| Are MEN marketable after age 30?
Posted: 12/23/2007 3:46:57 PM | Ok. I saw this thread... "Are women marketable after age 30?" ... and it made me want to slap someone at first. Really.
Then it made me want to ask the same question... about men... so...
Are MEN marketable after age 30?? How about 40? I had a man on another site, chasing me, begging me to go out with him... I'm 33, he was 46. For me, that was TOO OLD. I'm not looking for Mr. Perfect, because there's no such thing -- but I am looking for a man close to my age, who is healthy, like I am, takes care of themselves, like I take care of myself, has brains, is open to a solid relationship... and most the men I meet over 35, are anything but that. In fact most of them, just want a FWB -- have kids and don't want anymore, are divorced and don't even want to hear the 'M' word anymore. They present themselves in a "been there, done that" light -- so, is that attractive to you ladies? It isn't to me... so, I'd like to hear what ya'll have to say... cut loose!!
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| Are MEN marketable after age 30?
Posted: 12/23/2007 3:53:52 PM | My only answer is "Am I marketable"?
I may not be what you're looking for but I suspect there are a few women who might find me desirable. | |
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| Are MEN marketable after age 30?
Posted: 12/23/2007 3:55:24 PM | | I am 44, healthy, no kids, have a good job, am not up to my ears in debt, and the longest i have been unemployed since 1984 has been 3 months..... Am i marketable? If not, what more do i have to do? | |
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Jemue
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Joined: 1/26/2005
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| Are MEN marketable after age 30?
Posted: 12/23/2007 3:55:41 PM |
and most the men I meet over 35, are anything but that.
Then choose and meet different men ............
I remember seeing a post a while ago about NYC girl that was demanding a $ 500K/year guy and how a financier explained to her the differences between men and women with age, wish I could find that link now. | |
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| Are MEN marketable after age 30?
Posted: 12/23/2007 4:07:06 PM | Can not seem to find any women of any kind that is willing to take the time to get to know me on any web sites,I JUST do not understand women on the web,*HONESTLY*
I am beginning to really think that 99 per cent of women have NO IDEA what they are really doing in a web site or looking for,and for age of 30 WHO CARES as *AGE IS JUST A NUMBER* AGREE or DISAGREE | |
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Jemue
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Joined: 1/26/2005
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| Are MEN marketable after age 30?
Posted: 12/23/2007 4:07:33 PM | I can't control the population of single men, Jemue. Give me a break here.
The point being keep doing what you've always done and keep getting what you always have.
It sounds very to blame the results of your actions and choices on others for sure, I can see that being a much easier route than actually taking responsibility for what happens in your life or what you attract, let alone what you go out there and do.
If you already believe everything in your first post, then why even bother trying ? If all men are the same then that's how your doing to treat them, that is the reality your going to create and what you'll end up with.
And the nice decent guys wont even bother as your so focused on your paradigm of what you want to believe, that the others don't even register.
Sounds like you should give yourself a break and change your thinking about it, then you will find that the population dose change ......... or maybe it was fine all the time and you just focused on the self defeating images ......
P.S. Guys I wouldn't bother she's just trolling because of this :
http://forums.plentyoffish.com/7859854datingPostpage23.aspx#8956119 | |
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| Are MEN marketable after age 30?
Posted: 12/23/2007 4:08:55 PM | I think guys are way more marketable after 30 than they are even in their 20s, actually.
I get way more offers for dates, etc, in my mid 30s, than I ever did.
As far as 40 goes, I can't tell you, nor will I be ever be able to-I am not having any more birthdays after 36.
Then again, I guess it depends where you are in your life, too. I don't have kids and was not bankrupt by a divorce, etc. There are definitely some stigmas with being "established" at that age, and it could be harder to market yourself if you haven't met societies expectations. | |
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go97
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| Are MEN marketable after age 30?
Posted: 12/23/2007 4:14:08 PM | And I suppose you wont date Martain men because they are green..such a facile thread...Dear op wait till your 48 and then get back. Till then leave your insular stereotypes about men and age and dating where they belong... | |
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| Are MEN marketable after age 30?
Posted: 12/23/2007 4:23:58 PM |
I get way more offers for dates, etc, in my mid 30s, than I ever did.
I have far more opportunities than in my 30s, mostly because I'm aware of them now.
So yes, I'm marketable.
I don't like my potential buyers much, though. | |
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| Are MEN marketable after age 30?
Posted: 12/23/2007 4:29:15 PM |
I have far more opportunities than in my 30s, mostly because I'm aware of them now.
So yes, I'm marketable.
I don't like my potential buyers much, though.
Sounds like what i would say.
Most of my opportunities came in my 30's.. but funny enough, after spending my entire 20's looking for them to no avail.. now that they finally came in my 30's, i have completely lost interest and have gained new goals.
I could be marketable if i cared enough to be.. i just don't anymore.
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| Are MEN marketable after age 30?
Posted: 12/23/2007 4:31:43 PM |
I could be marketable if i cared enough to be.. i just don't anymore.
I think I feel the same way. I guess I'm marketable to women who want what I am but not to women who want me to be something else. | |
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| Are MEN marketable after age 30?
