tomi33
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Joined: 12/16/2007
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Posted: 1/2/2008 12:30:14 PM | | Meet this girl, think shes the girl of my dreams, plan the perfect trip to propose to her. found out shes been sleeping with 3 guys for the last 4 months, including one on my bday. THAN she makes a scene at the mall, when i confront her, and I got put in jail, n got 3 charges. That is the ultimute broken heart right there! | |
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Posted: 1/2/2008 12:43:47 PM | "Confronting" a person OP will not get you put in jail, obviously there is more to that story.
And women are no more devious then men are.
Though the devious "actions" may differ- if a person wants to be/ is a devious scumbag they will be it-- man or woman.
It's not a gender thing, it's a personality issue.
Not every woman will do to you what you are posting about. You just got stuck with a lowlife- plain and simple.
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Posted: 1/2/2008 2:42:39 PM | | And were you giving her some engament/marrige hints? Was there some sort of dicsussion? | |
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Posted: 1/2/2008 2:54:21 PM | | They're snakes with tits, learn from it - and f u c k everyone up that seems to have those demon traits... | |
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Posted: 1/2/2008 4:31:30 PM | Dude, you got three charges for being with a woman who is not worth the dirt on your shoes. Don't know what the charges is, but plea innocent to all charges (unless you hit her, better plead guilty). What you should have done... was destory her, and everything she holds dear. Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned, but Satan cowards in fear of a man on a vendictive spree. You need to drag her into the mud. Best way I would have done it..... was porn pictures of her on the internet, or a video of her. Then tell all your friends and her's about it. Post on a local site about it. You would have hurt her more than confronting her and got charges put on you.
BTW, I'm a mean vendictive A-hole. believe it!! | |
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Posted: 1/2/2008 6:32:41 PM | i think what people are not realzing is that there is more to this story then meets the eye. Can't comment on something where the entire truth isn't there. What did you argue about? and what were the charges.... were they minor or what?.... it doesn't sound right, just arguing and POOF 3 charges...
edit- she's been sleeping with 3 different guys?.... yeah.. thats harsh, but not all women are like that(thankfully) She is a vendictive cheater... be glad you found that out now and not 3 months after you get married | |
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Posted: 1/2/2008 7:08:19 PM | I'm not sure why you'd have to go to jail because she made a scene. Obviously there's more to it than that.
Next time someone's making a scene, just walk away. | |
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Posted: 1/2/2008 8:01:38 PM | ^^^^^^^^^^^ Have to agree.
where do you find these people?????
poor you. and poor her for screwing up her life so much (no pun intended)
good luck. | |
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Posted: 1/2/2008 8:13:30 PM | Well,that's life...............
If she was really the girl of your dreams,she wouldn't have cheated on you.
As for being put in jail,you must have done something to put yourself there.
Sorry that your heart is broken,and I hope you meet someone special soon. | |
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Posted: 1/3/2008 12:12:02 AM | Not sure what it is that you seek? a price for the ultimate broken heart? a hint to all the women that you hate them and think that they cheat?
Don't go offering your heart and your life on a platter for others to stamp on. This is a lesson of life and perhaps also to appreciate what people are capable of. This is the stark reality of life and for me this should serve as warning to either sex what a human being is capable of doing.
As for you move on, try to be a better judge of character and I am sure this New year would bring you a lot more happiness. There is a saying a calm mind can withstand a storm so maybe you got to please her somehow and get her to drop the charges. You don't want to go to jail for that woman trust me. Spend some money or tell her you will compensate her and tell her you now know you are in the wrong and apologies and somehow get her to drop the charges. It is in your best interest I think.
Wish you the best. | |
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Posted: 1/3/2008 4:14:52 AM | | You're only 21 - don't worry about marriage for at least another decade or two, if at all. Get that temper in check and choose more wisely next time you shop for a girlfriend. | |
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Posted: 1/3/2008 4:22:55 AM | | consider it a godsend as you now rid yourself of her. Fresh new year to move on with your life and find a way better and more deserving woman. | |
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Posted: 1/3/2008 6:17:33 AM |
Meet this girl, think shes the girl of my dreams, plan the perfect trip to propose to her. found out shes been sleeping with 3 guys for the last 4 months, including one on my bday. THAN she makes a scene at the mall, when i confront her, and I got put in jail, n got 3 charges. That is the ultimute broken heart right there!
You must have some serious anger issues or really lost control to have a mall argument turn into YOU getting arrested.
