| What can I do to make my Bio better ?
Posted: 12/18/2007 9:53:46 PM | Anyone with advice, it would be greatly appreciated, I seem to be attracting only men who are not serious, I know I feel my Bio is to the point but, when I'm really looking for Long Term, it seems as though maybe I should say something different. Maybe a man could advise me better in what to write down, for they know what scares them away. Soooo, advice is really what I feel I need. Please only serious reply. Best Wishes to all.
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| What can I do to make my Bio better ?
Posted: 12/18/2007 10:07:20 PM | This actually belongs in profile review.
Get rid of pics 2 & 3 and expand on the bio.
Pic 2 is hot but will send the wrong message to jerks.
Boost the age limit to 54 and I'll be happy to move close to you for a LTR :) | |
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| What can I do to make my Bio better ?
Posted: 12/18/2007 10:14:35 PM | OP ^^^^^^^ he is right on moving this to Profile review..
you can ask a moderator to do this for you..
Boost the age limit to 54 and I'll be happy to move close to you for a LTR
Love the hitting on styles on POF. | |
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| What can I do to make my Bio better ?
Posted: 12/18/2007 10:42:02 PM | You have too many restrictions. When you start restricting people that are looking for "hang out" and "friends" you're also restricting people that just put that on their profile but really want a date. I know some guys because they think it attracts more women (not sure if that's true).
Also, why do you prefer not to say if you're a smoker or not? How complicated is it? You either smoke often, occasionally, or never. I would be a little turned off by a woman who's a closet smoker. It totally comes off as your way of being able to tell a guy you don't smoke even though you do...
Also, I would remove the picture with the man. I know most guys say that stuff like that doesn't bother them, but it intimidates enough of us to lower the number of guys that you meet. | |
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| What can I do to make my Bio better ?
Posted: 12/19/2007 1:13:12 AM | Wow, knock the age limit down... you look 29 not 49.
OT: I'd get rid of the pic where the guy is the main attraction (#3). No guy likes to see that, regardless of who the guy in the pic is. Also, stay away from talk about "no players", etc. It actually makes players see you as an easy mark... after all, you obviously fell for their charms before. In the same vein, avoid talk of ex's. Tell us who you are and what you want. If you want to avoid folks who only look at the photos and not the profile, say something in the profile like, "put the word 'banana' in the subject line or I won't respond". I bet you'd be amazed at how many don't do it.
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| What can I do to make my Bio better ?
Posted: 12/19/2007 4:24:51 AM | You're a very attractive woman (& i'm female),& there a lot of idiots on this site......,so,i'm just wishing you luck as you sift thru them all...!
Good Luck! | |
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| What can I do to make my Bio better ?
Posted: 12/19/2007 6:55:55 AM |
his actually belongs in profile review.
Get rid of pics 2 & 3 and expand on the bio.
Pic 2 is hot but will send the wrong message to jerks.
Boost the age limit to 54 and I'll be happy to move close to you for a LTR :)
she is quite attractive, but you don't know anything about her .... why would you even say that .. that just screams lonely and desperate | |
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| What can I do to make my Bio better ?
Posted: 12/19/2007 7:19:59 AM | first i would say that most men don't find it appealing when you have a picture of yourself hugging another man. most men don't want competition, since it appears this guy already has the inside track with you, many will not try.
the picture of you with the bikini top and shorts, while gorgeous, should be left private . nothing wrong with it, but many guys will take it the wrong way. when you start getting to know someone through emails, send it then. they will be very happily suprised
the profile section is too short. we all basically all want the same thing and that is on every profile, tell us what you like to do for fun. a funny story of something that happened to you. | |
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| What can I do to make my Bio better ?
Posted: 12/19/2007 8:15:06 AM | Given all your restrictions and the mention of "players" and "honesty" in your "About Me" section IMHO its clear you've chosen to be a victim instead of a survivor. Most of us want a woman that take ownership of their own past. If you're tired of players you're implying that you've been played and that implication gives players incentive to keep on playing. I think it is a given that noone wants a dishonest partner.
However visually appealing you may be how a virtually 50 year old woman could come to be adverse to the interest of a 53 year old man is beyond me to say the least. Maybe its that alacrity to whip out the victim card for it certainly isn't grounded in reason. Perhaps that honesty you spoke of should be more about how honest you are with yourself. Expectations mean nothing if they're detached from reality.
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| What can I do to make my Bio better ?
Posted: 12/19/2007 9:05:07 AM | Firstly, remove the ends of the earth thing. After all words are just words, particularly when "ergo, distance is a factor". Which is kinda funny, in regaurds to whit, when obviously if long distance email is a factor, at time of this post.
