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Posted: 1/21/2008 8:12:23 AM | Has anyone noticed what an addictive and preoccupied culture we have
become with regard to drinking coffee? Particularly, and for some, only
at a certain branded establishment? How many people, with perfectly good
working coffee makers at the office or home, rather elect to spend their hard
earned money, on take out? Many, I have observed, buy it, and don't even
finish it!
But that's not really the idea of this thread. I have noticed how many guys bring
women coffee (usually from the aforementioned vendor). Am I wrong, but do
men use this as an excuse to see the women they are desiring to date? How do
women feel about this practice? Is it just a free coffee? Do they see it as a gift?
From what I have observed, some women would seemingly let some schmuck,
that they have no interest in, nor ever will, bring them coffee forever! I also don't
see a lot of women bringing men coffee!
I'm kind of interested in hearing your coffee stories. | |
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Posted: 1/21/2008 8:30:33 AM | I'm not sure how this is any different than a man buying a woman a drink in a bar. Drinking has become less socially acceptable, caffeine is the new fad. A drink is fairly non invasive, inexpensive and doesn't require they be hungry.
As for buying instead of making it, coffee makers can not produce the same quality of product. Coffee shops use the french press method while a coffee maker is drip. I personally use a french press at home for my coffee but when I'm busy it's easier to stop and pick up a cup instead of grind my own beans, boil the water and then wait for the grinds to seep. | |
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Posted: 1/21/2008 8:32:16 AM | thats because we can't drink and drive from bars, so now starbucks and places like that are the new meeting ground.
as a result, we are beoming addicted.........I do one step better and if I really like a girl I'll get her a good grind and brew machine and bag of chocolate coffee (or whatever she likes). Nothing wrong with gifts, several woman have brought me gifts to the first meeting, small trinket type things.
maybe you just don't attracted the right girls? | |
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Posted: 1/21/2008 8:38:19 AM | The practice is very different then buying a girl a drink.
I know many women, in jobs where the public has access to them,
and the same guys come in regularly, if not daily, to bring them
coffee. And they are not what you would call friends.
Is this practice, not strange? | |
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Posted: 1/21/2008 8:42:47 AM | no....... not strange. there is a secretary at the airport and when I go there, I stop by and see her, often bringing her a coke, coffee or whatever I stop to buy myself. I do that because she is locked to a office job and I'm not.. so I can bring her something.....
and she has a round butt and long legs I'd like to someday have around me.
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Posted: 1/21/2008 8:47:57 AM | This may not be entirely on topic, but if you want to see REAL coffee culture, go to Vienna.
(Austria, not Virginia....)
Or Istanbul.
Maybe Paris. | |
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Posted: 1/21/2008 8:48:15 AM | You talking about my Tim Horton's? While I could do a great deal to keep the supply coming my way--it does not include dating, 'seeing' or even being nice to someone that I really didn't want to spend time with.
I do agree that we as a culture spend a lot of money on coffee/latte/ice caps/etc. But, no one has gotten arrested for driving while under the influence of such--so if it replaces alcohol as a social dating thing I guess it is a positive.
When I was seeing someone, we would alternate is who pays as we hit the drive through but not with keeping score of who's turn it was to buy. I think we gals have to step up and do our share.
I do wish I could make it as good at home. I purchased several coffee pots in my attempts and not only get Tim's but other brands in the hope that I could do as well.
I always joke it is my coffee making skills that have kept me single all this time. Thank heavens for Tim's--and for everyone stateside---it is not like Dunkin Donuts! | |
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Posted: 1/21/2008 8:51:33 AM | stuff always tastes better when someone else makes it, imo
...and yes, i do think that it's often a sign that the man who does it, likes the woman involved... | |
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Posted: 1/21/2008 8:54:09 AM |
The practice is very different then buying a girl a drink.
How is this very different? Women accept drinks from men all the time, often with no intention of ever being romantic with them. It's just more accessible in public and legal in most situations. | |
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Posted: 1/21/2008 9:14:17 AM | A man would have to be a little thick in the head
if he bought the SAME girl, a drink again and again and again!
I guess my point was, have men used this coffee culture as a
means to TRY and get lucky? The male poster eluded to that.
First he makes it seem like he is just being a nice guy, and then
reveals the motive!
The likelihood of women not having access to coffee, (have you ever heard of a thermos) lol, is one thing, but why would the man pretend to feel responsible for a strangers well being? I have worked my share of construction, and don't recall throngs of women walking through the muck in their menela carblonics (I know, I didn't even get that close) to bring us men-folk coffee!  | |
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Posted: 1/21/2008 9:34:31 AM | I am an avid coffee drinker I work in a public place and if a man wishes to bring me a cup of coffee I would love it. I just do not think I would like for just anyone to bring me coffee. I would love for my man ( when I finally find one) to bring me the occasional cup of coffee and in turn I would love to do the same. I am not into all that fancy coffee though. Just the good old fashioned cup of coffee is good enough for me. I do love my coffee. I believe bringing a lady a cup of coffee shows some kind of interest in the lady. If a regular customer would suddenly start bringing me coffee I would tend to think he may be interested in me. No this don't happen where I work. Only person to ever bring me coffee is my brother. Where is my coffee man?? you out there?
God Bless
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Posted: 1/21/2008 9:55:02 AM | Off topic but what's up with Starbucks. I stopped in one once and didn't recognize anything on the menu. It would take a fortune to sample all of it to find something I liked. Chic-Filet which has great coffee. Oh, just two weeks ago McDonalds won best coffee in a contest against Starbucks and other brands.
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Posted: 1/21/2008 10:16:05 AM | I haven't ever seen this happen personally but I think it's a lovely thing to do.
