| Bad Attitudes and Sexual Frustration?.
Posted: 1/11/2008 11:11:54 AM | Negativity and a Bad attitude get ya no where real fast with me...I met a local guy on this forum. We obviously read one another's profile's, however he was so inclined to ask for my telephone number anyway. I broke my own rule and accepted his number instead and agreed to call him because in his word's "You can tell more about someone in a 10 minute phone conversation than you can through email"...ain't that the truth!!! I learned this...the guy is majorly sexually frustrated, has unresolved issues with women, and couldn't stop talking about his "needs"...he never bothered to ask anything substancial about me. I'm a playful person, those who know me will tell you that I'll "punk you" in a heart beat, all in good fun of course. I placed a testimonial on his profile page and he chuckled about it. The next day, I removed the testimonial and he emailed me asking "why" I removed it and he hinted that other women he'd been corresponding with had "noticed" the testimonial and he then asked this of me "if your not going to have sex with me, please don't mess it up for all the other women" LMAO...so in the spirit of "fun" I placed another testimonial on his page, nothing bad, just teasing...next thing I know I get a nasty email from him stating that he blocked me b/c of the testimonial's stating that I "obviously don't realize this is a serious matter" with him...oh my goodness....pull the corn cobb out and loosen up...sheesh, did I really cross some kind of "unspoken" line here or did I perhaps really mess it up for him and some other girlie?
Movin' on and smiling all the way!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
  
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| Bad Attitudes and Sexual Frustration?.
Posted: 1/11/2008 11:16:09 AM | | Well... I'm not sure what to say here. I mean... does his profile say he's looking for intimate relations? If not he's kind of a sleezeball I suppose, though he was pretty upfront about his agenda at the beginning right? It IS a serious issue with some guys. Not so much that you need to get angry about it I dont think but meh, some people think differently. As to you hun, I dont see how you did anything wrong at all. No worries. | |
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| Bad Attitudes and Sexual Frustration?.
Posted: 1/11/2008 11:30:42 AM | Barbie,
Unless we know what is said on the testimonial, we couldn't tell. However, I am one to think that testimonials as well as favorites are just a bunch of useless crap. | |
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| Bad Attitudes and Sexual Frustration?.
Posted: 1/11/2008 11:32:44 AM | | Well, if i reading your post right it sounds like you might have made him look bad to other women,....because remeber being "playful"...and doing something "in good fun"..is a subjective..ther's alot of guys that playfully slap each other on the butt, and they just met each other a few hours ago, if they do that to you within a few hours of meeting you, would it seem like "good natured fun" to you?....it would to the other guys that had it done to them, you wrote two testimonials one good and one bad (for him)...because the other women that read have know idea your playing around. | |
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| Bad Attitudes and Sexual Frustration?.
Posted: 1/11/2008 11:37:37 AM | sheerfantazy,
After finding out through the first phone call that the guy had a bad attitude, why didn't you just simply move on? Why the childish games?? Come on, y'all people are too old for this crap! Geesh! | |
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| Bad Attitudes and Sexual Frustration?.
Posted: 1/11/2008 11:55:43 AM | | I'm confused: In short order you determined this man to be self absorped and you thought veiled insult might not be met with one form of consternation or another? No matter how little we think of someone there's no purpose in superfluous ridicule when in the end no harm other than the waste of time has been done. All you're doing is wasting more time. | |
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| Bad Attitudes and Sexual Frustration?.
Posted: 1/11/2008 12:00:17 PM | | Your post sounds like a 12-year-old. Whether he is sexually frustrated or you read way too much into everything, putting up an unflattering testimonial was childish and petty regardless of what you think of the man. Removing your testimonial was appropriate if you believed you no longer knew the man as you thought you did; that should have been the end of it. | |
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| Bad Attitudes and Sexual Frustration?.
Posted: 1/11/2008 12:20:02 PM | You are entitled to your opinion; but not required to share it! In fact, I encourage you to think twice before ever sharing this opinion or any opinion you come to in 10 minutes or less.
No one has the right even if it's called 'punk you, teasing or playfulness' to harm another whatever your opinion is of him.
You owe him an apology! | |
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| Bad Attitudes and Sexual Frustration?.