Posted: 12/23/2007 4:34:52 PM | Am I marketable? well my agent, publisher and lawyer thinks so
Maybe I will get my people to talk to your people and we'll do lunch | |
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| Are MEN marketable after age 30?
Posted: 12/23/2007 4:45:35 PM | | so he was begging was he,how sad,doesn't he know you should never chase,well,I believe you have to work on your desireability,staying in shape makes you more eligible for sure, if your in shape with grey hair, your distinguished, but if your overweight with grey hair,your just old.lol,no beer belly for me,see ya | |
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| Are MEN marketable after age 30?
Posted: 12/23/2007 4:51:17 PM | Spark, I saw your heated reply in the other thread and when I saw this new thread, I had to laugh because I figured you'd started it and I was right!
...so, is that attractive to you ladies? It isn't to me... so, I'd like to hear what ya'll have to say... cut loose!!
NOPE. I'm tired of it, too. You forgot to mention the guys who are 35-45 and say things (in their profiles) like, "Dating? I'm too old for that type of nonsense." HUH??? And if you want to talk not "marketable", I'm starting to see more and more guys in their late thirties or early forties who are grandfathers. YIKES!
.. but I am looking for a man close to my age, who is healthy, like I am, takes care of themselves, like I take care of myself, has brains, is open to a solid relationship...
I hear ya. But its kind of like asking for a kidney. 
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| Are MEN marketable after age 30?
Posted: 12/23/2007 5:03:31 PM | | I'm not looking to get married, because, been there/done that. I don't think a ring and a marriage certificate guarantees happiness. It sure didn't for me. There are plenty of men over 35 who are in great shape and are not looking to just screw around. I'm sure they're out there. I've met a few, not many, but a few. You are lumping all men over 35 into a category and that's not realistic. Everyone is marketable at any age. Haven't you ever heard, there's someone for everyone? | |
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| Are MEN marketable after age 30?
Posted: 12/23/2007 5:10:19 PM |
Haven't you ever heard, there's someone for everyone?
You need to spend more time reading the profiles, baby! | |
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| Are MEN marketable after age 30?
Posted: 12/23/2007 5:13:20 PM | | You're right. Thank God I had kids when I did. SOME (not all) of these men seem, well...Any way, be careful. This may not make sense to some, but will to others. Okay, putting on my bulletproof vest, cause I'm about to be hammered... | |
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| Are MEN marketable after age 30?
Posted: 12/23/2007 5:24:26 PM | I am pretty sure we are... But that depends on the guy at ANY age... just like the women.
Harrison Ford seems to be doing ok.. and he is old. Guess it depends on what the two people are looking for in each other.
Furthermore, at 40, there are 40 year old women also looking for a guy there age. Getting all the magic to happen- thats the bit that is a bit of a mystery... :)
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| Are MEN marketable after age 30?
Posted: 12/23/2007 5:35:42 PM | OP Are you kidding me.. Men are way more marketable After 30...They have some life experiences to relate to..They are just not so ready to jump on any set of bones. They Usually have a direction in life they are pursuing..
I Am sorry OP.. but me thinks you might need to readjust your attitude a bit. You are pushing the 40 mark also. It will come up and bite you in the butt sooner than you think..
I personally want my man to have some life experiences that I can relate to.
Not always trying to get them up to and on the same page as I am..
Yes, Men, over 35 and up... Bring on the marketing.. | |
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| Are MEN marketable after age 30?
Posted: 12/23/2007 5:47:32 PM |
I remember seeing a post a while ago about NYC girl that was demanding a $ 500K/year guy and how a financier explained to her the differences between men and women with age, wish I could find that link now.
It's from craig's list. I'm sure you could google it and find a link.
OT: Why wouldn't a man over 30 be marketable? I'd like to find one so right there is a small market. I know probably a couple dozen other women in the same boat. Yeah, men over 30 have nothing to worry about. | |
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| Are MEN marketable after age 30?
Posted: 12/23/2007 6:07:42 PM | Maybe it's just me but the word "marketable" makes me cringe just a wee bit.
As a businessperson, I think of marketable as dealing with inanimate things, products. I understand dating is "being on the market".
I think the similarities and mindsets are probably too close to being the same and that to me is more troubling.
I don't think of myself as a product, a commodity. Products and commodities are things that are alike, whereas people are all individuals and therefore all inherently different.
That is also one of the sticky situations about dating in general and internet dating maybe even more specifically. On the internet, because of the sheer volume (more people we could ever meet in any other venue) it's almost necessary to filter down to a few specifics, whether it's preferences or things that are non-negotiable. We have those when we meet people face to face, too. Some don't date smokers or people with children or may be allergic to pets.
It's just how it is, still when I was "available" I always treated people as people, rather than as an acceptable or unacceptable commodity. Even those that were less than polite, noone being rude gives me personally an excuse to be less than humane.
I'm not agreeing or disagreeing with your premise, just offering a different viewpoint. It's the lack of treating people as human and having a shred of compassion even for a stranger that at times makes the internet seem cold and calous place to be. | |
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