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Posted: 12/31/2007 9:39:57 PM | I've met several women from POF and for the most part all my experiences have been positive. Naturally there hasn't been chemistry with everyone but the meetings have been pleasant. Meeting someone from online is a little awkward because even though you see pics there's still a blind date feel to it. You never know exactly how things are going to go or if someone is going to look like their pics so there's a nervous anticipation you feel when you go out to meet someone. I've never met anyone who made me want to run away until last week. It was bound to happen sooner or later. I met this particular woman from POF. We had been chatting online and over the phone for about two weeks. Our conversations were good and she looked great in her pics, so we decided to meet. She suggested a dinner date and wanted me to pick her up.
I was kind of surprised she would allow someone she hasn't met to come to her home and pick her up. I suggested we meet for a drink at a neutral location first and we could take it from there, but she told me her car was acting up and convinced me to come over. I have to admit I was pretty nervous as I walked up to her apartment. When she opened the door she looked nothing like her pictures. It was the same girl but she looked much older and thinner. The pics she sent were obviously not recent. She looked about 5' 11" and was real skinny. She couldn't have weighted more than 105 lbs. She had a blonde afro and was very pale. She looked like Goldie Hawn on crack for crying out loud! It was a real kick in the nads when I saw her.
Needless to say I wasn't feeling it, but I had no choice but to try and make the best of the situation. I certainly wasn't going to be rude and walk off even though her pics were misleading. As we walked into her apartment I noticed she had a slight limp. I asked if she hurt her ankle and she said no that she had just undergone hemorrhoid surgery a few days ago....WELL BE STILL MY HEART! I thought where the hell has she been my entire life! lol She went on to say she couldn't do alot of sitting, standing or walking which pretty much left indoor skydiving as the only thing we could do. She was so uncomfortable she was walking around like a zombie. I really just wanted to end the date right there but I figured after we eat I could fake a heart attack or something. We went to a deli and because she couldn't sit she leaned against the table. I could see her grimacing in pain. Right as I was about to take a bite of my turkey supreme and swiss she said this was the most pain she's been in since a yeast infection a few months earlier.
I swear I've never been so unattracted to someone! I immediately told her I better take her home because I had to get up real early. She appeared a little put off that I wanted to end the date, but if the attraction isn't there it's better to just move on. I felt a sense of relief when I dropped her off. In no way does this experience discourage me about wanting to meet women from online because I do prefer this over the bar scene. My good experiences have outweighed this one bad one but never again will I pick someone up and commit to a dinner date until after we've met for a drink first. Seeing pictures and talking over the phone with someone doesn't assure chemistry in person and I'm sure most of you who've met someone this way would agree. Happy New! | |
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Posted: 12/31/2007 9:43:04 PM | | I think that is why coffee is usually the date of choice for first meetings | |
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Posted: 12/31/2007 9:44:31 PM | goldie hawn on crack with hemmoroid problems....... wow, what a visual I got with that.
thanks for the haha's.............. 
far as your comment about meeting first before committing to dinner, excellent idea. I do that all the time and it saves a bunch of time, money and hassles on my part. | |
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Posted: 12/31/2007 9:47:53 PM | | I hope you remember this story next time you decide to go on a date out of pity. | |
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Posted: 12/31/2007 9:49:07 PM | | Perhaps we should BOTH take my Dad's advice: "You're better off going to bars." I have a horror story of my own from POF, but am still too glad to have escaped with my sanity that I can't yet speak of it! | |
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Posted: 12/31/2007 9:56:34 PM | in case your ever in a jam and want to escape a date faster, you can always slap yourself across the face lightly a few times , twitch around your face some....and tell her you need to go get your spaceship from a few streets over and will be right back... then take off, trust me she will open the door and let you out. It may help to mumble something like
zeetooo dootooo on the way out the door.
I like your idea about faking a heart attack but it would end up costing you too much and she would be calling to see how you are. | |
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Posted: 12/31/2007 10:02:08 PM | | You look adorable in the pic posted on your "Worst First Date Story" forum and it's nice to see you have a good sense of humor and you're a decent human being to boot. Hang in there .. and just think .. things can't get any worse, haha | |
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Posted: 12/31/2007 10:15:44 PM |
I hope you remember this story next time you decide to go on a date out of pity.
I didn't set out on this date with the thought of it being out of pity. I had a genuine interest over the phone but there were no sparks when I saw her. Things like this happen and if you're going to commit to picking someone up you should try and make the best of it. It would be pretty rude to tell someone at their front door you're not attracted to them and turn and walk away. I just couldn't bring myself to do that to someone. She was a nice woman and I didn't want to hurt her feelings. I committed to a dinner and figured I could bow out gracefully after we eat. If I commit to a date even if it's just for a simple drink I'm still going to sit there and have one drink no matter how unattracted I am to someone. If the sparks aren't there you just have your drink and get up and wish them the best. | |
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Posted: 12/31/2007 10:16:27 PM | I loved the indoor sky diving. Extremely funny but after the laugh, it suddenly occurred to me. We are laughing at a woman who was putting all she had into finding someone. I am positive she didn't do any of that just to ruin the evening or to make us laugh. She went on the date even though she was in pain.
