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Posted: 2/1/2008 12:59:34 PM | whats with POF now days .... i have been on and off pof for a long time ...and most of it has been just for the forums .... but here recently i have noticed that the number of young women have been increasing i mean 18 and 19 year olds ..... and beautiful also ... now from being around my daughter and her friends i know girls this age and looks ...have no problem getting dates ...i have thought of getting a switch board operator to handle the calls at the house from boys .... and until recently i haven't saw this ... there have always been young guys but they were mostly shy or just trying to get laid ... are these girls just playing or divvying for attention ? just a thought... most have huge numbers of favorites... or is it possible some of them are not even real
are we being infiltrated by the same ones that spam our email?
these girls even participate in forums but i somehow get the feeling maybe there is a room full of them laughing at us taking this seriously | |
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Posted: 2/1/2008 1:13:32 PM | "there have always been young guys but they were mostly shy or just trying to get laid"
This may be true in regards to the girls as well. It might be easier to have intimate encounters via POF rather than be labelled a sl*t in "their world"
Maybe they are looking for sugardaddies.
Or they're just looking for older men. What are the chances she "rolls with" a much older crowd? Maybe she doens't want to date the "immature" guys her age. I'm pretty sure it would be a lot easier for an 18 year old girl to hit on a 28 yr old man on POF than when she's walking through the mall. And if an 18 yr old girls has limited restrictions on who can and can't msg her on POF, a guy much older than her is more likely to "chat her up" than he would in the real world. She might find it "creepy" in the real world but may love the attention she gets online.
I dunno. I'm just throwing it out there. | |
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Posted: 2/1/2008 1:16:47 PM | yea i dont know either i just noticed it.... and other than casual talk i would feel like it was taboo for me to even talk to them....
kavana girls your age are growing tired of the games and have been common on here but 18 year olds use to be rare on pof
the girls im talking about dont come off as shy ..in any sense or the word...i have sene the occasional young girl that you think would fit this mold ...but the ones im talking about have mostly glamor shots as pictures | |
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Posted: 2/1/2008 1:21:26 PM | I hear what you're sayin but at the same time, they are like any other female whether 25 or 50...if they're not interested, then they're not interested and are not obligated to chat with you if they don't want.
If they have a problem with who contacts them, they can choose who can and can't msg them by setting age restrictions for example. And as long as they aren't "playing ames" as well, there should be no harm done.............my only concern is I hope to God they are actually how old they say they are and not younger  | |
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Posted: 2/1/2008 1:28:21 PM | Young people in general seem to value attention from others more than anything, and in special from people they don't even know.
Look at that site I can't mention where they put up photos and spill their whole life and collect friends like homeless people collect cans.
Look at them almost crying because "she has more "friends" than I have...bobhooo"
They actually place value on having a large network of "friends" that they will never meet, never have a ordinary conversation with.
This is to a lot of young people more important than education, getting a good job and have a nice social network in real life.
Sitting at home in front of the computer trying to get attention is more important.
It's a constant battle for them, the competition is rough.......so they try every venue they can and the more provocative photos, the more attention, misplaced as it is. This site is just one more place to be seen.
When I was young it was unheard of not being able to find a bf/gf in your own social network, using that as en excuse for being here is so see-through, they are not looking for that, they want attention.
Good news is that it makes it easier for the more grounded young people to get ahead in life. | |
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Posted: 2/1/2008 1:35:44 PM | | yea that was another thought i had they might actually be a group oe 14 year olds chatting with us and laughing anyway this might not have been a good thread but i just found it believable that some of them would be better fit for the m_ space site | |
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Posted: 2/1/2008 1:48:00 PM | | Honestly I'm not worried about the "kids" on this site or others. If they wanna laugh, let em laugh. I'm a big boy and they aren't going to hurt me. | |
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Posted: 2/1/2008 1:48:16 PM | | theres young women and men on here....all for different reasons...some people are really getting into discussion boards and forums just cause its more like you get a chance to see other different views on issues and the type of things that get to everyday people. i wouldn't worry about it much...cause if one of them pokes fun at you well then there only on here to feed of others self esteem or whats left of it...asking questons like why am i being treated this way or something is pretty silly though when the answer is right in there question....though everyone has asked those type of questions before lol | |
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Posted: 2/1/2008 2:10:01 PM |
This is to a lot of young people more important than education, getting a good job and have a nice social network in real life
I can't speak of every 'young' person out there - but I'm definitely going to speak up on behalf of myself!
I work full time (mon-fri 9-6) and I go to university full time (mon-thurs 7-10pm and one distant education course). I have plenty of friends that I adore spending time with, and have created a nice social network of people I value a lot.
That being said, I don't have a lot of free time obviously, and would prefer not to date within my social circle of friends (as we all know how messy that can get!) I also prefer to date older.
I'm not a partier and I don't frequent bars (or clubs!). So short of approaching someone in my female-dominated classes or picking up a 'groupie' while playing a show - It does prove quite difficult to find someone suitable to date. I am definitely not lacking in attention - and do in fact get a lot of male attention in my day to day life. Just because I choose not to date the people giving me that attention does not mean I'm online simply to troll for even more attention!
