| SEX---->A sacred thing<----Virginity
Posted: 1/3/2008 12:32:28 PM | When I was 12 I had lost my virginity over a 50$ bet, I kinda feel ashamed. To all of those people out there that are still virgins and/or are ready to give their virginity to someone let me have a word.
Virginity is such a sacred thing that we alla re born with. It is a resemblance of love, life, freedom and purity. When we lose all of those thing we realize in the end that we really should have kept it for someone we love. Your virginity is something that you should share with your loved one, someone that you are sure your going to spend a good part of your life with or even the rest of your life with.
In fact I wish I was still a virgin and be able to share it with the woman I love but I dont have that innocense anymore. Be careful ann remember
Will I be with them forever??
Please people put your words out there and let the rest of the world know how you feel about being a virgin or about how virginity is sacred to you or would have been if you hadn't lost it! | |
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| SEX---->A sacred thing<----Virginity
Posted: 1/3/2008 12:36:26 PM | | I completely disagree. I don't see virginity as sacred at all. Sex is a wonderful, natural biological act that should be shared between consenting people who are interested in each other. There is no rush, and I think that having sex over a bet is demeaning yourself, but when you are ready and your partner is ready, enjoy yourselves. Mutual consent, mutual attraction, and mutual respect are as good of a reason to have sex as any. | |
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| SEX---->A sacred thing<----Virginity
Posted: 1/3/2008 12:45:14 PM | Sorry, have to disagree. Sex isn't a sacred thing. It's sex. The only gender really born with a 'virginity' are women because we have a hymen. A hymen doesn't represent love, life, freedom and purity. In some parts of the world it represents hatred, enslavement and death.
Maybe if we didn't put such a big emphasis on being pure and it being such a sacred act things like female genital mutilation and death because the woman has no hymen would end.
It's just my opinion but i don't see why we should hold the act of sex at such a high level. | |
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| SEX---->A sacred thing----Virginity
Posted: 1/3/2008 1:13:56 PM | I have to kinda agree but disagree as well. I didn't have sex until I was 18 or 19, when I met someone I was completely confortable with. I have been offered many time before and turned all of them down because I believed that it should be shared with someone that you trust. I still do think that love making is sacred and you shouldn't sleep with just anyone. But I do love having sex all the time now that I have had it. Once y0u do it once you can't stop doing it either! It's all in how your parents raised you up on the issue of sex. I have had a lot of sex but I really don't believe that I have ever once made LOVE. Someday I would like to find out what it's like!!!
I also didn't help that you were only 12!!!! you couldn't possibly know what you are doing and what you were getting yourself into. That was just plain STUPID on your part and I have no compassion for someone that would think of something so highly and waste it on a dumb bet!!! You have probably been scared in someway or another. | |
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| SEX---->A sacred thing<----Virginity
Posted: 1/3/2008 1:16:57 PM | I think it's pretty sacred.
I've had thousand dollar offers on my virginity (from a nice friend) but I would rather wait until I am married and out of college to even begin thinking about having sex. | |
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| SEX---->A sacred thing<----Virginity
Posted: 1/3/2008 1:17:32 PM | I rushed my loss of virginity and I regret it.
I didn't fully trust her, and I paid the price very uncomfortably.
There's no one cure-all reason for this sense of regret/thankfulness for the manner or time at which one loses their virginity.
There never is just one reason for anything as complex as this.
I'm still waiting for the right woman, hoping that the third time's the charm...
~ David | |
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Posted: 1/3/2008 1:24:26 PM | | See it is all in when you are ready and have a willing partner that you can TRUST<----is the key word here. I lost mine to a virgin so it kinda worked out aight. If you don't feel like you want to do it then yeah you will feel guilty and have second thoughts. But if your ready go for it. | |
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| SEX---->A sacred thing<----Virginity
Posted: 1/3/2008 1:27:18 PM |
Virginity is such a sacred thing that we alla re born with. It is a resemblance of love, life, freedom and purity.
Kinda interesting... sex is also a resemblance of those things.
