| How far is too far?
Posted: 12/25/2007 12:30:41 PM | Just read someone's profile who living in London as I do made a very valid point - asking people to put part of their London postcode in their profiles (I just did LOL)
His point was that him living way out in SW London and looking at some other Londoner's profile who has just "London" written in the profile - could be 5 minutes down the road or 2 hours drive despite being in the same town.
And he is looking for someone close by - same as me 
I am in East London so I guess Essex is much closer that some parts of North or West London.. Hmmmmm
Now, how far would be too far for you to contemplate a relationship? On practical terms I mean - getting to meet, visit each other etc etc
Anotehr town? Another country? Other side of your own town? | |
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| How far is too far?
Posted: 12/25/2007 12:54:49 PM | Well my town isnt too big but if I lived in a place like London I might contemplate someone on the other side - 2 hrs drive is quite a trek - depends how gorgeous he was | |
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| How far is too far?
Posted: 12/25/2007 1:07:28 PM | Would prefer to have an affair with my next door neighbour out of convenience, shame it's a bloke, but would fly to New York to shag Kate Moss and her friends etc.
I shall change my description too lol | |
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| How far is too far?
Posted: 12/25/2007 1:07:59 PM | | I have never tried to put an exact figure on this, but to me an hours travel, is a reasonable ideal, after all I want a relationship, not a stressed out enforced separation, though being honest it is extremely frustrating. | |
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| How far is too far?
Posted: 12/25/2007 1:25:32 PM |
I want a relationship, not a stressed out enforced separation
My feeling as well.
Add to it that I do not drive so potential GrumpyOldMan must live within a 5 minuts walk from a tube station and not further than Zone 1 in London as I am in Zone 3 East and do not plan to wenture into anywhere further than Central....
Yup, I know - me, dog and cat forever  | |
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| How far is too far?
Posted: 12/25/2007 1:54:26 PM | Perhaps I am an odd exception to the rule, but moving to certain countries for a relationship has not been out of the question for me. I even flew to Milan, to see if there was chemistry enough for the next step... while there was not, it was still worth the adventure & friendship.
If he's the right one, it's worth it.
...my 2 cents...
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| How far is too far?
Posted: 12/25/2007 2:37:04 PM | | You did quite a few miles to find out, wow! I am not as guilty as you, Ushas, only Scotland in my case, and I am going to stick to this one. | |
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| How far is too far?
Posted: 12/25/2007 2:53:11 PM | Guilty... *nahhhh...
For me, Europe is home.
It's not an uncomfortable idea to return there permanently to be with the right man.
Scotland, wow... so beautiful.
All the best!
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| How far is too far?
Posted: 12/25/2007 4:07:01 PM | If two people can't meet fairly regularly, fairly easily, then I think it is extremely hard for an initial acquaintance to ever grow to be a relationship with the depth and breadth I'd want it to be.
However, I wouldn't let mere distance of itself put me off somebody. How far I'd go for an initial date depends on how high my hopes are. For somebody who I think might become just a friend for occasional socialising then I'd be prepared to go as far as the city centre. For somebody with whom I'd had a few deeper online conversations and struck up a rapport, and with whom I thought there was at least a modest chance of eventually making a practical, dream-come-true relationship then I'd certainly be willing to travel for a few hours. | |
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| How far is too far?
Posted: 12/25/2007 4:09:06 PM | | I have travelled a crazy distance before to meet someone, as said above it can be, and certainly was, an adventure. But I would prefer local, to around my town. | |
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| How far is too far?
Posted: 12/25/2007 4:31:24 PM | Another town or another country doesn't bother me...
I've had a lady fly 18 hours and cross 9 times ones just to meet me... and to tell the truth...
I've taken 14 hour flights into Africa jut for a lunch date too...
Have the capacity for being very silly and impulive at times!!!
Mind you I've always regreted the things I didn't do more than the silly things I did do!
Best thing is to fugure out weather there's real chemistry and if there is you will find a way to make it happen... you've just got to want to make it happen.
And not be paralysed by your fears and insecurities... after all we only have one life and souldh try and turn every day into an adventure!!!
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| How far is too far?
Posted: 12/25/2007 4:38:22 PM | | Vith a view to a happy forever after - I will stick to 3 streets away from me :-) | |
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| How far is too far?
Posted: 12/25/2007 4:41:25 PM | No more than 30 minutes travelling to see someone.
I've done the long distance thing before a few times, and it's alright to start with. But once things progress, it's too hard. | |
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| How far is too far?
Posted: 12/25/2007 4:43:08 PM |
I will stick to 3 streets away from me
Careful, you wouldn't want your search to appear restrictive in any way  | |
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| How far is too far?
Posted: 12/25/2007 4:46:11 PM | Restrictive? Nah... just damn lazy
Well, I obviously have no idea what do I want anyway and must have written my profile tottaly unaware etc etc
Someone I never spoke to (read: posted to) even told me today that if I do not want to have more kids - I should adopt or change my mind "to accomodate" - details on "Over 30" in "finish family at 35" for anyone interested....
Had him for supper with pesto and roast tomatoes | |
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| How far is too far?
Posted: 12/25/2007 4:51:43 PM | ohhhhh about 30 miles away maximum for me.
