chgiz
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Joined: 10/9/2007
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| high sex drive, higher chance of cheating?
Posted: 1/18/2008 5:30:47 AM | | right was having a debate with someone the other day, if someone has a high sex drive would you say that makes someone more likely to cheat, obviously there are many other factors involved but if some doesnt need sex that often...would the chances of them cheating be the same? | |
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| high sex drive, higher chance of cheating?
Posted: 1/18/2008 5:56:40 AM | I agree that a Higher sex drive leads to a more of a chance of someone cheating, especially should their partner have a low sex drive.
Should one of the partners not be getting enough, I'd say theres a real strong chance that, eventually, they will search elsewhere! | |
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| high sex drive, higher chance of cheating?
Posted: 1/18/2008 5:59:49 AM | pffftttt..
cheating is usually about lack of mental stimulus over physical.. boredom.. not just coz ur not getting enough..
ur a cheat.. coz ur a cheat.. simple | |
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| high sex drive, higher chance of cheating?
Posted: 1/18/2008 6:06:09 AM | Lets see... hmmmm I didn't cheat back when my sex drive was through the roof and I wasn't getting enough, nor when it was through the floor(like now) and I wasn't getting enough.....HHHHMMMMMM, A CHEATER IS JUST A CHEATER, whatever their reasons. sorry to all cheaters, not trying to insult u(not trying but did ) | |
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| high sex drive, higher chance of cheating?
Posted: 1/18/2008 6:14:52 AM | Well that depends on if you think that having a high sex drive means that someone lacks moral fiber.
Cheating is first and foremost about the moral fiber and character of the person doing the cheating.
It's not as if it's something done in a split second, an accidental thing. It's an act that takes much thought and consideration. No one just happens to go slip and fall on a willy. They PLAN it. They consciously decide to do it and take the steps to accomplish it.
I think you'd do better looking at past behavior than at sex drive if you want to decide if someone is likely to cheat. | |
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| high sex drive, higher chance of cheating?
Posted: 1/18/2008 6:36:05 AM | | I agree that cheating has little to do with sex drive and more to do with the persons character. Some poeple will cheat no matter what, there are many reasons that people cheat but think sex drive is very low on the list of reasons. | |
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| high sex drive, higher chance of cheating?
Posted: 1/18/2008 6:57:45 AM | | High sex drive? some of that is true, if they're not being satisfied enough, chances are they'll go elsewhere and get it from someone else. cheating is cheating. It's planned out. Once a cheat, always a cheat. | |
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| high sex drive, higher chance of cheating?
Posted: 1/18/2008 7:01:45 AM | | Cheating happens because something is not right in the relationship. It is more often not a high sex drive, but a lack of sex among many other reasons. | |
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| high sex drive, higher chance of cheating?
Posted: 1/18/2008 7:13:30 AM | no.
they are not directly related.
there is no relationship whatsoever.
chances would be the same. its how we go about it that counts.
read up on the history of promiscuity of primates (i think chimps are closest to us).
it kind of sets the background as to how cheating works in our minds as well.
there have been actual studies in the primates that PROVE there is direct relationship between penis size and sperm count to how many partners a primate will encounter/ prone to cheating on...
the studys provide the basic framework to an argument that racial factors play a bigger role when it comes to cheating than sex drive.
Also, there has been an evoultion of monogamy too... another interesting topic to read up on too | |
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svj
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Joined: 1/11/2008
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| high sex drive, higher chance of cheating?
Posted: 1/18/2008 7:14:59 AM |
no.
they are not directly related.
there is no relationship whatsoever.
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there have been actual studies in the primates that PROVE there is direct relationship between penis size and sperm count to how many partners a primate will encounter/ prone to cheating on...
Since you've done your reading... I'm sure you'll agree:
Higher sex drive = more testosterone (in both men and women).
Chimps and humans are both social animals. They tend to follow the prevailing standards of their tribe in an effort to fit in.
