| What do guys think about a girl contacting them first?
Posted: 1/1/2008 7:31:28 PM | If this has been asked before I was unable to find it.
So what do you all think. I have been looking at the same profiles over and over and they me. So if I bite the bullet and messge them would it be okay to assume that they are going to be freaked out?
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| What do guys think about a girl contacting them first?
Posted: 1/1/2008 7:35:45 PM | I have no problem with it.
I've had a several women reply to me first. It's flattering to be honest. Just as it's flattering to you.
Although none have made it through to the point of a face to face yet, I'm always happy for a response in my mail.
So go ahead. If they look interesting, send them a message.
PEACE
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| What do guys think about a girl contacting them first?
Posted: 1/1/2008 7:41:17 PM | Oh god yes.
I have two thumbs up for that. I'll put my big toes up. That's four thumbs up now. Actually... make it five thumbs up.
Men shouldn't have to always be the hunter while the woman is the prey. What are we, cavemen? Women, take responsibility for your own love life and stop waiting for the men to come to you, then complaining that the wrong men come! | |
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| What do guys think about a girl contacting them first?
Posted: 1/1/2008 7:46:31 PM | I've never waited for a man to contact me first; if I like him and feel his profile shows him to be someone with a good sense of humour, I add him to my list and contact him. I try to stick with local guys as much as possible for the coffee thing but also add some from around North America, even some in the UK and South America. I've managed to meet 24 people for coffee in the past 6 months, some at the monthly meets and others one on one and that includes women. | |
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| What do guys think about a girl contacting them first?
Posted: 1/1/2008 7:56:41 PM | All girls/women should do it, it saves the guy another "read/deleted" waste of a good email to a non receptive person w/o the decency to say anything.
When a girl contacts me first and she's my type there's usually a lot of emailing involved.
At the very least she will get a "thanks for the interest but you're not my type" reply. | |
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| What do guys think about a girl contacting them first?
Posted: 1/1/2008 8:07:47 PM | | I agree with the other posters. Women should contact men that they are interested in. I can't imagine any man being bothered by that and most would be flattered. Life is too short to not reach out! | |
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| What do guys think about a girl contacting them first?
Posted: 1/1/2008 8:13:53 PM | If they are freaked out then it's not becasue you have messaged them first.
It's more likely, to freak them out, if you invite them over for an evenings sex but warn them that your father will also be there, with a shot gun, just in case you change your mind.
Something like that.
Guys are also surprised if they are picking you up for a first date, and you answer the door wearing your baby dolll PJs and invite them to a night in insted of a night out.
Some with be so surprised that they will end up impoent for a few hours but it doesn't mean that they are frreaked out. Just surprised. | |
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| What do guys think about a girl contacting them first?
Posted: 1/1/2008 8:23:14 PM | | I would think long and hard about answering an email from any woman whose email made me long and hard. I don't know if this helps but it was funny when it occurred to me. Maybe some other woman has been brave enough to try sending an email first. I got a couple but they didn't say hardly anything. I suggest if you do send an email, have something to say. Copy something if you have to, from a random website. | |
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| What do guys think about a girl contacting them first?
Posted: 1/1/2008 8:29:45 PM | Kansasgirl07
Why do you feel a guy would be freaked out if you contacted them first? I would guess that very very few guys would actually be put off by a woman making first contact with them. To me, I like women who know what they want and if they are interested then they make the first move and say hi. If your interested in someone, drop them a email. | |
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| What do guys think about a girl contacting them first?
Posted: 1/1/2008 8:36:44 PM | | Yeah I think its awesome when a girl contacts me first. I don't understand why you'd think that a guy would be freaked out, I'm sure that most other guys would like it too. Its nice for the guy to know that women are interested rather then the guy always writting the women. | |
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| What do guys think about a girl contacting them first?
Posted: 1/1/2008 8:51:29 PM | Kansasgirl07,
I thought this had been asked before also because I thought I responded to it but I couldn’t find it so here goes …
No … I don’t think most guys now-a-days would be freaked out by a beautiful lady contacting them. In fact I think it would be flattering to most. However, I know I have contacted several ladies on POF & traded emails with them along with chatting online for a brief period of time. When the topic of chatting on the phone came up they told me that I would have to call them because they did not call guys or want to be perceived as chasing after someone. Now where some people may have a difficulty understanding that … it usually brought a smile to my face. To me it was an indication that this is how this lady was brought up and even in this age where women make the first move as often as men do … these ladies were staying true to the standards they developed a long time ago. I have always respected that and I guess to a degree respected that.
So I guess what I am saying … I don’t have a problem either way … with the lady initiating 1st contact or me doing so.
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| What do guys think about a girl contacting them first?
Posted: 1/1/2008 11:11:33 PM | | One of my bestfriend's parents met because his mother was the one who showed initiative. He might not be around if she didn't. How's that for an answer? Some men might reply, some might not. We men do like it when women take an interest in us. I don't think it makes a difference if the male responds first or the woman, but some of us males are turned on to a woman who writes us first if we're somewhat attracted. | |
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| What do guys think about a girl contacting them first?
Posted: 1/1/2008 11:18:49 PM | | I love it...I've never understood the notion of being turned off because a woman decided to make first contact (in real life and online). If you're interested in someone, go for it, and stop beating around the bush. Don't play the shy game just so you can maintain a "tradition". It actually irritates me when a girl puts in her profile that she refuses to make first contact if interested. That's plain immature and stupid. | |
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| What do guys think about a girl contacting them first?
Posted: 1/1/2008 11:19:59 PM | I'm for it !
Equality for all !!
And besides, I'm starting to get a bit tired of reading "Read/Deleated" in my Sent Messages folder. I know that most women get probably 5-10 times the number of e-mails than guys do, but that doesn't make seeing that any less "sharp"...or worse yet, "Unread/Deleated"
So reach out ladies. | |
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