I do believe sex is sacred. Sex should be held at a high level because it holds extremes in itself. It causes life and death. Pain and pleasure. Love and Loathing. Freedom and Entrapment. So many people's focus is on the act of sex itself as being impure. I don't believe this is the case, it's the motivation/reasoning/people behind sex that make it 'pure' or 'impure'. If your not ready for sex, by no means should you have sex. If you are, don't deny yourself an amazing pleasure. Just be honest with yourself and your partner. Communication is a necessity. Be careful and know what your getting yourself into. | |
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| SEX---->A sacred thing<----Virginity
Posted: 1/3/2008 1:30:00 PM | hmmmm.....I think it's one of those individual things. It's a sacred thing to ME, but I don't kid myself for an instant that the guy's going to care if I AM or am NOT the big V....it's something for myself
But just because you're not a virgin doesn't mean when you give yourself to someone it's meaningless, it still can be pure and special :) yay!
And dude, you were only 12?? that makes me sad :( You should have been playing baseball instead of that! | |
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Posted: 1/3/2008 2:24:13 PM | can only say whats sacred about sex mmmmm only that i would worship every sexual encounter that can bring me to my knees lol.
virginity really dont mean much to me except if one still has theirs then it means i have to spend more time then needed while they take notes.
op dont be unhappy that u lost yours on a bet shoot be glad someone paid for it other than you. | |
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| SEX---->A sacred thing<----Virginity
Posted: 1/3/2008 2:32:49 PM | First of all,
I think you've over complicated it abit,
But when you lose your virginity make sure your feelings are real and the feelings are mutual.
I wish i lost my virginity to a girlfriend,
Not a random girl at party,
We all make mistakes,
Its not for you to judge my mistakes.
Learn from 'our' mistakes and take the advice you wish.
Good luck in losing you "Big V"
Nathan.x | |
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| SEX---->A sacred thing<----Virginity
Posted: 1/3/2008 2:58:20 PM | | How anyways places importance on the first time you have sex is beyond me. It matters not at all. Screw it. Might as well place important on the first lead pencil you owned. The first time you played tennis. The first goddamn time you had a blood test. Sex is sex ok. Who cares about your virginity. The very act of making it a milestone is anti-climactic. lol I just dont get it at all. Not one bit. Could someone who seriously has some insight into why they think this is profound please message me and tell me? | |
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| SEX---->A sacred thing<----Virginity
Posted: 1/3/2008 4:35:15 PM | Some people think it is and some people it has some people value it in the religion. So if you wanna go into that and how it doesn't matter I am sure you could find a religious forum or something and they would explain every single lil tid bit to ya. Doesn't seem like you were brought up with those kind of values. Hey not everyone was. | |
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| SEX---->A sacred thing<----Virginity
Posted: 1/3/2008 4:53:36 PM | I agree w/ you 100%, virginity is a very sacred and very personal. It's really good that you posted this here because off the others who are young like yourself, that's a good example for them.
That's so sad though, that you lost it at such a young age and for a bet also.
This post is good for all to read, you have learned a lesson, sadly at a very young age but I'm sure other young people are out there, reading these forums too. | |
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| SEX---->A sacred thing<----Virginity
Posted: 1/3/2008 5:15:06 PM | you dont have to put the vagina/penis in a pedestal.
I lost it at 14 with someone I really loved, I spent 2 year with him and I have no regrets, since then I have been having fun. My virginity was something I gave away at the time I was ready to.
If you are not ready to deal with things, you are insecure, or you just want a guy to fall in love with you... then do not give your virginity away, keep it until you believe you can handle being heartbroken, used or not respected for your decisions. | |
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| SEX---->A sacred thing<----Virginity
Posted: 1/3/2008 5:37:04 PM |
A hymen doesn't represent love, life, freedom and purity. In some parts of the world it represents hatred, enslavement and death.
Control Sex, Control Women, Control the number of fights in the tribe
over who gets who for a mate and get a stronger tribe. Stronger tribe kicks
weaker tribe out of better valley. The tribe who is stronger breeds more, eats more
and gets to be The Only Tribe.
