| Men requiring a financial portfolio to date?
Posted: 1/26/2008 9:29:58 AM | | Has anyone else noticed a significant portion of the dating community requireing women to own property, stocks, bonds, investments to even meet them? What's wrong with a decent person who pays thier bills, and is accruing their retirement? Does anyone else understand this pull yourself up by your own bootstraps mentality? I used to hear two can live better than one, and if one takes out the garbage, so what if the other spent 5 cents more in the end? Anyone have any input on this? I've got people telling me a public high school teacher is just a bum. | |
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| Men requiring a financial portfolio to date?
Posted: 1/26/2008 9:33:42 AM | And don't show up to that first date without your financial advisor or your stock broker. I wouldn't even go out with you unless your earnings are above 17% ahead of the Dow Jones. And if you show up in anything less than a Mercedes, forgetaboutit. Okay, a Land Rover would be nice. Hehehe.
Meface, quite honestly, I've never seen that from the guy side. | |
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| Men requiring a financial portfolio to date?
Posted: 1/26/2008 9:53:13 AM | OP. I haven't noticed this, but it honestly doesn't surprise me.
I personally don't require anything except exactly what you say you have, a job and at least one or two long-term goals for the future. It's the jobless couch potatoes that turn me off. I work, and I prefer a woman who works or has reasonable career motivations in her life. Property, stocks, bonds, investments are optional. You don't even have to own a car, and I don't even care that much about how much money you make.
We're not all snobs, I promise.
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| Men requiring a financial portfolio to date?
Posted: 1/26/2008 10:16:28 AM | I don't look at a date by the size of her portfolio or bank account. I look at her by the size of her heart . I look to see if she has compassion, understanding, and respect for others. Teachers obviously do.
Interesting that some people think an occupation of 'teacher' is considered a bum.
They must be pretty judgemental people. I would reply to the person(s) "if it were not for people like Teachers, you would NOT be where you are now in life."
Interesting indeed.
Just my two cents! | |
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| Men requiring a financial portfolio to date?
Posted: 1/26/2008 10:25:53 AM | I live in a pretty big city (Kansas City Missouri about 1.5 million) and there is only one club/bar (that I know of) that ever has any gals over 40 years old.
I swear - I think I have seen guys showing gals their financial statement *before* they even ask them if they would like to dance. I think it might be an unwritten rule before the gal would even consider a dance with them.
I don’t remember ever seeing such a plastic world before.
PLUS ............ the gals actually look the part (rode hard and put away wet) if you happen to seen one under the light lol.
I don’t even try (to contact gals) anymore online. I’ve became convinced - a guy has a three email limit to ......... say one of a few things.
- I wonder what the weather is like in the Bahamas - I am thinking about jetting down there for lunch.
- What color of Lear-Jet would match my Coco Mellow Porsche I just ordered?
- My only real problem in life is to - figure out how to spend all this damn money I have. | |
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| Men requiring a financial portfolio to date?
Posted: 1/26/2008 10:29:23 AM | | Dating is totally subjective and we are all free to date the person with whatever we find desireable. I dont believe that any man or woman would want to be pursued just because they could raise the others financial standard. Many of us online are looking for that "One Great Love" and are not interested in being used or played - be that emotionally, sexually or financially. There is a big difference between being used and meeting your equal and I do not mean financial portfolios, its whatever the 2 people see as equal - for some that is character traits and for others its wealth/possessions. | |
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| Men requiring a financial portfolio to date?
Posted: 1/26/2008 10:40:26 AM | I admire anyone that would teach the kids of todays' society. The standards you have to adhere to in your own personal life speaks volumes of you. If they feel like that then they shouldn't even be contacting you. Apparently they are just looking for a kicking post. Just smile and  bye bye. These men apparently have some loose screws. Good luck  | |
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| Men requiring a financial portfolio to date?
Posted: 1/26/2008 10:49:33 AM | take the bus everywhere. that way you can tell your date: your primary vehicle has a chauffeur, costs over $200k. and constantly needs a fleet of mechinics to keep finely tuned. | |
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| Men requiring a financial portfolio to date?
Posted: 1/26/2008 12:09:54 PM | I think Meface , some men who have a substantial networth, they attempt to settle down and get married only for the marriage be long enough so the S O says she wants a divorce and takes half of his assets, eg look at some
While you might be honourable, there are gold diggers who are not, and will look for these types of guys to exploit. | |
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| Men requiring a financial portfolio to date?
Posted: 1/26/2008 12:24:25 PM | I've been put off by some of the men's profiles on this site. I don't like to browse, because "financially stable" is high on the list of what men are looking for here, in my experience.
And I personally was under the impression that everyone was living paycheck to paycheck. I have an education, a job, and a million plans for the future, but I ride my bike (because it replaces transportation, AND the gym cost), and I am a single female head of household. Some weekends I have to pull quarters out of the couch to buy another carton of milk for the baby.