If this is a true story and the woman reads this, how do you think she will feel? I would have stopped by a pharmacy and gotten her one of those pillow things and an inconspicuous towel or something to cover it and sat down and tried to treat her as a human being. After all, there must have been something about her personality you liked or you wouldn't have accepted the date in the first place.
I am reminded of when I had a date with a woman that I met through an acquaintance when I was about 25. I'm sure they meant it as a joke. She wasn't the most beautiful person I'd ever seen but she had a good heart and was an enjoyable person with whom to talk. I went to her home to pick her up and as I followed the directions, I found myself going deeper and deeper into the wilderness. Finally, her tiny cabin appeared on the banks of the Ohio river. Inside, it was clear that I was probably her first visitor there for years since her father had died there.
One could see that she led a pathetic and lonely life there in the wilderness beside the river. We went to the movies, we had an enjoyable date but we were quite different on some points of view that it was clear we would not make a good couple. I treated this woman with respect, however, even though she was one of the most pitiable creatures I'd ever met. She was only 21 herself but it seemed clear that she would likely spend the rest of her years there alone. How many years would it be before she had another date with a young man and how would he treat her I wondered? For all I know she still sits in that tiny cabin alone to this day.
My philosophy is that if you are unable to be kind and a gentleman to such a woman that is that far from being your ideal, you won't be able to show kindness to the woman who is. | |
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Posted: 12/31/2007 10:22:20 PM |
She was a nice woman and I didn't want to hurt her feelings.
But you aren't above coming here and laughing at her in public, eh? do yo really believe she will never read this- that she will have no interest in what you have to say in a thread a few days later in the same place that you came to be introduced to her.
I think it is safe for me to tell the tale of the woman I dated that evening but it was nearly forty years ago and I am still not going to laugh at her. | |
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Posted: 12/31/2007 10:23:22 PM | Previous message: "My philosophy is that if you are unable to be kind and a gentleman to such a woman that is that far from being your ideal, you won't be able to show kindness to the woman who is"
Have you lost all perspective? He was kind and a gentlemen. What, he's supposed to stop at the local Walgreen's, buy some Prep H, and smear it on her hems? Come on. It was a first date! | |
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Posted: 12/31/2007 10:23:44 PM | hope your not feeling guilty about your choice to not commit to dinner right away, you are doing the right thing and your thinking is clear.
save your time and money for someone you meet and have an interest in, who your atracted to. in the meantime learn to say with sincerity, sorry but we are not a match and walk off quickly and quietly. there is nothing wrong with doing that.
nothing at all
first meetings are not dates, they are first meetings, commit to have a coffee or coke and a few minutes with them. thats more than fair. I had a women one time show up and I swear she was in her 80's with a wrinkled up face and a strange lump under her shirt... maybe a hernia or something ? maybe a 3rd breast on her abdomen?
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Posted: 12/31/2007 10:26:15 PM | | OMG! Too funny! Welcome to Internet Dating Hell. That's why I have on my profile: NO DINNER ON THE FIRST MEETING! Nothing worse than being stuck at the table with Godzilla. Check, Please! But, it looks like you have learned well, young Skywalker. | |
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Posted: 12/31/2007 10:26:35 PM |
I like your idea about faking a heart attack but it would end up costing you too much and she would be calling to see how you are.
If you fake a heart attack before you order the meal it won't cost you anything and if they call to see how you are you just have your answering machine pick up announcing that you passed away. lol | |
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Posted: 12/31/2007 10:44:47 PM | That sounds nice in practice, but I honestly would rather have someone tell me at the door that they weren't interested if they were that repulsed by me instead of getting my hopes up.
You seem like a nice guy, I hope you're next date turns out better. | |
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Posted: 12/31/2007 10:55:00 PM | I bet that was a living nightmare..Dang,,i bet you wanted to run and hide in the closets forest that you could find.,,Thats really bad..
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Posted: 12/31/2007 11:04:01 PM |
But you aren't above coming here and laughing at her in public, eh? do yo really believe she will never read this- that she will have no interest in what you have to say in a thread a few days later in the same place that you came to be introduced to her.
I think it is safe for me to tell the tale of the woman I dated that evening but it was nearly forty years ago and I am still not going to laugh at her.
