| Is smoking really a problem?
Posted: 1/22/2008 9:48:11 AM | | Alright I've been smoking for 3 years give or take and I'm young is it really unattractive enough to a woman that she wouldn't want to even try it with you? Seems that way with a lot of woman on here. I'm in the army a ton of stress so smoking soothes me so what the heck! | |
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| Is smoking really a problem?
Posted: 1/22/2008 9:51:44 AM | | I would never date a smoker. Period. Too many reasons to list but if you want to smoke, that's your choice. | |
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| Is smoking really a problem?
Posted: 1/22/2008 9:53:45 AM |
Alright I've been smoking for 3 years give or take and I'm young is it really unattractive enough to a woman that she wouldn't want to even try it with you?
About 25% of women smoke. You're really limiting yourself if you smoke.
Once you quit, you'll be surprised to find out that YOU don't want to date a smoker, either.
The smell, the tar, the mess - it's bad. | |
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| Is smoking really a problem?
Posted: 1/22/2008 9:58:20 AM | ^^
Im a smoker too.
And we stink. Smell BAD.
Quit for awhile, then see if you can stand the smell and mess.
Personally, im quitting. Slowly getting there. Think im going to try that champix stuff, apperntly it works really well.
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| Is smoking really a problem?
Posted: 1/22/2008 10:19:04 AM | | If you are young all the more reason that you should not smoke. you know it's very bad & will most likely kill you & others around you & at the very least lead to impotence issues. I will not even give a guy a shot if he smokes, I even say hey you're hot too bad you smoke. Roamingiris, do try Chantix, it works, my mom quit smoking after 40 yrs, no problems, been nearly 2 months now w/o a cig for her. | |
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| Is smoking really a problem?
Posted: 1/22/2008 10:27:38 AM | Its very unattractive.
In addition my son has asthma (a severe case). I would not consider a long term relationship with someone who does something I'm supposed to keep my son away from. | |
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| Is smoking really a problem?
Posted: 1/22/2008 10:29:20 AM | | Yes, it's a huge problem--for your lungs and everyone else's. I think you will find as you get older that your body can't take it as well, and you will quit. I hope, for your sake. | |
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| Is smoking really a problem?
Posted: 1/22/2008 10:30:49 AM | It's not a problem if you find another smoker
Or keep right on top of personal hygiene
I'm one of those weird ones that absolutely detests the smell of pot - but have dated many people that have smoked it, ONLY because they were willing to try extremely hard to get rid of the smell
I take the same stance with cigarette smokers also
One of my good friends has been a smoker the entire 3 years I've known him - and I just found out a couple of weeks ago, and only because he told me! So it is possible!
haha the only exception to that is after a really crazy concert, the smell of sweat, musk, and smoke all mixed together on a gorgeous man make me go wild ;) | |
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| Is smoking really a problem?
Posted: 1/22/2008 10:53:58 AM | | Dating women I'm attracted to instead of women that would tolerate me is one of the reasons I quit smoking. | |
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| Is smoking really a problem?
Posted: 1/22/2008 10:54:07 AM | | I can't speak for smoking women, but as a non-smoker I find smoking incredibly unattractive. I know we all have our vices, but that's one vice that I can't associate with on a romantic level. Its just too invasive. Hell, I get irritated when I smell the stuff while driving. I can't imagine having to kiss someone who does it. Yeah, that wouldn't happen. There are some non-smokers who couldn't care less, but your best bet is to find another smoker or resolve your stress another way. | |
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| Is smoking really a problem?
Posted: 1/22/2008 11:06:27 AM | | It's not a deal breaker for me, but it something I'd prefer not to deal with. I've gone out with smokers in the past, the kissing just isn't the same as it is with a nonsmoker. But if I liked the guy and he agreed to keep his smoking outside and not in my house, it'd not be a huge issue. | |
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| Is smoking really a problem?
Posted: 1/22/2008 11:50:06 AM | | OP, I've tried to give up and failed, but I'm 41 and have been smoking since I was 11. I make it plain in my profile that I am a smoker, and wouldn't want to be with anyone who found it intollerable, but I have to accept the fact that some people do find it intollerable, and understand their reasons (god knows if I wasn't a smoker I wouldn't want to date one). If you intend to continue smoking, you just have to accept that your choices will be narrowed. You can't force healthy people into an unhealthy lifestyle, and why would you want to if you thought anything about them? If they don't like it, accept it, and find someone who does. | |
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| Is smoking really a problem?
Posted: 1/22/2008 11:55:02 AM | | It wouldn't bother me. Now, chewing tobacco is a different story. I smoke and I think I'm worth getting to know. Everyone has bad habits so it wouldn't deter me if someone chewed tobacco if I really liked them, but I wouldn't care for the habit. So, I see smoking as the same thing. You either care for a person or you don't. | |
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| Is smoking really a problem?
Posted: 1/22/2008 12:46:56 PM | I'll tell you what is un attractive...bad breathe, bad teeth, stinky clothing, ugly discoloured fingers...hacking cough....second hand smoke....its just not something thats attractive at all.
