| Where have all the True and Honest Guys Gone?
Posted: 12/21/2007 11:01:45 AM | For sometime now...I have given my all to meet someone honest and true, especially to themselves...not to mention me with their feelings. I know we all get tired of the head games and bla bla bla. When I tell someone how much I care..it comes from my heart. So many people seem like they are afraid to say how they really feel. I can understand that when you've been shot down and made a fool of so many times and are gun shy. I myself am alittle gun shy myself now. The guys say oh how interested they are in you..and how they couldn't find a sweeter person, then turn around and boom..they are gone without a word. What the heck is up with that?? I don't get it. I am an easy going person and go with the flow with things...Im not a drama queen for sure. I try to make life interesting and fun. I keep thinking "maybe the guy doesn't know how to handle being spoiled or all the attention" I don't know...wish I did.
They also tell you they are affectionate and romantic people....but they aren't in reality. I feel if you have to ask for a hug or for some kind of affection then its not there to begin with...right? You find out things that were false in meeting and talking all that time. Why can't people just be honest about their feelings when they find someone they can feel comfortable talking to?? If you really enjoy their company....just tell them. If you feel that other person really enjoys being with you...tell them back how you feel. I mean...how else are we going to get over this hump? You won't!! If I sense that the other person isn't interested like I am...its time to pull back and give them space and let it go...even tho it breaks my heart.....which I've had done soooooooo many times.
I just don't get it....you try and be sweet and kind, but its never enough it seems.
Anybody have any input on this??? I would appreciate it...thanks.  | |
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| Where have all the True and Honest Guys Gone?
Posted: 12/21/2007 11:20:07 AM | Can't speak for the rest of them, but there are us real guys that are looking for the right woman. You are right that both people need to be honest with themselves first, so they can be true to who they are and present their true self to the person that they meet.
That way you are open to what it is meant to be. Be it friendship or love. Honesty first. | |
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| Where have all the True and Honest Guys Gone?
Posted: 12/21/2007 12:46:02 PM | <<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<< picture of a real guy!!! young, attractive, smart, funny, dedicated!!!!! ok, maybe a bit of an ego too, but i keep it real for the most part....
there is perfect, then there is reality, which are you looking for? | |
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| Where have all the True and Honest Guys Gone?
Posted: 12/21/2007 6:47:44 PM | | I learned something a while back. What you respect, you will attract. It's not that they've gone anywhere, we're here. It's something you have to change, not them. | |
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| Where have all the True and Honest Guys Gone?
Posted: 12/21/2007 9:24:57 PM | | If you keep in the frame of just having fun & let things develope naturally youll do a lot better! It takes guys a lot longer to reach that level than it does a woman! & then there's the rejection, of being used, abused by woman!..heaps of guys never get over that or are never the same after the fact!..& we cant forget how every woman in the world wants to or trys to change a man in some way or other...either! | |
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| Where have all the True and Honest Guys Gone?
Posted: 12/21/2007 10:54:40 PM | There are a lot of true and honest guys out here, you just gotta keep looking, in fact I know of one here in Washington state, really nice guy too, I bet you'd like him... | |
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| Where have all the True and Honest Guys Gone?
Posted: 12/21/2007 11:20:20 PM | We're out here,but nobody stops to give us a second look.Everyone else is off speed dating,or too busy bashing guy's to stop and notice, the rest of us that are in the game.
The tables could easily be turned,and we could ask the same question to the women we are trying to get attention from. But, that's another subject for a different day.
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| Where have all the True and Honest Guys Gone?
Posted: 12/22/2007 12:07:27 AM | | Oh we're here but because we don't look good enough or don't have enough money we're cast aside. Oh well better to count our blessings than complain all the time! | |
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| Where have all the True and Honest Guys Gone?
Posted: 12/22/2007 12:22:21 AM | | where have they all gone? why they died out with the dinosaurs due to lack of breeding possibilities they were to honest and truthful and thus scared away the women :P | |
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| Where have all the True and Honest Guys Gone?
Posted: 12/22/2007 12:25:05 AM | They are right here if most ladies would get off thier high horses and look around a bit...and stop living the fairy tale and take reality into account....who knows what could happpen....just imagine that....   | |
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| Where have all the True and Honest Guys Gone?
Posted: 12/22/2007 2:04:45 PM | | I always find it funny that the guys that are so great to be around there sems to be no attraction... and the ones whom we are attracted to dont want anything serious go figure Hell be lik me and just say screw it lol single isnt that bad right? | |
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| Where have all the True and Honest Guys Gone?
Posted: 12/22/2007 2:13:38 PM |
They are right here if most ladies would get off their high horses and look around a bit.....and stop living thefairy tale and take reality into account.....who knows what could happen....just imagine that..... WOW! and these words are from a female on POF. Imagine that? I have to whole heartedly agree with Layken. We're here, unfortunately women have set such high standards that they overlook what's right under their noses. For instance, I read one profile where a woman stated that she was well established and had a PhD and only men with the same social, education and financial status could contact her. All others were wasting their time. WOW! What are they going to do? Sit in a think tank sipping champaigne, eating caviar and solving all the problems of the world? I can't wait for her to hook up. Then there is this:
They also tell you they are affectionate and romantic people....but they aren't in reality. I feel if you have to ask for a hug or for some kind of affection then its not there to begin with...right? You find out things that were false in meeting and talking all that time. Why can't people just be honest about their feelings when they find someone they can feel comfortable talking to??
Unfortunately in todays society if a guy attempts to give a woman a hug or a sign of affection, without her telling him it was ok, he's looking at spending time in jail for sexual assault or worse yet date rape. So the fact that guys aren't more free in this area isn't necessarily on him. Perhaps you haven't been blunt enough that you wished to carry the relationship to that level. Especially if your starting off as just friends or hang out buddies. | |
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| Where have all the True and Honest Guys Gone?
Posted: 12/22/2007 2:13:53 PM | oh, that sucks if it is true, trueserenity.
I do not want to think that it is like that. I've met a few couples who started off as friends and then became a couple. that has not happened to me, yet i wouldn't mind if it did. | |
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| Where have all the True and Honest Guys Gone?
Posted: 12/22/2007 3:01:32 PM | I'm an Honest guy,.. probably TOO frikkin honest. I just don't like playing the "Dating Game" You know, the "RULES"  I have to do this, that, ..then this the forums are FULL of the rules. 3-day call period, dinner/second date before sex,.( that one can be streached to months) I guess I'm crude, rude, & totally socially unacceptable...not the "standard" woman's cup of tea at all. But,.. for that 15-20% that feels the way I do... THANKS FOR BEING THERE! I'm impressed with a woman that knows what she wants, and is interested and attracted to me for ME, not how I jump though hoops, kiss her butt, or follow the doctrine of the rules. Those girls threw away that rule book, or left it gathering dust on the bookshelf after they followed it, and got used & abused by the last 6 guys that followed them and screwed her over anyway. I look at it this way.. screw the rules, better to have "loved and lost" at least you have the memories (well,.. there are some I would forego) How many honest & true guys have you lost following the rules? You may never know. I've probably let my share of "good women" go right on by because of the same rules, but, I guess that's life.  | |
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| Where have all the True and Honest Guys Gone?
Posted: 12/22/2007 3:53:28 PM |
They are right here if most ladies would get off thier high horses and look around a bit...and stop living the fairy tale and take reality into account....who knows what could happpen....just imagine that
That's what I was thinking, but didn't want to be the one who said it first. Great that it came from another lady, thanks layken. | |
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