| What's Most Important in a woman to you?
Posted: 1/29/2008 10:38:20 PM | | I'm wondering what it is that when you meet someone you find to be most appealing about them? What attracts you to them most? I have a guy who says I'm the best woman he's ever met, yet is hesitant to get serious so I'm just curious. thanks | |
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| What's Most Important in a woman to you?
Posted: 1/29/2008 10:48:01 PM | physical atraction is a must for a man. generally is hard for us to still be interested in a woman if we don't feel atracted to her physically.
however, for me that is just part of the package. what good is it for a girl to look good if that is all she got to offer. she must be intelligent and be able to kick ass on her own and if she needs me i will be there for support. aside from looks, i find a woman who is independent, extremely sexy.
perhaps you should just ask him directly why he is giving u the run around. good luck | |
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| What's Most Important in a woman to you?
Posted: 1/29/2008 10:49:39 PM | | I did, and he says I'm his first serious gf, and he's scared. He is scared of me walking away, but I told him why would I. So I'm confused. Am I wrong? | |
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| What's Most Important in a woman to you?
Posted: 1/29/2008 11:03:11 PM | What's Most Important in a woman to you?
ME!
On Topc:
I like a woman to be comfortable enough
in who she is, that she doesn't really worry
over the small things in life. | |
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| What's Most Important in a woman to you?
Posted: 1/29/2008 11:09:26 PM |
He is scared of me walking away, but I told him why would I
Tell him straight up that you "like him and are not going anywhere" if that is how you feel. Don't answer him with a question (Why would I?)
It is hard to pinpoint what good chemistry between a man and a woman is. When the "butterflies" land though, it is overall compatibility and most of all, trust that make things last. | |
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| What's Most Important in a woman to you?
Posted: 1/29/2008 11:13:45 PM |
I'm wondering what it is that when you meet someone you find to be most appealing about them? What attracts you to them most?
What is most appealing for me is a great personality and intelligence that makes me want to spend time with them and get to really know them. Being independent, secure in themself and who they are, and knowing how to have a good time also helps. | |
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| What's Most Important in a woman to you?
Posted: 1/29/2008 11:17:58 PM | | For me it would have to be our chemistry/connection. If we hit it off, then great. If not, there's nothing wrong with being friends | |
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| What's Most Important in a woman to you?
Posted: 1/29/2008 11:39:54 PM | | Ok so what smell is ur favorite then? for me a guy who smells good is a turn on, but with the guy I am trying to work it out with he always smells like clean clothes which for some odd reason is a turn on. Am I odd? lol | |
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| What's Most Important in a woman to you?
Posted: 1/29/2008 11:46:02 PM | There is no certain smell that is my favourite. I know it when I smell her. Blame my VNO
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Vomeronasal_organ
If a girl smells good, she'd smell like the human equivalent of a warm gooey sticky cinnamon bun. She'd smell like a mixture of Vanilla and Cinnamon but not quite either. | |
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| What's Most Important in a woman to you?
Posted: 1/29/2008 11:58:25 PM | *obviously* i'm not a guy...but just my 2cents about your guy being scared of you "walking away"...that's normal i think. i mean, even my bestfriend barely takes any girl seriously. he didn't take this one girl seriously...but then when she left, he realized how much he loved her...lol! anywho...
the guy i'm dating have dated other girls. he fuckked around (starting at the age of 13) and he's taken 3 other girls seriously...as in in a relationship. the one before me was the one he really took seriously. he said he saw himself marry her. he said he basically tried to make everything work cuz in his mind, she's "the one". there were crazy differences and his friends didn't even like her that much...yet he stuck with her...yara yara...they broke up and she was mean enough to not only break-up with him. she fully bashed him and told him he's just not good enough and will never succeed in life. my bf really took that to heart.