So in short - this 'young' (and I use that term loosely, since I don't consider myself young in mind or spirit) person is on here to perhaps meet someone a little more on her level! :)
*end rant* | |
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Posted: 2/1/2008 3:17:21 PM | | lsotinyou, you said it!! | |
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Posted: 2/1/2008 6:32:01 PM | maybe some young girls are here, like myself because they enjoy forums.( the reason i intentionally signed onto the bandwagon)
or perhaps, just to dip their feet into the pool and see whats goin on in this site. i was curious, i have no problem getting a date if i'd late and not too intreasted in anything but just figured i'd see whats up. | |
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Posted: 2/1/2008 6:38:31 PM | | I am 21, not far from 18 or 19. I can see why they are on this site though. I don't have any problem getting dates. Its the quality of men that are asking me out that I have a problem with. People I used to work with, bad hygeine, alcoholics, drug addicts. Its just much nicer on this website because I have more options to choose from. | |
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Posted: 2/1/2008 7:24:08 PM | | I just turned 22, and I always dislike a dude hitting on me while I'm getting my gas or groceries -- I like to read what someone has to say, see how they turn a phrase, how they spell, what they think -- and then I'll have some coffee with them perhaps :) | |
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Posted: 2/1/2008 7:54:21 PM | Personally, I'm very happy that there are so many young people on this site. It'd be boring with just us "old" folks and it would get stagnant real quick.....me thinks anyway.
When I read an intelligent well thought out post written by a young person on the forums, it tends to give me hope for the future.
I'm often amazed at the wisdom I see coming from some of them, and I often have to double check their age on their profile to make sure I saw it right the first time.
And as far as them being on here looking for a date, I think that this is just one more avenue for them to meet people, that's all. I mean, most kids of today grew up on the Internet, so for them this is just one more account on one more site.
I imagine that my own granddaughter will probably have an account on here in...what....4 years?
OMG!!!! WHA WHA WHA!!!! (  ) Now there's a disturbing thought...haha!! Dang!!
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Posted: 2/1/2008 8:23:58 PM | I think some of it is because of the availability of the Internet. When I was that age, computers weren't as common in the home. I really had no use for one. On the other hand, I was a hermit and never really went looking for guys or dates.
I think being a hermit when younger made people wonder about me. Then they'd get to know me and discover that I was a geek that could quite literally spend every day of my life with my nose in a book and be happy.....which bored them....so they'd leave. So, I got dates more by lack of contact with the world. | |
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Posted: 2/1/2008 9:52:37 PM | Oh oldsoul how well put. When i was 18 i never thought i would be almost 50 on a darn dating site. Will wonders never cease. Awwhh the ever changing universe.  | |
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Posted: 2/2/2008 12:41:50 AM |
these girls even participate in forums but i somehow get the feeling maybe there is a room full of them laughing at us taking this seriously
Never really thought about it - just figured there were all ages here
As for them in a room laughing - like someone else said, I don't really care about what kids are doing | |
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Posted: 2/2/2008 3:19:24 AM | | well i just turned 20..so I'm still in that younger age group..and I'm on here because i work two full time jobs..i really don't have a chance to meet anyone. | |
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Posted: 2/2/2008 4:35:03 PM | whats with POF now days ***here recently i have noticed that the number of young women have been increasing i mean 18 and 19 year olds ..... and beautiful also ... now from being around my daughter and her friends i know girls this age and looks ...have no problem getting dates ***there have always been young guys but they were mostly shy or just trying to get laid...
DearDog, we can meet 20 guys in a day. The problem is finding a guy we want to date. POF is free and another way to meet a desirable guy.
Also, if more young girls are on POF, that will attact more young guys to POF. And, that is good because there are far too many older guys--guys over 27. | |
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Posted: 2/2/2008 9:48:08 PM | these girls even participate in forums but i somehow get the feeling maybe there is a room full of them laughing at us taking this seriously
I'm not here to get the opinions of 20 year olds specifically.
Been there and had a few of my own.
Now I have a daughter near that age that freely offers me her's..
If I were 20 I'd love these forums so that I could know that people make the same mistakes, have the same wants, have the same insecurities and have the experience of EXPERIENCE that make them worthy of a listen. That no matter how old you are, relationships are still an uncharted mystery to many of us and anyone that's mapped out a path worth sharing is worth listening to.
No matter how old they are.
I didn't have that.
My parents were married when they were young, are together to this day and as good of friends as they both are are can not provide me with peer input — they haven't BEEN there.
Who cares how old people are?
The responses are what matter.
I don't click profiles to find out the age of the respondent.
The response tells me all I need to know. | |
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Posted: 2/2/2008 9:52:55 PM | Deerdog
Why dont you do a study for us.
Write to the next 25 you see....see what you get back. Publish the results here...
I did this earlier this month with the "write to a man and say just two words and see your rate of response" thing....
I have my theories ...which are PURELY borne of logic....about your beautiful 18 and 19 year olds....but I'd love to see what would hap[pen in actual reality.
So...write to them and let us know please.
Inquiring minds want to know. | |
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Posted: 2/3/2008 2:44:36 AM | Well I have been online for over a decade now, before dating sites existed...ooh how embarassing. That ages me.
Back when I was 17 I was online pulling dates because I was extremely unpopular in highschool no boys looked at me so I had very low self-esteem. So even when I did lose weight and became quite attractive I never really did believe it myself, or that someone would actually want to date me...hence went to chatting online.
I believe that there is a population of young women who are on here for that reason whether they realize it or not. | |
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Posted: 2/3/2008 2:49:47 AM | Well im 24 and a single mum so find it hard to get out and meet new people. I run a parenting forum so use the internet a fair bit so internet dating isnt too far removed from that.
As for teenagers i do wonder what they get out of the internet because there is so much to see and do out there beyond the computer. | |
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Posted: 2/3/2008 8:52:57 AM | Wow...."Hearding"......your best post ever!!!! My thoughts exactly.  | |
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Posted: 2/3/2008 11:44:21 AM | Maybe they've just gotten tired of the myspace experience and are interested in seeing what a so-called adult (in relative terms) dating site is all about.
Clearly more research is called for.
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