| contacting users looking for intimate encounters [Closed Thread]
Posted: 1/18/2008 2:43:52 AM | this needs to be changed or just removed from preference choices because this does not allow you to contact a user if you have a forum question for them you wish to private message them about.if you do then other users can then not allow you to contact them because you did this.should at least be made clear before anyone is allowed to contact users seeking intimate encounters.
i did this and now get punished for it. | |
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| contacting users looking for intimate encounters then being blocked because of it by other users
Posted: 1/18/2008 3:02:01 AM | Ah, but it is not just the once that you may or may not of contacted someone that way... takes a few to trip the filter.
They have no idea or way of knowing that you only contacted to pose a forum related question, just that they wish not to be contacted by the people mailing for I.E. besides, it is up to the individual who they wish to correspond with, and for the user to watch who they are mailing | |
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| contacting users looking for intimate encounters then being blocked because of it by other users
Posted: 1/19/2008 5:17:43 PM | well that is not logical at all if you are going to have these forums intertwined with the dating section of the site.
it should be clearly posted so a user know this will happen before they contact a person seeking a intimate encounter.
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separate the forums from the dating site and it would be a non issue.
as for the lady that says its her right to block someone the same as a man.
i would agree with you if men actually had 10 plus restictions on their profile as alot of women do already.
just because i chat in forums in private or in the forum should not be a reason to be blocked or censored by any user. thedouble talk by some women on this site is what i can't stand.we men are often portrayed as sex starved pedophiles when the only women i've met and dated on POF so far have always expected sex on the first in person meeting.i've been invited to sleep with them on the first date everytime and invited to their house.not saying all ladies on here do this.i'm just saying the ladies i've actually met or dated so far have been the sexual aggressor.
it works both ways and i get sick of reading profiles and forum responses that say it is only the men who are like this. | |
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| contacting users looking for intimate encounters then being blocked because of it by other users
Posted: 1/19/2008 5:46:17 PM | it should be clearly posted so a user know this will happen before they contact a person seeking a intimate encounter.
The Filter would be useless, and fail to accomplish its set out Goals to screen out the Sexhounds.
separate the forums from the dating site and it would be a non issue.
The Admin isn't going to revamp and recode the whole Site for a few IE Seekers.
In any event, that would only be another Avenue for Contact anyways. You may be blocked on the Dating Site, so then you'll go to the Forum Site to bypass those Restrictions. Now the Ladies in the Forums can be bombarded with this Nonsense, and we are gonna get a new round of Complaints.
In Fact we'll probably end up with a new set of Complaints why they are being hit up in the Forums when its not a Dating Site, esp. by those who ain't going anywhere having been blocked on the Dating Site. Then create another Set of IE Filters for the Forums ... never gonna happen.
just because i chat in forums in private or in the forum should not be a reason to be blocked or censored by any user.
Not your Decision, but a User Call if she wants to talk to you. The Site is not blocking you, its Users are.
the only women i've met and dated on POF so far have always expected sex on the first in person meeting.
Then you likely had a very unique Lottery Ticket, since it usually doesn't go that Way.
it works both ways and i get sick of reading profiles and forum responses that say it is only the men who are like this.
 | Doesn't Matter, its each User's Choice if they want to receive Communications from those who had sent Messages for the Purpose of Sex or those looking for Intimate Encounters. |
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| contacting users looking for intimate encounters then being blocked because of it by other users
Posted: 2/5/2008 1:50:07 PM | Am I going to be banned from contacting those who have blocked the intimate sex seekers for life, or will this reset after a period of time?
No. The Admin hasn't released any Information in Respect to lifting this Filter.
The Point is to restrict Messaging from those who have send First Contact E-Mails for the Purpose of Sex or those with a Profile Setting looking for Intimate Encounters.
I am not sure what Time has to do with changing what a Person is really looking for. I doubt very much that the Existence of the IE Filter is any valid Form to truly change one's Objectives.
Further, the prime Purpose is not to penalize those who have send First Contact E-Mails, but for those who wish to weed out such People, those who do not want any Communication from those who have already e-mailed others for Sex or those looking for Intimate Encounters.
Resetting the Filter has no Bearing on anyone's Contacting Habits.
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| contacting users looking for intimate encounters then being blocked because of it by other users
Posted: 2/5/2008 5:41:16 PM | Dear Moderator,
Time has a tendency to change everything. And just because someone was being curious, doesn't mean that is what the person was "really looking for". I bet if you polled the masses here, most would say they don't honestly know what they are looking for. Some have an idea of what they would hope to find, but most are pretty open to anything that sounds good at the time. A cute smile, or a sexy pic sometimes numbs logic. Love or lust has a way of postponing normal thought processes.
I understand that you want to keep the predator element at bay. But if you throw the ordinary foolish man out with him, don't you run the risk of throwing the baby out with the bath water? I am not asking you to go easy on us, just to give us an opportunity to earn a second chance. That's all.
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| contacting users looking for intimate encounters then being blocked because of it by other users
Posted: 2/5/2008 5:50:10 PM | I bet if you polled the masses here, most would say they don't honestly know what they are looking for.
That would make perfect Sense to me for those looking for "Long Term" to filter out those who don't know what they are looking for.
Some have an idea of what they would hope to find, but most are pretty open to anything that sounds good at the time.
And there are some Users who block Contact from such Users ... and others that don't.
I understand that you want to keep the predator element at bay.
Nope, just Plentyoffish Users simply not wanting to be contacted by those who have 'First Contact' e-mailed other Users for Sex or those whose Profiles state they are looking for "Intimate Encounters"
But if you throw the ordinary foolish man out with him, don't you run the risk of throwing the baby out with the bath water?
That would be for each User to decide whether they would, or would not like to receive Contact from such Users by making the appropriate Mail Settings.
I am not asking you to go easy on us, just to give us an opportunity to earn a second chance.
| Not about Chances, but 'Contacting Habits'. In any Event, it would be up to the Admin to make any Changes, and if there is a "Release Clause", then he hasn't told a blessed Soul. |
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| contacting users looking for intimate encounters then being blocked because of it by other users
Posted: 2/8/2008 11:46:58 AM | I know how women interpret this filter. Anyone that has messaged (however innocently) someone that is looking for an intimate encounter, is a sexual pervert, predator, and is only looking for one thing.
Ok ok, I guess I will just have to face the fact that this site is going to treat me as a sex offender. One who is marked for life.
Thank you for letting me know. | |
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| contacting users looking for intimate encounters then being blocked because of it by other users
Posted: 2/8/2008 12:17:38 PM | I guess I will just have to face the fact that this site is going to treat me as a sex offender.
Site isn't treating you any different than anybody else, its the Users who select Options to restrict Contact. Its up to each User to decide if they would like to engage that Filter or not.
| All very simple. It takes far more than a couple of E-Mails for Sex or to those looking for Intimate Encounters to trip the Filter. And thats all that is ... and Users have the Option to block messaging from such Users. |
You seem to be reasonably literate, but based on your previous Post seem/want not to understand my Reply that those Users who do not know what they are looking for are good cause to be blocked by those who do. You are simply making a Case that IE Contacters should not be restricted from messaging those who do not want any contact from such Users.
Anywho, we have been here a Million Times before, so I'll post some Links that further delineates on the Rationales behind this Filter.
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