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Posted: 1/21/2008 2:07:50 PM | Ok, so i have adjusted my profile a few times now and nothing seems to matter. I have sent countless emails to girls and have (maybe) received less then a 1% response rate. Im not sure what if anything i am doing wrong? Some of their profiles even say "write me if your interested, and i will get back to you", but they never do! They just "read" and or "read/delete" my emails, im like wtf. Does it make me a psycho to try to communicate with the ones that just left me at "read"? Im not talking about over and over and over. I mean "read" dosent tell me much other then it was read.
I reply to everybody that has tried to contact me (the ones i didnt initiate contact with) out of respect. So, anyway, is this normal or what, do i need to do something different with my profile? Is there some secret or something? 
Can anybody recommend a better (free) site for me where i may have better results? What about speed dating? Has anybody givin it a try? I feel if i can meet them in person, although briefly, lol, i may have more success.
I hope it didnt sound like i was climbing on a soap box here, im just a little miffed at my lack of better results.
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Posted: 1/21/2008 2:18:16 PM | | Your profile says you're athletic but your sole pic doesn't reflect that at all. A pic that reflects your athletic bod would be a good place to start. | |
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Posted: 1/21/2008 2:20:37 PM | This might be your problem.
1. You do really need more than one picture.
2.
Female
Age between 25 and 45
Live in United States
Live within 75 miles.
Must not be looking for Hang Out
Must not be looking for Talk/E-mail
Must not be looking for Other Relationship
Must not be looking for Friendship
Must not be looking for Intimate Encounter
Must not be looking for Activity Partner
Must not do drugs
How in heavens name can anyone contact you when you have all these restrictions?
Intimate Encounter, Must Not Do Drugs, Must Not be looking for Other Relationship, I can understand.
You have restricted Talk/Email, Friendship, Hang Out, and Activity Partner and what if some woman 76 miles thinks you are hot, she cannot contact you. Lift off some of these restrictions. It might get you somewhere. What you have right now makes it impossible for someone to communicate with you.
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Posted: 1/21/2008 2:42:01 PM | Ahhhh haaa, i see what you mean. I'll make some changes.
As for the pictures, bleh, yea i know, i need to grab someones digital and take some newer pics.
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Posted: 4/23/2008 7:30:32 AM | Ok I finally got my hands on a digital camera and decided to update my pics. I was wondering if i could get an opinion on something? It has almost been a year since i had changed anything on here from my description to my pictures. So i just got this little camera and snapped a few. What do you think? Do i look like a meat head trying to show off, or are they acceptable? The thing is over the last year i somehow managed to lose like 50 lbs. and thought i would lift some weights to try and get back in shape. I really dont want to portray myself as a muscle bound idiot, lol. I did put a semi-dressed up picture of myself in there, do you think i need more of those? You guys can be as brutally honest as you want! If changes need to be made then i will make them! Thanks. 
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Posted: 4/23/2008 7:37:07 AM | I bit of a showoff, yes, but I think acknowledging it in the caption really helped in doing what you are trying to do - avoid looking like all-muscle no-brain guy. I think they are fine.
Headline - not a winner. | |
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Posted: 4/23/2008 7:51:48 AM | well it has some problems or things i didn't like
- pictures , not sure they were a good idea , might come across as too machoo
- about me is too long , and a has a big blank area .
- first date is a little short and not that unique or going to get girl that interested | |
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Posted: 4/23/2008 9:38:56 AM | I think the blank area has something to do with the music player. I tried that new feature where you can add music to your profile and never got it to work. But i did notice that it made that huge gap in there, anyone ever find out how to get it working? I'll remove it for now.
I just got the camera a few days ago, i plan on changing the photos around every now and then. I thought i needed to add some more everyday pic's as well. And there is no way in hell im taking my shirt off and posing, never. LOL, i felt self-conscious just showing my shoulders, but my friends were saying "Oh yea just do it, go for it" blah blah, heh. | |
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Posted: 4/23/2008 9:44:42 AM | Ok i removed the faulty music player, and edited the head line.
As for the description, i thought it said somewhere on here that the more you describe yourself and what your looking for, that you would have more success? | |
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Posted: 4/23/2008 9:48:58 AM | The pictures seemed okay to me, still should have a facial close up for main though.
Congrats on the weight loss!
Some of your text comes across as a little domineering, I'm sure you can reword some of that a bit. It'd go over alot better I'm sure.
Hey ~ Good luck with the weight and on this site :) | |
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Posted: 4/23/2008 12:58:25 PM | Personally, I think your "About Me" section is a little bit too much about what you are looking for and not enough about you.
It also comes across very dry. Add in some humor or show your personality somehow.
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Posted: 4/23/2008 2:12:16 PM | David,
I wish with these profile reviews you could view the person’s profile as it has evolved without having to follow the thread alone over a period of xx number of weeks/months/years!
I see a few flaws in your approach still in the revised profile. First off, the headline should be catchy. It should attract someone. It’s a little limp right now so add something fun and catchy. Make them remember you. Make an impact. Next, drop the updated section and talk a little bit more about yourself. This is your one shot at a first impression. Make it! Instead you choose to inform the ladies that you not only had a bad marriage that failed but you are seemingly desperate to find a replacement wife. It’s not what’s said directly quite often but what is said indirectly that makes the most impact on the reader. With written word this is most often the case. So I’d just delete that whole first paragraph.
