| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/24/2007 7:07:29 PM | So why do women date multiple men at once? Why can't you date one guy at a time? It's so frustrating when they don't know the correct information about you... I don't get it...     | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/24/2007 7:11:18 PM | | Its cool as long as they're not sleeping with or serious with any of the men. Its called keeping your options open and whatever else you want to. Men do it too | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/24/2007 7:24:39 PM |
So why do women date multiple men at once? Why can't you date one guy at a time? It's so frustrating when they don't know the correct information about you... I don't get it...
Ok...going to play Devil' s Advocate here...
This is a hypocritical statement at it's best. How many times have WOMEN asked this same question about men? How many times have you been out with "the boys" in the past or present and heard what sounded like a roll call of women someone may be dating, or this long string of names someone may have dated in the past before settling in on just one woman.
Its like going to a buffet....looking around, sampling everything, but not making a commitment to one single dish. Personally, I ONLY ever date one woman at a time, but that is my choice. Have I dated women in the past who gave me less than a fair shake when I knew they were assessing me against other men she was seeing? Yes. Guess what....women have dealt with the same thing for a much longer period of time. Say...oh....the whole of recorded civilization.
So lets cut the women a little bit of slack before out precious glass houses find themselves in the midst of a hailstorm.
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/24/2007 7:26:41 PM | here
http://forums.plentyoffish.com/datingPosts8652395.aspx
maybe because guys often control the initial stages of dating? they may or may not call even after saying that they like a woman and having a great date? so then she is left sitting wondering.. so until guy overtime shows he's truly interested.. a woman doesn't want to be left with nothing...And guys DO disappear after one or two great dates quite often. | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/24/2007 7:39:28 PM | | Some men and women are fickle and not serious about life. Flakes are everywhere. Don't sweat the small stuff and don't give your heart away, right away. Use emotional self control. | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/24/2007 8:05:42 PM |
And guys DO disappear after one or two great dates quite often.
So true....
OP: Dating more than one man is not unique to online dating. Just easier. If it is disclosed from the get-go and the woman is not sleeping with the others....why not?
It IS called dating, not marriage. | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/24/2007 8:13:24 PM | As it must be frustrating to know the other person sitting across from you has made it clear they are seeing other people. Take pause and realize that this behavior is happening on both sides of the fence. Exclusive relationships are communicated and by your message it sounds as if you are not there yet with her.
Relax, the best news you could have received was in the form of her mistaking your name. Let her go and find someone that will remember you. | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/24/2007 8:23:46 PM | | my question would be, "Why not?" Friends first and then if there is someone you are really interested in to see where it will go , then l would date only him. | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/24/2007 8:51:12 PM | Well why not?
Seriously, what the hell does a woman owe *you* that she should date you exclusively without even knowing you're worth it? | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/24/2007 8:53:22 PM | Why do women date multiple guys at once? I'll tell you why... because it's the smart thing to do in this day and age. Men date multiple women. We all date, until we connect with someone. What are you supposed to do in the meantime? Commit to one person you don't like??
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/24/2007 9:18:22 PM | Presumably for the same reasons men do. Anybody can put up a false front for a few dates and I have seen emotionally unbalanced people come unglued when I dated other women. Without that additional pressure I wouldn't have seen their true character until something else put stress on the relationship.
I don't care if a woman is dating 10 men or just me, if she can't get my name or details about me correct or doesn't seem in to me then she doesn't get another date. Unless she has a gun to your head you should quit paying for a woman who can't remember who you are. | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/24/2007 10:02:50 PM | | Only one reason. You simply don't have the time. I'm no serial dater but if you don't have the time for me, I don't have the time to wait on you. Quite simple actually. | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/24/2007 10:28:25 PM |
What are you supposed to do in the meantime? Commit to one person you don't like??
I would hope that if you didn't like them, you wouldn't continue to date them.
I don't know a lot of woman that do the multiple dating. I think most people - men and women - will give someone they find interesting their full attention. If they don't find them interesting after the first date or second date, they should (and most do) just tell the other person such and move on. I'm not saying they make a commitment right off - they just subconsiously concentrate on one person at a time. | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/24/2007 10:38:32 PM | Oye.
I haven't promised myself to anyone. I've made no commitments to anyone. No one has a say in how many or how few I date. Right now the number is ZERO, but that's hardly the point. | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/24/2007 10:42:11 PM | It betters their odds to finding ME !!! They have to weed out a tree here and there to get to the forest! ME! Sorry man. But your just a free dinner and maybe a movie as a void filler. Till they find ME!
Your like the go between guy. The warm up! The "opening act" for ME! I'm the main event!
I should say thanks... But I wont! I'll just wait! Till they find ME!
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/24/2007 11:41:28 PM | I multiple date... Some have been repeat dates because we enjoy each other's company. But I have yet to meet a man from these multiple dates who wishes to date me 'exclusively', or I them. I see no harm in multiple dating so long as both individuals enjoy each other's company and can walk away from the evening (or evenings) with a smile. One of these fine days, 'he' will find his true one and so will I. Until then, I'll continue to multiple date, learn more about myself (because I always learn something about myself from an individual) and continue on with the hope that somewhere out there is my fish  | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/25/2007 1:20:00 AM | FEAR OF COMMITMENT???????????
anyone in their right mind is not going to consider commitment after a couple of dates.
THIS is called DATING.
not EVERYONE is looking for marriage, even those who prefer a LTR is still needing to DATE to find that person. "perfect matches" do not come labeled/stamped/custom-made just for us, with desirable contents listed. we need to seek and find a suitable companion, they rarely fall into our path.
after a few dates is when we can sense if this person is going to mesh with our personalities & visa versa. it takes time.
it's best to NOT confuse that initial glowing blush of lust/chemistry for love. lol
until I share that "let's be MUTUALLY exclusive" talk, I will keep my options open, just as I'm sure he is.
please Jacko, I'm not picking apart your response, but IMO, using my "brains to choose" IS exercising my "power of choice". | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/25/2007 1:50:04 AM | Well i don't believe in sex before marriage so sex doesn't enter into dating for me. Why should i not get to know several different people at once? If i go out on a first date with someone , we both had a nice time , and the next day someone really cute ask me out then there is absolutely no reason for me not to go.Dating is about getting to know each other not jumping into a exclusive relationship as fast as possible.
Exclusivity only comes after you have determined that not only do you have strong romantic feelings for someone ,but that they are a good fit for your life . | |
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| Why do women date mutiple guys at once?
Posted: 12/25/2007 2:07:41 AM | | I believe that people date multiple people at once because they have low self esteem. From my experience, people who date a lot of people at once enjoy the attention and knowing that they must be desirable because so many men are interested. It also could be a maturity thing, where the person is afraid to get serious so he/she self sabotages potential relationships. I realize different people do things differently, but if your goal is a serious monogamous relationship, it is highly unlikely to get a good start from an open relationship. think about anniversaries...if you have a one year anniversary would you be comfortable with the fact that your girlfriend/boyfriend was dating someone else during that year, even if just at the beginning. also, most people are easy, so making out, fooling around and even sex are not uncommon in just a few dates. | |
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This is soo true... when I first signed on POF.. there was a guy that wrote about letting women check out the goods the same way guys do... and one of things that dives me crazy is for the guy I am talking to, starting talking about Me being the only one and that he is sooooooo totally in love.... and he doesn't even know me... 1, 2 or 3 dates does not a marriage make.... 
I can sum it up a few ways for both men and women 
FEAR OF COMMITMENT! 
