| need to LOWER my sex drive
Posted: 12/19/2007 9:43:55 AM | | I know this sounds weird, but I want to lower my sex drive. I am a 40 year old woman who is going through a divorce. I am not in the position to be out dating until my situation is resolved. My problem is that I feel like a dog in heat. I think about sex 24/7, I dream about sex, and every man I see I want to screw. I have a drawer full of toys that I use , but nothing seems to help, sometimes it even makes it worse. I want to remain respectable and in control for my child. But I don't feel in control. Are there medications, or anything that will take the edge off until I am in the position to start a relationship? It could be months before i am actually divorced. Is it just my age? Anyone else with my problem? I went online and 100% of the site tell me how to raise my sex drive. No help there. It feels like my body "woke up" a few months ago, maybe thats why I am getting a divorce. Alcohol makes it worse. HELP! And I AM NOT sleeping with my husband, it will never be THAT bad. | |
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| need to LOWER my sex drive
Posted: 12/19/2007 10:31:09 AM | | I feel so sorry for you. I don't know how to help you. I have only felt that way once, but is has lasted since I was 15. | |
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| need to LOWER my sex drive
Posted: 12/19/2007 11:30:33 AM | I 've been there, too. It was because I was emotionally upset, though, too, so I did some REALLY stupid things.
Is it possible this is a manic phase? If so, yes, there are drugs for this but you have to go to a doctor to get them. I suggest a psychiatrist--seriously. Any time you feel "out of control", it's not a good thing. | |
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| need to LOWER my sex drive
Posted: 12/19/2007 1:14:55 PM | Don't fight it, give in to your urges.
I suspect Portland, Maine is about to go to the top of the list for "Best places for single men to live"
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| need to LOWER my sex drive
Posted: 12/19/2007 1:38:19 PM | It is normal.
Women late thirties and early fourties have an increase in sex drive.
Also separation/divorce, causes a shift in needs.....so normal!
Your choice in how to resolve it. Don't think there is a pill. | |
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| need to LOWER my sex drive
Posted: 12/19/2007 2:34:05 PM | This is not a question that can just be answered that quickly so much more information is needed for any real help, but yes there are drugs that calm you down as a whole, but they are not geared for the sex drive alone.
Also it may be a little deeper than that, if you have been with your husamd your whole life then there are all kinds of emotional forces effecting you that you may be unaware.
Just do what feel "right" and if it gets too bad go and talk to someone about it. | |
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| need to LOWER my sex drive
Posted: 12/19/2007 4:32:12 PM | | I am holding it together, for now, but I do feel out of controll sometimes. My fear is that given the right situation, or any situation, I won't be able to say no. i don't want that. | |
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vro312
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Joined: 11/22/2007
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| need to LOWER my sex drive
Posted: 12/19/2007 6:05:23 PM | | Gain 25 pounds and drink a twelver of Pabst Blue Ribbon every night. That should take care of it. | |
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Joined: 10/2/2007
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| need to LOWER my sex drive
Posted: 12/19/2007 6:15:47 PM | | Op go and see a Doctor then or see half of the men in your town...How can you expect somebody to find the answer for you in a Forum? | |
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| need to LOWER my sex drive
Posted: 12/20/2007 8:13:22 AM | | Well I have herd that some anti depressants do have a side effect of lowering the drive | |
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| need to LOWER my sex drive
Posted: 12/20/2007 9:27:43 AM | | If you really want to lower your drive, get your hormones checked. I bet you have a high testosterone level. It can be modified with medication. | |
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| need to LOWER my sex drive
Posted: 12/20/2007 1:46:34 PM | | WOW OP, where have you been all my life...j/k. No, I know someone like that too and she gets so frustrated that she's never going to be able to tone it down either. I haven't heard or come across anything that can help lower it, but I have to admit, rarely have I come across someone that actually wants to "lower" it, especially after 40. I wish you luck. | |
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| need to LOWER my sex drive
Posted: 12/20/2007 1:54:48 PM | | Maybe she should just find a FWB-type situation until she gets things settled in her life. | |
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| need to LOWER my sex drive
Posted: 12/20/2007 2:42:48 PM | I would sexually simulate myself. Get yourself off. Either physically or mentally. Like through porn, or reading it. If you need an emotional connection then make yourself available for physical contact. This is probably more weird. As a guy. I actually enjoy satisfying myself. Because I can do it when I choose to. Especially since I typically had the type of female sex partners who wanted to do it when I least expected it. When I wanted it they were never around. If I were dating I would'nt mind helping you out.  | |
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| need to LOWER my sex drive
Posted: 12/20/2007 5:34:44 PM | | I survived a divorce, it has been almost four years now. That feeling doesn't go away. The fantasys are there even after four years. I don't think it is a bad thing just normal. Just focus on what you need to and relieve yourself however you find you are able to. | |
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| need to LOWER my sex drive
Posted: 12/20/2007 8:31:00 PM | | i know what u mean...just finished up a divorce myself about 9 months ago and am/was very excited to meet new people... hee hee...working as a bartender did not help either- the bar i was working at at the time was a real pick up bar. there were many times i was tempted by a young 21 year old guy in heat but managed to restrain myself...i almost feel bad for the guy i finally do sleep with because he will be going nowhere for hours and hours and hours...lol! | |
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Nergal
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Joined: 4/29/2007
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| need to LOWER my sex drive
Posted: 12/21/2007 7:35:07 AM | | Is this a self-promotion thread ... maybe she just needs bigger batteries? | |
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| need to LOWER my sex drive
Posted: 12/21/2007 12:01:35 PM | You know, I'm pretty dissapointed in the responses here.
This woman is going through a very serious problem that affects a lot of women her age.
While yes, it might seem like a good opener for a joke or off comment, at least show a little respect and try and give some real advice. | |
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| need to LOWER my sex drive
Posted: 12/21/2007 12:05:31 PM | | an herb called 'chaste tree berry,' also known as 'monk's pepper' (vitex agnus-castus ~ latin), has helped lower libido for many people. historically, priests and monks used it to reduce the sex drive and maintain abstinence. it takes a while for it to kick in, but give it a try. you can find it at your local herb shop. | |
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| need to LOWER my sex drive
Posted: 12/21/2007 2:18:04 PM | Thank you Juniper moon. Thats exactly what I am looking for. Something to keep me sane for the next 6 months or so until I can begin a new life. I did the sleeping around thing in the 80's and it really lowered my self esteem. I don't want to do that again. And I need to set an example for my daughter. I don't want to lower my sex drive permenently, just take the edge off until I can really do something about it. I am looking forward to having a normal relationship that includes sex (alot of sex) in the future. I just need to get through this mess first.
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