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 juice4041
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What do women mean when they say "I feel safe with him"?Page 1 of 7    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7)
I hear that stated every once and a while.
Are the women saying that the man resemble a bodyguard while out in public?
Or are they stating that he has money and she longer have to worry about that?
What makes a woman feel safe around a guy?
 english lass
Joined: 11/14/2007
Msg: 2
What do women mean when they say I feel safe with him?
Posted: 1/23/2008 7:26:37 PM
she feels that he won't hurt her (emotionally or physically) and/or won't allow others to hurt her, imo
 Herding Cats
Joined: 11/8/2007
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What do women mean when they say I feel safe with him?
Posted: 1/23/2008 7:28:04 PM
It means he's tall.
 Sabrosura
Joined: 8/1/2007
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What do women mean when they say I feel safe with him?
Posted: 1/23/2008 7:28:25 PM
She is not going to be played, and he is a good guy. Someone that makes you feel secure.
 Blitzarina
Joined: 1/18/2008
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What do women mean when they say I feel safe with him?
Posted: 1/23/2008 7:33:01 PM
Sometimes just the physical presence of a special man's arms around me can make me feel safe and protected. It's not a conscious thing - it's not that I know what I'm safe from. It's just a feeling of being protected. I can't describe it any other way.
 weaselontoast
Joined: 6/29/2007
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What do women mean when they say I feel safe with him?
Posted: 1/23/2008 7:34:31 PM
She likes his armored truck and the "His & Hers" kevlar vests they wear when out together.
 Miss W
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What do women mean when they say I feel safe with him?
Posted: 1/23/2008 7:34:36 PM

It means he's tall.


She is not going to be played, and he is a good guy. Someone that makes you feel secure.

These two statements and the fact that you can feel pretty (or comfortable) wearing your glasses in their presence, you don't have to fight them off, and just enjoy their company. Many times, you like them just as friends, but you just feel comfortable and enjoy your time with them. Someday, I hope to find the combination of what I just mentioned and true chemistry.
 pozsicle
Joined: 9/6/2007
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What do women mean when they say I feel safe with him?
Posted: 1/23/2008 7:36:51 PM
it's not just trust that you are protected from physical harm; it's trust that the guy is not going to leave when a rough patch hits, or run away when things get serious.
 Diana619
Joined: 8/29/2007
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What do women mean when they say I feel safe with him?
Posted: 1/23/2008 7:36:54 PM
means he has your back.
 juice4041
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What do women mean when they say I feel safe with him?
Posted: 1/23/2008 7:39:27 PM
I was hoping for specific examples of what a guy could do to make a woman feel safe.
Is it the guy that stays ready to step up to any guy that tries to talk to the woman while out in public? Do women feel safer around a muscular men more than the skinny guy?
 acuteblueeyes
Joined: 12/31/2007
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What do women mean when they say I feel safe with him?
Posted: 1/23/2008 7:46:42 PM
It means we feel comfortable....physically....mentally and emotionally....I for one... can say this is what I am looking for!!! I truly believe that women have a basic need to be protected....nutured....and cared for... in general.....I know we have had no choice... but to become independent....and self sufficient.... in a mans world....and in many cases the families sole provider ....however.. I believe deep down we truly want to be taken care of....and protected.....loved and adored....I feel the world....(in relationship terms).... is out of balance.
 sashieq
Joined: 9/1/2007
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What do women mean when they say I feel safe with him?
Posted: 1/23/2008 7:49:33 PM

I was hoping for specific examples of what a guy could do to make a woman feel safe.
Is it the guy that stays ready to step up to any guy that tries to talk to the woman while out in public? Do women feel safer around a muscular men more than the skinny guy?


I feel safe when a man puts his arm around me in public..I feel safe when a man steps in and voices his opinion in front of others when they have tried to belittle me or humiliate me..I feel safe when a man shows me respect and appreciation..I feel safe just being in the presence of a man who I may be seeing at the time..I feel safe if I'm made to feel like I'm #1 in his life..I feel safe if the man has muscle, but it certainly isn't necessary..

 Sabrosura
Joined: 8/1/2007
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What do women mean when they say I feel safe with him?
Posted: 1/23/2008 7:49:48 PM
Hmmmm...You can't really do a specific thing, but be yourself. You either feel comfortable /safe in a man's presence or you don't. Make sense?

