| has a guy ever got you when your already in a relationship
Posted: 1/26/2008 6:52:45 PM | I have a question, im pursuing a girl who already has a boyfriend, any advice? i know its kind of disrespectfull to the guy, but i really like this girl, shes absalutely beatiful, and has a great personality. and a question for the women here, has a guy ever got you when your already in a relationship? im sure it has happened to a few of you out there
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| has a guy ever got you when your already in a relationship
Posted: 1/26/2008 6:56:02 PM | Ok so you're into this girl. So what if she dumps her bf for you. Or cheats on her bf with you. Is this the type of woman you want to be with??? Who's to say she wouldn't do the same to you if given a better option than you?
Put yourself in his place. How would you feel if some guy came after your girl. Maybe feel like smashing in his face? I say you back off. | |
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fay98
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| has a guy ever got you when your already in a relationship
Posted: 1/26/2008 7:01:38 PM |
Who's to say she wouldn't do the same to you if given a better option than you?
Absolutely correct. I've been the one who someone was dumped for, only to be dumped the next time something "better" came along. | |
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| has a guy ever got you when your already in a relationship
Posted: 1/26/2008 7:01:43 PM | Nope never nada
If I'm in a relationship it's because the moon hangs on this guy I'm with, because I only have relationships with someone 'm crazy about.. and even when it's ending..I have honour and wait until I'm out before I begin looking around again. I have never left anyone for someone else...that's like saying people are interchangeble... I just don't get it.. never have
another man wouldn't even have half a chance with me when I am involved
and I would never trust (nor date) anyone who has ever done this...they've proven themselves to be fickle, self-centered, untrustworthy and dishonourable
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Posted: 1/26/2008 7:06:32 PM | 2 flips of a coin:
Gut instinct it's wrong to try to persue her.....
BUT,
My granny used to tell me they aren't taken til their married!
If you're gonna persue her.... make sure she ends it with her boyfriend before ya do any um.... anything that leads to cheating!
(maybe you dig her so much cuz she's NOT available... then if you got her you wouldn't want her!) | |
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Posted: 1/26/2008 7:11:40 PM | Anyone who'll cheat with you will cheat on you.
I don't cheat when I'm in a relationship, ever. I can't recall even being tempted to cheat. I guess I just get into this mindset where I'm "taken," and that's that. A guy who cheats on me gets shuffled to the side immediately.
As for your own situation, are there really no other women around who don't have boyfriends? And, if this woman had an affair with you and subsequently left her boyfriend, do you really think you'd ever be able to trust her knowing that she doesn't stick at cheating on her man?
Either wait until her relationship ends on its own or (even better) move on and find a woman who's available. | |
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| has a guy ever got you when your already in a relationship
Posted: 1/26/2008 7:15:07 PM | Nope. And it's more than 'kind of' disrespectful to the guy...it's a whole lot disrespectful to him.
She's beautiful, has a great personality, and a BOYFRIEND that should automatically mean she is off limits. No wonder there are so many jealous boyfriends out there...with guys like you to worry about. | |
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Posted: 1/26/2008 7:24:11 PM | Why would this girl want to go out with you when it is clear you have no respect for her or the fact that she is already in a relationship?
I don't even want to discuss how self-centred you sound. Can you spell J E R K? | |
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Posted: 1/26/2008 7:25:14 PM | No..makes it ok cos he likes her..course it does!
Go for it man...you like her!
That's THE most important thing..how you feel.
Of course..if she will cheat on him then the likelyhood is she will cheat on you too.
All part of the fun though ain't it?!
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| has a guy ever got you when your already in a relationship
Posted: 1/26/2008 7:31:08 PM | has a guy ever got you when your already in a relationship
Yes, and I believe it happens all the time.
The thing is: If the relationship is happy and healthy nobody will get between both partners. But if the relationship isn't what it is supposed to be someone might be able to catch you attention and eventually win you over.
It happened to me several years ago, when the relationship with my then boyfriend was in fact over. Only out of habit and because we genuinely liked each other we had stayed in our relationship comfort zone even though our formerly romantic love had long switched to friendship mode. That other guy entering my radar made me realize that my relationship was in fact over, so I had "the talk" with my then boyfriend and we agreed on breaking up, and both of us moved on. (He's been my best male friend since, and we're very close. No hard feelings.)
