| Decent looking guy + few responses = bad profile???
Posted: 12/28/2007 9:31:01 PM | | So I've been on here for 2-3 months and spent quite a bit of time reviewing women's profiles and trying to get in touch with people. However, after a number of attempts to different women, let's just say I haven't quite gotten the response I was hoping for. I've come to the conclusion that I may have done something wrong on my profile. I'd appreciate an honest review from anyone out there. Is it too simple? Are my pics bad? Do I need to omit something or go into more details about something. I'd appreciate your honest feedback and good luck fishing! Thanks. | |
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| Decent looking guy + few responses = bad profile???
Posted: 12/28/2007 9:49:32 PM | I'd get rid of the last two pictures, and list more of your interests. Also, try going into more detail on your "About Me" section. Maybe mention what types of movies you like (genres), or specific movies. Same goes for music and your favorite bands (that can be a good way to make a connection with someone - sharing a favorite band). You could talk more about who you are (personality-wise), what you do, what your dreams are, and what traits your ideal partner would have. Also, I see you holding a bass there - you could mention that (if you play in a band for example), and what kind of music you play. You look like an atheletic guy, and that appeals to a lot of women, so you could mention that you like to stay fit, or talk about what sort of sports you play or enjoy watching. Just my two cents!  | |
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| Decent looking guy + few responses = bad profile???
Posted: 12/28/2007 9:58:54 PM | Instead of listing music, movies, sports and dinner in your Interests section write down some of your favourites so that readers can get some insight into your preferences.
For all I know, you could enjoy classical music, b&w movies, lacrosse and Thai food.
Yep...more details are needed.
Stating that you are "looking to meet new people" while listing under the Dating category makes it sound as if you won't be content with one person and would prefer to date a multitude.
Saying that you're "not expecting much off a website" sounds negative.
Describe your qualities and values and give some examples.
Why would you be an interesting person to date?
Fill out the first date section.
Be creative, but be honest. | |
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| Decent looking guy + few responses = bad profile???
Posted: 12/28/2007 10:06:46 PM | | I'm not having much luck either...and have a review thread too. I'll try and help you out. Here are my suggestions: Lose photos 1,3,5,6 possibly could keep 1 but have 4 as your main pic or have a shave for your main pic and maybe put on a shirt or something. Hope thats helpful! | |
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| Decent looking guy + few responses = bad profile???
Posted: 12/28/2007 11:32:26 PM | | Thanks for the suggestions. I've made some changes based on all of the comments. I guess it's just hard for me to project myself out there. It feels like selling yourself and that tends to come off as fake and that's one of the things I can't stand. Anyways, I appreciate the feedback and I'll keep working on it! | |
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| Decent looking guy + few responses = bad profile???
Posted: 6/6/2008 3:19:34 PM | Hi blue, your profile is certainly not BAD, you have not made some of the "standarnard mistakes" that many do. However there is a lot of room for improvement. You did a barely adaquate job of describing WHO you were, I would add some more there. Then you need to describe the one you seek in a similar fashion.
Your first date section is nothing but a lot of useless fluff. Use your imagination there, it is your last chance to hook them before they leave. Go to "profile tips" at the top of the page on this forum. Follow the guidelines given, then post back to this thread, and we will help you tweek it.
Best wishes
OFCB | |
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| Decent looking guy + few responses = bad profile???
Posted: 6/6/2008 3:36:47 PM |
It feels like selling yourself and that tends to come off as fake and that's one of the things I can't stand
Hey Blueknight50,
I haven't read your profile but I'd say that your experience is normal. It's just not normal to get a lot of responses, and I personally believe that a person's profile is NOT the most important thing, at least in the sense of how creative it is. Creative profiles will appeal to some people, but others are looking at your job, and still others are focused on your looks, and still others are focused on something else. Since there are apparently a lot more men than women on this site, your response rates will be even lower no matter how hot you are.
You do have to sell yourself. There's no such thing as just being yourself. If this phrase simply meant to present your unique qualities - your personality - in a favorable manner, then I'd agree. But I think that it is a mistake to believe that you don't need to sell yourself. That's what everyone needs to do in order to function socially. | |
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| Decent looking guy + few responses = bad profile???
Posted: 6/6/2008 7:32:11 PM | I get many responses and I'm not even 5'10''. The key is to create a profile as if you're kinda picky, which suggests that you have many choices, which in turns suggests that women already "dig" you, which might be true for you anyway but you have to create that perception.
You're profile spends too many words talking about yourself and not enough words talking about your preferences and what you would prefer not to encounter.
You: "I respect single mothers however, I'd prefer not to date women with children. Also, it would be super if this special lady enjoyed watching discovery channel on Sundays during the rain while eating peanutbutter and banana sandwhiches."
Girl: "Hmmm. This guy is kinda tall. He's kinda cute. Wow, he seems to like watching discover channel shows that come on Sunday and pb and banana sandwhiches just like me! I think I'll write him."
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Girl: "Hmmm. This guy doesn't date single mom's. Why not? It's a shame, he;s kinda cute. I'll write him anyway." Writing: Dear, Blueknight50, it's a real shame that you don;t date moms. I found your profile interesting blah blah blah....
This technique also weeds out women that will waste your time anyway. You'll receive emails from some women that just want to criticize you, but in the end, you'll make more friends than anything. BE PICKY, BUT NOT A JERK is the best way to sum it up.
Also put spaces between your writing blocks like I have because it encourages reading. | |
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| Decent looking guy + few responses = bad profile???
Posted: 6/6/2008 11:03:21 PM | Oooh... good eye, Maggie. I tip my hat to you.
OFCB, I apologize for the negative thoughts I was sending your way; yours was the first one I saw with the current date on it, so I thought you had done it and couldn't fathom why. | |
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| Decent looking guy + few responses = bad profile???
Posted: 6/7/2008 12:11:28 AM |
OFCB, I apologize for the negative thoughts I was sending your way; yours was the first one I saw with the current date on it, so I thought you had done it and couldn't fathom why.
You're forgiven, but don't let it happen again.
I failed to notice that it had " come back from the dead" , otherwise I wouldn't have waisted my time. | |
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