Secondly, if you have a "dream man" and are trying to pursue that, you might consider waking up to the modern realities of dating and relationships. Try a lil' less romantic drivel, as promoted by movies, books or TV, and bit more romantic you and him. Especially as the focus is you and him, and that reality, not the pointless stupidities of idealized romance.
Thirdly, edit your idealized concepts of a what you want to happen on a date. Focus on what activities you would like to participate in, not the unrealistic romantic funk, that you require to feel or expierience with or from a man. Simply because that will happen, when that happens. And if soo necessary for romance or attraction, it would be happening. From your side of the affair, as no man can provide such elaborately drivelish dreaminess, except on cue to woo you.
Or be on serious narcotics. ;)
A tad bit rediculous, methinks. As I could post on my profile that "I want to float on air, when she kisses me" but that whole gravity thing is quite a bummer. ;)
Fourthly, your profile needs to reflect what you want in reality from a man. Things that you enjoy from him, and what you will offer in return. Not what you think you'll give to the relationship, but what you will. And vice versa.
Ergo, have your profile reflect what you need and want, and why a man should care about who you are.
But if talk is that cheap, why are you choosing a romantic format that involves E conversation? If thats not so, then why are you here? Especially when Email is going to be the opening ovature?
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| What can I do to make my Bio better ?
Posted: 12/19/2007 9:22:26 AM | | I would say a little bit more about yourself....your hobbies...things you like to do...your career before you "retired"...what you are looking for and what type of man are you seaching for - some of his charateristics and preferences....men prefer to hear "up-beat" things that will make you seem like a fun and positive person to be with...it is also good to tell them what you bring to the table that might make him interested in you... | |
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| What can I do to make my Bio better ?
Posted: 12/19/2007 10:01:40 AM | | I agree with poster 2, lose the boobie shots. You are sending a message: "easy lay". Keep the head shots, loose the shot with the other guy (Don't care if it is your brother,dad, son, ex, or whatever).Tell people more about you. What you like, what you like doing. Then you need to screen your emails. Read them, study them, find flaws. why? alot of people on here are looking for booty, and are not wanting friendship or a relationship. Good luck!! | |
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| What can I do to make my Bio better ?
Posted: 12/19/2007 8:33:00 PM | You say in one sentence you would "go to the ends of earth", yet in the next you state distance was a factor with a past relationship. Very contradictive.........
Players will jump all over you....you were taken once, so they know you can be taken again............ | |
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| What can I do to make my Bio better ?
Posted: 12/19/2007 10:27:15 PM | You look pretty sharp in those photos, so they alone will probably get you lots of mail. Every dub within a hundred miles will write because of the bikini shot. A guy with a brain in his head will probably pass because of the written profile, though.
Not sure what the other folks up there had to say (didn't read the other reviews so hope I'm not repeating), but you don't have much of a profile. What you do have left no impression on me. In fact, as I type this, I can hardly recall anything in it. Something about players and something else about a relationship that didn't work out because of distance (or maybe that was one of the other thousand profiles I've read that say the same thing). Read the profile writing tips at the top of the profile review page then write something interesting and smart. Also, lose that photo of you and some guy. | |
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| What can I do to make my Bio better ?
Posted: 12/30/2007 11:33:28 AM | | Thank you for you advice, I'll see what I can do about it, the so called Bikini photo, was simply a vacation photo, having fun in the sun, not meaning to degrad myself. The photo of the guy with me, is a professional photo, I do some older age modeling, just show's what versital photograpy can do. | |
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| What can I do to make my Bio better ?
Posted: 12/30/2007 11:45:39 AM | | I did not mean to make the picture in my photo with the guy a bad one, that's my brother , and we did some photography together, he is now passed on, so if I did something to offend someone with our photo, well, sorry, maybe you should consider that he passed fighting for this country, and I may just post more of his photo's !!!!!!!!!!!! Do you by chance have aloved one you miss who you are proud of ??? Last time I checked we are still a free country, oh I see it's because of you, but how can that be, my brother is in heaven and your still fishing !!!! I do not belive Iwill take your advice , Kindly pandora48 | |
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| What can I do to make my Bio better ?
Posted: 12/30/2007 11:49:18 AM | | I will always LOVE hugging that man, he's my brother in heaven, from the war, I think I'll post more photo's of he and I , you must really be something, maybe a little insucure, or maybe just alone like the rest of us, looking for kindness, Hmmmm ? | |
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