| Are men afraid of christian women?
Posted: 1/2/2008 9:12:23 AM | | Why do some men run when I tell them I'm a christian. I have christian morals and values and I love Jesus. I enjoy attending church on Sundays. I also like listening to christian music, but it's not all I listen to. I don't sit home all night and read my bible if that's what they think I do. I am not a pushy christian and would never try to change someone else's beliefs. So why is it when the conversation turns to religion I get silence or no response when I reply that I'm a christian? | |
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| Are men afraid of christian women?
Posted: 1/2/2008 9:31:51 AM | Because you're not what they're looking. As simple as that. About listening to christian music, I think it's classified as torture by the Geneva Convention.
If you are not a pushy christian, then why do you need to talk about religion more than a simple: "I'm christian. So how do you like your spaguetti?" If it comes to the "listening to christian music" bit, you have talked too much.
Besides, if you love Jesus so much, most guys know better than interfere. They know what the guy can do if he gets pissed off with a guy who is trying to steal His girlfriend. | |
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| Are men afraid of christian women?
Posted: 1/2/2008 9:39:15 AM | | Because allot of people don't hold with having 'morals' to guide them, they follow their hearts and conscience instead. People who are moralistic generally aren't open to full loving relationships, and can often be very judgemental of other people IMO, and I don't personally find them attractive either. | |
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| Are men afraid of christian women?
Posted: 1/2/2008 9:47:07 AM | Why do some men run when I tell them I'm a christian.
Why are you even asking yourself this question? Shouldn't you be thanking God that it's so easy to weed out the ones you are not compatiable with. Ask yourself as a Christian woman, do you really want to date someone who runs when they find out your belief? | |
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| Are men afraid of christian women?
Posted: 1/2/2008 9:56:49 AM |
Why are you even asking yourself this question? Shouldn't you be thanking God that it's so easy to weed out the ones you are not compatiable with. Ask yourself as a Christian woman, do you really want to date someone who runs when they find out your belief?
I would have to agree with this, but to say that it is not about what you believe, no-body cares if you believe in god, or in the spirit etc, it's about how some christians expect other people to follow their morals and guidelines for what is considered proper, and this kind of lifestyle doesn't suit all people. Some people need to be true to themselves in order to keep happy, and those kinds of people don't tend to be compatible with moralistic people. It's basically a difference in values, the beliefs are not important, but values are everything when it comes to compatibility and finding mutual happiness. I have been lectured by more Christian people on my beliefs and lifestyle than any others, but I'm happy the way I am, and wouldn't expect anyone to change their lifestyle for me either. | |
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| Are men afraid of christian women?
Posted: 1/2/2008 9:58:38 AM | | No offence to you but I've found that people who go to church every Sunday and call themselves "christian" to be hypocritical and judgemental. It's like they think they're perfect because they have "religion" and everyone else should live up to thier standards. I believe in a higher power but I only go to church once a year and that's on Christmas eve. I prefer to call myself "spiritual" rather than "christian." I don't know if that helps but maybe those guys who are turning and running have had similiar experiences and just don't want to even bother with it anymore. The bloodiest wars in history were over religion. | |
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| Are men afraid of christian women?
Posted: 1/2/2008 10:04:50 AM | | No OP, I'm not saying YOU are, I'm saying allot of Christians are, and allot of other people see this too, and that is why they will possibly avoid you when you tell them you are a Christian. I am not disrespecting or judging your beliefs, just explaining that this is how many Christians approach non Christian people, and some non Christian people are put off by this. | |
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| Are men afraid of christian women?
Posted: 1/2/2008 10:07:17 AM | We are afraid you will pull out the bible and start beating it over our heads(this is coming from one christain too). You Do have to understand the christain religion has been known to bash other religions. Most people think of christains as bible tumbers, or (a pagan friend told me) crispies. Crispies because most christains will say "your going to burn in hell". So most people tend to stay away from Christains. Christains (alot) believe people should conform to them, and there should be no other way. That is why christains are so hated. You are still one up on the preachers sleeping with underage alter boys (catholics). | |
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| Are men afraid of christian women?