for the friggin LONGEST TIME, he had this "wall". he kept thinking i'm going to do the same, that i'll leave him (cuz we both had/have him as our 2nd bf, and we both are more ahead in education and what nots...basically, we're similar in certain things). but ya, he argued that she would even play scrabble with his entire family before...he just fully pictured her as his wifey to be. he was all paranoid of taking me seriously ...well, he took me seriously in a sense that we're exclusive, but he always admitted he has a wall and will never love the same way again cuz it just hurts too much. it sucks, but whatever, i stick around. now he's pretty comfy with me in a sense that if anything, he's now saying that he's scared of losing me...basically...*fort is down*. we've broken up and gone back together and it's only until recently (we're now almost 2 yrs) that he managed to "trust" me...or so i think...*tandandannnn...lol!
the point to that is, some guys just take time. it' s not about not appreciating you. you have to understand where he's coming from. atleast he's being honest and not feeding you with, "i love you now and for always". unless...well...unless he meant not serious and by that, he can still sleep around with others. with that...let him go. | |
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| What's Most Important in a woman to you?
Posted: 1/30/2008 12:04:38 AM | | I know he has been through a lot of crappy women, and not only women but people he cared about have left his life in one way or another. I am really trying to work through it all with him. I get frustrated, and obviously I care or I wouldnt be trying. I see a lot in him that he doesnt see in himself. He is an amazing man, and I am so glad he came into my life. I just wish he was a bit more trusting of me. I am nothing like the women of his past, and he admits that. I hope one day he will just calm down, and let his wall down. | |
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| What's Most Important in a woman to you?
Posted: 1/30/2008 12:24:13 AM | Well if he says you are the best woman he has ever met, then he is crazy not to get serious.
As for me, I have to consider her attractive......and she cannot be crazy. Have had too many encounters with crazy women. | |
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| What's Most Important in a woman to you?
Posted: 1/30/2008 12:26:16 AM | | ty guyonline. I think ur right. We met on here in july, been together since so if I havent left yet, I dont think I will run anytime soon. | |
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| What's Most Important in a woman to you?
Posted: 1/30/2008 12:32:30 AM | For us guys we have to be physically attracted. If we are not, it won't work as far as a romantic relationship.
Aside from that I look for people who have a positive and energetic attitude. I also look for women who are goal oriented who are constantly looking to improve themselves and their situation in life. They are happy with their lives and who dream and work to achieve their dreams. I know a tall task but hey what is life if it isn't a challenge! | |
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| What's Most Important in a woman to you?
Posted: 1/30/2008 7:12:07 AM |
and she cannot be crazy. Have had too many encounters with crazy women
I know that story.
Fortunately the nice ones have made up for the psychos.
I'm sure women could tell the same story. | |
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| What's Most Important in a woman to you?
Posted: 1/30/2008 9:41:41 AM | OP are you trying to fish for a new man instead of listening to what people have advised you?
-Quit talking to him about the relationship and be IN the relationship
-Don't pressure him... go with the flow and have some fricken fun
-Quit being obsessed with him being scared and be a big girl and make a decision you're either gonna waite it out and be there the best you can be or walk away and cut your losses!
I've already suggested the book called light his fire. | |
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| What's Most Important in a woman to you?
Posted: 1/30/2008 10:03:12 AM | | OP: When words and actions conflict, then ignore his words. Ignore what he says and just go by what he does? You won't be confused for long, but you may not like the answer. Reality is tough task mistress. | |
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| What's Most Important in a woman to you?
Posted: 1/30/2008 10:58:15 AM | That if I ask her a question... that she at least makes SOME attempt to ANSWER it, even a lame one. I have noticed an "unsettling" tendency at Fish. This is VERY apparent at the Forums in particular. I [or many other guys also] can ask a question and 20 ladies MAY respond but only 4 or 5 will actually make an attempt to answer. Rather STRANGE don't you think? It is almost like they think that if they make enough lame a** remarks, men are going to break their fingers in a mad rush to email them. All I can do is is shake my head and smile. I do a lot of smiling at the Forums...
THe ladies that can/will actually READ and ANSWER? Priceless!!! Probably the same kind of lady that can LISTEN!
Good Question. | |
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