| Ladies Awnser this one for me....
Posted: 12/17/2007 10:39:12 PM | | OK, so recently I have started talking to one of my ex's. We lived together for roughly 8 months untill we broke up. I never hated the girl since it ended...But aparently she had the biggest hate on me. So now, she has started coming over for visits. Nothing sexual, just as friends. I have asked this person if they still have feelings for me (well thats what i thought by the way she was acting) but all I got was a **** no. So what the hell am I supposted to beleve??? | |
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| Ladies Awnser this one for me....
Posted: 12/17/2007 10:56:02 PM | | Believer her when she says she does not having feelings that way. Hate is a painful emotion demonstrating there was unfinished business, she has returned to get closure. Her goal is to let go, forgive and not hate you, that does not require her to feel romantic love towards you. | |
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| Ladies Awnser this one for me....
Posted: 12/17/2007 10:56:47 PM | | Perhaps she had time to get over the break up and values the friendship the two of you could have.. Maybe she needs something and wants to take advantage of your past relationship and thinking you will help her or give her what ever she wants.. Or or or.. haha maybe she isn't being honest with either herself or with you, and she does still have feelings.. Really there are so many possibilities it could be, ask her straight forward what she hopes to gain by coming around, and judge for yourself. Let logic rule thy mind. | |
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| Ladies Awnser this one for me....
Posted: 12/17/2007 11:00:21 PM | ok the thing is...... one day she hates me to the full extent... like PMS with no midol and chocolate.... and then 5 minutes later she will be all calm and chill....
i have asked her straight forward, and the way she presents her self while i asked her... confuses the hell outta me... plus she still gives me the puppy dog look like all the time, so whats up with that then | |
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| Ladies Awnser this one for me....
Posted: 12/17/2007 11:11:27 PM | | Who cares if she has feelings for you or not? I seem flirtatious around men I'm not even attracted to, so the "puppy dog look" doesn't necessarily mean she still has feelings. But if you have feelings for her still then tell her and maybe she'll reciprocate. I really don't know what the big deal is. | |
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| Ladies Awnser this one for me....
Posted: 12/17/2007 11:15:09 PM | | WOW! Wake up! This girl is getting a thrill out of knowing that you still care. I would put a stop to the "friendly visits". There is malice in her intent. | |
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| Ladies Awnser this one for me....
Posted: 12/17/2007 11:24:58 PM | | give me a break.she is hoping you have changed.let her realize you havnt and do what you wish with it.she likes you so much she cant ask you why you are the way you are for fear of losing you.i am betting you dont even know what you did wrong in the first place. | |
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| Ladies Awnser this one for me....
Posted: 12/17/2007 11:38:20 PM | It doesn't sound all that healthy any way you cut it, dood.
Especially if she's doing a 180 every other day (you should have mentioned that in your first post, it kind of puts a dent in the notion that she's just looking for closure at the present time).
When a relationship is over and prospects haven't improved, it's not uncommon for people to remember the good times they did have with you and think "Gee, that wasn't really that bad, was it?" .. and then try to re-visit what they once had.
I would put a stop to it. | |
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| Ladies Awnser this one for me....
Posted: 12/18/2007 1:56:27 AM | I think you need to ask her what it is the reason why she is back in your life, what it is she wants. Its only going to be harder on you to move on and have closer if she is still in your life with out really telling you why. Sounds like she is just playing games, so you need to put a stop to it before you just get hurt more.
I have been there were an ex came back in my life two seperate times and all it did was just make things hurt more.
Good luck | |
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| Ladies Awnser this one for me....
Posted: 12/18/2007 2:42:07 AM | It's almost Christmas: 1. The next time she shows up, invite her in and give her a bottle of midol and a box of chocolate all wrapped up in pretty paper, with bows on it. Make it appear expensive. When she got done unwrapping those, I'd give her a third present a zicona ring wrapped up in a beauitful box (not the paper ones).
If she throws only the midol and chocolate at you, and keeps the ring then you'll know that she is in for the things, and she is one of those people that tells you PMS stories so that you'll feel sorry for her and pay attention to her!
2. If she throws the midol, chocolate and the ring at you then you'll be rid of her for good. Tell her not to let the door hit in the arse on the way out.
3. If she keeps all three then you will know she is a true PMS and confused person and really does need help and it's true she just doesn't want to lose you completely.
4. If none of these work, get a new girl to date and simply tell the ex that you have a girlfriend. Tell her you don't want to be friends, and to please not come around or you will call the police. (that works even though you would never do it). They run when they hear that one!
If you think this was funny right or not? You can't fix what is broken. You can glue it, but the fact is, it's broken. Some people can make friendships out of ex's and some people can't. It just depends on you. If you are not one of those people who can, read the four steps again.
Good luck!
Blessings,
Chela | |
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| Ladies Awnser this one for me....