Posted: 1/11/2008 12:23:34 PM | your playing games, this is apparent by the testimonial you wrote, took back and wrote again, you called it teasing. that to me is a game. if he wasn't for you, you should have just let it alone and him alone. now your his partner in crime and you deserve anything that comes your way from him.
he is someones treasure, let him find it by himself.
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| Bad Attitudes and Sexual Frustration?.
Posted: 1/11/2008 12:36:18 PM |
I'm a playful person, those who know me will tell you that I'll "punk you" in a heart beat, all in good fun of course.
And then there are those that would break in your house and stuff your pet in the freezer.
Careful who you punk, gurl | |
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| Bad Attitudes and Sexual Frustration?.
Posted: 1/11/2008 12:41:23 PM | Yes - movin' on and smiling all the way!!!!!!!!!!!!!!~ sheerfantazy
> That's what you should do. Move on and smile all the way. We don't need to hear about your personal relationship experiences. That's private - for you only. We have our own experiences, and be they good or bad, we deal with them as individuals, in our own way. We don't slag people off; we don't shoot them in the face because of how they telephoned us or for what they said; we simply deal with life as people, as sensible and adult people, without griping to the world.
> Yes, just keep movin' on and smiling, Barbie. That's good.
> Bad attitudes and negativity don't get anywhere with me, either.
> I agree with EmeraldCove. You own the man an apology, and you need to grow up, as Mr Vitamix pointed out. You're not God's gift to men, you know, sun tan or no sun tan. I for one wouldn't want your telephone number. Not in a million years.
> Keep movin' - all the way.
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| Bad Attitudes and Sexual Frustration?.
Posted: 1/11/2008 1:11:44 PM |
You weren't very nice OP.....immature Iam afraid.
Treat people with a bit of respect...
You can post your feelings like that in private emails, but not out where everyone can see.
Like the others said...grow up and move on....but apologise first
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| Bad Attitudes and Sexual Frustration?.
Posted: 1/11/2008 2:38:01 PM | | i think that most first phone conversations are awkward at best, and let's face it...we all deal with nervousness in different ways...kinda harsh to judge someone (especially where people can see) after one conversation, IMO anyway...you might have been able to steer the conversation into more "substantial" areas if you weren't using it to pass judgement OP | |
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| Bad Attitudes and Sexual Frustration?.
Posted: 1/11/2008 3:03:34 PM | Wow I sure drew all the negative posters right on in huh? What part of playful flirtation don't you folks get? I did not "harm" this individual in any shape or form, if anything perhaps I dimished his hope of hooking up with someone else he was actively corresponding with...it wouldn't be the first time! I've had women email me in the past because they read a testimonial I'd left on other profile's because they simply got "jealous" or "anxious" and asked me out right if I was involved with that person.
I guess men and women should think twice before tossing out a freakin' cast net instead of "fishing". | |
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| Bad Attitudes and Sexual Frustration?.
Posted: 1/11/2008 3:18:24 PM | | OP I don't get it. You start a thread about an experience you had on here and cast the guy in a negative way and act as if your actions were harmless and justified. Then when people call you on it, as they should, you act as if they are wrong and you could care less what they think. What's up with that? Did it ever cross your mind after reading all the posts that you might have been wrong in this instance. | |
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| Bad Attitudes and Sexual Frustration?.
Posted: 1/11/2008 3:32:20 PM | I never understand the need to air personal information as if it matters a hoot to anyone else than the two people involved. It reads like complaining about another person.
This was to be what kind of thread...that you're easy going? That he's a nutcase? Questions about what others think of testimonials? I don't understand. | |
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| Bad Attitudes and Sexual Frustration?.
Posted: 1/11/2008 3:40:35 PM | You drew the negative posters because what you did was wrong.
Other than not being the man you hoped he would be, he did nothing wrong but be himself, which you did not like.
You removed your testimonial, that is fine as you no longer believed it to be the truth.
No matter how "harmless" your new testimonial was it obviously implied that the man lacked character and was done for nothing other than malice, you do not even have the excuse that you were trying to "warn" other women about him.
I am very sorry that we will not support your need to play silly little mind games. It is people like you, whether male or female, that make it more difficult for grown-ups that are actually seeking meaningful relationships instead of schoolyard infatuation. | |
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