Later on ED, heart problems and then the big C word...yep cancer, I see alot of people in my job who I know wish they had never started....young men and women in their late 30's and 40's with young children who are facing the end of their lives in very painful ways. Lung cancer, throat cancer...ect.
I have never wanted to try and I never will. | |
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| Is smoking really a problem?
Posted: 1/22/2008 1:04:03 PM | | If you like smoking it shouldn't bother you if only females that smoke are into you. | |
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| Is smoking really a problem?
Posted: 1/22/2008 1:16:44 PM | I was married for 20 years to a smoker, so I know what it's like to live with one. He was considerate enough to smoke outside, but that meant that he was virtually always outside ... and all the mints in the world can't cover the taste of a smoker's kiss.
When we went out together, there were the inevitable breaks in activity so he could go outside to smoke. It was annoying to be continually put "on hold" so he could inhale nicotine. The alternative was to sit with an increasingly agitated and irritable partner who was counting the seconds until his next cigarette or cigar.
As smoker's go, my ex-husband was as considerate as possible, but no amount of courtesy makes up for playing second fiddle to an object/drug. (I know smokers don't mean it that way, but nonsmokers are always waiting or paying, in one way or another, for their partner's habit.)
For me, smoking is not necessarily a deal breaker, but it's very, very close. In almost every case, I would choose not to date a smoker. They offer lots of drawbacks (some not mentioned in this post) and zero positives when dating nonsmokers.
OP, if you can quit (and stay quit), you'll probably be very glad that you did. You can learn other ways of dealing with stress. Not only will quitting be good for you, but quitting will be positive for your future wife and children. | |
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| Is smoking really a problem?
Posted: 1/22/2008 1:33:43 PM | I wrote it before and don't mind repeating. It's my personal opinion.. :-)
I don't want to kiss the ash tray and I don't want to kiss the mint. I want to kiss the man I'm in love with. I may be attracted to someone and not know from the beginning that he smokes. If I like him a lot, I'm a stubborn little creature and will try to persuade him to quit.
For the right reasons (my dad's sister died of lung cancer, heavy smoker all her life), and very selfish ones - I get sick from the smell of cigs.. | |
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| Is smoking really a problem?
Posted: 1/22/2008 1:34:46 PM |
Personally, im quitting. Slowly getting there. Think im going to try that champix stuff, apperntly it works really well.
Chantix is what it's called. You're supposed to take it for a week, then quit. Personally, I've been on it 3 days and I'm already smoking half as much as I usually do - and I ain't trying to cut down or anything.
I know 5 people that have taken it - 4 have quit, and the 5th was allergic to it so he had to stop taking it. I like them odds!
Only down side is it isn't covered by my insurance, so it's running me $120 a month. I figure long run it's a great deal, since I'm a "buy 'em by the pack" guy, so I'm spending around $100 a month on smokes anyway... | |
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| Is smoking really a problem?
Posted: 1/22/2008 1:38:53 PM | Yes, it really is!
It smells really bad, and have you ever licked an ashtray? 
I once kissed a smoker. Well, I assume I should make that I had a kiss more or less forced on me by a smoker. Not exactly something I need to experience again, that's for sure!
The only way I would not run away screaming  might be, if I didn't know about it at first (and no, that doesn't mean you should change your answer to the smoking part, that one should be honest!), if (!!) the person in question would be strict about hygiene and wouldn't smoke indoors... (I think someone already mentioned asthma being a problem in connection with cigarette smoke - I can only second that, it really makes the asthma worse!). But then, of course, chances are I wouldn't know it because that person lied to me - not exactly a good start...
I know life can mean stress, and your job probably especially, but maybe you can find away to relieve stress in another way? I'd really recommend it - not only for you to have better chances with women, but also for your health. | |
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| Is smoking really a problem?
Posted: 1/22/2008 2:43:53 PM | OP,
Yes, it is a big deal for a lot of people. Not only will the reject you but they will make disparaging comments and feign concern for your health. Smoke if you like...more power to you! | |
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| Is smoking really a problem?
Posted: 1/22/2008 3:52:44 PM | | I went on one date with a smoker. It was enough to convince me not to do it again. We went to the bar to play darts. It's no fun to be left alone in the bar when your date goes outside for a smoke. His car smelled like smoke. I wouldn't allow anyone to smoke in my car or condo so there would be tension there. | |
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| Is smoking really a problem?
Posted: 1/22/2008 3:59:19 PM | | OP - give me a break. You smoke because you want to. Some will see it as a problem and some won't. If you aren't willing to quit, then you will have to realize that smoking will narrow your pool of eligibles when it comes to dating. I don't like smoke in my food; I don't like my clothes to smell like stinky poo, and to kiss a smoke? NO WAY! There are other ways of coping with stress, besides smoking like a chimney. I know, there are worse vices out there, but you make your own choices, now you've gotta live with them. | |
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| Is smoking really a problem?
Posted: 1/22/2008 4:29:14 PM | | Why the hell did you try to get her to smoke in the first place? you wanted someone to keep you company while having smoke, sure. but trying to get them to take up smoking is just peer pressure man! if she doesn't want to smoke then don't make her smoke. | |
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