| One night stands??
Posted: 1/31/2008 4:02:34 PM | Ok so first I want to point out I KNEW what I was getting myself into.
I went away for a week and met a guy that I was really into and he was into me. So one the last night we went out for diner and had a few drinks. I knew where it was going and so did he and maybe I shouldn't have let it get as far as it did seens how he's married (no judgments please) but I really liked him. So I had a few too many and we fooled around alot. I got really close to passing out and he stopped what he was doing, jumped in a cold shower with me, held my hair up while I threw up and rubbed my back ever so gently. He sat with me for a long time to make sure I was okay and when I started to get better he tucked me in, turned up my heat and left. I saw him the next morning and we had breakfast. I felt really bad and am mad at myself for getting drunk. Now I can't seem to stop thinking about him.
How do you deal with one night stands, before or after the fact? | |
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| One night stands??
Posted: 1/31/2008 4:18:35 PM | The best way to deal with it.......Just Say No!
Especially with a married man???? I am sorry, you asked for no judgements but you slept with another womans man  What is up with you women that have absolutely NO RESPECT for yourself or for the wife that is at home??? Please explain this philosophy to me because I just don't get it.
You want to have one night stands? Go for it, but how about making a deal with yourself not to drag the married mans wife, children, and family in between the sheets with you to get your rocks off! Don't get me wrong, the married man is just as much to blame, but maybe if more women thought about having respect for each other, less married men would get away with their crap! 
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Posted: 1/31/2008 4:19:39 PM | What do you mean deal with it?
Before? There is nothing to deal with. Hasn't happend yet.
After? In what respect? I don't follow your thread here. You talk about not being able to stop thinking about him. Would you not be thinking about him if you hadn't had a one nighter?
If this question was only about how to deal with a one night stand why all the details?
I think you need to prepare yourself for some judgement here. You didn't have to include that he is married or the throwing up and all that. The more I think about it I'm starting to wonder if this is an attention thread? Correct me if I'm wrong. | |
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Posted: 1/31/2008 4:23:34 PM | turned up my heat and left
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OK,, are we reading between the lines here or you just don't want to say it was the best sex you ever had ?????? If thats a yes ..???
when little wifie finds out,, Takes everything they have ,,, There's a good chance his perker won't be quit so hard when he looks at you ....
If it's a no ...
You didn't have a one nightstand ! ! | |
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Posted: 1/31/2008 4:25:23 PM | What's done is done and it's over now. You can't stop thinking about him because you choose to dwell on this.
Just start counting your blessings that when you got so loaded you puked, this guy didn't rape you or kill you or beat the hell out of you or invite 4 of his friends over.
And hope you (or his wife) don't have a disease now. | |
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Posted: 1/31/2008 4:28:04 PM | | not judging you...just stating an opinion...first you shut off all contact with him....as in block any future calls...then you sit around and feel bad and lonely...and then imagine how you would feel if it were you who was the wife....I can assure you...you do not begin to hurt like you may have hurt someone else.... | |
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Posted: 1/31/2008 4:29:42 PM | | Hmmmmm ...Thinking this chick.. needs to read her own profile | |
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Posted: 1/31/2008 4:36:27 PM | | Shame shame! you slept with another woman's man... like there aren't plenty of single men to date or sleep with..Do unto others as you want done to you... would you like some woman to sleep with your husband ? A woman can say no and the man will respect her wishes.... then again some married man cheat , so why encourages them? just my way of thinking.. | |
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Posted: 1/31/2008 4:42:02 PM | | I tried one night stands, but my feelings and morals just didnt agree with it.. its only for some people i guess.. | |
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Posted: 1/31/2008 4:43:01 PM |
I went away for a week and met a guy that I was really into and he was into me. So one the last night we went out for diner and had a few drinks. I knew where it was going and so did he and maybe I shouldn't have let it get as far as it did seens how he's married (no judgments please) but I really liked him.
You WILL be judged when you post that you set out to meet a guy you knew was married. Whether you slept with him or not.
I have no pity for you. I hope that you are tortured for months and that it eats at you every day to know that he is going to bed with his wife every night and not you.
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Posted: 1/31/2008 4:43:22 PM | | just keep reminding yourself he mis not thinking of you...or wait..might that be the reason why you cant stop thinking of him. | |
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Posted: 1/31/2008 4:47:04 PM | iam all for them.
have the fun then leave them.
as long as one or both DONT get emotionally involved then iam all for a night or day of fun. | |
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Posted: 1/31/2008 4:48:50 PM | It's not an attention thread, we didn't have sex. I meant he turned up the heat in the room because I was cold.
