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 taurus516
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This was just on another thread.A female poster stated that the MFM threesome fantasy was a popular fantasy among women,just a an FFM fantasy is very popular among women.

I'm not sure I buy that.I think the women who do enjoy this type of fantasy are a different breed from most women.They're like women who enjoy graphic porn.They exist,but they're in the minority,at least based on what I'm seeing on these and other forums.This tells me one of two things.Either women who enjoy much the same type of "alternative" sex activities as men are in the minority,or they're just not admitting to it.
 Icene
Joined: 6/26/2007
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Posted: 1/2/2008 11:34:42 AM
I'll bite. Sure, its a fantasy but its not one I talk about or have any intention of making a reality. In the end my mind knows the reality would be too emotionally ravaging to consider.
 SunnyTexas
Joined: 9/28/2006
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Posted: 1/2/2008 11:41:49 AM
Sure, it's a fantasy....but also one I wouldn't want to make a habit of acting on.
I like my fantasies to remain fantasies...I guess. Once they are reality, ya gotta think up another fantasy.

If you men only knew what goes through our female brains sometimes, the wildest, craziest, horniest stuff swirls our head MOST of the time. You'd think we were nuts !

No, it's not always about a threesome. But it can be pretty freaky !

If any woman comes on here and says otherwise....they're LYIN' ! !
 WomanInProgress
Joined: 10/16/2005
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Posted: 1/2/2008 11:43:55 AM
I'm with the other girls, sure it's a fantasy - but too complicated to make a reality without some fallout.
 EB1
Joined: 7/31/2006
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Posted: 1/2/2008 11:48:24 AM
Answering straight. Has never been my fantasy.
 Hypno_cat
Joined: 4/15/2007
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Posted: 1/2/2008 11:49:41 AM
I agree with most of the posters here. Fantasies are usually just that, believe me some of mine .......I would not like to become real

(no please don't mail me to find out what they are, they are mine and I wont share )
 Thundercloud111
Joined: 10/25/2007
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Posted: 1/2/2008 12:03:53 PM
I'm a one man woman. I have nothing against his working up an appetite with porn. I don't get turned on by other women. I don't get what is so great about boobs and vagis at all. In that case, she has to be bisexual.

There is a lot of homophobia with men so good luck to her finding MFM which smacks of bisexual. I think it is more of a defense, in how does it feel to have that put on you as a man? I know of few women who haven't been asked about FMF. It is suppose to be the number one fantasy with men, and something most porn films incorporate are two women or two women with one man. What turns me on is intimacy, pillow talk, and closeness. It's not very difficult. Try to find a man that can talk about emotions without getting squimish. Male sexuality insecurity runs as rampid as female emotional insecurity.

My experience is that men are very competitive and compare themselves to so much as dildo in the house. He'll sniff it out and measure. As long as it isn't *bigger* than him. The whole way he measures his performance with every breath and movement I make, would be awful with another contestant. Uck. I'd have to hear is it good enough, big enough, blah blah blah, insecurity for years. One is more than enough to have that perpetual you're sexually reassurance "man enough" talk with, constantly.
 Onlyforumsonly
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Posted: 1/2/2008 12:09:04 PM
MMF? Only two Ms? What about MMMMMMMMMMF?

I'd never actually do it. There's a pretty solid line for me between fantasy and real life. A lot of things that work great for me when I imagine them would be miserable if I actually tried them. This is one of them.
 Herding Cats
Joined: 11/8/2007
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Posted: 1/2/2008 12:12:22 PM
T'would appear by the answers so far that "yes" it is a popular fantasy.

Everyone's got 'em and for most of us — fantasies is how they shall remain. Anyone that has ever tried living out a fantasy understands why. The reality rarely measures up.

Pardon the unintended pun.
 Blueskies123
Joined: 11/3/2006
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Posted: 1/2/2008 12:15:13 PM
Um...how could you get to the age you are and not know for sure already that it's a popular fantasy?
 EB1
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Posted: 1/2/2008 12:27:08 PM
I wanted to clarify my post before. Saying that MFM has never been my fantasy, is true, but I never ment that I don't have fantasies.

I do, everyone does. My fantasies just involves my partner(when I have one).
My last boyfriend once asked me what I fantasies and when I told him, he was very suprised. Because I fantasised about him and the things that we would do together.
And putting those fantasies into action has always been fun. For me, when I'm in a relationship that is what I do. Some find it very odd, for me it is just the way I am.
 GeneralizingNow
Joined: 10/10/2007
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Posted: 1/2/2008 12:30:17 PM
Yes, for me a far better one than FFM--what on earth would *I* do with a woman?
 Rys_
Joined: 6/19/2007
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Posted: 1/2/2008 12:33:28 PM

...what on earth would *I* do with a woman?

Hrmmm....well, you could send them my way.
Thanks a bunch!!! :)
 Kynnie
Joined: 4/8/2007
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Posted: 1/2/2008 12:34:45 PM
RE: msg #11
oh well EB...Im with you.
The idea of two guys does absolutely nothing for me. And FFM even less.
It doesnt bother me at all that people entertain the fantasy...it doesnt bother me that people do it...but from my conversations, most people only do it a coupla times.
Im a one guy kinda gal and always will be.
 taurus516
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Posted: 1/2/2008 12:44:27 PM
Um...how could you get to the age you are and not know for sure already that it's a popular fantasy?


Because most women won't admit to it.I knew it existed,the question I had in mind was how popular a fantasy is it?The big difference I see here is that you ladies say that you want it to remain a fantasy.How sad.I'm reminded of the song in Rocky Horror Picture Show, "Be it,don't dream it".