Posted: 1/2/2008 10:09:11 AM | | Why are people so concerned about people they are not even compatiable with? It's just truly hard for me to understand. OP, do you truly want to date these guys tht run? | |
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| Are men afraid of christian women?
Posted: 1/2/2008 10:19:19 AM | | Morals don't come from insitutional labels. To suggest as much does make you judgemental. Christianity is in reality an as yet unsubstantiated insitution of man. If you understand that and don't impose the utterly unsubstantiated suggestions that the Bible is the word of G0d and that Christ is the only means of salvation then people should have no problem with you. However if you don't embrace that central and ficticious arrogance of the "faith" then you are not a Christian. You can however decide to keep that arrogance to yourself and get along as millions have. Remember there are not selective levels of imposition, you either respect other people's kennings or you don't. | |
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| Are men afraid of christian women?
Posted: 1/2/2008 10:19:31 AM | | If they took the time to accually get to know me, they would know that i'm the least judgemental person you would ever meet. Look at me, who am I to judge someone else? Maybe the guys i've talk to are being judgemental of me cuz I'm a christian. they shouldn't assume they know everything about me after I tell them the truth that I am a christian. Most of the time I'm not the one that brings up the subject anyway. As for writing about liking christain music, I do like it, but only wrote that cuz i needed 200 words or more for my post to be put up and couldn't think of anything else to write. Also, thanks for all the smartass replies, they are funny to read. | |
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| Are men afraid of christian women?
Posted: 1/2/2008 10:29:10 AM | If you are one of those SEX TILL MARRIAGE types, most men will move on. There are other women that are more flexible. They won't care if you love Budda or the cookie monster or jesus. That is a deal breaker for most people.
According to your profile, you claim you are a BBW. Most men do not prefer that body type. Your age restrictions are 26 to 31 on your profile. They must live within 75 miles of you.
Very few men, if any, would be a good fit here. | |
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| Are men afraid of christian women?
Posted: 1/2/2008 10:29:32 AM | | OP we can only go by our own experiences, and if we experience bad attitudes with several people within a certain group or identity, we are most likely to avoid that kind of people because we don't want to bring disharmony into our lives. I'm sure you are a great woman, but you have to remember that there are always a few rotten apples who spoil it for the rest of the bunch, and it's not just with Christians, it can be said of any group of identities, such as some women treating men badly and giving those men the impression that all women treat men badly and vice versa. It's not necessarily right, but it's the way of the world. We protect ourselves from things that we believe will make us miserable. | |
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| Are men afraid of christian women?
Posted: 1/2/2008 10:32:57 AM | I find many people who identify as having a specific strong religous faith will use it to rationalize behavior that most people find immoral. Fellow members are generally blind to the actions. The extreme will actually rationalize murder, suicide, terror etc. Note Waco, Jonestown, and Nrothern Ireland for Christian examples. Is that "Christian morals?"
Among Christians specifically, rationalization of financial scams are quite common. Many of the "mega churches" are financed with a very common financial scam that rips off banks and tax payers through small business loans made to church operatives. The churches groom the individuals to get the loans and the congregation inflates the success of the startup in preperation for the loans. Once the loans are issued, the business then donates the money to the church and goes out of business without ever repaying the loans.
When it comes to discussions about topics such as birth control, abortion, corporal punishment, evolution, and origins of the universe, rationality is questionable with the deeply religous. To avoid disrespect for the religous, many people simply avoid the conflicts by avoiding close relationships with them.
Why do you use the term "afraid"? It would seem to be an insult implying they are cowards. Could it be that disrespectful attitude that turns people away? | |
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| Are men afraid of christian women?
Posted: 1/2/2008 10:38:53 AM |
Also, thanks for all the smartass replies, they are funny to read.
You asked for opinions OP, and you got them, and they weren't smartass, they were honest. Another thing I find about some Christians is they can't handle honesty because they don't think it's 'polite' but so long as it isn't intentionally set out to hurt you, then it is honesty, plain and simple, and if you can't handle it, you shouldn't be starting a thread asking for it in the first place. Really, there's no point in asking a question, if you're going to put down every single answer that doesn't appeal to you. | |
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| Are men afraid of christian women?
Posted: 1/2/2008 10:41:28 AM | OP - This thread had been overdone to death a gazillion times, and its never pretty.