I put all the details in because I'm young stuid and this was the first time I'd EVER done anything like this. And no I'm not proud of myself (yes I feel terrible about what I did with this womans husband)
But its left me with very strong feelings because I've never had anyone care for me so lovingly before, I'm not saying that for attention either I'm just trying to be truthful. I've never felt this way. After a few days of group work and going for lunch it was like I'd known him my whole life. We just clicked and that's not justification. Maybe I worded this thread wrong I haven't been doing this for very long and haven't posted that many times. I was sure I wouldn't be the only one who's ever had a one night stand and was just looking for some advice and yes, I deserve to have some judgement and bad words and if that's all I get well that's life I guess. | |
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Posted: 1/31/2008 4:51:21 PM | You WILL be judged when you post that you set out to meet a guy you knew was married. Whether you slept with him or not.
I have no pity for you. I hope that you are tortured for months and that it eats at you every day to know that he is going to bed with his wife every night and not you.
ok now.how much distain do you have for him? | |
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| One night stands??
Posted: 1/31/2008 4:53:32 PM | I wouldn't feel bad about it. Sometimes marriages fizzle. Maybe the wifey isn't putting out. The marriage probably should be over anyway.
As for it being a one night stand. We are humans. We need sex. | |
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Posted: 1/31/2008 5:03:00 PM | You said: But its left me with very strong feelings because I've never had anyone care for me so lovingly before....
You are confusing a married mans excitement about having someone to have sex with and a real available man's desire to care about you and make love with you. This man only cared about what he could GET from you. You are not thinking straight. This is a man who was willing to be unfaithful to his wife and his vows. Are you really ...REALLY that diluded into thinking this is someone who cares for YOU??????
lol...he has a wife, maybe kids....and you think his token holding your hair up in the shower while you puked trumps the vows he made to his wife?
You're kidding yourself.
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Posted: 1/31/2008 5:05:38 PM | Don't beat yourself up. Most people, if not all on this thread have done something sexually that they really wouldn't want anyone else to know. You should've just asked the opinions about the one night stand and left out the married thing.  | |
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Posted: 1/31/2008 5:11:26 PM | Okay, so maybe you didn't have actual penetration (only you & Bill Clinton will ever REALLY know for sure) However, you still had your PAWS on a married man and now you can't "stop thinking about him"  You can bet that you have NOT crossed his mind at all, probably about as much as his WIFE crossed his mind while he was trying to get LAID.
Don't kid yourself, this guy had no more thought/respect for you than you had for yourself or his wife....ZERO, ZILCH, NONE!
Stop feeling sorry for yourself because you can't "stop thinking about him".....Imagine how his wife will be thinking about you for the REST of her life and SHE didn't get a choice in the "game" | |
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Posted: 1/31/2008 5:20:29 PM | you did not have a " one night stand"
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I've never had anyone care for me so lovingly before
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yes you have,,,,,,,,had this before ,, don't kid yourself...
there an old saying,,, You will lose that person,, The same why you got them ....
so go it.... cause he will be cheating on you ,,,,,, count on it . don't beat yourself about this,,,,,, take it as a lesson of life ... | |
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Posted: 1/31/2008 5:21:20 PM | ok now.how much distain do you have for him?
Equal. A whole lot of adjectives come to mind that suit both of them.
None of which I can post here.
Edit: The thread title is misleading. This isn't about one night stands at all. | |
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Posted: 1/31/2008 5:30:12 PM | Amen!!!! to all the folks that find this disgusting.
If the shoe were on the other foot ladies, or gentlemen, how would we like it? I have had it happen to me (I caught him and my best friend) and I was flaming mad | |
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Posted: 1/31/2008 5:32:05 PM | cat is right,,, this sounds more like cheating ... rather than the ol one nighter
In which case,, you being my wife.... I found out... you would be out the door
I have very loose views about sex,,, untill it comes to cheating.... then your ass is looking for about Box to sleep in
Don't bother reading my profile,,, I'am only here for the SEX  | |
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Posted: 1/31/2008 5:34:13 PM | Edit: The thread title is misleading. This isn't about one night stands at all.
yip.its a thread about feeling bad.alrighty then. | |
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Posted: 1/31/2008 5:36:39 PM | The word Hypocrite comes to mind. In your profile you say you're looking for an honest man. But then you freely choose to engage in dishonesty with another dishonest person. If you, yourself, cannot be honest, then IMHO you don't deserve one. I totally agree with 'ohellyes' who says "Hmmmmm ...Thinking this chick.. needs to read her own profile"
An honest woman should have an honest man. But clearly you are not. Leave the honest men for women who are also honest.
Enjoy your fling.
And remove the "honesty" part from your profile. | |
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Posted: 1/31/2008 5:38:35 PM | its a thread about feeling bad.alrighty then.
The only thing she's feeling bad about is that she wants him and he's married. I doubt VERY much that she regrets the night. After all, he's the ONLY one that's ever treated her with such tenderness. (Yeehaw someone held my hair while I barfed my drunken guts out! THAT'S THE MAN FOR ME!!!)
She wants him.
There's no guilt. | |
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