The only part of the first paragraph I’d keep but place elsewhere is the fact that you lost the weight. Good on ya, mate! Now keep at it because we all know it’s unhealthy to be overweight. Perhaps I should swallow my own medicine, right fatty (referring to myself, not you!). I would seriously consider dropping the athletic reference though. It makes me antsy when I see a girl on here who’s about 60 pounds overweight say she’s got an athletic body type because she bowls, golfs, curls, or plays baseball. You may be athletic, in that you work out and maybe play some sports, but unless you are in shape I’d suggest losing that title. You are average my friend. Embrace it. I am about 30 pounds overweight but I can run for miles on the treadmill, and can outlast most of my friends in a game of rec hockey who look in far better shape than me. At 220, having played football and baseball semi-professionally, I can run faster and cut harder than the average backyard athlete. But ask me my body type and I’ll tell you I’m average because I have a big of a gut and some love handles. That makes me average.
You also breathe a fair bit of negativity in your profile. I’d lose the part about not wanting players or princesses. That’s rhetorical. Most people don’t a high maintenance woman. Using words like hate or loathe does not spell positivity to a potential mate and that is what is needed in this arena. Also, capitalizing LISTENER and HONEST says “hey dumazz”.
One more thing. A profile should invite someone to reply to your profile on it’s own. The woman viewing it shouldn’t need in invitation or a request. Lose the “drop me a line” bit as that’s all too cliché here. I like the touch of signing your name at the bottom.
Oh! Critical error! You listed you have no kids but then you say you are a single father and have six-year old fraternal twins. Which is it? Can be misconstrued as you not reading thoroughly or following directions, or it could be considered you not being honest. People make crass assumptions here all the time.
I’d also try and add some flair to it without making it seem forced. Add a funny story or a riddle, make a joke, use some sarcasm or humour but in a subtle manner. Too much of a good thing can sink you further. Erase the first date section and start fresh. Suggest some neat ideas, like a picnic in the park or a dinner theater. Perhaps wine and cheese on the roof of your building if you live in a condo/apartment. Salsa dancing or dance lessons for those that can’t. Many people dislike dancing but I tell you their minds are made up when a beautiful woman is pressed against them! And really, how many women can resist a man that dances, or at least is willing to make the effort with her?!
Hope this helps. Keep your chin up!
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Posted: 4/23/2008 3:19:51 PM | Looks pretty good now RedSector
Good luck and hope you have more success with it now
Its not as easy as you first think (not for me anyways)
I keep wondering if there is a magic formula to this?
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Posted: 4/23/2008 3:35:37 PM |
Intimate Encounter, Must Not Do Drugs, Must Not be looking for Other Relationship, I can understand. You have restricted Talk/Email, Friendship, Hang Out, and Activity Partner and what if some woman 76 miles thinks you are hot, she cannot contact you
What if the person doesn't have time to talk/emails, or doesn't really have time just to "hang out" when thats all the other person wants to do. Activity partner and friendship? Same thing don't you think? I have friend who are my activity partners. It's like going to the grocery store looking to buy apples but you get oranges instead because that's what's available.
That's what the restrictions are for, to make sure the other person on the other end isn't wanting what I'm not. Who cares if someone thinks your hot, especially only if they want to email and "hang out", not to mention they're 76 miles away. | |
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Posted: 4/23/2008 4:27:51 PM | Ok i'm tweaking a bit, err the profile that is, lol. 
I am not a shallow person, but its funny when i need to describe myself, and or what i am looking for, my mind goes a bit blank. Even in school i had this problem of putting thought's to paper. I do soooo much better explaining/describing things in person. Maybe i should take a day or so to really think of something special.
Thanks for all the feedback so far, it has really helped. | |
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Posted: 4/23/2008 8:08:55 PM | | You know you need new pictures (like - really, REALLY need new pictures!), but for now suggest you go with your current #3. It's not great, but "closer-up" is better in the land of "teeny-tiny pictures as seen in search results". | |
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Posted: 4/23/2008 9:15:58 PM | Well, you are a man and you are under 5 foot 8 (and you don't appear to be rich and/or eager to get married.) So you are behind the 8 ball from the get-go. But you only need to find 1 oe 2 women, so your goal is doable.
I didn't think the pix were all that appealing, even though you seem to be a reasonably good-looking guy. Pics taken in the mirror with the camera are a huge no-no for any gender. the ones of you with the barbells are interesting, but not sexy... there may be more interesting ways to show you off your strength. And like everyone else's pics, the color palette is boring... get some light and color into the shots. (Yeah, I only have one pic on my profile, and it's not that great... but I am just expresing my opinion. And I am mostly looking on match.com ... although I am not sure if I really reccomend that site.)
This site is as good as any, especially if you want a free one. | |
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Posted: 4/23/2008 9:23:39 PM | Here's what I get from the nine whole sentences that comprise your "about me" section.
1) You have twins.
2) You lost 50 lbs.
3) You eat salad but like steak.
4) You say, " I am looking for someone who is honest and open. What i'm looking for is somebody that is easy going, a good listener, and honest." You already said that. (And make sure your "Is" get capitalized.)
Nine sentences is not nearly enough to make a connection with another human being. And while your weight loss is laudable, it has not yet resulted in a physique one could reasonably call "average."
I hope this is helpful. | |
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