Try looking at it this way - If one of the first things I told you was that I loved a person who died 2000 years ago whos historical significance is fiercly debated internationally you would be scared too. | |
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| Are men afraid of christian women?
Posted: 1/2/2008 10:43:20 AM | OP
I am in no way trying to be mean when I say this, but are you sure it's your Christianity that scares these guys away? The reason I asked is because you talk about being one, but the majority of your post do not match up with what you claim to be.
You've been defensive, rude and you don't seem like a very positive person at all. Don't know you personally but that's what I see in this thread.
Like I said, not trying to be mean but just telling you what I see. | |
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| Are men afraid of christian women?
Posted: 1/2/2008 10:56:13 AM | There's a huge difference between 'fear' and 'not taking them as seriously as they take themselves'.
no offence, but i am pretty bad at candy coating my thoughts on it.
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| Are men afraid of christian women?
Posted: 1/2/2008 11:26:15 AM | No. I think not. Its just I can't stand them. Really how can a person that has those sorts of supposed moral and ethical standards be on a secular dating site?
Maybe their here to start a "bedroom" outreach or "between the sheets" ministry, or to "between the thighs" evangelical experience, or orgasmic "revival". ;)
Well, praise the lord and pass the condoms! Amen sister! And this alter boy cometh right soon! ;)
Its not that people run from christianity, they run from the hypocracy that is imbued by the followers of Christianity, and the hubris that surrounds the church and many of its followers. Because an individual is aware fully of all the blind dogma being present on one level or another, within that person.
And so they flee from the misbegotten belief system of a less then fully practicing person. Whom often pays service to the idea of "god" with one set of lips, while their other set opens wide to recieve yet another offering of flesh. And this happens quite often in open defiance of scripture, law, and tradition. All these being as horibly distorted, as the preachers whom preach them, an ignorence compounded and missaplied as the followers whom supposedly "honor" those teachings.
Cause you know, nothing really compares to the love of Christ, especially when you can buy a curiously shaped crucifix at your local erotic giftshop, because no mortal man will do. ;)
I'm sure there are a few women who "love Jesus" quite frequently. At least untill the batteries run out. ;)
My final point is thus:
If Christian women are seeking Christian men, there are Christian dating sites. If their beliefs are that important, then they will abide by them. If not they are here on a secular dating site, seeking sex and romantic endeavors just like the rest of us. And by doing so, invalidate the significance of any moral superiority or spiritual purity.
I doubt anyone who mentions "I love Jesus" and announces it for all to see, isn't pushy about their religion. They just truely need a revival of spirit, and most likely a shorter leash on their sex drive.
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| Are men afraid of christian women?
Posted: 1/2/2008 11:36:34 AM | To the OP...
Suppose we met and found that we enjoyed each other's company. But then I told you that I believe that the Earth is 4.5 billion years old and that the Bible is a good story with a lot of lessons, but not necessarily true...what would you say to that?
This has happend to me with a "Christian" woman and the outcome was that she left me sitting the restaurant. Yes, she got up in the middle of the dinner and walked out. I'm not saying that you would do this, but it has happened to me. | |
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| Are men afraid of christian women?
Posted: 1/2/2008 11:38:47 AM | 9 to 9... (msg 24).
That's impressive, if the OP can understand you (doubtful) thats the best response in this thread. | |
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| Are men afraid of christian women?
Posted: 1/2/2008 11:38:59 AM | OP.... try to stick with only messaging men who also state "Christian" as their religion on their profile. There are A LOT who also go into depth about how devoted to their religion they are in their profile. You say that you don't care about their religion, but wouldn't you love to share that aspect of your life with your SO?
A few have even started threads about the matter. | |
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| Are men afraid of christian women?
Posted: 1/2/2008 11:40:10 AM | I could go on for hours about religion... probably offending most people... cause, you know, that's what its for right? LOL!
But one thing that always got me... is that most Christians I know worship Jesus, and praise him for everything...
But... er... doesn't their bible tell them to worship GOD... and not just the SON OF god?
Ah well, I'll just keep wishing people a Happy Winter's Solstice, and Merry Pagan Holidays... instead of that XMas stuff. LOL!
RAmen!
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