| When a woman says she's attractive in her profile...
Posted: 1/4/2008 9:19:25 PM | | A friend and I were discussing profiles. He tells me that he feels it is arrogant for a woman to say in her profile that she is attractive. I've never given it a second thought, but now I'm noticing that both men and women do this. So guys, how do you feel when you see that a woman has written in her own profile that she is attractive? | |
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| When a woman says she's attractive in her profile...
Posted: 1/4/2008 9:40:46 PM | it all depends on how they word it. if a girl just mentions it in a list of attributes, its hardly a turn off. it shows me she has confidence in herself, and that is quite attractive.
when a girl goes on about how shes god's gift to men, everyone wants her, shes has the best looks, etc, thats when it starts showing arrogance. | |
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| When a woman says she's attractive in her profile...
Posted: 1/4/2008 10:06:00 PM | Attractive refers to physical looks. If they are stuck in POF for 10 years, will they still be attractive physically? hmmmm... interesting.
To me, there are many other factors that are more important that a self-proclaimation of being attractive.
If they claim they are attractive, they might be in their eyes. They might not be in my eyes.
If they claim they are attractive, they better claim more than just that. 'Attractive' by itself is hollow. The opposite can also be true, where a whole litany of items are listed, which screams 'needs attention'.
Before ya all go out and start a bashin' on me, here is my reason for saying 'needs attention'... A persons qualities should be slowly revealed, allowing others to form their own opinion based on observations. The first person will not really have to claim 'attractive' or anything else, it will be observed.
ok.. going back to my corner now. | |
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| When a woman says she's attractive in her profile...
Posted: 1/4/2008 10:07:19 PM | | Very very true sixofseven8... I'm just saying it doesn't mater if someone puts in the profile if they think they are attractive... Gawd knows I'm a hottie... I'm just not going to write it in my profile... lol | |
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| When a woman says she's attractive in her profile...
Posted: 1/4/2008 10:17:05 PM | She could be and also may not be, but remember that beauty is in the eye of the beholder.
Another classic line is "I look younger than I am", it's best to let the person looking make that observation. | |
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| When a woman says she's attractive in her profile...
Posted: 1/4/2008 10:18:55 PM | | It doesn't bug me at all, it shows atleast they're confident in how they look, and that they have atleast online in there profile self confidence. Wether they do in real life or not is the real question. | |
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| When a woman says she's attractive in her profile...
Posted: 1/4/2008 10:27:27 PM | It's a good thing if they tell you. I was once approached by a lady who wanted to go out with me. I didn't find her attractive at all, but when she told me that she was indeed attractive, I realized that I must have been mistaken.
We dated for quite some time. Often, we would go out somewhere in public, and there would be a panic like stampede to the exits, when people saw her. We used to get a good laugh at the silly people, who have not been told by her that she was actually quite attractive.
I felt really good about dating her, since I felt like I was special for knowing the truth.
Unfortunately a few years later, she was exhiled out of the country, by a mob of deaf people, who could not hear her tell them how attractive she really was. They probably would have stoned her, but she was really good at climbing towers and got away, thanks to that attractive hump on her back, which gave her great balance. | |
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Posted: 1/4/2008 10:48:38 PM | | I have yet to meet the person in my life, who doesn't think they are attractive.Granted some are more open mouthed about it than others, is just part of who we are.I wouldn't say it is arrogant at all, in fact I would expect ever profile I read to have I am attractive. | |
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| When a woman says she's attractive in her profile...
Posted: 1/4/2008 10:53:21 PM | In one way it's nice to see confidence
OK, I was just thinking about that. Notice how pretty much, all of the men immediately say she's full of herself... myself included. But the gal says it's confidence. Now, I'm not gal bashing or trying to be mean to Cynderella, but this seems to be a difference I see in the way men and women sometimes perceive confidence or possible statements of confidence.
I'll hear women say so many times, "I like him, he has confidence." But most of the times, I (and most other guys) just see a c*cky jerk. Is that something us guys can see? Are we noticing this all important "trait" of confidence as the bullsh*t act that it is? Or, have we always labeled statements of confidence as being c*cky. If so, has this jaded us towards possible genuine statements of confidence and we interpret these statements as arrogant when coming from a female?