I've pretty much always worked in offices and one thing you find there is if one of the men..or women went to go and buy something nice as a treat for themselves..they would buy a stack of them for everyone they worked with.
There was no turn taking, you did it if you felt like it and it was a nice gesture..nice to give and receive.
If some sexy guy brought me a coffee.....that would make my day!
Maybe it might be that the guy is trying to win the girl...so?
OP it sounds like you are jealous because you didn't think of it first!! | |
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Posted: 1/21/2008 10:34:30 AM | I'm still do not understand why you think this is any different than buying a girl a drink. It really isn't from my perspective as a woman.
A man would have to be a little thick in the head
if he bought the SAME girl, a drink again and again and again!
And yet men do in fact do this. I have seen men buy the same women repeatedly a drink for days and weeks and months. I guess they think if they keep being nice/generous then eventually they might grow on her. | |
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Posted: 1/21/2008 10:45:14 AM | I think I only did it three or four times, many years ago,
to a girl that worked in a doctors office! I believe in the
end, she had her sights set on a doctor, not a Plastic Sturgeon! lol
I might do it once or twice, and see if I could set something up,
but if that didn't work, I can't see the merit in it! My self-respecting
self, just wouldn't allow it! | |
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Posted: 1/21/2008 10:56:06 AM | I don't drink coffee, and I don't frequent those chain coffee stores.
Blah.. I'm no fun. | |
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Posted: 1/21/2008 1:16:38 PM | | like 30 yrs. ago.....i dated a fellow from the middle east, and i remember the coffee he made me at his place. It was delicious!!! He used one of those real small coffepots, and said that his coffee was from the Red Sea area. This all was , way before the " chain coffee start-up businesses. - I make my own coffee... and i will not do Starbucks, or any of the other coffee places. I enjoy making coffee, and drinking it.... so i would certainly enjoy , and i do occasionally, share my coffee with special friends, at my place. The reason why i am not into any of the starbuck etc. chain coffee stores or their products, is that i am not into their goal of profitting from the poor peoples' land, all over the globe etc. Have you ever read the stock market report?? about starbucks??Political- no!! just my own statement. I still enjoy my own coffee, my own space, and all this with my own selected friends......Do you want a Turkish coffee?? Do you want a little Amaretto in it??????? | |
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Posted: 1/21/2008 1:30:33 PM | Hey, why don't we meet for a hot cup o' joe and talk about it?
I live in a small town, and a woman I know, whose kids went to school with mine, owns a little coffee shop less than a block from that big-chain-of-coffee-shops place. I will drive by there anytime to have coffee at her place! The set up is different - usually 5 different flavors of coffee, and a couple of different decafs in a self-serve area. Or you can order something up special and enjoy it there. I've invited a couple of men to meet there, and it is a quiet, comfortable place. The coffee is so much better than what I make at home!
Nothing wrong with a friend bringing you a cup of coffee, whether male or female. | |
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Posted: 1/21/2008 2:31:24 PM | Although i sometimes drink coffee, i prefer booze.  Coffee makes me hyper, booze relaxes me. Also too, booze makes the women look better, and easier to deal with.  | |
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Posted: 1/21/2008 2:50:15 PM | 1. If you bring me coffee, you get a plus.
2. If you get me mocha, you've got two pluses.
3. If you get me white chocolate mocha, you're getting a closer look..
just kidding, but wasn't it always that way?? Tarzan gets Jane a nice piece of meat, Jane likes Tarzan a lot.. ??? Ok, I know there's much more to Tarzan's piece of meat, but buying anything for someone of an opposite sex is showing you like them..
As to coffee..
1. OP is not addicted to coffee.
2. OP doesn't know much about being addicted to coffee.
3. OP has no idea what coffee does to a girl, who's addicted to coffee..
Some smart girl wrote the coffee shop just have better 'tools' for brewing it..
Plus, if you're single, there's always someone to say 'morning' to, other than your cat/dog/fish...
One bad thing about chain coffee shops is that white chocolate mocha or caramel machiato:
1. make your butt big
2.don't really contain much coffee..
Was this thread waiting here for me or what? ;-)
ps, some other smart guy suggested having coffee in Paris or Vienna..
I agree, this is what you call a coffee culture.. I like Starbucks, I love it, but in a way, it's just another 'fast food' place.. | |
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Posted: 1/21/2008 2:54:47 PM | | its just an easy means to establish a reporte with someone that may be a romantic interest...it could also be a means of smoothing over one woman in hopes of reaching another...you never really know what the drive behind the act is unless you ask both giver and givee | |
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Posted: 1/21/2008 3:31:23 PM | | I never drink coffee. I can't stand the taste of it. | |
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Posted: 1/21/2008 3:41:08 PM | I think it's just a social thing..."Let's meet for coffee". It's fine alternative to meeting for a drink at a bar and far less likely for somone taking leave of their senses after having too much to drink. Coffee is safer!
But for me, I'm not a coffee drinker but I do like a good hot chocolate on a cold day
Buying a coffee for someone is no different then buying them a drink at a bar. If someone buys me a drink and there's somewhat a connection, then I'll return the favor and buy them a drink. | |
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Posted: 1/21/2008 6:03:46 PM | I am not a Starbucks person, I enjoy coffee at home - Maxwell House Smooth Roast.
I do grab a cup of coffee at the gas station some mornings when I didn't have time to make coffee before I left the house - and I do bring in the occasional cup for a male co worker who is handicapped and doesn't get to stop and enjoy the various flavored coffees the gas stations offer. | |
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Posted: 1/21/2008 6:07:29 PM | | i do not like coffee and have never liked it ..i have always been a tea drinker anyway ..dont know why people pay a lot of money at coffee shops for a coffee ,besides it is not a very healthy drink too much caffeine anyway ...i love tea and always will...i would like tea brought to me ............. | |
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