When i am in a relationship and want to see someone it means NOW, not in 6 hours or 36 hours... its means now
I cant see the point really in very long distance relationships, yes it is romantic but also tiring and frustrating. When one of you has had a hard day at work and could do with a cuddle, the cyber hugs just dont have the same effect. | |
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| How far is too far?
Posted: 12/25/2007 5:02:48 PM | ohhhhh about 30 miles away maximum for me.
When i am in a relationship and want to see someone it means NOW, not in 6 hours or 36 hours... its means now
I cant see the point really in very long distance relationships, yes it is romantic but also tiring and frustrating.
Definitely. Fair enough in the early flush of romantic getting to know each other, but as a day to day proposition it's bound to get a little grating. I often work 12 or more hours a day, I don't want spend an hour or two on the road getting there - and then back again afterwards  | |
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| How far is too far?
Posted: 12/25/2007 5:27:08 PM | This poses a follow up question:
If you live great distances or in separate countries, would you be willing to allow them to come spend time in your world in order to get to know you? | |
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| How far is too far?
Posted: 12/25/2007 5:29:03 PM | | I did the overseas thing and married her, not so sure id do it again. I think this time id preffer someone i dont have to cross oceans to see. I think an Hour is probably about the max distance wheere its still practical, where you can see each other as often as you want. | |
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| How far is too far?
Posted: 12/25/2007 5:38:52 PM |
This poses a follow up question:
Uh oh, thread hi-jacking! You'll bring the wrath of the mighty power hungry nerdo NetCop moderators crashing down upon us all!
If you live great distances or in separate countries, would you be willing to allow them to come spend time in your world in order to get to know you?
Not sure what you mean, if you don't want them to let them into your world and get to know you then doesn't that sort of defeat the object of the excercise? (an interesting quandary which I have recently found myself in the middle of...). | |
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| How far is too far?
Posted: 12/25/2007 6:12:24 PM | I apologize to GrumpyOldWoman, in advance if my question steps outside the concept of what defines "too far".
As in my case, I have flown to other countries & trial lived with the person of intrest, in order to see if indeed chemistry existed. Therefore:
I simply refer to a situation where one or both parties spend time living in the other's home country with them. If travel time was the issue, would "get to know you" vacations suffice instead?
*leaves cookies for GrumpyOldWoman as a thank you...
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| How far is too far?
Posted: 12/25/2007 6:17:17 PM | How far I would be prepared to travel depends upon the person that I am connecting with , I wouldn't be so restrictive as to put a finite limit upon it, check with my GPS to see exactly how far away it is and exclude someone for being two miles outside my limit ...
but yes , Grumpy , whilst living in 't' north , I can appreciate that London is a whole different kettle of fish - it can take longer to get across town there than it can take me to get to Birmingham or Newcastle ...  | |
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| How far is too far?
Posted: 12/25/2007 6:31:08 PM |
Now, how far would be too far for you to contemplate a relationship? On practical terms I mean - getting to meet, visit each other etc etc
I wouldn't travel more than an hour on a bus or 20 miles
I am just too lazy to contemplate a long distance relationship, had one and it didn't work out. Manchester to Cheltenham, just didn't work. | |
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| How far is too far?
Posted: 12/25/2007 10:29:16 PM | Not much romance here is there ? Maybe a tad too much in Michaelmano, you must qualify for some air miles .I bet you've covered more ground than Alan Whicker and Judith Charmers put together. The authorities must be looking at you as a terrorist threat or presume your a pilot.
30 miles away maximum for me.
Foxy, if I lived just outside your 30 mile catchment area, eg: 31 miles away. Are you telling me you wouldn't run a mile . I'd be willing to bet that you would, but not too sure in which direction .
No more than 30 minutes travelling to see someone.
Missy H It takes me longer than that to set me Sat Nav up before setting off. My God, no wonder you lot are on this site....
Ive also searched the four corners of the earth [well , a good deal of the North West of England anyway]. in my quest to find my sweetheart.
Theres no limit to the lengths I would go when I'm on a promise [i mean to find my true-love].I once drove with reckless abandonment to Croxteth in Liverpool after getting a green light [so to speak] from a girl I fell instantly in love with on a sex chat line.It might not seem that daring and bold but bear in mind I had to climb over my wife who was sleeping and get dressed in the dark.
Also the car at the time had no brakes and the clutch cable had snapped. That combined with the treacherous Ice covered roads made conditions virtually impossible. But its true, love does conquer all as I arrived safely at the address within the hour.Thank goodness she lived in a cul-de-sac or I'd never have stopped..
It turned out to be a false address in the end but thats the way it goes. My philosophy is you have to break a few eggs to make an omlette.It was just plain bad luck that the wall I ploughed into to stop was owned by a police Sergeant. He obviously heard the smash ,looked out of his window and saw me sat in his front garden in my car under an avalanche of bricks.
Scousers are renowned for their wit and good humour. Not this one, he just didn't see the funny side at all.So as a consequence I was given a 3 year driving ban, £2.500 fine for reckless driving and damages to property and 300 hours community service.Even my now ex wife failed to see the funny side of it.
Whats the matter with people these days ? | |
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