| is Sex a Normal Human Need, or is it simply a Social Treat?
Posted: 1/27/2008 11:15:54 PM | | I am a 30 Year old Man. Yes, Unfortunately I am Not in a Relationship. As a Man and also and Especially as a Mammal, I Naturaly have my Needs. Sex is one of them. For me, Sex is Equally as important as Eating, Drinking, Breathing and Sleeping. My Psychological well being depends on it. So Ladies and Gentleman and especially ladies, please answer my questions. Does this make me a Perverted Loser who is better off Dead? Also, my Main Question is " is Sex a Normal Human Need, or is it simply a Social Treat" ? | |
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| is Sex a Normal Human Need, or is it simply a Social Treat?
Posted: 1/27/2008 11:48:15 PM | | Ok, I take it you want an honest answer here? No, I don't think given your explaination you are a perverted loser who is better off dead....if you are being honest in your assessment of the role of sex in your life. You place it there with other primal needs, no big deal understanding that. Now, to answer your "main question"....I believe it IS a normal human need that has been turned (in today's society) into simply a social treat. In my view (which many will probably say is skewed...and it may well be), sex has gone from being a deep seated normal human need which not only can satisfy, but bond people, and has been turned into just another form of recreational entertainment for many. For some women (not all mind you), who realize that this is often the case nowadays, it cheapens something they hold to be very profound, which is why they often get offended when a man signifies this need early on in their communications with each other. THAT is why a man might be viewed the "perverted loser", as you put it. It isn't so much perverse that you might need or want it, it's just that a woman might percieve you as one who has equated it's importance between you the same as you might a good beer and a game of pool. JMO. | |
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| is Sex a Normal Human Need, or is it simply a Social Treat?
Posted: 1/27/2008 11:50:23 PM |
I am a 30 Year old Man. Yes, Unfortunately I am Not in a Relationship. As a Man and also and Especially as a Mammal, I Naturaly have my Needs. Sex is one of them. For me, Sex is Equally as important as Eating, Drinking, Breathing and Sleeping. My Psychological well being depends on it. So Ladies and Gentleman and especially ladies, please answer my questions. Does this make me a Perverted Loser who is better off Dead? Also, my Main Question is " is Sex a Normal Human Need, or is it simply a Social Treat" ?
Err... does wanting sex a lot make you better off dead... is that a serious question? Sex is simply natures way of ensuring we re-produce, the only biological reason we have orgasms is to ensure that we find it pleasurable and want to continue reproducing, an incentive if you will. hat may sound cold and scientific, but it's jsut as true as those feelings of love being a select mix of explosive chemicals triggered when you find someone that you think would be the pefrfect bearer of said children. Nature at its finest.
What they didn't count on was us taking these natural, instinctive urges and turning them into an art form, something that is both a blessing and a curse for people in the world today. So I guess this rather long-winded answer to your slightly odd question is that you are normal for wanting to have sex a lot... but no, it's not as important as eating, drinking and sleeping, and reading your post I think you may have a few creases to iron out in your sexual lifestyle ie: getting it enough and regularly in a healthy relationship.
But then don't most of us...  | |
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| is Sex a Normal Human Need, or is it simply a Social Treat?
Posted: 1/28/2008 12:11:59 AM | Excellent answer "regalrose'. I totally agree and would only add that it is societies perverse inequality with regards to womyn and their sexuality which makes this such a difficult subject to navigate.
I can really speak for anyone else but the simple physiology of having "someone" inside of your body makes the whole experience so much more profound and enjoyable :) | |
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| is Sex a Normal Human Need, or is it simply a Social Treat?
Posted: 1/28/2008 4:34:10 AM | Okay, answering as a 30 year old woman, I would have to say that it is a basic and normal human need. It's been proven in studies that we all need to be touched, that it's healthy for all of us to have human contact for our emotional stability, so therefore, for sex is good for us. Obviously I'm not saying we all need to run out and have sex with strangers to feel good when were not in relationships. But when I am in a relationship I do need to have sex frequently, it's a wonderful stress reliever and a great way to stay connected to someone that you care about. And it just plain feels good, which is why we all think about it so much and look forward to having it.
Society has influenced our brains into thinking it could be viewed as a social treat, but however we feel about it (love it or could leave it) is how we each feel. For me it is a need for me to be wholy satisfied in my life. Without it, yes I can be happy and fine in my life, but when that is added in, that's when I'm happiest pesonally.
