| After divorce - Can you ever fall in love?
Posted: 1/4/2008 1:19:11 PM | Once I was so much in love and our relationship was absolutely perfect.
Yet it ended when she ran off with someone who turned out to be an alcoholic.
Will I ever feel the same again? - Is a second time round really a friendship only between compatible adults? | |
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| After divorce - Can you ever fall in love?
Posted: 1/4/2008 1:26:02 PM | You'll find someone that will make you feel 20 years old all over again.......you know that feeling of "oh my god, how did we ever live without each other"......that's the best kind of love there is...and it comes over you when you least expect it...you'll see....
I used to laugh at the notion of "soul-mates"....but it really is true | |
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| After divorce - Can you ever fall in love?
Posted: 1/4/2008 1:26:58 PM | Nope, not possible... we're all destined to watch the WWE twice a week and become forum addicts....
Maybe that's just me, but I did stay at a Holiday Inn Express once...
Seriously, sure it's possible, and probable if you're doing the right things to get past the divorce. Just don't hold grudges and give the new girl a chance to be herself.
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| After divorce - Can you ever fall in love?
Posted: 1/4/2008 1:31:41 PM | | I am new to this business about deleting posts - how on earth can a site like this which has new members all the time, and who are divrced, for whom this topic is totally relevant, be considered as redunant? | |
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| After divorce - Can you ever fall in love?
Posted: 1/4/2008 1:35:17 PM | ^^^^ because the forums are a "repository" of discussions, not just posted for today or a month, but for years. THIS is why thread searches are soooooo important, because this subject HAS been done to death already, and generally answers to questions like this can be found in those previous discussions.
If you notice at the top of every forum is a post by the moderators that ask you to please read the rules BEFORE posting a new topic... for this very reason.
This is how a question such as yours can be redundant.
Bluezzz | |
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| After divorce - Can you ever fall in love?
Posted: 1/4/2008 1:39:12 PM | | You will never feel exactly the same again. The way you relate to any unique individual is rather a unique thing. However, there is nothing to stop you feeling as happier again and there is every reason to believe that feelings actually need to be stronger each time you allow yourself to fall in love because of the knowledge of the pain you are risking. There is every chance you will be even happier in your next relationship. My grandfather is happier in his second marriage than he was in his first and I'm sure there are plenty of other examples. | |
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| After divorce - Can you ever fall in love?
Posted: 1/4/2008 1:42:40 PM | I agree with the poster who is confused how subjects can be redundant......why bring up a thread fron two years ago when all those members aren'there posting probably.....
fresh conversations between new participants is the way to go
those old conversations ended naturally.....and alot of times the OP isn't around to clarify what they meant......
so yeah, thread deletions for redundancy are not good in my opinion....... | |
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| After divorce - Can you ever fall in love?
Posted: 1/4/2008 1:43:29 PM | Bluezzz
Thank you very much for your sensible answer to my question - yet wonder how many people realise that before posting a thread you have to do a search into the past in order to find out if in fact you are being original?
Furthermore, you may well have to try alternate wording in order to find out if one has transgressed. | |
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| After divorce - Can you ever fall in love?
Posted: 1/4/2008 2:19:39 PM | I'm with Parry. I hate it when threads from 2005 that are 40 pages long resurface.
And yes, of course you can fall in love again after divorce unless your love-thingie was broken in the process. | |
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| After divorce - Can you ever fall in love?
Posted: 1/4/2008 2:24:49 PM | No you will never find the love that you had with that person, because it was for that person. But you can definitely fall in love and be happy again with someone else.
Good luck to you. | |
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| After divorce - Can you ever fall in love?
Posted: 1/4/2008 2:43:10 PM | Loveawaits, relationships are a process, the same goes for marriage and divorce. What people forget is that relationships require care and attention the same way a garden needs to be tended. We spend a lot of time finding that one special person and then for some reason, become lazy in making sure things remain as wonderful as they started out. Relationships are partnerships and it takes 2 people to meet each other half way and give 100% each to keep the relationship as open, respectful and steamy. I explained this to a young person by saying - you dont buy a new car and then quit giving it oil changes and expect it to last forever, because it won't and they got my point.
