| Asking your female friends to set you up.......
Posted: 1/7/2008 2:00:16 AM | so the online thing just isnt going well for me at all i'm throwing in the towel and doing it the old fashioned way......{face to face contact}
so my question is i have lots of friends in general is it ok to ask my female friends to set me up with there friends? should I ask to be setup with a specific friend and pick one? any single friend she has? just give her a few expectations and let her pick someone? anything i should be doing that i'm not thinking of to avoid problems? | |
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| Asking your female friends to set you up.......
Posted: 1/7/2008 2:09:54 AM | You can always ask......
If you do have specific person in mind, then you can ask your friend to introduce them to you. If she refuses for some reason, then there is a reason and just respect it and don't push it.
If you don't have a specific person in mind, then just let your friend introduce you to someone that she thinks might be a match for you. | |
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Posted: 1/7/2008 2:26:36 AM | Women don't think like that. We would probably start thinking straight away who would be a suitable woman for you,lol.
No, it would not bother me and certainly I would not think any less of them.
I actually have a friend of mine, who is always trying to set me up. I have met couple of men, but they haven't been a match(or anywhere near,lol). You just have to prepare for that. | |
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Posted: 1/7/2008 9:04:46 AM | | You can ask--I had one couple set me up with a guy. An ENTIRELY inappriopriate match, I must say! It's a tad awkward when you do NOT hit it off, and yet you sometimes see the person socially. | |
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Posted: 1/7/2008 10:33:14 AM | Buddy, please before you go off the deep end and meet women face to face....
Change your profile. No pic, you live alone with your cat? You need to spice up your profile to entice someone to join in the fun.
I see no problem getting set up with someone, but I have found it usually blows up on me.
Hold off on the towel and jazz up your profile. Then blanket the market with messages and see what comes back.
Cheers. | |
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Posted: 1/7/2008 2:36:16 PM | also!!
these kinds of set ups only work if you have a lady friends who knows you enough and who is close to you.
I can say that I have lady friends, but a lot of them just keep to their own group of friends and do not really introduce me to their group. As in, I am still an outsider in their eyes. Yet, I've also notice that my own lady friends invite guys they theme as being good enough for their own group, either to go to parties with or socialize. It is just how women, and men, act like.
I do not know if you have that same problem I have, but if you have a great lady friend ask her for her opinion about this. | |
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Posted: 1/7/2008 4:44:48 PM | Suppose you have a friend set you up with someone. Suppose this person your friend says is perfect for you turns out to be soemone who you would rather not give the time of day.
Does that say the person who set you up just doesn't know you as well as they think
Or... should the question be asked " What am I doing that makes my friend think this kind of person is for me"? | |
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Posted: 1/7/2008 6:58:48 PM | Kinda hard to say. Don't ask a single woman friend who you think might have an interest in you. That could be offensive.
Don't ask a friend who will be offended if you don't hit it off with their date.
Otherwise I say go for it. | |
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Posted: 1/7/2008 8:28:43 PM | I don't know.
I only had one girl try to set me up with someone.
I'm sure she was a nice girl but... she has alopecia, one side her face sags (as though she had a stroke), she has a very strong lisp (I find it extremely difficult to understand her), and... I could go on. That's a lot to ask me to get past.
At this rate maybe someone like that is all I am able to get. (if that, I mean I didn't actually accept the offer - just because I don't consider her attractive doesn't mean she would actually be attracted to me) But I don't want to "settle" for someone, nor would I think anyone really wants to be "settled for".
Sort of drifting to other topics if I pursue this line of thinking anymore, just remember:
"She's really nice" = burn victim
"great personality" = face mauled by bear
etc, etc.
There is a reason blind dates are regarded with horror and derision.
As far the alternative: Staying on this site and seriously trying to use it to get dates. For me at least this site seems to be pointless. I can't really generalize from that for others, but in my case it just doesn't work. | |
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Posted: 1/8/2008 1:39:04 AM | I have a few female friends that I'm pretty close with i was going to ask one of them they know me well enough to know not to set me up with some random freakshow sorry if that happened to you already but i'll cross my fingers i'm really surprised that you guys weren't more supportive of doing the face to face thing
I've conversed with a few attractive nice girls on here but none of them can seem to pull it together and meet me i'll still talk to them but it just seems like no one on here has much intention of it going anywhere mind you this may be my own fault for talking to attractive girls in the 18-25 range online
you know what if the worst thing that could happen is we don't hit it off when we meet i'm over it cuz i'm in the same boat here for all i know i could talk to someone for hours then finally meet and it turns out we don't hit it off anyways at least this way i'm skipping a step and might actually meet someone instead of spending way too much time talking to them and having it go no where....
Buddy, please before you go off the deep end and meet women face to face. - vanillajoe
I donno about you but i thought that was all i really wanted in the first place anyways
so the check list
-Dont ask single female friends who might have interest in me(if that was going to be a problem i might not have this problem tho)
-no freakshows
-no friends that will be offended if i dont hit it off
-pick lady friend that is fairly close to me
anything else i should know before diving in head first? | |
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Posted: 1/8/2008 12:44:23 PM |
Dont ask single female friends who might have interest in me(if that was going to be a problem i might not have this problem tho)
Heh, I had the exact same thought when I read that.
Good luck. | |
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Posted: 1/8/2008 1:12:25 PM |
is it ok to ask my female friends to set me up with there friends?
To be honest, if you asked me to set me up with one of my girldfriends I wouldn't do it, no matter how high I would think of you. To understand why I'd refuse just look at some of the possibilities:
(a) It doesn't work out from the beginning and she hates you. On that case chances are that at least on of you would be mad at me - you, because you feel I should have advertised you more intensely to my friend. She, because she feels I set someone into her tracks that is not what she's looking for. Ultimately, I would be blamed.
(b) One of you is fond of the other while the other one pretty quickly decides that the opponent :-) is a total dork. Again I'd be trapped between the two of you and would probably get complaints from both sides - and be blamed by at least one of you for not having known better.
(c) One of you turns out to have a crazy side - so I would feel guilty (and be blamed) for setting you up
... and so on
This list is almost endless, and since I'd like to stay friends with both of you I'd always stay outside of any of my friends' love affairs. If you coincidentally happened to meet at my place an to fell for each other - different story. But in that case I wouldn't directly be acting as a matchmaker. | |
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Posted: 1/9/2008 5:19:33 PM |
Dont ask single female friends who might have interest in me(if that was going to be a problem i might not have this problem tho)
Just to clarify, don't ask a female friend who may have an interest in you - but you do not have the same interest in her. That has happened to me before and I wanted to punch the guy out and yell at him, "Whats wrong with me?? I'm right here in front of you!" LOL.. | |
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Posted: 1/10/2008 12:40:15 PM | | I have a friend who is trying to play cupid........Since Christmas she has introduced me to way too many guys. 5 minutes after she introduces us........she's like 'Well, what ya think'. It's almost like if I am not sucking face or giving him a lap dance by the end of the night she thinks I need to meet another. Quite nerve racking in my opinion. I am actually beginning to think I wanna become a troll and hide under the bridge for good. | |
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| Asking your female friends to set you up.......
Posted: 1/10/2008 8:41:38 PM | | I find this very uncomfy, when friends try to match me with guys, especially if unsolicited. But if that is what you want, try it. One drawback is that if things doesn't work out, if it gets ugly, you may lose the girl and the matchmaker friend, too. | |
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