| Is it wrong for husbands to sexually neglect their wife...but still expect commitment and faith??
Posted: 1/14/2008 1:45:19 PM |   hi everybody at plenty of fish...would hear an opinion on this subject....men who sexually neglect their wives but still expect her commitment and faith.....is it wrong to deny somebody a sex life but at the same time expect them to commit to you...this happened to me! and your forever hearing about women who cold shoulder a man in the marital bed...its was the other way around in my case! and this went on for yrs...not just a dry spell!  thumbs up or down to men like this??? | |
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| Is it wrong for husbands to sexually neglect their wife...but still expect commitment and faith??
Posted: 1/14/2008 1:50:23 PM | It's wrong to neglect someone sexually,at least in some cases.
I can understand if a man can't perform due to medical issues,or he is in some kind of mid-life crisis.
But if my husband could not give me a concrete reason as to why he didn't want to have sex,I would have serious doubts....
Is he cheating on me,does he not find me desirable anymore?
If it was a case of my husband not being attracted to me,then I wouldn't want to be with him.
Hopefully,you are getting plenty of sex now.lol | |
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eazk
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Joined: 9/8/2006
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| Is it wrong for husbands to sexually neglect their wife...but still expect commitment and faith??
Posted: 1/14/2008 1:53:10 PM | | you obviously have no real experience of a faithful committed marriage and monogamy crash1967...its not wrong for somebody to steal you of a sex life after their promise to attend to you every need in marriage vows for christ sakes but when they fail their end of the bargain they still expect you to remain faithful....what planet did yu drop off...go back to sleep! lol | |
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| Is it wrong for husbands to sexually neglect their wife...but still expect commitment and faith??
Posted: 1/14/2008 1:54:51 PM | | It's more about control than it is about sex. My ex was the same way. I worked at it for 17 years.... I've been divorced for 2 years now. I am disappointed that I don't have a special man in my life right now, dating hasn't been all I thought it would be, all those years of dreaming about being single and the possibility of hope... hope that I would eventually meet a man that was crazy about me. I don't regret getting divorced. I still have the "hope'...... It's better than being in a loveless, sexless marriage, with no hope of ever finding the one man that can and will satisfy me sexually as well as emotionally,........ | |
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| Is it wrong for husbands to sexually neglect their wife...but still expect to be nagged? :)??
Posted: 1/14/2008 1:57:50 PM | WELL! YOU MARRIED HIM! :)
For better or for worse cupcake. Remember those vows? Not happy? Get counseling OR leave. OR play sucky fvcky behind his back like many do (both genders) and be happy in your lie.
I hope this has helped.
I thank you.
ps. Is it possible his emotional needs were not being met thus the lack of desire. I hear this from women. Could the same not apply here? One would think so or is this an exclusive excuse for the female of the species only? | |
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| Is it wrong for husbands to sexually neglect their wife...but still expect commitment and faith??
Posted: 1/14/2008 2:02:13 PM | | I agree with someone earlier that unless it is a medical issue or a very legit reason then I would have questions why he is slacking. I must say you are one of the most attractive women I have seen on POF so I can not figure why he wouldn't be all over you but anyway I would never say to start cheating on the side but if he can not explain then I would question your realtionship. | |
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| Is it wrong for husbands to sexually neglect their wife...but still expect commitment and faith??
Posted: 1/14/2008 2:05:00 PM | | Hello commonsens...yes like the other lady in these thread...i worked at it at to communicate on an adult level with my husband ...i even tried all different approaches for try and solve his sexless ways....for example sexy lingerie, intitiating the moves..he,d go along when initiating the moves but erection wasnt has good as when he,d initiate sex!...like another lady said in this thread..i think it was all about control with him.... a true control freak...on his terms only...and never delivered to my sexual demands...only his..... i always delivered for him! even when tired ..sometimes ever when id feel poorly! and yes i tried talking to him lots and lot...but he wasnt the greatest at communicating...was just label me a nagging women...but at the same time he,d leave the same issues drag on un-resolved!!...he bred my nagging..and was too blind to see it i suppose...or ignorant! and yes i also confronted him did he fancy me! ..his answer was always yes! and i also confronted him was he playing away...his answers was an obvious NO! ...my conclusion is i was his object for his pleasure only! nothing more! | |
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nogo3
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Joined: 2/26/2007
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| Is it wrong for husbands to sexually neglect their wife...but still expect to be nagged??
Posted: 1/14/2008 2:12:51 PM | Sooooooooooooooooooooo. Why did you marry him then? Were you both virgins? You never tested the libido compatibility gods prior to marriage???
Colour me a tad confused here. I also see it is all him only?
Heaven forbid you play any part in this unhappy marriage princess. :) You (I'm sure) Were always the proverbial female of wonderous wonderment.
Did ya fvck around on the plick angel?
I thank you. | |
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| Is it wrong for husbands to sexually neglect their wife...but still expect to be nagged?? :)??
Posted: 1/14/2008 2:19:29 PM | Phil! Buddy! If you look at my first post you will see I don't play favourites.
I'm just a tad confused about a couple of things here. Is it not possible the princess had a hand in this situation? Not by her response. None whatsoever?
If you believe that one Phil..................Well. You know how the rest of that one goes.
So why did you marry mr Horrible princess? Jumpin jehosephat. You married him because of his sex drive????
Oh. Well. That explains everything then. What a jerk he is. :) | |
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| Is it wrong for husbands to sexually neglect their wife...but still expect commitment and faith??
Posted: 1/14/2008 2:21:11 PM | If we spent half has much energy in getting to know someone for who they are as characters, rather than worrying about sex, I think there'd be a lot more close, committed and endearing relationships in this world. Attractiveness fades and eventually in life you will not be having sex with your partner anyway. Finding the small joys of each other's character, your laughter together...can be just as exhilarating as sex...
I've often wondered how much sex plays the role of ego booster, rather than a satisfying act.
Do people get upset when the sex is not around because they assume they're not attractive to their partner? Or because they're missing out on 20 minutes of a good time? If it's the former and not the latter...you're engaged in acts of boosting your partners low self-esteem, not actually enjoying the beauty of sex. And this, this...I think is definitely wrong.
Feeling attractive (wanted, desired) can be done in others ways--sticking your****in someone is just one of them.
Of course, if sex is really that important...exhausting counseling opportunities and therapy would prove wise. If the sex is still not there, and it's still an important factor for either party, then move on and fun someone who just wants to do it.
I can promise you, though...relationships based on sex (or where there is a lot of it) more often than not lack intimacy. As such, people will often crave that other part of a relationship (the love part, committment, etc.). It's a catch 22.
Regardless and by post's end. Remember, no matter who you are with, the frequency of sex will diminish the longer a couple is together.
It's finding the joys outside of sex, that make relationships worth while to me now.
Just my two sense.
James | |
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