svj
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Joined: 1/11/2008
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| Emotionally mature... what does it mean to you?
Posted: 1/15/2008 8:56:28 AM | Men hear it all the time, and most of us have no idea what is actually meant. (I sure don't.)
Personally, I think it's because it's like the word "nice" or "player"... it has as many different definitions as there are people trying to define it.
So what does "emotionally mature" mean to you? | |
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| Emotionally mature... what does it mean to you?
Posted: 1/15/2008 9:03:59 AM | someone who's able to take responsibility for their actions and words - they will be true to commitments, they don't belittle others for being different, they admit to and apologize for mistakes, they can put other peoples' needs before their own, they can stand up for what they believe to be right, they are secure enough in themselves that they're not "threatened" by someone thinking differently or being perceived as better than them in some way...
those are just some ways in which a person (man or woman) shows emotional maturity, imo. | |
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| Emotionally mature... what does it mean to you?
Posted: 1/15/2008 9:08:23 AM | Someone who's is able to put themselves in the position of other people and relate to appropriately.
Someone who doesn't just succumb to their whims without thinking.
That all actions have consequences. that everyone creates their own life, they aren't victims. | |
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nogo3
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Joined: 2/26/2007
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| Emotionally mature... what does it mean to you?
Posted: 1/15/2008 10:35:57 AM | Emotionally mature means this to me:
-You are adult enough to look at the past, realize your mistakes and admit to them, and correct what you need to, in order to not make them again.
-You are adult enough when you make a mistake in the present, to own up to it, say your sorry, and not blame other people or things for your actions.
-Be willing to tell what you are feeling/thinking about a particular situation, even if it is scary or hard. Communication is vital in a relationship.
-Be willing to laugh at yourself once in awhile, and not take everything too seriously.
-Be adult enough to admit the world doesn't revolve around you, and that your actions/words have consequences. Being able to understand and be compassionate to others is important. | |
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svj
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Joined: 1/11/2008
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| Emotionally mature... what does it mean to you?
Posted: 1/15/2008 11:28:02 AM | To me it means able to have emotions but not live by them or make major decisions based on their emotional state at the moment. Overly emotional or dramatic people are what I think of when I hear emotionally immature; people who find everything to be a joke to the point they can't function seriously or aren't good with responsibility. Sometimes yes it means childish to me...disregarding others or doing things constantly that you should have given up in high school such as testing, emotional blackmail, etc.
Mostly tho "emotional maturity" means that you realize that emotions exist, and you allow yourself to react emotionally to things, but you don't let them run your life, act irrationally or dangerously because of them or use them against other people. It means you acknowledge others' feelings also.
JMO. | |
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| Emotionally mature... what does it mean to you?
Posted: 1/15/2008 11:33:12 AM | Survey I found online to measuring emotional maturity... To each of the questions you answer either "Always", "Often", "Sometimes", "Rarely" or "Never". The test is then scored and you're given a percentage to mark how "Grown Up" you are and how much of a "Child" you are... I scored 65% Grown up, 35% Child... :) Some excellent statements to ponder, methinks!
- You know that jealousy only harms your relationships, and you are able to avoid it.
- You are able to deal with anxiety easily and quickly.
- You believe that changing other people is futile - you only try to change yourself.
- You know that you're not perfect, and you're totally okay with your flaws.
- It's easy for you to love someone.
- When you encounter a problem, you try to solve it quickly. Thinking about it only makes it worse.
- Rejections in your life have definitely hurt, but you have always been able to move on from them quickly.
- You are a very honest person. You have principles that you live by.
- You enjoy giving more than receiving.
- When you are angry with someone, you don't hold on to it. You make your feelings known and then move on. | |
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| Emotionally mature... what does it mean to you?
Posted: 1/15/2008 1:55:33 PM | - being able to handle a variety of situations like a gentleman (or woman), without panicking, with responsibility, with appreciation.
- respects others and can be adaptable in social settings.
- have set goals and know how to achieve it, including those pertaining to relationships.
- does not get into fights with kids over XBOX or Wii games. | |
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