| How do I know if a guy is truly in love with me or is it infatuation?
Posted: 12/16/2007 9:43:01 AM | I would like to know the difference between being in love or being infatuated? I was in many relationships and never had a guy who is truly in love with me. I had guys telling me it was infatuation or I was just a fling to them or liked me enough to be a playmate. But I never did receive the joys of a guy truly falling in love with me like the love movies and those movies I get touchy feelings about it. But in the real world I do like to know how to tell if a guy is truly in love with me. What are the signs? I appericate any feedback from the guys about this subject. Thank you   | |
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| How do I know if a guy is truly in love with me or is it infatuation?
Posted: 12/16/2007 9:52:59 AM | Being infatuated = Doesn't mind if you fart
Being in love = will even pull your finger
Being infatuated = cuddles with you after having sex
Being in love = will sleep on the wet spot
Being infatuated = doesn't mind seeing you just after you wake up
Being in love = stays anyway
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| How do I know if a guy is truly in love with me or is it infatuation?
Posted: 12/16/2007 8:16:19 PM | Time and Actions
It's easy to have  stars in your eyes when you are getting to know someone and discovering all about them.
Time tells most things. Introductions to family and friends and actions on his part that say that he cares about you speak louder than his words. Many guys will say whatever it takes to get  and under the sheets.
As far as movie romance stuff... I say forget it. Hollywood lies to get people in the seats. I'd actually be worried about that if it started happening to me. Someone who cares for you, likes you for you warts and all and who's actions are consistent with words, likes to spend time with you is awesome.
I read somewhere that you will never love exactly the same way twice and each is to be cherished. Guard your heart and see if things stand the test of time. | |
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| How do I know if a guy is truly in love with me or is it infatuation?
Posted: 12/16/2007 8:39:48 PM | | I honestly believe there was only one man ever in my life that came close to loving me as anything other than a friend, unfortunately, he wasn't one of my two ex's, lol. I don't know how to explain it...I just knew he felt very deeply for me. It was in the gentle way he talked to me, looked at me, hugged me, touched my face....just a multitude of things. I've never felt anything like it since from a man. Unfortunately, we were very young...still in school, and it was the only relationship in which I initiated it's end. I've always regretted that to some extent because my reasons for it were foolish, but he ended up with a great wife and a great life, so I'm glad for him. We've stayed friends over the years, and that has meant alot to me. | |
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| How do I know if a guy is truly in love with me or is it infatuation?
Posted: 12/16/2007 8:51:44 PM | If a guy starts talking about "forever" before you've spent the night, or even tell him where you live!!! THAT'S infatuation!
Seriously, tho...
If a guy you like is there to hold your hand when yer pukin yer guts out, that's most likely love. If he doesn't freak out when you start bawlin like a baby, that's probably love. And if a member of your family dies, and he doesn't decide the day of the funeral is a good day to go car hunting, then I can pretty much guarantee....THAT is LOVE.
If all you get is shallow gestures, like flowers on your birthday, and all the easy stuff to do, it's probably just infatuation. But if he crawls under your house to save your kitty, or fix your plumbing, (or hires the really expensive professional to do it!)
then that's love.
good luck to you, I'm sorry you feel that you've never experienced the "real" thing.
Even if it doesn't last....There is nothing in this world that compares.
keep looking. | |
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| How do I know if a guy is truly in love with me or is it infatuation?
Posted: 12/16/2007 9:00:23 PM | | Hi there wild and Crazy being in fatuated to me is only just touching the service of liking a person. Being in love is a feeling emotion that takes two people to grow on each other even before marriage. You see guys telling you they like you as a fling is not love to me. When you look at each your inner physical and some emotional feeling begin to overwhelm what is around you e.g two spanks start a fire towards a bonding.Love comes in many forms i think but you will know is this and him right for each other. Best of luck till you find him. | |
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| How do I know if a guy is truly in love with me or is it infatuation?
Posted: 12/16/2007 9:30:08 PM | One day my husband and I were fighting and he proceeded to tell me everything I did that he couldn't stand. I asked him, " well if I do so many things that you dislike why do you stay?" He paused and then he said, " Because I love You". I knew then-that man loved me...stayed together until his last day on this earth. Oh dear, there is real love out there and when you have it ...there's nothing like it,mmmmmmm a beautiful thing.
Infatuation leaves as soon as things aren't perfect anymore. | |
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| How do I know if a guy is truly in love with me or is it infatuation?
Posted: 12/16/2007 9:30:34 PM | Give it 6 months. Infatuation will give way after a time. The question is, will it give way to boredom or love.
Unfortunately, infatuation and love wear the same clothes in the beginning. Read "The Five Love Languages", there's a lot of good info on the infatuation versus in love perspectives and how to best mature the infatuation to love.
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| How do I know if a guy is truly in love with me or is it infatuation?
Posted: 12/16/2007 9:43:34 PM | | By the way he looks at you, holds you, holds your hand or flat out tells you...and it's the little things he'll do for you...draw you a bath, put candles all around, breakfast in bed, flowers just cause, cooks you dinner, lend you his car his prized possession...lol, you can rely on him, will always return your call...you can just tell...it might just take awhile sometimes or a couple of efforts on his part before you figure it out...or maybe I'm just a little slow sometimes. | |
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| How do I know if a guy is truly in love with me or is it infatuation?
Posted: 12/16/2007 10:05:03 PM | Smiles - Gotta share...the main man in my life does'nt like that I kick box. Had a match and didn't tell him about it. Well he found out & showed up anyway. Didn't know he was there. Got pretty ugly and ended up with a black eye & bloody nose....but I won. Stepped outta the ring and he was there....ice pack & all. Told me that was the sexiest thing he had ever seen.......and he thinks I'm nuts for doing this???? LOL....never the less - made him a steak dinner and got the best backrub..EVER!!!!: Now he goes to the gym with me everytime I work out.....gotta be love..snowman:   | |
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| How do I know if a guy is truly in love with me or is it infatuation?
Posted: 12/16/2007 11:04:34 PM | He will always treat you with respect.....by this I mean opening car doors,he'll tell you how much he he loves you when you lay down at night....he'll ask you if he's told you how pretty you where today.
It's the little things that you pick up on.
And if his momma is still alive or he has a sister.....pay attention to how he treats them.
I love my mom to death ....it does'nt make me a momma's boy it means that she raised me to treat women right!
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| How do I know if a guy is truly in love with me or is it infatuation?
Posted: 12/17/2007 12:06:55 AM | Scientiests have actually found that according to the chemicals in our brains, there are 3 stages of love, and infatuation is the first one.
Stage 1: Infatuation - early in the relationship.
Stage 2: Emotional compatibility (aka "Real/True love") - quite a way into the relationship.
Stage 3: Comfort/Security - normally only acheived after 30+ years being together, most commonly found in older couples who have been married for many decades.
Just had to share that with you all.  | |
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| How do I know if a guy is truly in love with me or is it infatuation?
Posted: 12/17/2007 1:41:02 AM | Hi wildandcrazy,
I'm sorry you have never experienced true love,but suspect that you haven't met the right person yet,as you never actually say if you have been in true love.
I don't think any person can tell you how or what it feels like,but ,I can assure you that when it happens you know,without thinking about it.
Perhaps if you approach any new relationship differently than before,and thinking it could be long time. Sometimes people get hooked on the newness of any new relationship,the part when you can't keep your hands off of one another,and move on when this part fades a little,but if you're really in love with the person,being with them is the most important part of the relationship,and not,only,the physical part.
Another observation is that even a user name can give out the wrong vibes,and although it is wrong for anyone to judge a person on their username,it can,and does happen. | |
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