| Are very religious guys unattractive?
Posted: 1/9/2008 10:57:38 PM | Do most girls on POF find very religious guys unattractive? What are your opinions or experiences with them?
I noticed throughout the forum that a lot of girls seem to have bad experiences with religious guys (or guys who hide behind religion; see the thread titled "Would you keep seeing this guy?" in the "Relationships" forum). I was wondering if I should remove the items related to my religion from my profile, considering only one girl has talked to me the entire time I've been on the site, LOL, and I was wondering if it's like an instant interest-killer or something. I'm hesitant to do it, though, because I wouldn't want a girl I meet in real life to be shocked/horrified at the sheer amount of time I spend on religious activities. It would seem like false advertising.
For those who don't want to look at the profile, I'll just sum it up here. I'm a Catholic who works part-time as a clerk and customer assistant at a Catholic bookstore, goes to Mass more than once a week (used to go every day), is an altar server and choir singer, and is a Knight of Columbus. I even learned Latin.
Also, in case anyone asks, I've tried Catholic dating sites, but no dice. I've actually been hoping to get together with a more normal, not-so-pious girl who doesn't even need to be religious at all. I've never had any success at attracting a so-called "good Catholic girl". They tend to not like me because I come off as too rebellious (as silly and implausible as that sounds), their fathers disapprove, my family isn't Catholic, or something else along those lines which smacks of impropriety and unsuitability. | |
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| Are very religious guys unattractive?
Posted: 1/9/2008 10:59:04 PM | I am attracted to a kind hearted person,who has a great sense of humor.
I don't care what religion a man partake's in,as long as he treats me with kindness and respect. | |
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| Are very religious guys unattractive?
Posted: 1/9/2008 11:01:06 PM | | Religious guys are probably attractive to religious girls. You should always just be yourself so that you have the best shot at someone who is interested in you as you are, and not as something they wish you would be. It will just take time to find that. | |
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| Are very religious guys unattractive?
Posted: 1/9/2008 11:01:49 PM | Well, remember that you're selling yourself in your profile.
So what you say about your religion, will affect what others think of you in that area.
If you just have it listed, most people wouldn't think twice.
If you go on about attending church every Sunday, and doing this, that and the other... than some might think you're "too religious" and avoid you.
It's up to you to decide how much emphasis you want to put on it... taking in mind that it will affect how others see you.
For more help, check out the profile review forum. | |
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| Are very religious guys unattractive?
Posted: 1/9/2008 11:12:04 PM | I can't do religion in the sense that doctrine and the family traditions enslave a man.
Who was it that said, "I like Jesus, it's his fan club that I can't stand?" | |
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| Are very religious guys unattractive?
Posted: 1/9/2008 11:38:02 PM | i wouldn't say religious guys are unattractive. it's hard to address this without generalizing, but i think some women steer away from religious guys because of the thought that the guy might judge her actions and she might not feel she can be herself.
in a way, that is how i feel. i don't see myself as a bad person, but for instance, i sometimes drop the F-bomb like crazy. i know when not to say it, i use it to emphasize or for effect, but it's a word that is considered naughty. i don't use the word against anyone as an insult, it's purely exclamatory or used as an adjective. i would feel like i had to stifle my personality in some way if i were dating a really religious guy. i don't want to offend people, but i don't want to have to change myself or feel self conscious about things i say or do.
that is just me though. otherwise, i don't mind religious guys as long as they aren't trying to convert my beliefs. i respect all religions and the diligence some people put forth. | |
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| Are very religious guys unattractive?
Posted: 1/10/2008 1:49:55 PM | Religious guys are probably attractive to religious girls... don't you think?
And similarly, non-religious girls probably do not go for particularly religous guys... for obvious compatablility issues! But there are always the exceptions.
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| Are very religious guys unattractive?
Posted: 1/10/2008 2:07:55 PM | >Religious guys are probably attractive to religious girls
that's probably the key.
I am NOT religious. When single I am NOT attracted to guys who have religion anywhere in their profiles. | |
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Posted: 1/10/2008 2:47:31 PM | | ive been wondering lately if i can feign being a very religious man. some of the sweet virginal stuff is what im talking about here. the type of woman that you can get only if you know jesus personally. harder to get into than a pearl jam concert! i think as long as im not asked any specific questions i will be able to b.s. my way through it. yes, soon i shall have my pretty virgin, barefoot in the kitchen waiting on me to bring home the "bacon". | |
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| Are very religious guys unattractive?
Posted: 1/10/2008 3:27:25 PM | I think in today's society many people see very religeous people as extreemists, and it scares them.
Personally I am an atheist, I believe in myself, and rely only on myself, although I try not to put down other peoples' beliefs.
Who is to say what is right? As long as people treat each other well and look after each other, who cares if they are Catholic, Buddah or Hindu?? | |
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Posted: 1/10/2008 3:48:56 PM | To me, religious people are unattractive. I have sent polite "thanks, but no thanks" messages to men listed as Catholic in their profile. (Catholicism is a popular religion in my area. Baptists, evangelicals, etc., would have gotten the same message had they messaged me.)