Guess that's the big difference between men and women.Most men I know would jump at the chance for an FFM.Yet when they actually do it,most guys,myself included just say,"Yeah it was nice, but it wasn't the be all end all sex trip" and then they go on about their "normal" relationships.I know in small doses,here and there it's fun with two bi women, but here again,it falls a bit short of the porn fueled hype.


Try to find a man that can talk about emotions without getting squimish. Male sexuality insecurity runs as rampid as female emotional insecurity.

I can talk about my emotions without getting squeamish,but judging from your post,you would be bored with the things I get emotional about.

My experience is that men are very competitive and compare themselves to so much as dildo in the house. He'll sniff it out and measure. As long as it isn't *bigger* than him. The whole way he measures his performance with every breath and movement I make, would be awful with another contestant. Uck. I'd have to hear is it good enough, big enough, blah blah blah, insecurity for years. One is more than enough to have that perpetual you're sexually reassurance "man enough" talk with, constantly.

Never really understood that,but then I'm not competitive by nature,at least not like that,lol.I've been told I'm different from many other guys,though I've never really thought so,until I hear women mention this type of thing.It amuses me and puzzles me at the same time.
 Luv Karla
Joined: 9/29/2007
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Posted: 1/2/2008 12:48:06 PM
Anything sexually different has always peaked my interest.

But truth be told,if I was going to engage in a threesome,I much rather do it with two men.
 SunnyTexas
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Posted: 1/2/2008 2:32:07 PM
Don't steal my fantasies !

I love, love, LOVE THEM...just like they are...FANTASIES !

I really don't want to answer your question directly and honestly....but they're are probably alot of women like me who...just don't want to tell !

Fantasies are secrets. Sometimes acting on them is a secret too.

So...you'll never know.

Because basically, there is a double standard at play here. Men just might think a woman is too experienced or too promiscuous, or a s!ut...... if she answered honestly, that indeed she did and it was great to fulfill something she's fantasized about.

So I will say it's a fantasy...till it's not.
 Onlyforumsonly
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Posted: 1/2/2008 2:33:54 PM

The big difference I see here is that you ladies say that you want it to remain a fantasy.How sad.I'm reminded of the song in Rocky Horror Picture Show, "Be it,don't dream it".


There are two issues here. From a strictly practical standpoint, a woman is stigmatized for being sexually adventurous in a way that a man wouldn't be, and that stigma could easily kick in the second she consents. I don't want to set myself up to be gang-raped, on the grounds that if I agreed to one thing, then I've agreed to everything these guys want to do. Not only could it end that way in terms of the experience itself, it could be seen that way legally, too.

The other issue is that women's fantasies can run to the metaphorical. My own MMMMMF fantasy isn't so much about sex with multiple, specific men as it is about having a sense of immersion. I'm a sensualist. I'm a good cook because I love the taste of food. I swim because I love the feel of water on my body. With my fantasies, I tend to look for an idea that will give me the same kind of emotional experience, and that's often what I end up with. The act itself, in real life, would scare the heck out of me.

The fantasy is a symbolic expression of the underlying drives, not a mental play-by-play of something I think would be fun.
 MzFirefly
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Posted: 1/2/2008 2:42:18 PM
Awesome Fantasy..I would like to try it just ONCE ..But would Not make it a habit...but would have to be with 2 men I completely trust and know.Then Fantasy would be fullfilled.

The End
 KitsKitten
Joined: 10/24/2006
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Posted: 1/2/2008 2:58:01 PM
MFM ? Oooooh yeah, bring it on !
One man to clean up the kitchen, and another to do the ironing, while
I play online poker.......a dream come true !

Come to Momma......I can find lot's of 'chores' for the boyz. Maybe even get them some cute little outfits to wear from my poker winnings !
Fantasies....mmmmmmm

KK
 Herding Cats
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Posted: 1/2/2008 3:08:51 PM
The fantasy is a symbolic expression of the underlying drives, not a mental play-by-play of something I think would be fun.


Exactly. It's the idea of it.

The reality would be sweaty and messy and have much potential for leg cramps and awkwardness and jealousies and performance anxiety. These things are not indicated while on fantasy-mode.

Trying to bring fantasies to reality can be a pretty big letdown as I've learned.
 BDRT
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Posted: 1/2/2008 3:16:55 PM
I have a few fantasies, and most of them will remain fantasies. MFM is not really one of them. Just never been interested in that. I guess I am a one man woman.
 Thundercloud111
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Posted: 1/2/2008 4:03:35 PM
taurus,

I you think you can handle it there is a shortage in the dating market for MFM, more accurately bisexual men. I think more often a woman is testing your sensitivity, orientation, and equality with what's good for the goose. I think the real question is are you bisexual. Those are hard to come by and everyone, man and woman, wants him temporarily for a wide variety of fantasies. There is more often advertising for a male partner for a MMF with him screening to see if he can have sex with you. With boy toy on the side not on the frontlines. Lots of women want a boyfriend and a husband. If the husband doesn't mind and approves of you. Odds are he doesn't mind as long as it is with another woman, is the problem. She may not want to have sex with another woman is the other problem kind of stale mating it. Quite a few times, she has run off with the other woman. Both bisexual men and bisexual women seem to have boys on the side. As long as you know going in, you're odd man out.
 cheerupemokidx
Joined: 12/27/2006
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Posted: 1/2/2008 4:15:43 PM
I'd rather FMF personally..
 americaninthailand
Joined: 12/15/2007
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Posted: 1/2/2008 5:09:46 PM
MF isn't even my fantasy anymore. Another M would just increase my annoyance.
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