So no, your not a perverted loser, unless of course I am too! | |
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Joined: 12/31/2007
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| is Sex a Normal Human Need, or is it simply a Social Treat?
Posted: 1/28/2008 5:52:45 AM | Confucious says: 'One' only needs to die & pass their bowels...........& thats a fact.....Pfft, what does an old China man know anyhow?
Fact is OP, you are definitely a perverted loser........join the club.
Now in reference to your question, NO, sex is not a need.....Yeah, we DESIRE the hell out of it but it is not a NEED, thats why God gave us 2 good hands to utilize in times of NEED. ......Eating, sleeping & drinking however?.....Yeah, we hafta have those in order to keep breathing.
I would though, like to express that 'loving' the one you are having sex with makes a world of difference, hell, even eating, drinking, breathing & sleeping becomes all the more fun when your in love.......ermm, even though she may bug the hell outta you while your doing it. | |
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Posted: 1/28/2008 5:57:43 AM | Sex is not a mandatory need in life,but it's something that we all desire.(disincluding nuns)
People can certainly survive without having sex.
A lof of single people(including me) are living proof that life goes on without sex. | |
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| is Sex a Normal Human Need, or is it simply a Social Treat?
Posted: 1/28/2008 6:15:18 AM |
Sex is not a mandatory need in life,but it's something that we all desire.(disincluding nuns)
People can certainly survive without having sex.
A lof of single people(including me) are living proof that life goes on without sex.
I'm sure it's just me but...........
Isn't sex one of the "biological" needs we have in our make-up to guarantee the existance of the species?Maybe a few individuals could survive but if we all tried it.....
While there are many legal and emotional[once again,biologic]ties to the act we wouldn't get much past another 100 years without it happening.
How do they say that on TV....?Oh Yeah........Myth Busted!! | |
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| is Sex a Normal Human Need, or is it simply a Social Treat?
Posted: 1/28/2008 6:43:54 AM | r90sboxer just said it....without sex our species would die off in the next 80 years and probably sooner as with the population dwindling so would the basic human support of the globe. It's kind of the opposite of population control. If humans started dying off animals would run rampant eventually killing themselves. The Earth's supply of oxygen would increase so much that the atmosphere would break down as there would be no balance of carbon dioxide to ozone.
Sex is a basic human need. But it's not just for procreation and the survival of the planet. Some will argue that it's a want and desire more than anything based on this next statement. Satisfying sex has been medically linked by health professionals and researchers abound as being linked to heart health and reducing the risk of numerous diseases. I know someone's going to chime in here and argue that increased sex ups the ante in terms of STI's but if it's with someone you love there is no risk if they are being faithful as well as you. Dr. Oz, who has become world famous thanks to his working relationship with Oprah Winfrey, has a program for healthy living and in it he states there are 4 basic needs for a healthy life; sustenance, exercise, sleep, and sex. Sex not only makes a person happy but it releases a plethora of chemicals into the body that repair and rebuild damaged tissues, fight off bacteria, and keep the body feeling and working good. Not to mention sex is a natural pain killer as well as an anti-depressant with no side affects, aside from the normal perils of the bedroom, ie. razor burn, rope rash, bruising from excessive sessions, soreness, etc.
This argument will likely end up going to the religious side so I might as well kick it in the pants and get it there. I've had this conversation with numerous people of strong religious conviction and the argument is always the same; they wait until marriage and they are happy and healthy. Well they are waiting based on faith, and they aren't waiting until they die. Once they are married, which by survey studies happens around 21-25 by most accounts, they likely go on to have plenty of sex. It's not about whether waiting a few years equates to busting this myth. It's about how the rest of their lives is impacted by the act.
On another end sexual passion is one of the three conditions necessary for consummate love (intimacy, passion, commitment). I'm sure there is likely a few exceptions to this rule out there but for the most part people NEED sex in a relationship to remain happy. Otherwise what you get is companionate love, and this is much akin to the love you feel for your close friends. So ask yourself if you want a best friend or roommate for the rest of your life or do you want a lover? This should in itself answer this question for you.
I'm going to go on a limb and say I NEED it. I can mentally manage without it for a while and can block the urges out but if I had to wait a year or more I'd be finding just about every woman attractive! If it was just a social treat then we could do away with it. I wouldn't want to see a world void of sexual intimacy!
