| Any tips for a shy guy?
Posted: 1/14/2008 12:47:03 PM | | I'm obviously having problems meeting women on here. Because I've found myself attracted to a few women who have similar interests that I have and I've even sent them messages wondering if they'd like to chat sometime. Unfortunately I haven't heard back from any of them. I just figure it's me, considering that when I'm writing/typing a message, I find it hard to express what I want to say to them. Could I possibly get some tips? | |
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| Any tips for a shy guy?
Posted: 1/14/2008 12:55:38 PM | According to your profile, you are a heavy smoker and you have a weight problem.
Could I possibly get some tips?
My advice to you is to lose fat and stop being a heavy smoker.
The contents of your messages, in my opinion, are not the problem here.
This was redundant. | |
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| Any tips for a shy guy?
Posted: 1/14/2008 1:49:39 PM | Steve... not all problems are directly related to smoking and weight.
OP, without knowing what you said it's hard to say if you're doing something wrong in the messages. For me it's hard to explain why one message works and one doesn't. | |
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| Any tips for a shy guy?
Posted: 1/14/2008 2:03:20 PM | First of all,you could expand on your profile.
What are you looking for?
Friendship,dating,intimate encounter?
Also,don't put yourself down.
It's not uncommon to send someone a message,and not have them send back a reply.
Good luck! | |
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| Any tips for a shy guy?
Posted: 1/14/2008 2:19:58 PM | | no_1_bb's answer was well grounded and optimistic... but i have to agree with Steve's post on this one. I'm willing to bet it's not about shyness or the contents of your email per se... but a combination of that and how you present yourself in your profile. Sorry. That doesn't mean there's no hope. Just spend some time thinking about things realistically, set some goals for yourself and feeling good about what you're doing and who you are. When you adapt that kind of attitude, it will not only reflect on your profile and messages... but radiate from you. Negative energy is seldom attractive. | |
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| Any tips for a shy guy?
Posted: 1/14/2008 2:20:00 PM | Well, after having looked at your profile, here are my suggestions:
1. A few more, higher quality pictures wouldn't hurt. Your default picture is head-on, and you're not smiling, so it's kind of reminiscent of a mug shot. Speaking as a photographer, one of the cardinal sins of photography is head-on shots. Try and get some pictures taken at a little bit of an angle, and make sure to smile! It's much more flattering to your face, and it shows people that you've got an upbeat personality and a sense of humor. If/when you decide to take new pictures of yourself, dress as you would for a job interview -- a shirt and tie is always impressive (although certainly not necessary), or a nice shirt, trimmed mustache and beard.
2. You mention cartoons a lot. I'm sure that's not all there is to you, but a girl doesn't want to think that a guy just sits around and watches TV all day. Try to emphasize the other active things that you do -- sports that you like or outdoor activities like camping, fishing, hiking, etc. It's a little more difficult for most girls to strike up a conversation about what happened last week on The Simpsons or South Park than, say, a good book that just hit the shelves, or what's been making national news recently.
Aside from that, as the previous poster mentioned, it's hard to say what you're doing wrong without seeing the content of your messages. I think pretty much all of us have emailed someone we were interested in and not gotten a response. It's tough to be patient, but the more lines you cast out, the more likely you are to get a bite. Figuratively speaking. | |
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| Any tips for a shy guy?
Posted: 1/14/2008 3:11:00 PM | | While respecting the positive advice given, i would choose an overweight nice guy over one without empathy who flings his opions in, not caring about the effect it has... | |
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| Any tips for a shy guy?
Posted: 1/14/2008 3:21:29 PM | | While respecting the positive advice given, i would choose an overweight nice guy over one without empathy who flings his opions in, not caring about the effect it has... | |
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| Any tips for a shy guy?
Posted: 1/14/2008 3:22:16 PM | | While respecting the positive advice given, i would choose an overweight nice guy over one without empathy who flings his opions in, not caring about the effect it has... | |
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| Any tips for a shy guy?
Posted: 1/14/2008 5:18:36 PM | Hey steve,
can see why you chose the big mouth bass as your fish ! 
mizfriendly,i'm agreeing with you on this !
Hi op !
You badly need some new pics ! Ask a friend to take a few more of you,pref outside where the light can be better,take a load and pick 5 0r 6 and try to include some nice smily ones
Also,why not try thinking of a more imaginative first date,something totally different and fun.
Good luck to you ! | |
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| Any tips for a shy guy?
Posted: 1/16/2008 9:16:22 PM | You know I've actually been meaning to post new pics, which I just did. I trim my beard that shouldn't be a problem now should it? and yes ok I get it I'm fat. not too fat though it's just my gut that has the fat. and yes I've been meaning to hit the gym lately. I just don't have the money for a monthly membership, and yea I know they must have a day membership or weekly, but what if I didn't have the money for it? exactly. lol
I don't really know what a good first date would be, that's why I just said what I said in it before I deleted it all and have left it blank for now. | |
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| Any tips for a shy guy?