Look at the clothes you wear. I bet you pretty much blend in with a crowd when you walk around at the mall, right?
Chimps don't have a tribal problem with sleeping with more than one partner at a time.
Us chimps that shave do.
Which means there are societal pressures that need to be overcome in order to cheat. Those pressures can be massive.
Higher sex drive = more testosterone (in both men and women).
More testosterone = more aggressive
More aggressive = The more likely to take action that the tribe disapproves of.
Therefore: More aggressive = More likely to cheat when there's no sex and no love in a relationship.
While there's people that don't take monogomy seriously at all, most people like to think of themselves as "loyal". Although given the proper circumstances, most of those "loyal" people are unconsciously open to cheating, as well.
The average relationship, about 3-4 years in, where sex is between mates is merely a fond memory... is the usual breeding ground for that sort of thing. | |
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| high sex drive, higher chance of cheating?
Posted: 1/18/2008 7:59:43 AM | This is such BS! I have a very high sex drive, & many times I wish it wasn't so high... BUT in NO-WAY would I ever cheat on a partner.
If someone uses that for an excuse - it is actually many other things lacking in their character, and has nothing to do with their sex drive... jmho | |
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| high sex drive, higher chance of cheating?
Posted: 1/18/2008 8:02:53 AM | Yes, absolutely if the sex partner is not compatible.
However if a partnership is compatible, I think thats its important to work together and that you can maintain sexual interest... ie there are so many ways to spice up a sex life with toys, movies, (an occasional 3rd party, lol)... you get the picture. Its a delicate balance between love and sex ... on the days your compatible sex partner just needs a break or a rest, then its the love and a higher spirituality that should kick in and keep them through the times youre not on a regular pattern but only if the other partner returns to sexual activity... then love is either lost or there is an imbalance in a relationship that needs attending to. (Well am sure there are a few exceptions but I havent gotten to that part of Corinthians yet!) grin
I personally remained sexually satisfied/interested in my marriage partner for 12 years and the relationship ended for other reasons. He was raised to please his wife and to understand the value and intracies of good sex in a marriage and I always had a high drive.
Relationships can be organic in nature-- the connection is very much "alive".
But heck even the bible comments that in sex (without sounding to preachy I hope!);
"Do not deprive each other except by MUTUAL consent and for a time so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come back together so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control." 1 Corinthians 7: 1.5
So the bible encouraged and MANDATED regular sexual activity between husband and wife. lol
I think even God knows that there are alot of problems with this issue in humanity.
Hope you find someone just as horny as you are! :)
If youre free... call me! LMAO
Signed horniest gal you could ever marry, Poeticbliss
PS-- I dont think its impossible out there-- I just think we're misled a bit. We need better lessons on how to stay together. The bible is awesome but its lacking in some important modern-day translations. If humanity really wants a closer-knit bonding between people we have to seek it out with more importance as a society. | |
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| high sex drive, higher chance of cheating?
Posted: 1/18/2008 8:04:59 AM | A high sex drive does not IMO lead to a greater chance of cheating.
Lower morals does,
lower commitment does,
lower care and concern for other people does,
lower sense of self esteem does,
poor communication skills does,
poor impulse control does,
a larger ego does,
a higher level of selfishness does,
a higher sense of one's own self importance does.
umm... I think that about covers it. | |
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| high sex drive, higher chance of cheating?
Posted: 1/18/2008 8:15:34 AM | Margo, you forgot to add "sexually incompatible goals lead to cheating".
Its all part and parcel of the package. I think youre viewing sexuality as immoral.
Read my post!!! | |
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| high sex drive, higher chance of cheating?
Posted: 1/18/2008 8:48:58 AM | Whether your sex drive is high or low an individual will encounter situations that require that they make a decision to remain faithful to the relationship they are in or cheat. If someone has a high sex drive and marries someone that does not, he will have to make that decision more frequently than someone with a lower sex drive.
