| Dead F*ck? Excuse my french.
Posted: 1/13/2008 6:48:33 PM | I did a search and nothing...so here it goes.
I remember as a young adult, I would hear friends say:
He/she was a "Dead F*ck"
My thinking was...young, inexperience and or maybe first timer.
But as I gain knowledge throughout the years...I have to ask:
Can an enjoyable sexual encounter come out of a Dead f*ck?
I don't mean Necrophilia...more like motionless.
I suffer from Fibromyalgia and there are times where it is very painful to move in some of those gymnastic positions...so could one enjoy sex without all the Olympics?
No Special Olympic jokes... | |
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| Dead F*ck? Excuse my french.
Posted: 1/13/2008 6:54:42 PM | a romp is a romp! Using all the positions and enjoying the pleasure of sexual gratification.
But there is far more to sexuality than postions/movement. Laying side by side, using just the fingertips to caress with, softness, gentleness, and whispers of an intimate nature. Lingering kisses also. It doesn't take a lot of movement to enjoy each other, whether sex is involved or not. | |
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| Dead F*ck? Excuse my french.
Posted: 1/13/2008 6:56:46 PM | Can an enjoyable sexual encounter come out of a Dead f*ck?
If she's bendable and willing to do what I want then I guess she could be considered useful. However it won't be as good as if she actually participates. Besides, if she wants me to at least try to please her she'll have to take part. | |
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| Dead F*ck? Excuse my french.
Posted: 1/13/2008 6:57:17 PM | I think any man who expects a woman to do half the Kama Sutra is watching way too much porn. Sex should be about giving each other pleasure, not acrobatic achievement. It should be pleasurable, and it should be comfortable.
I don't think a "dead f*ck" would be just a woman who's only comfortable in certain positions. How you respond, verbally and physically, is as much or more than any position. Make it clear how much you're enjoying it and no man will have cause to complain.
That being said, there might be some who have issues, or want certain things. That's too bad for them and their loss. You're a very attractive woman and you should have no shortage of options. | |
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Posted: 1/13/2008 6:57:46 PM | I've been with one person I would describe like that. It was like she wasn't even in the room while we were doing it. Just laid there and didn't really move or make noises or anything. We dated for a few months and then went our separate ways, but stayed friends.
She later told me it was the best sex she'd had, ever (??!?!?!)
We ended up dating again a few years later, but we talked about the sex stuff before going back to bed, I encouraged her to loosen up a bit and things were a lot better.
You don't need to be able to put your ankles behind your ears for the sex to be good, but you should at least try to appear to be enjoying it :) | |
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Posted: 1/13/2008 7:00:22 PM | | I would imagine what you are talking about is the same as my fat a55 trying to get in some of those positions, sorry but I cant do it either, and its not just size part of it is a broken pelvis that I have, and will always have.....however I would never classify myself as a dead ****. | |
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| Dead F*ck? Excuse my french.
Posted: 1/13/2008 7:01:47 PM | You don't need to be able to put your ankles behind your ears for the sex to be good, but you should at least try to appear to be enjoying it :)
I said motionless not emotionless... | |
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Posted: 1/13/2008 7:04:20 PM | I learned a long time ago, when it comes to even more potentially bad sex.......
Don't turn em down.....turn em over!!!!!
Be good, Jim  | |
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Posted: 1/13/2008 7:08:47 PM | I think a dead fu*k is more like when a man or woman lays there stiff and frigid as if sex is an ordeal rather than pleasure. Like that one episode of two and a half men when one brother steals the g/f from the other ans she just lies there stiff with teeth clenched before sex as if she expects misery. lol
If you have a medical condition then I think it is unfair to call it a dead fu*k. You can still have good sex if the love , care and compasion you share is there. It only becomes dead when one or the other does not want to be with you anymore. If someone puts you down for your sickness and lack of ability to move around due to your condition then he/she is not worth your attentions to begin with. | |
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Posted: 1/13/2008 7:10:23 PM | Emotionless is a deal breaker, motionless is a problem, but then many women w/o medical issues are as well, so not that rare. Not the end of the world, but an issue, IMO. There are some ways to address it, but not proper for a public forum!
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Posted: 1/13/2008 7:11:59 PM | Have you never heard the phrase...pull my nightie down when you're done...I think that qualifies a dead fvck...I wouldn't know though...I've never said it... ...and to answer the question at hand...no...I don't think an enjoyable sexual encounter can come out of a dead fvck...JMO... | |
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Posted: 1/13/2008 7:20:21 PM | MSG 8^^^^^Oh my goodness ~ you have returned. Still love the screenname. 
