| Initimate atmosphere of a date setting and the 'other kind'
Posted: 12/16/2007 2:32:54 AM | Following on from another thread about first dates, I had this thought:
On going out, especially on a first date, it looks as though I prefer an intimate atmosphere. I suppose this could also be classed as an intimate encounter. 
Yet, I've been turning people down, who are asking for intimate encounter, on their profile. Was I wrong to do so? Is it all a matter of interpretation? Has this made you stop and think?
Your advice would be much appreciated.
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| Initimate atmosphere of a date setting and the 'other kind'
Posted: 12/16/2007 3:04:01 AM | I think you say a lot for the many OP, and have actually admitted a bit of the true feeling of excitment, that our minds can create or hope for.. We all have the bit of the devil in us, and the fantasy of an intimate encounter /swept of the feet, with a lusty setting is nice.. bit like fairytale stuff really! and that is how we like to see it.. but i am sure many, if brave enough to say.... love the idea, of mystery, with the added bit of intimate atmosphere, and with all that! the mind will say yes to the encounter!
All dating at some point is going to turn into an intimate atmosphere.. (sexual) just some sooner than others.. if it be first date, or 3rd if the attractions there, the body wants.. and the mind will convince you your snow white! and that can be many times over until mr or mrs right pops into your life.. but hey!!!!!! it's a human thing  | |
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| Initimate atmosphere of a date setting and the 'other kind'
Posted: 12/16/2007 4:06:12 AM | I have noticed that a lot of women who are relatively new to the site do have intimate encounter as the thing that they are seeking. However, when you read the profile it's pretty obvious that the intention of the person isn't just to find a bunk up.
I've always thought that the phrase was a little ambiguous so maybe the OP has a point. | |
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| Initimate atmosphere of a date setting and the 'other kind'
Posted: 12/16/2007 4:14:25 AM | i had an intimate encounter.
i bumped into angalina jolie last night.
a thousand times.
in my dreams
on topic.
i recently was asked by a newby what i thought of her profile.
it was a very honest one that indicated she was after a long term partner.
however i had to point out to her that her settings where for intimate encounter.
she had not read that setting as something that would attract those men who leave there number in there first message.
however it took her a while to navigate to the point where she could change her settings to dating ect.
so,it is very much open to interpritation.
but surely if your aware of the fact that the interpritation is open to how people view it you will not take the chance of stating "intimate encounter"
thus avoiding any confusion and dodgy messangers!
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| Initimate atmosphere of a date setting and the 'other kind'
Posted: 12/16/2007 4:18:11 AM | Personally I read ' intimate encounter' as meeting up for casual sex or something along those lines which is why I steer well clear  . An intimate atmosphere is something completely diffrent as in quiet surroundings where one can engage in pleasantries such as polite conversation | |
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| Initimate atmosphere of a date setting and the 'other kind'
Posted: 12/16/2007 5:09:37 AM | If you mean by intimate atmosphere - somewhere where you can hear yourself think or chat one to one, then say that. Otherwise I would avoid the word intimate. For most people, intimate encounter means casual sex and if you use intimate, in whatever context, they may make assumptions.
I don't think there is much that is ambiguous about 'intimate encounter'. If women truly put this when in fact they wouldn't go beyond a game of Scrabble on the first date, they must be a bit dim! | |
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| Initimate atmosphere of a date setting and the 'other kind'
Posted: 12/16/2007 6:06:30 AM | Intimate encounter & intimate atmosphere are two separate things......
The 1st (encounter) is term used for casual sex.
The 2nd(atmosphere) is dimly lit,soft music playing in background,& may well lead to the 1st !! LOL | |
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| Initimate atmosphere of a date setting and the 'other kind'
Posted: 12/16/2007 6:23:13 AM |
I will have you know that i keep my hands to myself on a first date Longshanks, except maybe if it was with you then i wouldnt be able to help myself
Thats the response I was waiting for,meet me behind the bike shed in 5.  | |
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| Initimate atmosphere of a date setting and the 'other kind'
Posted: 12/16/2007 7:41:49 AM | Intimate atmosphere, intimate encounter, yes to me the word that follows intimate changes the meaning completely from romantic to rather sordid.
I have more difficulty with Activity Partner because I think you really could make a case for this being either 'Sexual Activity Partner' or someone to share your hobbies with. I really don't know which P of F intended it to be.
Then there is Hang Out - what on earth is that? | |
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| Initimate atmosphere of a date setting and the 'other kind'
Posted: 12/16/2007 9:29:12 AM | | Like AprilRyan, have often wondered what activity partner means. Have always assumed it means something like "joint pursuit of a hobby". If you could just specify what the hobby was that could be really useful. For example, I'd like to meet somebody... of either sex... who fancied forming a bridge partnership or doing some walks round the Peak District. (Yes... I know if a wasn't such a lazy git i could wander down to local walking and/ or bridge club. Probably I will in the new year.) | |
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| Initimate atmosphere of a date setting and the 'other kind'
Posted: 12/16/2007 9:40:04 AM | i think it doesnt matter a fiddlers fart what you write on your profile, i have been on this site for a number of monthes and i can safely say my profile suggests nothing of casual bunk up, imtimate encounter , activity partner or even long term ,but i still get messages from people who are looking for those things. now a chat an a laugh may not be everyones cuppa char but at least im honest !!!!!!
must go now, got someone covered in marmite waiting to be licked !!!!!
lol
chow4now
xxx
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| Initimate atmosphere of a date setting and the 'other kind'
Posted: 12/16/2007 10:54:18 AM | I think that there is some confusion here between 'intimate encounter' and 'intimate atmosphere'.
The latter should always be present when meeting someone, and the former should only apply to that special person. | |
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| Initimate atmosphere of a date setting and the 'other kind'
Posted: 12/21/2007 1:33:07 PM | So I was correct, in my assumption?
Intimate encounters.................
I see them as someone just looking for sex, without emotions.
There is nothing wrong with the former, but it has to include the latter, for it to be fantastic! | |
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| Initimate atmosphere of a date setting and the 'other kind'
Posted: 12/22/2007 9:49:29 AM |
On going out, especially on a first date, it looks as though I prefer an intimate atmosphere. I suppose this could also be classed as an intimate encounter.
Intimate atmosphere is going somewhere where you'll have the chance to get know one another, maybe a quiet pub.
Intimate encounter on the first meeting, be prepared to drop your knickers, ride him like a cowboy yeee haaaaw, and never see him again. Unless he's that good, you could make it a monthly arrangement. | |
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| Initimate atmosphere of a date setting and the 'other kind'
Posted: 12/23/2007 8:05:01 AM | I only ever look at "long term" profiles.
Intimate encounter to me means - sex, f..ck buddy etc. No thanks.
Hang outs - no idea what is this supposed to mean?
Friends? I am not on a dating site to look for friends.
Activity partners? How is this different to friends someone shares common interests with?
Other relationship? I dare not to speculate..... but choose do not answer any email from men saying "Hi, love your cat and dog" ..just in case
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