When a relationship goes bad, it can be for numerous reasons, but the most common is that over time, people change and where they were once together on things become polarized. What is important is to know when the bad outweighs the good and to leave the relationship when it cannot be fixed. We all deserve to be happy, loved and share ourselves with someone who is happy to be loved by us. We have no control if/when a person changes in a relationship, what we have control over is how we let it affect us and how we deal with it.
Personally I have been married twice and I have always believed in taking the moral high ground and have left both marriages with my integrity intact. I also believe that if you want good friends, you must be a good friend. If you want great love, you need to be emotionally available to accept great love and you must be prepared to give great love. Each of us know if/when we are at that point in our life, if our personal baggage from past relationships has been dealt with and checked at the baggage counter and we are ready to try again. I think we each need to evaluate our needs/desires and then go for it as life is too short to be all alone, unless of course that is what one desires. | |
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| After divorce - Can you ever fall in love?
Posted: 1/4/2008 2:53:53 PM | Yeah, life bites sometimes.
but, i guess if things were that perfect there is a slight chance that she wouldn't run off with an alcoholic. just a thought.
Actually, the second, or third time around is usually a rebound relationship with a totally bi polar whack job that sometimes attacks you with butcher knives....you know..just for fun. But the sex is over the top.
hope that helps, bunky
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| After divorce - Can you ever fall in love?
Posted: 1/4/2008 3:09:33 PM | yes you can im recently divorced and thought i would never find true love but never say never it is possible to find that special someone that gives you butterflies and takes your breath away every time you see them sometimes its someone from your past that you had a crush on in school you end up running into that person only to find you still have the same feelings as you did back then for me it took 28 years to find mr right my soul mate and when you do get to know them certain things that happen will happen for a reason ive never been so happy i hope you find who you are looking for good luck | |
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| After divorce - Can you ever fall in love?
Posted: 1/4/2008 3:24:33 PM | yesterday is gone
tomorrow we dont know n e thing about
today is a gift thus they call it PRESENT
live every day like its ur last and dont look back they sure n hell arent wastin their time lookin at u n e more rite? rite...so live live and then live some more
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| After divorce - Can you ever fall in love?
Posted: 1/4/2008 3:26:56 PM | Don't see why not. My friend went through a very, very nasty divorce. Ripped him apart. A few years later, he got remarried. The sweetest, calmest, happiest man you'd ever seen.
Love and happiness are out there. For everyone. | |
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| After divorce - Can you ever fall in love?
Posted: 1/4/2008 3:31:14 PM | Never the way you did in your youth...
I beg to differ, Jenny.
I'm about to turn 50 years old, and I've been divorced for a few years now. And guess what: I have never been more besotted than I am with my current partner. He says the same about me. We're like a couple of teenagers-----------only better in bed. 
OP, it is only when you are happily involved in a new relationship that you will realize just how lacking your previous marriage was. Hang in there: true love may be just around the corner! | |
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| After divorce - Can you ever fall in love?
Posted: 1/4/2008 3:36:18 PM | You're 34 & need to ask this question?!!!
Geez, but I feel that this post is stupid - of course it can happen again (maybe not exactly the same though), and if you don't KNOW that, then I feel sorry for you. I don't even really want to answer this question - if you have any common sense, you should know the answer to your own question - this isn't rocket science!
Can't people come up with better questions? More productive ones perhaps? | |
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| After divorce - Can you ever fall in love?
Posted: 1/4/2008 3:42:45 PM |
we're all destined to watch the WWE twice a week and become forum addicts..
Your funny and speak for your self who are committed to the Forums only lock-up {aka- shrinks,broken hearts, generalizations & jousters} or until whats his face get it's act back together!
sure it's possible, and probable if you're doing the right things to get past the divorce. Just don't hold grudges
Happiness is a person who is truly happy with themself.
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