~OP~ I too have fibro. I really have no advice other than yoga. My MD was simply mystified when after 6 months of the lower-impact yoga, I moved to a much more advanced version (almost an aerobic yoga where I spend most of my time on the top of my head in some strange stretching situation or backbend or some other odd thing such as feet behind my head, etc., which I could not do a year ago.) It took a long time to work up to that situation, but I was so tired of hurting that I new I HAD to strengthen the muscles in order to regain some relief in the joints. There is also an older book/program which you may or may not have heard of, Callenetics. It has the deep muscle stretches, yet you aren't required to even hardly move through some of them. Once you learn to isolate the muscle being worked, you can be exercising and no one would even notice. I did that first. I was so bad for a while that I actually lost an inch and a half in height ~ once I started the yoga and progressed to this point, I'm now back to my usual height. So, I'm certain that when we hurt so badly, we become less active, etc., and atrophy. I've found, for me ~ if I miss yoga even one day, I pay for it. Not to mention ~ there are positions in yoga that might be comfortable for you in an intimate sense. If you'd like to email me, I have some great links and tv infor for a program called "Inhale" which is the yoga that I now do. I don't leave home ~ I do it all right here, just me and the exercise ball ~ but I so empathize with what you are saying. I'm a celibate girl, hopefully if I ever am rid of that title, this stuff will be helpful in that department for me as well. Have you mentioned the new medication to your MD yet? I hear it's a life-saver and non-narcotic. I'm med-free now ~ but I once lived on vicodin/oxycotin. Those HAD to go. Good luck to ya', it's a rough road ~ . | |
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| Dead F*ck? Excuse my french.
Posted: 1/13/2008 7:22:38 PM | I think there maybe a little confusion here.
A dead phuck is very different than a medical condition that limts you at times.
You can choose to be a dead phuck, but you can't choose your medical conditions.
But I will grant you this, they both suk. My sincerest sympathies to you, it must be very frustrating. | |
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Posted: 1/13/2008 7:34:02 PM | Actually after doing some research on it I find that Fibromyalgia is a lot more then just joint pain. It is also accompanied with several other things that would make a proper relationship very difficult. It is one thing to grow old and help your love one through hard time but to get involved with somebody that is already sick that is something else. Sorry but your disorder hides more then just having sex with an a dead f00k Olympian.
I would be very appreciative you telling me at the beginning of the relationship so I would be able to make a decision before getting to involved.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Fibromyalgia | |
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Posted: 1/13/2008 8:00:01 PM | I would be very appreciative you telling me at the beginning of the relationship so I would be able to make a decision before getting to involved.
I am very up front about it... It doesn't make me any-less a person.
proper relationship
What exactly is a proper relationship?
As A friend put it:
"I don't think it would affect things sexually, I (for example *blush*) would just have to be that much more careful to not cause you discomfort or pain, as i drive you crazy. I've always been more of a giver, and enjoy doing so. *hugs*"
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Posted: 1/13/2008 8:10:47 PM | If my partner were unable to move during sex unless she wanted to feel severe pain, I would be worried that I might make it worse.
If I found out that I wouldn't be able to hurt her as long as I didn't do anything intentionally painful, I'd try very hard to make it as good as possible for her.
What I really care about is the intimacy after the orgasm, not the buildup to it, or even the orgasm itself.
The only other thing that I care about is making her feel like she hit the jackpot.
~ David | |
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Posted: 1/13/2008 8:13:36 PM | I thought the term referred to women who mentally checked out during sex.
“ Honey, could you turn the TV up, Letterman is on “
or “While your down there, do i need to shave before work tomorrow ?”
..so could one enjoy sex without all the Olympics?
YES. The issue is whether one can enjoy sex with someone who
isn't enjoying sex, not if she can put her legs behind her head while
hanging on a swing, juggling vid cams while checking out a copy
of the Kama Sutra for spelling errors. | |
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Posted: 1/13/2008 8:49:25 PM | If there health issues...then,of course,that's a not a problem.
If there's not any interest...that's a problem.
Like most things...communication is the key.
Ask your partner is she is comfortable and what you can do to make it more enjoyable for her.
Talk w/ her and LISTEN to her.
And try to work on it.
