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Posted: 1/5/2008 6:54:07 PM | Hey guys my name is torrence. I was married for 6 months. she had a 17 month old. I thought our marriage was going perfect then she started acting weird about 3 week ago. she started fights on purpose. She told one of her friends that she was sleeping with a guy at work. she didnt know that i always talk to her friend and i caught wind of it. this happened during christmas to make it better. I told her i want a divorce. i want to find a woman who treated me better and likes me for me. but i wanted to know what everyone thinks. should i wait a while to start dating? or should i date agian? please help me somebody im confused.!!!!! | |
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Posted: 1/5/2008 6:58:24 PM | | only u know when your ready for dating again. Some people take time to heal and what u may end up doing is running in to a relationship just for the sake of being with someone and thats not good either. I can only advise that u give yourself a little you time and get yourself out on the town or a hobbie just to stop u feeling sad and lonely. There are lots of silly girls out there who hurt good men and all I can say is that we are not all the same so there is someone out there that will ease the pain I am sure. Take care | |
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Posted: 1/5/2008 7:04:12 PM | take some time and heal your heart, finalize your divorce, THEN start dating when you are ready.
You obviously loved her and are hurting right now. Heal your heart first, then you will be able to bring good things to a relationship.
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Posted: 1/5/2008 7:16:26 PM | I am sorry that you are suffering.
You are very young .You have plenty of time to find your other half so don't rush.Just listen to your heart, and when you are ready and you start feeling "butterflies in your stomach" for somebody , that will be the right time to date again.
We cannot plan life as if it were a machine in which you press certain buttons and get certain results, so don't plan when you are going to start dating ,just "feel" when the moment comes
All the best from you from Argentina
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Posted: 1/6/2008 5:17:16 AM |
I was married for 6 months
That's it? Holy Sh*t! Remind me to NEVER get married (ever)!
should i wait a while to start dating? or should i date agian?
Yeah... you should DEFINITLY start dating (again). You probably shouldn't stop either; everyone wants someone forever, but forever is pretty much "never" (if you get the point).
Lesson X: "Variety is the spice of life"... (I think your wife proved that point) Sorry about what happened, but don't fall into the trap (marriage) again. | |
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Posted: 1/6/2008 5:55:51 AM | You are confused and for that reason alone you shouldn`t date.Why would you want to involve some innocent person with your unresolved issues???
If you really want a divorce then go and file for it and get it over with.
I just checked your profile,YES get a divorce and do not even think about getting married again for a very long time !! | |
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Posted: 1/6/2008 8:50:46 PM | | Maybe talking to her girlfriend behind her back might be a reason for divorce. It sounds like you might already have someone in mind. Just a thought. | |
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Posted: 1/6/2008 8:57:46 PM | | OP you say you are married however, your profile says you are single.....so which is it? | |
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Posted: 1/6/2008 9:04:56 PM | Hey, at least your bad marriage only lasted 6 months. Ahhh, to be young and inexperienced again. Nah, on second thought I'd never do it again!!! I hope you get a no-strings divorce. You really shouldn't be liable to anyone for such a mistake. It was a mistake, definitely not a marriage. Make sure you get out with no liabilities to her or her kid. If you want to be involved that's a different issue. Just be sure you never have to be legally obligated.
You're young. You're supposed to be playing the field. It's the process of selection. You don't just "know" what you want. You have to eliminate what you DON'T want and then you get to find the one. You learn what you want along the way. That's just the way it works.
You have to slay a few dragons before you get your princess. You don't have to get married or even engaged to anyone.
And contrary to what others are saying here, I suggest you jump right back in the game. No better time then now with the fresh knowledge of what you're definitely not looking for. They're not all whores, there are actually some decent ones out there. Don't allow this to make you bitter towards all women. I struggled with that for a while many years ago.
Oh yeah and before I forget.........
DON'T GET MARRIED AGAIN!!! (anytime soon anyway) Marriage should be the LAST thing on your mind. Just have some fun. You can still have a committed relationship without signing a legal contract (essentially all that marriage really is). Try just having a good relationship with someone without the "M" word creating all sorts of rediculous pressure and stress.
Peace out
MikeM | |
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Posted: 1/7/2008 5:27:39 AM | im claiming single. I am currently getting divorced im filing the papers on tuesday. Thanks for everyones advice. I am confused right now with everything. Today i called her and told my mind and it felt so good. She wants to work it out and i dont want to becuz i know she will treat me the same. | |
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Posted: 1/7/2008 6:33:42 AM | | Perhaps you should take a breath before you jump into another relationship so fast?? Just sayin'. | |
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Posted: 1/7/2008 10:43:05 AM | My opinion ... just take a little time to heal (so you don't bring that sort of baggage into the next one ... she probably won't deserve it) - but other than that you are good to go. i am sorry to hear that someone treated you like that especially after marrying her ...
If it's any consellation, my first marriage was cut short by the fact that three years later I found out he was gay!! lol - hopefully that made your outlook a little brighter - lol ... true story :) ... not married since though - scars ...
Hugs,
Erika  | |
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Posted: 1/7/2008 10:59:10 AM | Don't date now! Your "radar" is malfunctioning...take some time...
Don't play the fool and try to work it out. If you'd have been in a long term marriage my advice might be different...but after such a short time it shows a propensity in her towards this behavior. You'd definitely be burned again.
Best to you...
Jim | |
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Posted: 1/7/2008 1:10:20 PM | | PLEASE wait for a while to start "dating". You need to get your head on straight, and it's not fair to a woman when you go in knowing you're screwed in the head right now. I'm not saying give up on women, just give up on LTR for right now. | |
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Posted: 1/7/2008 1:16:37 PM | Too much of an emotional upheaval going on within your world right now so, I would suggest you hold off dating ( and long term relationships ) till calmer waters prevail, so to speak.
Time for you to heal. | |
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Posted: 1/8/2008 5:09:08 AM | | everybody is different, you dont want to treat someone how you have been treated because you know how that feels, give yourself time and the right girl for you will come along | |
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