| Why do men request "Financially Secure" women????
Posted: 12/23/2007 1:39:46 PM | OK-- maybe its the sign of the times... women are working and more self-sufficient these days, but I get awfully sick of running into profiles by men who include in their wish lists of the perfect woman with statements as such"
"You--- are financially secure"
"You-- like to wear Victoria's Secret High heels"
"You-- are a career woman.
Give me a break!
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| Why do men request Financially Secure women????
Posted: 12/23/2007 1:41:47 PM | | Is there something wrong with a man wanting a woman to be able to stand on her own two feet financially? To me, this would mean that the man is secure enough that he doesn't need to prove himself by eventually being the sole bread winner... a very good trait in my estimation... | |
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| Why do men request Financially Secure women????
Posted: 12/23/2007 1:43:24 PM | BS! It shows to me the break down of the moral fiber of society if a man ASKS for such a woman. Its better he leaves the door open for a woman to be financially independent if she so chooses... but not to be a money-grubbing man-hound by expecting it.
I so sick of men today... | |
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| Why do men request Financially Secure women????
Posted: 12/23/2007 1:45:50 PM |
BS! It shows to me the break down of the moral fiber of society if a man ASKS for such a woman. Its better he leaves the door open for a woman to be financially independent if she so chooses... but not to be a money-grubbing man-hound by expecting it.
I so sick of men today... Would the man get the same opportunity to choose?
How very one-sided... and bitter. | |
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| Why do men request Financially Secure women????
Posted: 12/23/2007 1:45:55 PM | As oppose to a woman that is looking for a man to support her? L'm sure there are many women looking for men that have enough money so they don't have to work. And just as many men looking for a woman to support them.
I'm not offended at all if a man wants to make sure I will not leach off of him. In fact for the first few dates I like to pay my own way. That way no pressure on him. | |
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| Why do men request Financially Secure women????
Posted: 12/23/2007 1:46:13 PM | Give me a break verzen--- men have more power financially-- I am so tired of
men who wont marry because theyre afraid of getting "taken". The battle of the sexes is still moving onward I see ... and making a mockery of our society... to me its a mans role to be a care provider- what the woman brings in is extra. I am so tired of men who whine and complain about their poor financial state after a marriage declines--guess what??? Its called responsibility. No one wants to pay for their kids anymore, no one wants to pay support of any kind-- no one wants responsibilities EVER AGAIN I guess... then guess what... the world is going to be destroyed... just waitin' ... watch and see. | |
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| Why do men request Financially Secure women????
Posted: 12/23/2007 1:50:09 PM |
Why do men request Financially Secure women????
Because it's what they want
Much like this...
Prefer to meet an educated gentleman. Someone affectionate, thoughtful and a humanitarian above all else. Someone who is adventurous...sexually passionate, not afraid to take off on a trip overseas with me, or an overnight trip to the ocean...even on a budget, two people can find alot of fun things to do and build memories together.
Again, affection is important...
It is a personal preference.
The bonus is that they are pretty clear on what they want so the person reading their profile can decide if they want to mail them or not.
JMHO
MAPT | |
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| Why do men request Financially Secure women????
Posted: 12/23/2007 1:54:09 PM | It's the equavilanent of women asking for "profesionals" when thats only about 20% of the population.
The women really mean "no semiliterate neandertals please". They don't need to be college graduates but they do need to have a bit of basic culture and education.
The men ask for "financially secure". They mean. No money grubbing, clinging, leeches. | |
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| Why do men request Financially Secure women????
Posted: 12/23/2007 1:54:34 PM | I have never made that request, but I think i understand the dynamics of it.
We have very much become a consumer society, and perhaps the wording of the question is not accurate.
I don't have a problem being financially responsible for my partner, as long as she herself is financially responsible. Meaning doesn't spend more than we have.
A financially secure woman, might mean she understands the value of a dollar how much effort it takes to make it, and also the value of saving money for future or greater goals.
The amount of people living in debt is huge, and over spending is a huge problem regardless of gender.
Maybe the question should ask for a "financially responsible person." | |
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| Why do men request Financially Secure women????
Posted: 12/23/2007 1:55:27 PM | Would the man get the same opportunity to choose?
How very one-sided... and bitter. How true, you are sick of men, well I am sick of stupid excuses like oh poor me, the media wants me to look like a super model and sex symbol bla bla. Tell you what I will gladly stay at home work out 5 times a week and get all dolled up and be your arm candy and take care of the kids if
-bring home all the bacon
-buy me a car.....has to be newer model because "you love me" and "I'm worth it"
-buy me jewlery
-take me shopping
-take me out to dinner
But if you ever leave me I get half and if I decide to leave you I get half because I "sacraficed" my career to raise "your" kids. Sounding fair yet? One more thing I want alimony to support the life I've grown accustomed to even if it was because of your hard work. | |
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| Why do men request Financially Secure women????
Posted: 12/23/2007 1:55:51 PM |
to me its a mans role to be a care provider- what the woman brings in is extra.
The operative words there being "to me." Not everyone feels the same way you do. If you're comfortable sponging off someone and can find someone who doesn't mind, great. Some of us would rather be equal partners in our relationships, and we're allowed to have our preferences just as you are allowed yours. | |
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| Why do men request Financially Secure women????