So, OP, if you feel that you love her you might want to try a move into her direction. However, if she turns you down and picks her relationship over you you shouldn't press on. And if you're only after sex with her: Don't do it. | |
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Posted: 1/26/2008 7:45:36 PM | Oh, and to all the other posters that are claiming to be upset about the OP's idea:
Falling for someone else does not equal "cheating" on the current spouse. It means you have feelings for someone. And it means you think about your relationship. Just because two people are in a relationship doesn't mean they are going to have the same feelings for each other for the rest of their lives. People change. Feelings change. And people are allowed to change the situations accordingly.
Especially in a country like the U.S. where people juggle several dates at the same time and thus have physical relationships with several dates at the same time (which I personally find repulsive - I always and only ever date exclusively) and where the divorce rates are the highest in the world everyone should be aware of the possibility that feelings can swift from one person to another. So if the OP has feelings for that girl he should let her know IMHO. Then it should be on her to make a decision. And if she picked the OP over her current boyfriend then there wouldn't be anything wrong with that. | |
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fay98
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| has a guy ever got you when your already in a relationship
Posted: 1/26/2008 7:54:58 PM | | Yes alot of people do a lot of underhanded things everywhere, agreed. Does that make it right. NO. Why don't you just ask her. I suggest you write her a love letter or yet corner her somewhere and put the make on her. I still think this is probably one of your friends girl and it would still be awful low thing to do. | |
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| has a guy ever got you when your already in a relationship
Posted: 1/26/2008 9:01:38 PM | I almost laughed at how quick people on here jumped down your throat for things I am sure half of them have done themselves.
I mean come on you know whats right and wrong here. Don't help her make a bad decision by coming on to her. Do you know self control is one of the hardest things to do.. I'm sure though you have the ability to be a gentleman and wait your turn. | |
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| has a guy ever got you when your already in a relationship
Posted: 1/26/2008 10:13:58 PM | I'm wondering how the answer would be of benefit to you.
I have a question for you though. Say you manage to pry her away from this guy. What would that tell you about her personality?
To me it would indicate that she has no integrity, and the next time a guy tries to pry her away from you she might just go for it.
Hand on the heart, is that the kind of girl you want? Or do you think you are special and she would not do the same to you?
Lastly, is she the last female on earth? Can you just don't leave it be and go find your own beautiful girl? | |
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| has a guy ever got you when your already in a relationship
Posted: 1/26/2008 10:33:46 PM | Personally, when I'm in a relationship, I have eyes for nobody else. Some people are different than I, however. I can't speak for the masses!
You might not want a woman who starts things with you when she's in a relationship though. LOL Just a word of advice.... | |
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| has a guy ever got you when your already in a relationship
Posted: 1/26/2008 10:41:04 PM | When I am in a relationship, I do not look elsewhere. I have never cheated and do not plan on it. If someone made advances towards me when I had a boyfriend, I would tell them I had a boyfriend and to back off because nothing was going to happen etc.
As for you, leave her alone. Why go after someone else's girl when there are plenty of single women out there. I am sure there is a single woman who meets your preferences. And what did that guy ever do to you? Yet you want to go behind his back and try and take away his girl. That is shady.
And if she did leave him for you, she would leave you for someone else just as easily so keep that in mind also.
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| has a guy ever got you when your already in a relationship
Posted: 1/26/2008 10:49:09 PM | when I'm in a relationship, I'll admit that I got hit on, but I wouldn't make a move to them, if they can't respect the lines of friendship, then it's bye bye.
do you talk to her often? just move on and date and if she breaks up the relationship then ask her on a date. | |
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| has a guy ever got you when your already in a relationship
Posted: 1/26/2008 11:30:23 PM | | not to get your hopes up, but i've seen this happen, and many years down the road, they're still taken. it was actually a pastor who told me this story. he said he went for this girl while she was dating his bestfriend...LOL! it happens, but as they've said, are you sure you're safe being with someone who can be stolen away? | |
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