How DIDN'T you know she was being unfaithful?
I'm sure your friends knew...and hinted that to you (unless she was sleeping w/ them)
You must not have spent much time together.
Chalk it up to experience...
Get some anger management counseling
Move on w/ your life | |
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Posted: 1/3/2008 10:50:09 AM | 1.) You're barely in your early 20's. Girls in your age range are too young and silly to know what they really want. Like you, girls at that age still have a LOT of growing to do. You are way too young to be thinking about settling down and marrying. Take time out to live your life and worry about the marriage thing later.
2.) She cheated. Yes, that sucks. Better you find out now than after you get married.
But do NOT, under any circumstances, take time out to exact any revenge on her, as a previous poster suggest you do. It's childish and stupid and won't help you to move on. If you are like that with her, how will it be with the next girl? Eventually, all of that bitterness will eat away at you and you will end up angry and alone, and blaming all females for everything that goes wrong in your life. Not ALL women are evil. I could come back and give a million examples of the s**y things guys have done to me, but I don't go around thinking the entire gender is demonic.
3.) The next time you are going to confront someone, don't do it in a public place where both of you can be humiliated. Wait until you are alone, that way she can't cause a scene. If she acts out against you, WALK AWAY. Run, if you have to. Police are more prejudiced to guys being the attacker/abuser than girls. They'll believe her story quicker than yours.
It takes time, but you will get over this. A few years from now you'll look back and wonder what the h*ll you ever saw in her. Trust me, I've been there. | |
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tomi33
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Joined: 12/16/2007
Msg: 15 | |
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Posted: 1/4/2008 4:30:45 PM | I got charged for criminal harrassment. because we fought on the phone. nd I called alot because i wanted answers. whereas she called me too..but w.e
I got charged for mischeif under 5000$ for destroying her new 200 guess purse..after she attacked me, tore off my neckless, n smashed the interior of my car.
I got charged for assault, cuz i spilled her drink, and it went all over both of us. cuz the cup was stirafoam.
I tried to get away, but she wouldnt stop coming after me beating it in, that shes a lying, cheating ****, that used me for 4 months..and ye. I would never hit a girl, Especially one i wanted to marry tho:S this one was just messed in the head..and i got ****ed for it. end of story. | |
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Posted: 1/4/2008 5:42:39 PM | | Too bad bro...live and learn not to get too dramatic . I hope it was not a "he said, she said" rumour... | |
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Joined: 12/28/2007
Msg: 17 | |
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Posted: 1/5/2008 12:53:25 AM | Good grief... if it happens again just disappear and give them the silent treatment
Fighting over it is a losing game | |
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Posted: 1/5/2008 8:11:13 AM | I think you need a good lawyer kid, mind you most of the charges will get thrown out
if what you say is true, you just met a bad one, but i will be the first to say part of it is your fault Im betting there were red flags but you chose to ignore them because you thought she was the woman of your dreams? im betting she was a knockout too? | |
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Posted: 1/5/2008 11:28:30 AM | | Good luck with those ones | |
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tomi33
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Joined: 12/16/2007
Msg: 20 | |
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Posted: 1/6/2008 9:17:14 PM | | lmao your right on the money, but no she wasnt that good looking, and her personality was shit, im still wondering why i cared lol | |
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Posted: 1/6/2008 10:36:55 PM | | If her personality was so bad then why were you with her ? | |
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Posted: 1/6/2008 10:57:21 PM |
I got charged for criminal harrassment. because we fought on the phone. nd I called alot because i wanted answers. whereas she called me too..but w.e
I got charged for mischeif under 5000$ for destroying her new 200 guess purse..after she attacked me, tore off my neckless, n smashed the interior of my car.
I got charged for assault, cuz i spilled her drink, and it went all over both of us. cuz the cup was stirafoam.
I tried to get away, but she wouldnt stop coming after me beating it in, that shes a lying, cheating ****, that used me for 4 months..and ye. I would never hit a girl, Especially one i wanted to marry tho:S this one was just messed in the head..and i got ****ed for it. end of story.
Dude,
Reread what you posted on here.
You seem to be justifying your actions by what she did to you.
That doesn't fly.
You're an adult (you're certainly going to be charged as one) and you need to act as if you are one.
That means you need to realize that your issues are just that....yours.
Not hers.
She's no longer w/ you.
Your inability to deal w/ that has caused you be arrested and charged w/ some serious crimes.