Posted: 1/17/2008 3:50:05 PM | Hi J,
Your profile reads much better now,you've now just got to think of that first date idea to reel them in, Keep it casual, fun and try to avoid the 'drink and a meal' as most people put that. .
Your new pic is great but how do you turn it up the right way?no point asking me as useless with the pc.I would actually get rid of all your other pics and just leave that one up, (only my opinion )
Hopefully ,not everyone will be as shallow as some of the people on here so don't go putting yourself down with the weight business. You will find someone who likes you for the person you are and not what size your waist is. Have confidence in yourself! If you really want to lose the weight you don't need to spend a fortune at the gym.I've lost 2 stone in the last 3 and a half months,still have more to lose but will get there! just walk more, cut out the crap food and eat more fruit,veg,pasta. If you start liking yourself, other people will too! Go make 2008 your best year ever !!
good luck and I hope you find your someone special
hope this helps xxx
p.s when is steve gonna be brave enough to post a pic????? | |
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| Any tips for a shy guy?
Posted: 1/17/2008 4:32:03 PM | Oh no I do like myself for who I am, and how I kinda look. and ya drink and a meal really isn't the perfect first date in mind, but then again I basically said at first just to get to know eachother first and take it from there.
And this original post was actually to get tips on how to talk to women on here. not about my profile. I don't know how it ended up in here but it did. oh well. | |
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| Any tips for a shy guy?
Posted: 1/17/2008 4:33:58 PM | glad to hear it,thought you were letting the shallow gits get to you for a minute
hope all works out ok for you
x | |
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| Any tips for a shy guy?
Posted: 1/17/2008 6:17:49 PM | | Well, I think you look adorable. Not all of us are in perfect shape, most aren't in fact. And, I smoke too, but everyone has bad habits. I think you should put more about your interests in your profile and what you're looking for in another person. It's pretty good as it is and you have beautiful eyes and a great smile, in that one pic anyway. LOL! My advice is email everyone you're interested in. What's the worst that can happen? They say no thanks or don't email back. But, you're not face to face or suffering public rejection. It takes time to meet people. But, I admire the honesty in your profile about your weight. Someone else will admire that too and be interested. But, look around you locally, you never know when there might be someone there too. | |
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| Any tips for a shy guy?
Posted: 1/18/2008 1:59:01 AM |
p.s when is steve gonna be brave enough to post a pic?????
I am not the one posting pity / whining / attention seeking posts in these foruma about how no women will give me the time of day.
The forum rules do not state I need a pic to post here.
My advice was valid. It does not violate any rule.
Attacking me comes very close to the line.
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| Any tips for a shy guy?
Posted: 1/18/2008 2:54:25 AM | you need to take better pics,,, just get an attitude of NEXT........ you will find her....
are you funny???? I love drew carry,, he is funny and cute,,
cheryl | |
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| Any tips for a shy guy?
Posted: 1/18/2008 9:17:41 AM | | sorry steve,i forgot you are allowed to dish it out but no one is allowed to post a reply! | |
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| Any tips for a shy guy?
Posted: 1/18/2008 1:15:05 PM | | I know I need more better pics, I think there's some on my friend's camera, I'll just have to get them the next time they're over. | |
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| Any tips for a shy guy?
Posted: 1/18/2008 3:14:04 PM | | dont worry about the gym man, find somebody that likes you the way you are. i'm not that easy on the eyes myself, but i like who i am. thats why its call "fishing", sometimes you catch one sometimes you wont or something like that. later | |
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| Any tips for a shy guy?
Posted: 1/19/2008 2:41:13 PM | | I'm not worried about the gym, I just want to lose some weight that's all. | |
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| Any tips for a shy guy?
Posted: 1/19/2008 5:48:28 PM |
I'm obviously having problems meeting women on here. Because I've found myself attracted to a few women who have similar interests that I have and I've even sent them messages wondering if they'd like to chat sometime. Unfortunately I haven't heard back from any of them. I just figure it's me, considering that when I'm writing/typing a message, I find it hard to express what I want to say to them. Could I possibly get some tips?
Steve,
The contents of the original post, as quoted above, hardly would fall under pity/whining/attention seeking post. He had a legitimate concern that it was very possibly his profile and/or the contents of his messages.
To the OP,
I would say that it takes more than a few attempts to be successful, especially on these online dating sites. It really comes down to the fact that there are thousands of other people on these sites all attempting to woo the same people you are trying to woo. It really could just be that you were not their type.
My suggestions for initial contact would be to pick a couple of things out of their profile that you both have in common and expand on them. Also, flattery will help you when it comes to getting a response from a female!
The best of luck to you man. Just keep trying and eventually something will happen for you. | |
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| Any tips for a shy guy?
Posted: 1/19/2008 7:28:36 PM | | Okay, I fixed up my profile with the help from a friend. How does it compare now to my last one? | |
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