This woman had a few unkind stories of guys she met from here herself so I don't think she would be too upset by my comments. Had I known she excused herself and ditched a couple of guys she met for drinks I would have told her upfront there was no attraction. She did mislead me by sending old pictures of herself so she set herself up for alot worse than a forum post that doesn't contain her name. At no point on the date did I lead her on. She was well aware I wasn't interested. If anything she would learn a lesson by reading this not to send out old pics of herself and to discuss her battles with hemorrhoids and yeast infections...not sexy! Sooner or later someones going to tell her off about her decade old pics she's sending out if they haven't already. Better to learn your lesson this way. | |
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Posted: 12/31/2007 11:27:19 PM |
That sounds nice in practice, but I honestly would rather have someone tell me at the door that they weren't interested if they were that repulsed by me instead of getting my hopes up.
You seem like a nice guy, I hope you're next date turns out better
You should never get your hopes up when going on a first date, especially in this manner. Expectations can lead to disappointments. Everyone is different and not all people handle rejection the same way, so I try to be sensitive to someones feelings regardless of what I think of them physically. I've never gone out on a first date with someone I met online by going directly to their home and picking them up that's why I suggested to her we meet for a drink first. She seemed experienced at having men come over to her home. It was awkward for me and I just couldn't bring myself to tell her I wasn't attracted to her right off the bat after talking with her on the phone for two weeks. Even though I wasn't physically attracted to her we still could of ended up becoming friends once we got better acquainted in person, so I saw no harm in giving at least that part of it a chance. | |
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Posted: 12/31/2007 11:44:00 PM | After all, there must have been something about her personality you liked or you wouldn't have accepted the date in the first place.
Honestly there was something about her looks I liked or I wouldn't have accepted the date in the first place. She was nice over the phone, but her bikini pics are what won me over. lol She had some dangerous curves in those pics and claimed she was 27 years old. Her curves were gone when we met and she looked closer to 40. She was so skinny she looked like she had just competed on survivor! There's alot of deception online. Some people try and mislead. I met a woman a few weeks ago who must have been 50lbs heavier than she was in the pics she posted. When we met she said I want you to know I'm not fat I'm just retaining some water. I thought to myself if all that's water she must be holding more than Hoover Dam! | |
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Posted: 1/1/2008 12:40:28 AM | LMOA!!
I'm not fat I'm just retaining some water. I thought to myself if all that's water she must be holding more than Hoover Dam!
I am a big girl and I never hide that fact but DAMN for now on I am going to use that line ... I m am retaining water boys LOTS of it ! | |
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Posted: 1/1/2008 2:22:16 AM | LMAO...poor guy! And here I was worried that when I start dating again, a guy would be turned off by a skin condition that causes scars, lol.....
Now ya know why I haven't dated during the past 3 yrs!!! Ughh!
Still, she shouldn't have faked her pix and she shoulda told ya she was in rough shape, to be honest. That part was unfair. You have been given some good suggestions for gettin out of such a situation, but might I offer one?
Grab your crotch and scratching say in a muffled tone, "Damned herpes breakin out again!"....bet that gets rid of male or female unwanted dates! | |
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Posted: 1/1/2008 2:52:04 AM | your a gentleman....
I met a guy , oh ages ago, first (and last) meet was a drink in quiet pub in a city centre. He seemed pleasant, pretty keen too. But he did refer to his ex and their social life...so, curious, i asked why exactly they had split up.......he told me (in a matter of fact way) it was cos she was sick of going to Swingers Clubs every weekend. I tried not to look fazed, had a sip or 2 of my drink, he proceeded to tell me he could take me instead now as I would be a popular 'barter' as well as partner for him.... I had another sip of my drink, smiled and headed for the loo........... then the exit...... probably not the polite way to handle it but....... | |
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Posted: 1/1/2008 8:31:57 AM | In my experience none look like their pictures !!!!
They usually look about 10 years older. | |
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Posted: 1/1/2008 9:00:19 AM | Sooner or later someones going to tell her off about her decade old pics she's sending out if they haven't already. Better to learn your lesson this way.
Just curious - why didn't you ask her about it? I don't mean in a horrible way, but if it happened to me, I'm pretty sure I wouldn't be able to contain myself from saying, "Man, you don't look anything like your photos."
There might even be a better explanation than the photos being decades old. I once lost a ton of weight in a few months during a really bad time in my life and I've recently seen a photo of myself from then. Yikes!
I really don't know what to think of someone talking about their hemorrhoids and yeast infections. Or even agreeing to go on a date when recovering from hemorrhoid surgery. Mind boggling. I don't even want to be around people, much less someone new, when I have a cold. | |
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Posted: 1/1/2008 9:13:31 AM |
In my experience none look like their pictures !!!!
They usually look about 10 years older.
Several women have sent me old pictures. One sent me a pic and claimed it was taken last year. She was sporting a bee hive hair doo and wearing bell bottoms and standing next to a 69 Pontiac. Several cars across the street looked like they were also from the mid to late 60's. There was even a kid in the background with a flat top riding on a vintage big wheel. lol | |
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