But it is kind of like a lot of things, someone can turn someone down 100 times but it takes once to cheat so is anyone really more likely than someone else not to? If you marry someone with a high sex drive and yours isn't, you need to have sex when you don't want to and he/she needs to have sex less frequently or it won't work, that simple.
If you have made that decision to have sex only with your spouse, you figure it out, whether your sex drive is high or low, and there are always appendages and electronics if it is really physically just that big a deal. | |
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Epica
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Joined: 12/31/2006
Msg: 21 | |
| high sex drive, higher chance of cheating?
Posted: 1/18/2008 9:16:34 AM | | I don't think it means they have a higher chance of cheating. If they have enough respect for their partner and they're both open about the amount of sex in the relationship they won't cheat. If they don't give a wit about their partner, that's when they'll cheat, imo. | |
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| high sex drive, higher chance of cheating?
Posted: 1/18/2008 9:29:54 AM | Hi Epica-- yes cheating inside a marital relationship (even if its a bad situation) in my opinion is cause for trouble. I think its best to leave a relationship FIRST and then move on to another partner. Its the same reason why I wont date seperated men-- sure there are some that really will leave their partners and some who are over it and waiting for the ink to dry, but most are still not over their baggage with the former partner-- cheating is wrong for both the cheater and the cheatee because (is cheatee a word- LMAO) ... because it transfers a whole mess of worms in the mix. Best to wait and heal and then move on unless we're just talking about sex for sex's sake and for no connection--- which I guess is why the institution of prostition is so old and so popular --- it can in some cases keep a marriage together with minimal emotional tie with the outside partner, but all in all, I personally think the ultimate goal is to work on what you got because outside sex gratification is simply a way of escaping the current problem. Ideally, leave if it doesnt work and then dabble around consentually with a play partner if you want until you find the right one!
Makes for a cleaner transference. | |
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| high sex drive, higher chance of cheating?
Posted: 1/18/2008 9:45:01 AM | | I'd have to say no... if I was with someone who didn't want sex as often as I do then before I let myself get tempted to cheat I'd just end the relationship. I think you should be compatible on all levels, not just some, there's never a good reason to cheat on someone no matter how long you've been with them, just end it. | |
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| high sex drive, higher chance of cheating?
Posted: 1/18/2008 10:42:15 AM | I've met a few cheating girls in my life. I would say the common things in all of them is a lack of morale and of courage to be alone for one reason or another.
One was with a guy with crucifix on the wall, lol she loves him but had a very high sex drive, so she cheated on him, she told me he was not sexual at all. Another one had only one guy in her life befor eme , and it was her boyfriend, living 2 hours by car from where she moved for work. She didn't had a high sex drive but she was definitly curious. Another one was married with a diplomat, had a normal sex drive, wanted to keep the good material life but was looking for excitement out of boredom, her husband been much older than her. Can't really remember others clearly, but yeah, the common denominator seems to be lack of honesty, lack of courage to put an end to a dysfunctional relationship and boredom. | |
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| high sex drive, higher chance of cheating?
Posted: 1/18/2008 10:56:55 AM | RE: First post.
Thats a nice EXCUSE. Your sex drive has nothing to do with cheating. Ive a ridiculous sex drive and Ive never cheated. Its a choice you make. If you cant conciously control your lust... then its not a high sexdrive its a mental deficiency and you should seek help. | |
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| high sex drive, higher chance of cheating?
Posted: 1/18/2008 11:10:56 AM | I don't sex drive has much to do with it.
I know a guy who quite regularly cheats on his wife, in fact, he has a girlfriend. His wife is incredibly selfish. She's castrating in the way she speaks to him and treats his family. If he packed up and moved to the Cayman's, which he could, she'd be left destitute, if he did it the Canadian way, she would've b!tched her way into wealth. So basically she's on the annuity plan.
While I seem to be a little high maintenance in this regard, I'm not cheater. | |
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