| Would you date a woman who doesn't want kids?
Posted: 1/14/2008 2:27:32 PM | | Heres something I've been wondering. Hypothetically.. If you meet this chick and you get along great. You've been on dates and consider a possible relationship with this woman. Then you finally talk about values each of you have. Lets say it turns out the chick had a surgery to prevent herself from becoming a mother and wants no part of children at all in life. Would it effect how you feel about her? Would you leave her and find someone to have a family with? Or accept that you won't have children with her ever and stay anyway? | |
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| Would you date a woman who doesn't want kids?
Posted: 1/14/2008 2:30:21 PM | I would think with each person it would be different. If you met this person on this site though, there is a section in everyone's profile whether they want children or not, and that would be a pretty good indicator of someone's values to me.
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| Would you date a woman who doesn't want kids?
Posted: 1/14/2008 2:30:57 PM | | I am probably the wrong one to ask because I am 42 but if I was younger it might be a problem if I wanted a family. I still havent ruled it out but now its just an option. | |
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| Would you date a woman who doesn't want kids?
Posted: 1/14/2008 2:53:02 PM | | yes date and yes propose to her on the first date. I could readily live without kids, ( see the posts on child support and other excessive abuses for fathers ) | |
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| Would you date a woman who doesn't want kids?
Posted: 1/14/2008 3:00:05 PM | | It would matter to me. I'd walk. I'm hoping for children and to one day have a family. I think we'd get along in the beginning. But as we got serious, it would be more and more of an issue. Why bother to start a journey together, if you know from the start, you're on two different paths. | |
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| Would you date a woman who doesn't want kids?
Posted: 1/14/2008 3:04:59 PM | | Yes i would and yes i have. Because i do not want children myself. However, i am not going to limit myself either. I have dated women with children and women who wanted children. I just figure that i might miss out on THE ONE if i box myself in. | |
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| Would you date a woman who doesn't want kids?
Posted: 1/14/2008 3:05:42 PM | I don't want kids. Under no circumstances. Rather-dead-than-ending-up-with-kids 200% sure that being a mother is not for me. And I've always been very upfront about that. And guess what: I am getting dates, I've been in several committed long-term relationships and not once have been dumped for not wanting kids. So I guess the answer to your question is: There are men out there that don't want kids either or that don't care as long as they are happy with their significant other and that will happily date women that don't want to have kids.
So if you don't want kids: Just be open about that from the very beginning and don't mislead your potential dates and it shouldn't be a problem. | |
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| Would you date a woman who doesn't want kids?
Posted: 1/14/2008 3:06:22 PM | Sure!
I'd MARRY a Lady that didn't want kids . . [All other elements remaining the same]
I've had all the kids I need . .
I want to concentrate on the Love and Affection that I Didn't get in my 1st...
and was Cheated-out-of my 2nd marriage . . !!
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| Would you date a woman who doesn't want kids?
Posted: 1/14/2008 3:21:54 PM | | If the woman does not want children, or be apart of them.. ever. I would calmly walk away and never contact her again. I have 2 children and They are my life. I choose my kids over some 2 bit woman. There is no such thing as a golden p***y, it is pink on both sides. | |
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| Would you date a woman who doesn't want kids?
Posted: 1/14/2008 4:00:33 PM | I think it has to do with preferences.
If a guy wants kids and does not have any, then it won't work out.
If a guy doesn't want kids or kids are not that important to him then it is not a factor and you move on.
Just my 2 cents. | |
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| Would you date a woman who doesn't want kids?
Posted: 1/14/2008 4:29:01 PM | I'd probably find out if someone wanted kids or not very early.
To answer, I wouldn't mind if she didn't. I'd only have more if someone didn't have any and wanted ONE! | |
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| Would you date a woman who doesn't want kids?
Posted: 1/14/2008 6:31:21 PM | | my answer is yes. i would date a woman who does not want kids. i chose to get operated on so i couldnt have children. its in my profile cause i dont want that to be an issue with anyone, who still might want to have children. since i cant have any. ive never thought of myself as a father type anyways. i dont mind if a woman has children. i just think im more driven and wouldnt be able to give to them the attention they would deserve. that and its very hard for me to relate to small children. for whatever reason i just do not have the patience for small children. i can handle older ones better. i can talk more on there level, and understand them better. | |
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| Would you date a woman who doesn't want kids?