No one LIKES this set of rules about who and when it is OK to have sex, so let’s add
The Great Bob into it. Bob Says be a virgin or risk eternal damnation. Bob says women should obey
Man because the men like it that way. Buy a burka. Collect 200 Sheckles. Beat your woman with a
rod as long as it is not bigger than your thumb.
Hang a bloody sheet out of the window of the bridal suite to prove the Bride was pure !
Sister steps out of line, simply stone her to death to regain Family Honor.
Take your son to the local whore on his 14th birthday.
Kill the males from the wrong ethnic group who are sniffing around your daughter.
The Duke gets dibs on all brides in his territory. His Royal Seed gets spread because Bob Says So !
Guilt is always useful. Use guilt to counteract the sex drives of youth.
YOU abstain ! I get laid. I checked with BOB, He said it was OK. ( Thanks Henry!)
Shame ! Shame is GREAT! Make a few hundred Scarlet “A”s!
Sex is SACRED ! The First Time is Special ! How ‘bout your first beer ? That tends to be pretty
special to. First Cigar ? Yep ! Many puke their way through that also. First Break Up ?
First Wet Dream ? ( Oh, I saved the sheets !) First post on POF that gets Flamed ?
If Green Folks from a distant star land one day, I do not want to be the one to explain all of this to
them.
OP get counseling. ( or consoling). You are very young. Enjoy Life and your Youth. Both will be gone soon enough. | |
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| SEX---->A sacred thing<----Virginity
Posted: 1/3/2008 5:38:38 PM |
When I was 12 I had lost my virginity over a 50$ bet, I kinda feel ashamed. To all of those people out there that are still virgins and/or are ready to give their virginity to someone let me have a word.
Ashamed? Was it a goat or something? Because that'd be something to be ashamed of. | |
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| SEX---->A sacred thing<----Virginity
Posted: 1/3/2008 5:43:09 PM | | If I lost my virginity at 12 I can guarantee you Id be so much happier and more well adjusted than I am today. Id probably be married to an incredible woman actually. | |
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Posted: 1/3/2008 6:40:26 PM | And if by Virginity you mean Purity, please feel free to retake your commitment to being a virgin.
I think there was a movie star in the 50's (or a playwright in the 70's?) who said, "I was a virgin until I was 17 and then again until I was 21." Lots of people can relate to that, good luck getting to the age of 60 or 70 with no sexless bits (that can last a year or two). If you would rather dedicate yourself to being a celibate person until you find a true love, then good on ya. Call yerself a virgin if you want (the mythical unicorn?) | |
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Posted: 1/3/2008 10:46:27 PM | We all place a different importance on sex...I think that is fair to say.
To give a woman my virginity, is to say to her that she
means more to me than I believe that any other woman
will ever mean...that I believe that I have found true love.
It is a symbolic gesture in other words,
a physical act that represents a much larger feeling. | |
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| SEX---->A sacred thing<----Virginity
Posted: 1/3/2008 11:14:06 PM | | I can understand that. I was raised in a very religious/puritanist type family, and lost mine at 21 due to rape and nearly died from it (long story). I bore alota shame for alota years because of that, afraid of how I'd be viewed....for those who don't understand that, I was taught that if a woman lost her virginity before marriage, she was "used goods" and no decent man would ever want her. She was basically considered "ruined". Then 5 years later, when my secret came out, my fears were confirmed. I somehow "had to have done something to cause it" and "no one will want you now" is what I heard. Unlike many of you, I never had the option of giving that part of myself to whom I chose. It took the next 20+ years to feel any kind of self worth, because of how I viewed virginity, and how I believed the rest of the world saw me because I no longer had mine, even though it was through no fault of my own. Maybe , had I felt like some of the posters here, it would not have caused me to feel as if so much of my value had been ripped away from me, and I could have gotten over it far quicker. I will never know, since that was not the case. | |
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Posted: 1/3/2008 11:22:21 PM | | Just my two cents...not meant to be offensive but "used goods" aint really the terms when it wasn't even your fault....practically its quite painful situation which guy(s) won't understand but yea don't be bothered by what you were told cause it aint true, I have known a lot of women who um ain't really careful about who they end up in the bed with each night, thats what is kinda "used goods". | |
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