Posted: 12/18/2007 5:35:05 AM | I'm not a girl, but it sounds like she's mad at herself and just taking it out on you.
kupcakes knows these things.........  | |
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| Ladies Awnser this one for me....
Posted: 12/18/2007 5:41:22 AM | She still has feelings for you, but her ego is getting in the way. The more she denies it, the stronger her feelings are for you.
I agree with other's, she IS playing a game, a childish one at that.
You have two choices.....Tell her where to get off, and stop coming around OR embrace her with a big smooch so she's knows that you know where she's at. | |
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| Ladies Awnser this one for me....
Posted: 12/18/2007 5:57:23 AM | She felt there was bond between you two ...but my guess is that your still young and want to still chat it up with the ladies and play the game...
She knows this but thinks that if she is gone..you would miss her...ask her to come back..or be more loyal to her.
Since you have more than one ex....I presume your still young and in college and not ready for any serious relationship.
Just allow her to be your friend...but that should be it....for now. | |
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| Ladies Awnser this one for me....
Posted: 12/18/2007 6:32:19 AM | hmm... sounds like she is a mixed up puppy, dealing/not dealing with issues and no communication skills.
Is this what you look for in friends OP? Didn't think so... move on to a saner patch of life.
'm not a girl, but it sounds like she's mad at herself and just taking it out on you.
kupcakes knows these things...
not bad at all, kupcakes. Might have to send you out one of those honorary membership cards. | |
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| Ladies Awnser this one for me....
Posted: 12/18/2007 6:40:34 AM | | Sounds to me like she is causing you to be on an emotional roller coaster that you need to get off of. First of all dont let how she acts allow you to feel bad. I would say you need to tell her that you cant be friends and let her go. There is someone out there that is for you! | |
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| Ladies Awnser this one for me....
Posted: 12/18/2007 6:42:59 AM | Hey kiddo? An Ex is an Ex for a reason, be it yours or theirs. It wasn't meant to be. Playing around with your head is one way that an Ex keeps you writhing with sickly excitement of "what are they gonna do next". Get some kahunies and tell this girl to step off. How are you gonna look for, let alone, start a new relationship without your Ex blocking the way? If you want happiness, be smart and wave good-bye and don't look back.
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| Ladies Awnser this one for me....
Posted: 12/18/2007 11:01:55 AM | | She probably DOES still have feelings for you, but realizes the RELATIONSHIP isn't a good one for her. She's trying to be nice and keep you in her life because you will always be somewheer in her heart. So her hot/cold could just be herself getting mad at herself because of her inability to let go. | |
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| Ladies Awnser this one for me....
Posted: 12/18/2007 11:43:33 AM | She wants you ... women DON'T stick around men they truly hate ... unless she is hanging off the arm of some hard body so you can 'see' how wonderful she is doing (and you didn't mention any hotties coming in after ...) ... so, ya. She's game, but playing hard to get ... how long have you been broken up anyway? A long break up COULD mean that she just misses your company, and there's friendship potential, but if she's skulking around soon after a break up, she's not only asking for you to cozy up, but also, she's sniffing around to see if there has been anyone around to take her place ... | |
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| Ladies Awnser this one for me....
Posted: 12/18/2007 11:50:22 AM |
WOW! Wake up! This girl is getting a thrill out of knowing that you still care. I would put a stop to the "friendly visits". There is malice in her intent.
I second that emotion. | |
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| Ladies Awnser this one for me....
Posted: 12/18/2007 11:54:35 AM | OP, why don't you ask her? Yeah I know you asked about if she has "feelings" for you and got told "no"( methinks the lady doth protest too much-Shakespeare),so ask her to tell you in her own words what it is she's trying to accomplish.
Cindy O | |
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| Ladies Awnser this one for me....
Posted: 12/18/2007 12:12:17 PM | Hmm..
I think she is just using you to meet some momentary need for security/friendship/depression... who knows.. but I'd tell her to hit the road.
What is the point in the visits other than she wants something. You're probably her prey until something she thinks is better comes a long. | |
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| Ladies Awnser this one for me....
Posted: 12/18/2007 12:16:33 PM | | May be she just feels a need for socializing. My first BF who is in Europe usually gets a call from me when I am there and we end up getting together. He was my BF like 12 years ago. We usually have nice time, fun, of course no sex, nice chat, catch up on old memories. No clearly any feelings.... | |
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| Ladies Awnser this one for me....
Posted: 12/18/2007 12:19:27 PM | Who re-initiated the friendship? She may have some feelings and is just playing hard to get/games.........or she may just want your friendship.
I'm sure you will find out soon enough.
Best,
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| Ladies Awnser this one for me....
Posted: 12/18/2007 12:58:02 PM | | She is the ont that started talking to me. As my original post says, i never rele hated her. im soo confused about you girls (no offence ladies) and your ways. | |
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