Posted: 1/14/2008 6:45:43 PM | | i think the answer depends on what age group u talkin about , for me im not really intrested in havin kids as of right now ,,, maybe a few years down the road , and if im still with her by then , i think we would have a good relationship , that we might consider adopting . or not | |
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| Would you date a woman who doesn't want kids?
Posted: 1/14/2008 10:03:42 PM | Heck yeah I would date a woman that does not want kids. When I date... sometimes I think I don't want kids, then I date another person and I do want kids. It depends on the person. Sometimes guys can't even have kids, so a woman that doesn't want them would be perfect! Then there are guys like my friend who feel they would be disasterous as a father, so they don't ever want kids themselves. He doesn't want them, because his childhood and upbringing were terrible and terrifying.
Other guys might think a woman that doesn't want kids, we can travel the world together and never have a worry! | |
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| Would you date a woman who doesn't want kids?
Posted: 1/15/2008 4:29:26 AM | If I were the hypothetical man with this hypothetical woman, the first thing I'd ask is why did she have this hypothetical procedure? Without knowing why, I couldn't answer fairly.
The second and obviously important question would be if the man in question wanted children either. | |
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| Would you date a woman who doesn't want kids?
Posted: 1/15/2008 4:38:16 AM | I most certainly would, if i was interested in 2 women and one wanted kids and the other did not i would chose the one who did not want kids.
While i do like kids, i do not really want any of my own.
Eventually i will get myself "fixed" so that none would come form my loins at least.
Which would mean ultimately that if a future partner wanted kids she would have to get knocked up by someone else if she wanted them.
I have my own personality issues that would prevent me from giving my children the priority and attention they require.
Also i see it as an act of cruelty to bring a child in to this world until humanity has learned to be significantly less barbaric than it is now.
So a woman who does not want children would be ideal.
I would still date a woman who did want children, but i would not be able to be an equal partner in the parental duties. She would have to be willing to accept that she would basically be a single mother that has a reliable babysitter.
A babysitter would be all i really would even want to be even if the child was of my own blood. Just someone to watch the kid while she goes to work to pay for the upbringing of that child and while she takes care of the other motherhood duties.
I do not even want a dog as they are too much work to take care of and require too much attention. A child would be worse and would take far far longer until they would be out of your hair than a dog would.
When i was younger i used to REALLY want kids. That changed when i did some honest introspection of myself and truly got to know who i was. The result of that was i realized that even though i did have a lot to offer a child, my flaws would result in them being neglected too often due to being unable to put my children first and highest priority and that i would chose my hobbies over my children. | |
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| Would you date a woman who doesn't want kids?
Posted: 1/15/2008 5:05:35 AM |
Lets say it turns out the chick had a surgery to prevent herself from becoming a mother and wants no part of children at all in life. Would it effect how you feel about her? Would you leave her and find someone to have a family with? Or accept that you won't have children with her ever and stay anyway?
3 years into a 14 year marriage my ex had surgery that eliminated any possibility of her have children. We both wanted children and I have to say it was difficult for both of us.
Neither of us left. Well not for that reason anyway. I reckon that answers your questions. | |
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| Would you date a woman who doesn't want kids?
Posted: 1/15/2008 6:05:14 AM | It's not important to me.
I'm not sure if I want any myself 
Oh don't get me wrong... Being a Father would be one of the BEST things that could happen to me... And I love goofing around with other people's babies... I think babies are cute.
But alas, this is a crazy world to bring up kids in, so I'm not too hung up on the idea. | |
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| Would you date a woman who doesn't want kids?
Posted: 1/15/2008 6:25:41 AM | | Of course I would, and have. Given the age range I look in, women in the upper end usually already have them, raised them, they're adults, and can't have any more. I don't rule any woman out just because she can or can't have them. The woman counts much more with me than her (in)ability to have my offspring. | |
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