So I can't reasonably answer "financially stable." I prefer to consider myself, "economically viable."
Yah, definitely sugar momma material, I am not :):) | |
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| Men requiring a financial portfolio to date?
Posted: 1/26/2008 12:27:26 PM | I haven't seen this type of snobbery much either.
Could it be you are insecure about your status and are projecting this on possible suitors?
Focus more on your attributes. Seek out men whose company you enjoy.
Isn't that what really matters? | |
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| Men requiring a financial portfolio to date?
Posted: 1/26/2008 12:28:15 PM | OP, as you can see from the responses here, most people have either not seen that, or have had the opposite experience (women seeking men with a financial portfolio). The incidents of women getting involved with men just long enough to scam them out a major part of their assets has become so commonplace, however, that I can see some men becoming a little overcautious, to the point of ensuring that the woman they get involved with has at least as much, if not more, to lose, in the event of such a situation coming to pass.
Then again, he may just be a gold digger, using that excuse. | |
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| Men requiring a financial portfolio to date?
Posted: 1/26/2008 12:35:05 PM | No, I haven't seen that. This is a FREE site, so anyone looking for a power player with a strong stock portfolio is probably looking in the wrong place.  I find it hard to believe that multiple people are looking down on you for being a HS teacher. But, it is a big turn-off to some men when they see a women living paycheck to paycheck and griping about bills all the time. Try reserving financial discussions until after a month or so of dating. Get to know their character (morals, values, sense of humor, etc.) before getting into finances. | |
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| Men requiring a financial portfolio to date?
Posted: 1/26/2008 1:48:25 PM | I've seen a couple women ask for men who have a job and a vehicle (neither of which I could ever have, which is beyond my control), but the stocks and bonds and investment portfolio thing? Guess I just live in the poorest section of my province cause I've not seen that yet. I can see that happening in Beverly Hills or near Wall Street or something...
Have to really pity those people. When they die, they'll die alone knowing their "wealth" can't save them. | |
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| Men requiring a financial portfolio to date?
Posted: 1/26/2008 1:50:17 PM | While it isn't something I have noticed, the reverse is something I have noticed frequently over 30 years or more - women who, before dating a man, want to see his "financial portfolio".
Maybe the men you have encountered who "require women to own property, stocks, bonds, investments to even meet them" have been dealing all their lives with women who "require men to own property, stocks, bonds, investments to even meet them" - and they are demanding equal treatment and a level playing field?
Maybe you are reaping what others of your gender have sown... | |
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| Men requiring a financial portfolio to date?
Posted: 1/26/2008 2:36:48 PM | Isn't that a bit simplistic, Fightdirector? If not, still seems like going to ridiculous lengths to me.
Also isn't that like betting that a relationship will fail before it's even begun? | |
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| Men requiring a financial portfolio to date?
Posted: 1/26/2008 2:54:53 PM | | So there are CEO's on this site with big portfolios that want to see yours? Or wait....maybe its dead beats that have nothing and want to make sure you do. OP, anyone from this site that would ask you your net worth before dating for any length of time is someone you dont want to be with anyway. Dismiss them post haste and on to the next. Yes, if someone is planning on getting together it is always good to know they can hold up their end of the finances, but dang its not a question to be asking while dating. First of all you can tell something by the type of job they have, where they take you, how they dress, what they drive, where they live,etc,etc, etc. The hard questions come later. I'm seeing someone at the moment and the question of what I have has not come up nor should it. Move on GF and dont stress it takes all kinds. Kudus to you for having the heart to be in the education system. | |
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| Men requiring a financial portfolio to date?
Posted: 1/26/2008 3:02:31 PM |
I've been put off by some of the men's profiles on this site. I don't like to browse, because "financially stable" is high on the list of what men are looking for here, in my experience.
Hah, you might browse some women's profiles, and read the thread "must have car, house, job...", I don't think its strictly limited to either sex on here.
Don't understand it myself, I mean I do ok, but "what she has" is pretty much irrelevant to me (although responsibility, doing your best to make it on your own and not trying to "mooch off the sytem" is a desirable quality - even if its living paycheck to paycheck). | |
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| Men requiring a financial portfolio to date?
Posted: 1/26/2008 3:04:40 PM | "Has anyone else noticed a significant portion of the dating community requireing women to own property, stocks, bonds, investments to even meet them?"
Maybe a local dating community thing?
But come to think of it, it should be exported to the dating world at large. Have her people meet my people (financial adviser, tax adviser, psychologist, PAs, lawyer, mentor/guru, etc) and if they see potential match (as in corporate Mergers & Acquisitions aka M&As) , then meet! Sounds like a grand idea!!! | |
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