If liking sex makes a person a pervert and/or a loser, well consider me fcuked up. But I'll hold that title if it means I can have sex still. | |
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Joined: 1/17/2008
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| is Sex a Normal Human Need, or is it simply a Social Treat?
Posted: 1/28/2008 7:02:57 AM | Im with you on this one OP...
So some might call you perverted , hhhmm ( not me)..
What will ppl consider me then?? Pls dont answer this one...
What im trying to say is : We are all different.. some eat more , sleep more, drink more... (we all breathe) ... lol...
As for sex... intimacy... it is one of our "needs" as human beings...
Can't wait to find "my man"...
By now you can tell I'm not happy.... I don't feel "whole" on every level... a big part of "who I am" is lacking....
I know how you feel.. | |
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| is Sex a Normal Human Need, or is it simply a Social Treat?
Posted: 1/28/2008 7:10:19 AM | Dude, I feel your pain. I been with out sex for over 2 years. Is it a need? yes . a lot of people here have made some very good answers, you may want to follow them. n my personal experince it is not as easy just going to get sex. I prefeer to have it with a woman I care for. the most I have ever had by a stranger was a lap dance,, and it just was'nt worth it for me. felt icky.
but when it is woth someone you really love it is worth it everytime. Granted I look at myself as a freak in the bed, but to do it with a stranger is just not my idea of fun. It is a need but not important like food and water.
well I hope this helped | |
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| is Sex a Normal Human Need, or is it simply a Social Treat?
Posted: 1/28/2008 7:24:09 AM | get real sex is a basic human need ...BUT not on the level with eating ,drinking,breathing or even sleeping .... many people do without sex and though they may not be very happy they are alive .. .. dont eat drink or sleep or breathe and you will be dead ....think about what you say ... nothing wrong with wanting sex but not getting it wont kill you ...no matter what you think ... and if you put the same importance on sex that you do things that ARE necessary for continued life .....then maybe you are a pervert ... and if you use that to push your needs on others maybe society would be better off without you ...... so if not getting any makes you want to be dead ...stop eating and drinking or breathing problem will be solved ... sleeping on the other hand is not the same .... go long enough and you will sleep ...but fighting off sleep long enough can kill you also ....not breathing will do it quicker
for the next post... spunglass wanting sex is all well and good but to put it on the same level as living or to think in having to do without it you would be better off dead ...thats on the verge of being sick or obsessed
why would a cool stud be doing without sex ..........wait maybe thats the problem ...maybe its the cool stud attitude thats sending women running ...me thinks
op if you lose the cool stud name and attitude ..you might just get some | |
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| is Sex a Normal Human Need, or is it simply a Social Treat?
Posted: 1/28/2008 7:29:42 AM | | The longer I go without a sexual partner, the more base a need it becomes.... LOL I know that as far as I'm concerned, it's a genuine need in order to feel fulfilled, and emotionally happy on all levels.. Without sex being a part of my life, there is definitely a big part of me 'missing'. | |
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| is Sex a Normal Human Need, or is it simply a Social Treat?
Posted: 1/28/2008 8:20:08 AM | | To separate sexual activity from anyones life would be denying them an innate and essential part of our nature! In order to be fulfilled and complete as a human being we need sexual activity to complete us! So OP it is completely normal to desire sex! | |
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| is Sex a Normal Human Need, or is it simply a Social Treat?
Posted: 1/28/2008 10:04:23 AM | | Sex is a biological imperative programmed in our genetic code. It is not necessary for physical survival of the individual but the drive is rather forceful since procreation is imperative for the survivial of the species. We are (most of us) genetically hardwired to seek out sex. | |
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| is Sex a Normal Human Need, or is it simply a Social Treat?
Posted: 1/28/2008 11:43:31 AM | It's neither a normal human need nor a social treat. It's a form of currency which you use to either get something else you want or give something else for it.
thats like saying i will trade you ten dollars worth of change for a ten dollar bill. | |
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| is Sex a Normal Human Need, or is it simply a Social Treat?
Posted: 1/28/2008 11:45:21 AM | RE: First post.
Well considering the fact that human beings were bumping uglies on a daily basis LONNGGGG before we even HAD societies.... Im going to go with YES... its normal. Hahahahaha. What a silly question. Its also quite silly to compare it to Eating, Drinking, Breathing and Sleeping... you cant live with out those things. You can live without sex. Its not a necessity. Its a desire. | |
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