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| When a woman says she's attractive in her profile...
Posted: 1/4/2008 11:18:45 PM |
So guys, how do you feel when you see that a woman has written in her own profile that she is attractive?
Indifference.
It's like some people who believe they have a great sense of style and the like; it's subjective. Granted there are some people who truly are very attractive - and we know them when we see them - yet I'm still at odds trying to figure out what attractive "really" is. We are brought up to believe that beauty is "supposed" to be what is presented in the media - which is bs - yet I've always wondered how we would be if the media never existed. If their evolving collective idea of what constitutes beauty in both men and women, had never materialized and been forced upon us... I wonder how pure our interactions would be?
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| When a woman says she's attractive in her profile...
Posted: 1/4/2008 11:28:14 PM | From a female perspective, I think the beholder should be the judge but if a guy has to hit me over the head with it I prefer him to say "I've been told I'm attractive."
It's a little less assumptive.
More annoying to me are the profiles where they proclaim they look and act 10 years younger. | |
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| When a woman says she's attractive in her profile...
Posted: 1/4/2008 11:34:57 PM | | Beautiful women don't know that they are: this is why they are hugely 'attractive'. It's like with a Genious: he does not realize he is. It't like with a mad person: he/she does not know he is. Of course, I am talking about truly attactive women, not just pretty faces. So....If a woman says she is attractive, one should assume that she is either only pretty or people have told her that she is beautiful. For men.....well ....for men I do not know............I don't see beautiful men very often. | |
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| When a woman says she's attractive in her profile...
Posted: 1/4/2008 11:36:15 PM |
A friend and I were discussing profiles. He tells me that he feels it is arrogant for a woman to say in her profile that she is attractive. I've never given it a second thought, but now I'm noticing that both men and women do this. So guys, how do you feel when you see that a woman has written in her own profile that she is attractive?
If I read a her profile and she says she is attractive, I see that as fine, as it shows she has confidence in herself. In fact I prefer reading that.
If I read her profile and she goes on and on about how great she looks and that she is a perfect 10 and wants to nearly kiss the mirror every time she looks at herself because she is so in love with the beauty that she sees looking back at her. That would be a problem.  | |
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| When a woman says she's attractive in her profile...
Posted: 1/4/2008 11:41:25 PM | well it's good to be confident, but it's better to just post a picture and let the men judge for themselves. 
sometimes it is a little annoying when girls are so into themselves, but just stating that they are attractive isn't so bad in itself. | |
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| When a woman says she's attractive in her profile...
Posted: 1/4/2008 11:46:36 PM | There is no point to telling people you're attractive when they can look at your picture and see if they think so for themselves!
It doesn't matter what you look like of SAY you look like, some people will think you're attractive, some will not.
And saying "people tell me I'm cute/funny/etc" is pointless for the same reason - the people reading your profile and looking at your pictures will decide these things on their own, with or without your coaching.
I don't think I've ever seen a picture that didn't do it for me then changed my mind because the person TOLD me they were hot! | |
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| When a woman says she's attractive in her profile...
Posted: 1/4/2008 11:55:07 PM |
There is no point to telling people you're attractive when they can look at your picture and see if they think so for themselves!
It doesn't matter what you look like of SAY you look like, some people will think you're attractive, some will not.
And saying "people tell me I'm cute/funny/etc" is pointless for the same reason - the people reading your profile and looking at your pictures will decide these things on their own, with or without your coaching.
I don't think I've ever seen a picture that didn't do it for me then changed my mind because the person TOLD me they were hot!
I see your point and I do agree with the angle at which you’re coming from. I want to point out something else too regarding why I do see a advantage of a woman stating in her profile how she sees her looks. If a woman does say she is attractive in her profile then it does say, that at least she herself is secure in her looks. She will then not be the type who ends up saying that she is unhappy about her looks; she is saying point blank that she feels secure in her appearance. Aside from that, yes I fully agree that everyone has there own preference on what is attractive. | |
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