All of that,though,is if the relationship is serious.
If it's not serious or is not going anywhere....enjoy iif if you can...while you can.
And then move on.... | |
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Posted: 1/13/2008 9:02:29 PM | | yeah I had somebody like that... We had sex and she just lay still in the missionary position (that was the only position she would do it in!) and she didnt move, moan or anything... it was like havin sex with a corpse.... she didnt have any pain problems or anything.... over all it sucked... I couldve did a better job with my hand and some lotion, lol | |
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| Dead F*ck? Excuse my french.
Posted: 1/13/2008 9:06:50 PM |
I don't mean Necrophilia...more like motionless.
i would think that all depends on how tight one has the restraints
but i could be wrong | |
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Posted: 1/13/2008 9:13:34 PM | Cynderella please don’t take me the wrong way I do believe you are a very good person and a great lady but if you read what your condition involves
“Fibromyalgia patients are also typically affected by a number of symptoms other than pain, including debilitating fatigue, abnormal sleep architecture,[2] functional bowel disturbances[3] and a variety of neuropsychiatric problems including cognitive dysfunction,[4] anxiety and depressive symptoms[5]. While the criteria for such an entity has not yet been thoroughly developed, the recognition that fibromyalgia involves more than just pain has led to the frequent use of the term “fibromyalgia syndrome.” It is not contagious”
That makes it for a very difficult relationship. Having “dead f*ck” sex like you say is really just a very minor issue when dealing with somebody that may have a “variety of neuropsychiatric problems including cognitive dysfunction” all in all sex is really not the problem.
But if you can find a man that is willing to accept that then I will be happy for the 2 of you.
I admire you for being up front and honest about your condition. More people should take your example bravo and good luck. | |
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Posted: 1/13/2008 9:20:56 PM | ^^^ Awww I don't take you the wrong way...
I admire you for being up front and honest about your condition
I never tell them I am NUTS...I tell them it's just BAD BEHAVIOUR
VVV Package: This condition is more like good days and bad days...and yes times where even touch hurts.
I am more thinking that on bad days instead of saying no...why couldn't one enjoy to lay there and have their partner be the giver...on good days the gift can be returned...
I just wonder if one can enjoy...as one poster put in a way of being tied up. | |
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Posted: 1/13/2008 9:30:20 PM | If you want information on this, you need to explain your condition better. I know that sometimes with fibro it can hurt to touch or is it just the moving? I would also assume that you would want to enjoy it but if you are experiencing pain, I would think that would not really be great on your end whether you are moving or not.
Also, is it movement at all that hurts or is uncomfortable or movement that is fast or jerky? I would think on top you would have more control of just how much you move.
French Guy, one of the women at my church is still a very pretty woman in her 40s with two grown children and a husband that appears to be very happy. The only thing that even hinted that she had a problem was her son asking after her while I was volunteering with the marathon they hold here every year. She works for the non-profit that hosts it and the weeks leading up to it are grueling for the paid staff. Her son was worried that she was overdoing it but she is one of those petite women that looks like she could single-handedly run, well pretty much anything that needed management while simultaneously doing a dozen other things. | |
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Posted: 1/13/2008 9:35:49 PM | As French Guy stated, there is soooo much more to fibro than just physical pain. Have you heard of the new drug lyrica which has just come out to help with the pain? I tried several supplements (the one that seemed to work is called devil's claw ) and I am not kidding. But I always wondered was it really working or did the flare up just pass. Are you also experiencing the cognitive dysfunction and other probs? I have no idea why sex can't be wonderful -there are many, many ways to be very intimate with each other without acrobatics. I am only hoping your partner is understanding. I have fibro as a secondary problem to chronic fatigue immune dysfunciton and consider myself lucky to not have the daily pain anymore. But I have heard that many more docs are now up to speed on this illness and I have found that walking everyday has helped me significantly, I hope you are being persistent in looking for treatment. I am more likely to just doze off because I am soooo exhausted all the time, so guess I would really be considered a dead f..k Good luck to you and don't try the acrobatics, there are other ways to please and be pleased. There's a chronic fatigue and fibro website with lots of helpful info, hope you get better. | |
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Posted: 1/13/2008 9:36:52 PM | I think a man would understand,especially if you explained you had a medical condition.
I haven't heard the expression "dead fuck " in years.
And quite honestly,I think it's something only a teenager would say.
Men are just grateful to be getting laid.lol | |
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