A muscular man maybe stronger, but it does not mean that you feel safe in every sense of the word. You are providing a different perspective than I defined - not a player, makes you feel secure, etc....ANYONE can be this (my examples of someone that makes one feels safe) with or without muslces if this is their character. I believe you are using the word "safe" in the terms of protection/physical aspects.
 rsx11s
Joined: 3/28/2007
Msg: 14
What do women mean when they say I feel safe with him?
Posted: 1/23/2008 7:51:21 PM
It means he uses a condom. Not like those other guys.
 divineadvisor
Joined: 7/28/2007
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What do women mean when they say I feel safe with him?
Posted: 1/23/2008 7:52:54 PM
I would give anything to feel that way about someone. I am sure it means differen things to different people. But, to me I think it would be the highest possible compliment there is.
 Barbies Older Sister
Joined: 6/8/2007
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What do women mean when they say I feel safe with him?
Posted: 1/23/2008 7:54:23 PM
This is a very intriguing question for me. I'm one who says that regularly. However, I can't really give you a specific answer. I can say that it's not b/c he resembles a body guard and it has nothing to do with how much money he has or doesn't have. I feel "safe" with certain men and not with others. It's a gut feeling I have. He might be 5'4" or 6'4", so it's not about height or size. It's not about whether he carries a gun or knows ju jitsu. It's about how he carries himself. What kind of man he is. Yes, he makes me feel protected or that he'd die protecting me, but it's more about the essence of the man. That I can trust him with me. My physical self, yes, but also my mind, my ideas, my thoughts, my fears, my sexuality, etc. And he'll respect what I offer.

And like DivineAdvisor, it's the ultimate compliment I can offer a man. Well, that and
I'm not afraid of him.

Clear as mud?
 Esperanza13
Joined: 12/7/2007
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What do women mean when they say I feel safe with him?
Posted: 1/23/2008 7:57:21 PM
Safe = sure of his love
 Red_N_Blue
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What do women mean when they say I feel safe with him?
Posted: 1/23/2008 7:57:44 PM
Maybe she means that she feels that he's straightforward, honest, isn't out there to hurt anyone and won't play games.. can be trusted in every way - physically, emotinally, mentally.
 albino_dino
Joined: 12/29/2007
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What do women mean when they say I feel safe with him?
Posted: 1/23/2008 7:57:57 PM

Is it the guy that stays ready to step up to any guy that tries to talk to the woman while out in public? Do women feel safer around a muscular men more than the skinny guy?


Are you looking for an excuse to fight ?

A woman feels safe with a man, who will be there to safely escort her home, and rather not watch him being hauled away in the back of a police car.

 juice4041
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What do women mean when they say I feel safe with him?
Posted: 1/23/2008 7:59:56 PM
Thank you for your responses so far.
I'm taking this in during my time of self-improvement.
Most men want their special lady to feel safe.
Is there an action that a man has done to make you feel safe?
 Belina
Joined: 6/5/2007
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What do women mean when they say I feel safe with him?
Posted: 1/23/2008 8:00:52 PM
that's a good question, safe to me seems like a scary word to use, when with my boys out drinkin i feel safe but when it comes to dating guys i dont feel safe at all...lol i think those girls who use the word safe means that the guy isn't a prick who will cheat on you and screw you over........................
 evnstevn
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What do women mean when they say I feel safe with him?
Posted: 1/23/2008 8:01:20 PM
So how often has it happened for you ladies? And why did it go south.

 woobytoodsday
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What do women mean when they say I feel safe with him?
Posted: 1/23/2008 8:29:55 PM
I was married to a guy I loved and liked a lot. We got into a discussion of what a guy should do if his mate was raped. He said that if I did, he'd go out and hunt him down and kill him. After much discussion, he refused to change his mind even after I told him what *I* would need.

So, instead of getting a guy who'd stay with me and hold me and hold my hand, I'd be left at a time of anguish and pain, and have to worry about him getting killed in the attempt, or arrested and jailed after the fact.

THEREFORE, I could never even tell him.

Did it make me feel UNsafe and vulnerable? You bet. And no. The marriage did not make it.


 lovehunny22
Joined: 1/18/2008
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What do women mean when they say I feel safe with him?
Posted: 1/23/2008 8:32:18 PM
it means that when u are next to him ..no matter where ..no matter how u feel ..good or bad ..happy or sad ..u'll have that feeling inside that nothing can happen to you ...that moment when u feel like it cannot get any better just because u are with him and thats all u need ..thats what feeling safe means to me
 .Marc
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What do women mean when they say I feel safe with him?
Posted: 1/23/2008 8:34:11 PM
It's usually both physical and emotional.

Women like to feel emotionally cared for.
They also like feeling secure in the sense that they are protected. This one is most likely a leftover survival instinct.

I don't have much to offer in the way of physical protection. I'd be happy to moon the attacker while they make a get away.... or take the physical beating that'd inevitably follow the mooning while they call the cops. You never know.... I might turn out to be a scrapper when I'm cornered...

Don't get me wrong-- I would die for someone that I love... but I'm not a tough guy.
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