Posted: 12/23/2007 2:00:11 PM | Poetic, its kind of funny that many women preach about equal rights, then when we give it to them, they still want to be treated more then equal!
You can't want equal rights, then want more then equal rights! I want to enter in a relaitonship 50/50. I do NOT want to enter a relationship that is 70/30 or 80/20 where MEN are doing all the work and the women are being lazy. How selfish of you to think your so high and mighty that you should be pampered and guys should succomb to your will and envy.
Dont you have any pride? | |
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| Why do men request Financially Secure women????
Posted: 12/23/2007 2:00:12 PM |
You--- are financially secure
That means that if we were to get together, I am not going to have to worry about collections agencies calling at all hours, your pay being garnished, and all sorts of other unexpected "emergencies" to be blindsided by, etc. It basically means "you are living within your means and aren't expecting me to be an extension of those means ... at least not right away as your main purpose of dating me." | |
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| Why do men request Financially Secure women????
Posted: 12/23/2007 2:00:55 PM | Don't see the problem here. A man wants a financially secure woman. A woman wants a financially secure man. A man also does not want to inherit a collection of bills from anyone he may eventually get involved with. Being a woman, I do not want to get involved with a financially inept man, either. It goes both ways..... The number one reason married couples break up is because of severe financial problems. More people need to address this before marriage.  | |
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| Why do men request Financially Secure women????
Posted: 12/23/2007 2:01:06 PM | to me its a mans role to be a care provider
Contrary to popular belief, the force that allowed the liberation of women is not feminism, it's science and technology. It has also liberated men. Many men now expect women to pull some weight financially, and many women now expect men to pull some weight with domestic duties. I think most men and women have no problem with the gradual extinction of past gender roles. | |
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| Why do men request Financially Secure women????
Posted: 12/23/2007 2:04:26 PM | WOMEN DO NOT HAVE EQUAL RIGHTS!!!!!!!!!
Gees, what gives. Only a small percentage of women are living off the gravy train.
Sure-- its great we have extra opportunities-- I'm not saying we should all be barefoot and pregnant; I just find it HIGHLY offensive that men take offense or treat women like extra financial baggage and expect them to bring their own money into it with them. NOT untill ALL women are assured of good jobs. But even then, its not easy.
Am sure lots of men get tired of meeting women who have the same expectations.. but its understandable (unless she's financially secure on her own) that she requests that at least. Still LOVE shouldnt come down to money... it should be about working together to make a better life -- everyone has something to offer.
Sorry if you think I'm on the bandwagon here.. but it just irks me. | |
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| Why do men request Financially Secure women????
Posted: 12/23/2007 2:09:55 PM | Verzen --- you miscontrue the statement; men dont have to be rich, but as society supports them with better paying jobs, they shouldnt hound around for fiancially secure women-- not yet anyway!
I dont date rich men... I date men like professors (who make a paltry 50-60,000 a year), or military men and thats about it. Hardly rich by todays standards... but I sure as heck dont appreciate the attitude they throw at woman as financial baggage.
I've just really had it with the lack of respect and love in our world these days. Maybe I'm just becoming dissillusioned, waking up and seeing what its all about-- and its sickening. I'm bitter- YES. Because I run into too many people just looking out for themselves and seeking the next best deal...
I'm just tired. | |
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| Why do men request Financially Secure women????
Posted: 12/23/2007 2:12:37 PM | As for playing victim-- everyone "plays" at whatever gives them the edge to feel ok about screwing up another person's life.
Well.. thats not all it is-- there ARE exceptions, but when and where does it all end?
When do we finally reach a conclusion about how to trust, respect and love one another even in the bad /thick/horrible times?
We just dont care anymore. | |
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| Why do men request Financially Secure women????
Posted: 12/23/2007 2:13:09 PM | So would you ever be with someone who works his ass off, but doesnt have the opportunity to get a better job? The best paying job i have EVER gotten is only 10.25 an hour. (the job I have right now)
I'm pretty sure you wouldn't.. thus, love comes into the equation, but you would never love someone who is strugling through life because you want security... so money is an issue. Does love equal money to you? Your right, what IS wrong with society when love can be bought with the change from your wallet. | |
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| Why do men request Financially Secure women????
Posted: 12/23/2007 2:14:27 PM |
Any thoughts???????
Well, just remember that men take their dating language from women.
Women consistently state their requirement for men who are 'financially secure'. Men are merely following suit.
Other things that men have borrowed from women are the silly excuses for why you don't want to 'see' or 'date' someone anymore. Even the condidtion of 'seeing' someone or 'dating' someone are female terms. Both mean that they are banging some guy, but there is no relationship beyond sex at the moment.
We men are not nearly as stupid as most women like to think. | |
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| Why do men request Financially Secure women????
Posted: 12/23/2007 2:15:22 PM |
WOMEN DO NOT HAVE EQUAL RIGHTS!!!!!!!!!
You're right. Women have every right men have, and a few more men don't have. Can you give me one example of any right that men have that women don't? (USA and Canada please) | |
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