You MAY get off if you get good lawyer (as an earlier poster suggested) but that's going to cost you (or somebody) money that I'm sure could be better spent elsewhere.
Or even saved.
You'll still have an arrest record and if you may end up w/ a conviction if things don't go well in court.
All this for a woman that is no longer w/ you.
Bottom line...You need anger management counseling to help you find constructive ways to channel or eliminate unhealthy aggression (if anger wasn't an issue you wouldn't have been arrested) and you need to just steer clear of that chick.
If that means getting new friends or not going places that you even THINK she'll be at...then that's what you need to do.
If you choose not to do any of the above,you may become VERY familiar w/ the justice system.
Which is NOT a good thing.
Good Luck | |
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Posted: 1/6/2008 11:29:50 PM | | Why would you confront her at the mall when there are tons of people around? Why not confront her somewhere where it was quiet and just the two of you so that you could actually discuss it? | |
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Posted: 1/7/2008 2:07:26 AM | Hmmm, OP 'comes back' (2 days later - nyahk, maybe He has a life  )
And : 'Does some splainin'
You seem to be justifying your actions by what she did to you.
That doesn't fly.
Well, u dunno. I mean - sure , it Does/Would 'sound' a lil Odd. (being Arrested/charged -for
'Nothing')?
But , a lil *story* (try to keep Short - promise)
December 31st , 9:00 am , County Courthouse : Man Stands before Judge , In Cuffs , 'Shakles' , the Standard Issue Bright Orange 'uniform'. 'Prisoner' is on Trial , has just spent 28 days in County Jail , is being 'represented' by Public Pre...*oops* - Defender.
The charge is Assault/Misc.Mischief , the 'Plead is Guilty'.
FACTS (as stated by Prosecutor/State) : "Police arrive at residence , After 'Hang Up' 911
Call - from Said residence. 'Caller' informs police , that She did indeed 'make call' , 'Defendant' is her HUSBAND , lives at residence , He is Intoxicated , became 'Violent' ,
Broke a ... (get ready - here's where it gets 'GOOD')... Picture Frame." yup-a Pic Frame!
Oh-date? Of 'incident'? December 1st.
Defendant states - "Yer Honor , I was Laid Off from Job , Holidays were coming up , was upset, drank too much , made some 'bad choices'.
*POINT*???
Some poor frikkin guy/ Soul ... Had just spent 28 days IN Jail , For being Drunk - In his Own HOME , Breaking a friggin Picture Frame! Prosecution 'states' - "Defendant Lives at residence" ??? WTF? Um, Of Course - he is Husband ... DER.
'Hang Up' 911 call? Oh , soooo - The 'wifey poo' was 'Gonna call' (such a Manipulation Tactic = Pyook!) , 'thinks' Better of it , Hangs Up. But , Too Late.
Now, this poor guy has just spent 28 days (Over the Very 'Holidays' - that,he was So Worried about in the First place) , Will Now have 'ASSAULT' On His RECORD.
(ALL for Breaking a frikkin Picture Frame - in HIS frikkin HOME!)
*Uh, Yes - for All 'wondering' ? I DID wanna 'Stand Up' , 'Advise' the guy - To get an ATTORNEY!
OP : It can 'take' - Just O N E 'bad turn' , To completely 'DeRail' one's Life/Path.
The ^ above 'scenario'? T R U E , Not at All 'UnCommon'. I would Strongly Suggest , That You Have NO/ZERO/Nada ... Contact , Involvement,Anything ... WITH
AnyOne that could even Possibly 'Introduce' the 'Law/System' InTo Your Life.
The System Is Beyond 'Flawed' , If one can Not afford an ATTORNEY?
(on Continual/Consistant 'StandBy'... RETAINER?) Then Be Vigilant , In Avoiding Any/All Situations , That have Any Possibility/Risk of 'Incident'. | |
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Posted: 1/7/2008 6:00:12 AM | | this sorry talejust proves what most of us must know;; there aint no justice; the law has nothing to do wit justice-no connection at all. This guy wouldv been more leniently treated for mugging old ladies, burgling houses, stealing cars. dealing drugs,,,,,,etc. wife should never call 911; shouldv called it off; guy should not be detained by pigs - shouldv laughed it off (wot planet do those idiots inhabit). prosecutors should not follow up; jidiciary should not waste pubblic money; lesson: never trust a cop; avoid lawyers; press to repeal 'thou shalt not beat wife ' law. | |
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