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Posted: 12/19/2007 11:32:16 PM | | is it a bad sign whem you message a lady and 2 months later it hasnt been read or it say unread deleted i sure have a lot of them so please tell me am i wasting my time or should i hold out hope | |
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Posted: 12/19/2007 11:43:03 PM | | no dude.just move on.lol. | |
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Posted: 12/19/2007 11:45:17 PM | Unread more then likely just means they aren't active on the site anymore and unread deleted usually points towards someone who only checks their email occasionally which creates way to many emails for them to read, or they have a picture and may be attractive to a boat load of guys and getting swamped daily with to many to read. I think the bad sign would be the ones being read or read and deleted without being answered. Recommendation.... keep on sending those messages. JMHO  | |
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Posted: 12/20/2007 10:12:08 AM | Don't sweat the small stuff and POF email is a small stuff. Of course if I was your friend ... and was to get an email from you... I'd read it! (Yes, I'm a goober)
 @ how funny I think I am
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Posted: 12/22/2007 3:01:21 PM | | hey i get plenty of read..and no responce..or a bit of contact and then they fall off the face of the earth...go figure?? | |
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Posted: 2/16/2008 5:22:37 PM | | I try to answer each email I receive. Sometimes it is hard to keep up and also I have times when I don't get to check the site for several days. I would say that if it is opened and read and not answered, then move on. | |
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Posted: 2/16/2008 6:04:55 PM | ok Kenny.. you made me think of "Here's Your Sign"!
We are all guilty of not returing ALL emails I would think .. well at one time or another. However, if I don't get a return and I see it is read... I say NEXT!!
Oh I had one most recently that he said he appreciated me sending him an email but he had met someone and wanted to see where it would go. Yeah right.. he has been on the site everyday since!!  Damnnnnniiitttttt why do people feel they have to lie???? To me be up front and honest. That is the ONLY way to go. I mean after all we are adults here.... well most of us! Some only in number but not actions!
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Posted: 2/24/2008 4:40:56 PM | | I try my best to answer all emails that are sent to me. I may not be interested in dating a particular women but I will talk to just about anyone. | |
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Posted: 2/25/2008 5:03:28 PM | sorry ken, those are bad manners. a thanks but no thanks should be send. wow some people actually get soo much email they cannot answer them all. yup thats me for sure.
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Posted: 3/3/2008 1:22:09 PM | | ok just what is a email . please message me and let me know lol.... | |
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Posted: 3/3/2008 2:51:56 PM | Hello all..in response to susiestl..
I have read many of these today and I have to say she has hit it on the nose more than one just say NEXT! move on….lol
It is really annoying though when u get the response back like susiestl said oh I met someone then u see them on line all the time…lol
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Posted: 3/3/2008 2:55:27 PM | | damn im on here all the time lol | |
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Posted: 3/11/2008 2:06:40 PM | | Kenny is only on here cause no one will talk to him in person | |
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Posted: 3/13/2008 4:06:47 PM | | i wonder why nobody will talk to me in person lol....... | |
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Posted: 3/13/2008 7:23:18 PM | I will talk to you
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Posted: 3/14/2008 12:44:37 AM | | when you pull up to a date's house and all you see is the roof of a car in the yard | |
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Posted: 3/14/2008 1:13:33 AM | well ken,, i can truly semathize with you,, i kinda felt the same way but i just moved on ,,,i think if we have to high of expectations then were setting our selves up for dis appointmant.
like many have said..dont sweat the small stuff... just keep on keepin on . | |
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Posted: 7/9/2008 6:59:28 AM | | Sometimes mail overloads ~especially when on break from the net. I wouldn't take it personal...beats having someone reply, chat, inquire, & then make fun of anything difficult you may be going through or facing....that is the real suck at personal...made me wonder why I bothered with the mail in the 1st place ~well, for a second. But the odds likely are 1 out of a 100, so I dont make the other 99 pay for it. | |
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Posted: 7/9/2008 7:25:23 AM | | Your wasting your time but hold out for hope any way.... . | |
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Posted: 7/9/2008 1:58:10 PM | | i know MANY bad signs teeheeee | |
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Posted: 7/9/2008 9:38:19 PM | For those who mentioned people being on the site daily after saying 'no thanks' - I know that I still check my messages just as much if not more when I am talking/seeing someone, so it is possible that it isn't a line when people tell you they are already interested in someone. There have been a couple times that I met someone on POF, and stopped communicating with new people while I continued to e-mail that one promising person to see if it would work out...sadly, hasn't worked out so far.
Just wanted to say you can't be certain someone lied to you just because they still are on POF daily. I am on here several times a day to check for messages if I get a convo going with a real live one... | |
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Posted: 7/20/2008 12:10:11 PM | | Well, unread could simply mean that she does not log in often...unread deleted is just plain b1tchy! ;) | |
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Posted: 7/30/2008 11:03:31 PM | There's really no way to know for sure what's going on when people delete without reading. Who cares? They aren't available. They're busy. They're seeing someone. They're inactive and delete all their emails occasionally. They didn't like your name or the subject title. Who knows? Next!
I disagree that there's something wrong with not responding to unsolicited emails. Although I think it's fine that many people believe they should respond to each and every email sent to them, I don't. I don't think we should have expectations of others that they haven't agreed to. I don't expect someone to take the time to email when they aren't interested. Why would I? Just so I can hear from them that they aren't interested? What's the point? Why waste both our time? Isn't the lack of response enough? I realize there are lots of people who disagree, but I personally do not find this something to take offense over.
So, take, for example, the guy who responds and says thanks but I'm seeing someone. He *did* take the time to email and say he wasn't available for whatever reason and then he's criticized for doing it. Just because he's still on the site every day doesn't mean it isn't true that he's seeing someone.
I think people come to this with an awful lot of expectations about what other people should do. I only expect of people to do what they tell me they are going to do. Outside of that, I don't really think it's too fair of me to have expectations of them. | |
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Posted: 7/31/2008 6:29:27 AM | I agree with u 100% arwen. u hit the nail on the head, there is no reason to get mad at someone because they dont respond. When u email someone on a whilm then ur taking a chance of not hearing back from or hearing something from them that u dont want to hear anyway. LOL If they dont wanna take the time to respond to your email, or dont respond for whatever reason then get over it and keep on moving.
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Posted: 7/31/2008 6:40:13 AM | While I agree with Arwen that this is NOT something to get your panties in a ruffle all about...I disagree with this part:
I disagree that there's something wrong with not responding to unsolicited emails.
The only way an email can be considered as "unsolicited" is if you are here specifically for the forums only, and state such in your profile...that you do not want mail. However, since it is viewed as a "singles site" by the majority (and advertised as such) then mail is generally not considered "unsolicited." If that were the case, then no one would be emailing anyone and the site would not be in existence...cause ALL mail would be "unsolicited" since someone has to send the first email!
Heck...I have been b1tched at for sending mass mails through the events hosting...and even those ARE "solicited" because in order to receive such, you have to have your settings to where you receive news of local events. :) | |
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