alway need to be doing something and always find something that needs doing, which is why I am logging off now and getting to work.
It sounds kind of weak to say I need to feel safe, but it takes strength to state.it. I hope some other people will reveal what they need beyond the basics, too, e.g. coca cola and coffee. Perhaps, later in the day, people will start typing in that they need a good stiff drink, but it would be nice to get beyond the essentials and more into emotional needs.
Posted: 12/15/2007 9:04:09 AM
|I need Chelsea to beat Arsenal and Manchester United to beat Liverpool tomorrow.|
Posted: 12/15/2007 9:04:22 AM
|I am in need of devotion|
and inner peace
Posted: 12/15/2007 9:39:02 AM
OP,Eh...first, may I say that you are not "minding your own business" with this question I am aware
I loved to hear about the need to feel 'safe'...it is a need indeed, just not sure how related to the matter of meaning this is. In my case without the sense of 'Safety' I could not even move, let alone find meaning.
Devotion: yes! I understand.
The second question is creating some wonder, I sense..... Good: this is why I decided not to mind my own business in this case.
Posted: 12/15/2007 9:50:57 AM
|Right now I NEED lotsa money hunny oh and painkillers for my back.|
Since Coke is technically food I guess I can't put it up there but it is ALWAYS on my mine. ( cola that is)
I need more sleep and more hours in my days to get things done and since my back is hooped I need a maid to clean my house.
OK they are all just selfish wants,.. but it is a mighty fine line.
I need air and a glass of water.
I am not a deep enough thinker to get philosophical this early on a Saturday. I used my brain power up all week. Besides Murphy left my doorstep for a bit and went out with my Karma this morning!
VVV funny thing about air and sex,.....neither is really important until you aren't getting any! LOL
Posted: 12/15/2007 10:11:58 AM
|I need air to breathe... I need sex :) I want good food, clothing and shelter. I also want to understand how some people can possibly get these out of the correct priotrity order |
Posted: 12/15/2007 11:18:35 AM
|I need hugs, ideally a daily dose of at least four. |
I need direct human contact and interchange. While I have many (probably far more than average) contacts by email, Internet and telephone, they make poor substitutes for the real thing. While there are people in my life that I see often or regularly, ultimately I live alone (wouldn't be in POF otherwise). Bank ATMs don't give me the pretty smiles and friendly conversation I get from the bank tellers, so guess how I bank.
Posted: 12/15/2007 11:20:33 AM
unspoken for time
where is it to be found? along the journey I guess.
Posted: 12/15/2007 12:38:46 PM
|Pan - Sorry to hear about your back. I had a similar experience when a broke my legs - at different times. The house cleaning is almost impossible and it takes soooooo long to do anything. I hope you get better soon.|
Back to needs - Sometimes, I need to be alone and sometimes I need to be with people. I think I probably need more alone time than most people, which makes me a little different. I need to do things well, which makes me a bit of a perfectionist.
When you really think about, a lot of what we do is based on what we think we need. In fact, I am getting worried my list of needs is getting pretty long, but I am not needy. Most of my needs, I have to meet for myself, because I need not to rely on other people and the list goes on and on.
Posted: 12/15/2007 12:52:53 PM
that sounds rather complicated, perhaps so complicated it become difficult to fill those needs. Hope not!
Posted: 12/15/2007 12:58:56 PM
|it's getting interesting.......|
Posted: 12/15/2007 1:59:03 PM
|OP you are bored??? and need to get stimulus??? |
Like Cnote and others I have bad habits, addictions and a seemingly always empty wallet that dictate I would need to satisfy those craving and for most part I do.
So really the only NEED I would have is to change my addictions, habits and comfort zones if I were so inclined to want to...
and then there is only one other NEED left which is for all others to quit agonizing, nagging, complaining, wanting, needing, attention seeking,...... which they seem to need me and others to listen to, deal with, understand .... in order to be perceived as a generally caring person.
I think I need a
K. analyze this
Posted: 12/15/2007 7:02:35 PM
|Mountain Lion - No, I think the OP is right. We all have needs. In fact, psychologists have been writng about them for years. We have our survival needs and then our more complex needs. I think addictions are almost somewhere between survival and higher level needs.|
Take care - Mountain Lion
Posted: 12/15/2007 7:12:51 PM
|1]sex, weed, sleep|
2]nowhere, searching is futile
Posted: 12/15/2007 7:33:32 PM
|Deepest needs: learning and growth. They are the hungers that drive my life.|
Meaning? Everywhere. It is the ability to detach and observe that opens me up to the abundance and joy that surrounds me.
Can you tell I am introspective?
Posted: 12/16/2007 12:01:15 AM
|I don't need anything.....except this ashtray.....and this paddle game....that's it...that's all I need....and this remote control|
Posted: 12/16/2007 12:08:56 AM
|and my dog.|
okay, i don't need my dog.
Posted: 12/16/2007 12:58:34 AM
|I don't NEED anything. However, after eight and a half years of single life, I am really lookin forward to meeting that specail someone sometime in the not too distant future. I don't think thats too much to hope for. |
But as far as needs go. Since joining Pof, I pretty much have everything that I need. Friendsa and loved ones is where its at ya'll?!!!
Posted: 12/16/2007 8:25:53 AM
|Everyone needs certain things beyond the things that enable us to survive. I think the word needs somehow carries a negative connotation. It is like we equate having needs with being needy. I am cleary not a needy a person but I can state my needs/wants. I also think that some of the newage philosophy encourages us to need/want nothing. Isn't that what nirvana is meant to be? At this stage in my life, I still have needs and think that most of us do. I think when we lose touch with what we need/want out of life our psyches suffer. It is not bad to need things and it does not make you needy. I think needy people expect others to sastify their needs.|
Posted: 12/16/2007 9:17:05 AM
|I "need" love or my heart dies|
thank goodness I have the love of my kids and closest friends