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 littleaudrey
Joined: 1/17/2008
Msg: 1
He loves to slap my butt..Page 1 of 3    (1, 2, 3)
So, I have been seeing my boyfriend for a month, and he has a...quirk. He is obsessed with hitting my rear end.

Obsessed.

Sometimes, I'm just standing there, and he'll walk by me and take a swipe at my butt.

When I bend down within ten yards of him, he's right there, smacking my butt.

In bed, my butt gets so raw and red because he smacks it the entire time.

He asks me to get him things from the floor, I suspect, just so he can smack my butt when I bend down.

Is this normal? Do guys just love to smack their girlfriends' bottoms? And what does it mean or imply when a guy smacks your tush all day?
 lostleprechaun
Joined: 1/1/2008
Msg: 2
He loves to slap my butt..
Posted: 1/26/2008 6:44:19 AM
Nothing wrong with slapping a mighty fine ass !
 taz in love
Joined: 12/11/2007
Msg: 3
He loves to slap my butt..
Posted: 1/26/2008 6:44:55 AM
LMAO,,,,sorry girl, I wish I had an answer here, maybe the guys can help you out on this one. Maybe he thinks you love it. Do you give him a positive reaction everytime he does it? LOL. This is too cute.

Try not doing doggy all the time and then maybe your butt can take a break from the constant slapping!! If this was my only complaint right now I would be soooo happy!

 Justcauz1
Joined: 12/10/2007
Msg: 4
He loves to slap my butt..
Posted: 1/26/2008 6:46:09 AM
I think Katie is right to a point.
This little bit of insight comes from a guy that will do somewhat the same thing, though I don't do it so much during sex.
If I have a GF that I think has an exceptional backside I will have a tendency to slap (not hard) , pat, or rub it when I am near her.
I am quite an ass man, it is one of the first things I look at in a woman. Eyes being the first.
 Wolves-Lower
Joined: 9/9/2006
Msg: 5
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He loves to slap my butt..
Posted: 1/26/2008 6:47:55 AM
So let me get this straight.
He sets you up so as he can slap some ass?
As in;
"Ooops I dropped a quarter, can you get that for me hon?"

or

"Darn my foot itches! Can you bend over and scratch it for me?"

hmmm...
Taking notes.
 real12
Joined: 12/31/2007
Msg: 6
He loves to slap my butt..
Posted: 1/26/2008 7:15:11 AM
Pfft, out of all the things to b*tch about.......Jesus girl, he likes your ass, hell I could be riding doen the road in my girlfriends car & reach over & pinch her tit right outta the blue.......You know why?........ Cause I can, thats why & I like em & it usually gets a laugh out of her & it makes me feel good.....Fact is, I like to touch her.

So yeah, i'll smack her ass every chance I get & pinch her nipples as soon as I see an oppurtunity to do so.....I'm a guy & its my job to harrass the crap out of her.
 littleaudrey
Joined: 1/17/2008
Msg: 7
He loves to slap my butt..
Posted: 1/26/2008 7:42:25 AM
Well, the first time he smacked my butt, we'd been dating about two weeks, and I bent down to put a video game in the nintendo. He walked by me and hit my butt.

I gasped and said, "Hey!" more out of shock than anything else. He laughed and said "Oh sorry."

That kind of started the butt hitting wars. He'd hit my butt maybe two or three times a day. Whenever he did it, I would smile and laugh. Now he hits my butt probably twenty times a day, not including when he hits my butt during sex (which would probably total 100 slaps, easy, during the half-hour or so it takes us to finish).

It's not really that I *mind* him hitting my butt in any profound way, I just wonder why he's so nuts about it. He also likes to call me a "bad girl" and other diminutive things..I think he's asserting his dominance (him big man, me little girl) but I'm really not certain, and I wonder if he hits my butt to feel powerful and to put me in a subservient position?
 jimi77
Joined: 7/13/2004
Msg: 8
He loves to slap my butt..
Posted: 1/26/2008 7:55:52 AM
I like to do that from time to time but not all the time ...its a form of affection and attention.
 walcimer
Joined: 3/25/2007
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Posted: 1/26/2008 8:18:56 AM
I don't do that. Its your call on whether its cool or not. Although the impression I get is that its not. So, is it a deal breaker for you? How would you feel about getting smacked in the butt for the next twenty years? What about if he starts smacking other women in the butt?

You can try speaking up and telling him to stop. If he's so big on doing so though, I'm not sure it would go away for good. Next option is to say "adios" as far as I can tell. Regardless, you only remain stuck with it for as long as you choose.
 GeneralizingNow
Joined: 10/10/2007
Msg: 10
He loves to slap my butt..
Posted: 1/26/2008 9:02:05 AM
I have been known to slap random as-s. But he seems addicted. I imagine if every time he does it you say, "Stop that! I don't like that!", even HE will get the "hint".
 Luv Karla
Joined: 9/29/2007
Msg: 11
He loves to slap my butt..
Posted: 1/26/2008 9:14:12 AM
It's not normal,but it's certainly not abnormal.

If it bothers you,then tell your boyfriend to stop doing it.

If he doesn't respect your wishes,then dump the dude.
 Gixxer_Mixxer
Joined: 11/15/2007
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Posted: 1/26/2008 9:17:01 AM
Hahahahaha
I do that all the time. When my GF is helping me do the dishes I squeeze and slap it all the time. U know why??? Its round and succulent, just the way I like it. I told her how nice her rump is and she doesnt believe me. sheesh.
 Cort1295
Joined: 12/26/2006
Msg: 13
He loves to slap my butt..
Posted: 1/26/2008 9:28:26 AM
It isn't that weird, aside from the sheer quantity of slaps he's dishing out. If it's bothering you, tell him to back off a bit.