I don't think you should change your profile. By showing your Catholic, it allows women like me to know that you don't believe in birth control, equal opportunities for women, gay rights, fertility treatment, etc. If those issues are important to them, they know that you are not the right person for them. | |
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| Are very religious guys unattractive?
Posted: 1/10/2008 3:53:29 PM |
Pastafarianism for the win!
All hail the Flying Spaghetti Monster!
Pirates stop global warming!
RAmen!
OK, a man who has been touched by his noodly appendage is hot. I'll meet you over by the beer volcano.
RAmen | |
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Posted: 1/10/2008 4:03:01 PM | | never compromise on your personal desires or beliefs to attract more fish...the truth will come out in the end....just as I said to another guy, whenever you have strong feelings in any given area, and religion is a real hot button for a lot of people, you are narrowing the neck of the funnel through which fish must swim....get aggressive and specific with your searches and contact as many as possible with similar beliefs....a rifle is always better than a shotgun in such circumstances. | |
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| Are very religious guys unattractive?
Posted: 1/10/2008 6:09:16 PM | | Be who you are. Personally I wouldn't want to date someone ultra religious if they expected me to believe the same. It wouldn't work as I'm not religious. But, I myself respect people's beliefs and their right to believe them, as long as they hurt no one or push it on others. | |
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| Are very religious guys unattractive?
Posted: 1/10/2008 6:29:50 PM | i think your profile is friendly and open and talks about a lot of things, as well as religion...
however, what you've written about loving God more than everyone and anything and wanting the girl who contacts you to feel the same, or at least open to you feeling that way, could be off putting, even to a christian woman - she may not feel "good" enough or that you're an extremist in disguise 
be true to who you are, of course.. i do believe that actions can speak just as clearly (if not more so) about what's important in our lives.. so if you keep included all the other bits about working at the catholic bookstore, singing in the choir etc. then i don't think anyone would get the idea that christianity wasn't important to you... but you could let the amount of your love for God speak for itself... that way a girl would feel that she wasn't excluded from being the right sort to contact you..
just a suggestion
overall, as i said, your profile is fine, imo - clear and all encompassing in terms of hobbies/likes/etc.
good luck  | |
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| Are very religious guys unattractive?
Posted: 1/10/2008 6:41:07 PM | first things first:
you haven't even been on this site for a month. give it some time.
you're only 20. relax. you have plenty of time for relationships. you don't even know yourself yet. get comfortable in your own skin, enjoy yourSELF, then when the universe feels you can handle it, you'll meet someone.
you go to mass more than once a week ~ damn ~ you must have strong knees!
if you're that serious about it, you might consider attending a catholic college. (that's how my parents met) | |
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| Are very religious guys unattractive?
Posted: 1/10/2008 6:47:46 PM | They are to me, but that's my personal preference. If that's who you are, there's no point hiding it in your profile. Girls will find out soon enough once they get to know you anyway.
Good luck. | |
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| Are very religious guys unattractive?
Posted: 1/10/2008 6:59:05 PM |
you go to mass more than once a week ~ damn ~ you must have strong knees!
LOL, yeah, it works those muscles pretty good. The first time I ever went to a Mass, I was just about to fall over from knee-exhaustion.
if you're that serious about it, you might consider attending a catholic college. (that's how my parents met)
I actually tried that, and it failed miserably. I went to Ave Maria University in Naples, Florida for a semester. I loved the people there and especially the faculty, but as I said before, not a single girl took interest in me, because I either came off as a rebel to them, they were seeking a vocation to the celibate sisterhood, or they were holding out for "St. Joseph meets Achilles". That's why I'm looking for a girl who's normal. Don't care which one of Santa's lists they were on last year. | |
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Posted: 1/10/2008 7:14:56 PM | I don't have a lot of religious stuff in my profile, but it's only because I forgot to put it there.
I am a Christian and love it when serious Christian men contact me. Not many do, however, and it's disheartening.
I say keep that stuff in your profile because it is a huge part of who you are. I always tell future prospects that i am a Christian..if they don't like that they don't have to email me back and it's no big deal.
Unfortunately it is very hard to find a normal Christian to date. I've had very bad luck with it and so have most of my friends. Keep trying though. You'll find someone eventually ...God Bless :) | |
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| Are very religious guys unattractive?
Posted: 1/11/2008 3:53:54 AM | | I don't find someone unattractive because they are religious, but I probably wouldn't be attracted to someone who is religious because I'm not. I'm normally attracted to someone with common interests. | |
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| Are very religious guys unattractive?
Posted: 1/11/2008 4:14:12 AM | How is that remotely even possible?
This thread doesn’t make sense.
Next we'll be asking "Do you find Aliens hot?".
LOL... Some of the stuff in these forums sure cracks me up  | |
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