On the flipside, I've known girls who were into clawing. That **** hurts. Why would anyone like that?
 ~Smiles~
Joined: 12/27/2007
Msg: 14
He loves to slap my butt..
Posted: 1/26/2008 9:34:37 AM
Ummmm LMAO
sorry now that I have that laughing out of the way.......

Just tell him you like that he slaps your butt !!
its just starting to get annoying when its being done 100 times a day.
COMMUNICATION is key, if you dont like something tell your partner.
Because you don't say anything to him he proberly thinks you like this.
JMO of course, but most things can be solved by just talking them out.
 Blueskies123
Joined: 11/3/2006
Msg: 15
He loves to slap my butt..
Posted: 1/26/2008 9:39:56 AM
You have to draw som sort of line somewhere here.
If it hurts you he has to know that..you have to tell him with no smile on your face.
I fell out with a guy on xmas day because he thought doing that and also treading on my back and bouncing was fun..bad back for few days after and bruises all over my bum and hip from the slapping.
The guy I fell out with was just a friend. It was bad...long story..if you want to see the thread..it's on here..pm me and I'll find it.

I went out with a guy who thought it was ok and appropriate to prod my breasts..hard.
It wasn't nice..he would grab, jiggle, play, prod as if they were a stress ball...hang on..this is my skin!
I didn't say quick enough (I did say..just I should have said it sooner) that I didn't like it..but it was absolutely one of the reasons I finished with him.
 Limeshines
Joined: 10/22/2007
Msg: 16
He loves to slap my butt..
Posted: 1/26/2008 9:52:22 AM
You're not crazy - This would drive me off the F*ing wall! haha - If you want to know why just ask him - & what kind of smacks are these smacks... like hard dominant porno style or what? I had a boyfriend who would always somehow magically rest his hands on my butt or squeeze it or somehow his hands would end up near or in my pants.. but that was all fine - but getting smacked in a ronchy way every time I bent down would drive me insane - Maybe he has a fetish haha - I would just talk to him.. don't be mean but be firm - perhaps you can substitute the ass smack for something else less ronchy -

- Lime
 Not_a_FAT_Slob
Joined: 5/29/2006
Msg: 17
He loves to slap my butt..
Posted: 1/26/2008 10:08:27 AM
Great topic !!!!!


Is this normal? Do guys just love to smack their girlfriends' bottoms? And what does it mean or imply when a guy smacks your tush all day?


I am an ass guy and I love doing it, but not as much as your boyfriend.
 SherTenn
Joined: 4/24/2007
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He loves to slap my butt..
Posted: 1/26/2008 10:48:13 AM
OP wrote: He also likes to call me a "bad girl" and other diminutive things..
I think he's asserting his dominance ... but I'm really not certain, and I wonder if he hits my butt
to feel powerful and to put me in a subservient position?

I'm going out on a limb here.. but IF there has been no discussion.. then you have an abuser on your hands..
In normal "play".. there is discussion beforehand and mutual consent. I don't see that here..

I'd run like hell.. and *never* let him tie me up..

No.. what you describe is not in any way normal..

Jim
 esad
Joined: 4/8/2007
Msg: 19
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Posted: 1/26/2008 11:15:53 AM
This bothers you, yes ?
How bad does it bother you?
If it is very serious i would like to point out
there is an area of the male anatomy that
you could focus your frustration on that
might make him rethink his little hobby.
I doubt if more than one or two
“playful slaps” to the this area would be needed
before he develops a little empathy.
 867love
Joined: 3/16/2006
Msg: 20
He loves to slap my butt..
Posted: 1/26/2008 11:32:25 AM
o/p that must be some kind of ass!
tell me -do scientists come over and calibrate their instruments with it?
 pbear511
Joined: 11/22/2007
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Posted: 1/26/2008 11:42:40 AM
in all fairness, i think we all need to see your butt so we can judge for ourselves
 nickphilosoph
Joined: 10/26/2007
Msg: 22
He loves to slap my butt..
Posted: 1/26/2008 11:48:32 AM
Re the Opost

Sounds a tad weird to me. Find an ex GF and ask her if he did the same to her as well.
 PostPunk
Joined: 11/15/2006
Msg: 23
He loves to slap my butt..
Posted: 1/26/2008 11:52:47 AM
Every now and then is fine, but thats a bit excessive.

Kick him in the shins, imo.
 climbsagain
Joined: 1/20/2008
Msg: 24
He loves to slap my butt..
Posted: 1/26/2008 12:50:54 PM
No. Not normal that often. Get a new guy.
 Ignoble
Joined: 10/11/2007
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Posted: 1/26/2008 12:58:57 PM
RE: First post.

Well... when I was in highschool way back when there was this fad where guys would just slap girls ass all the time. Even if they werent dating. Now... my father raised to respect women and their personal space, so I always found this to be very very rude. Abhorent really. HOWEVER... It might be a natural guy thing, because Ive felt the urge now and I again. Hahahah, I assume you though that NO guy wants to slap an ugly ass, so if he does it THAT much... Id say he just thinks you have a perfect ass. Everytime you feel sore... take it as a compliment. ^_^
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