| what's an appropriate age differential?
Posted: 2/1/2008 11:21:57 PM | | Has anyone on here been approached by someone more than twice their age? And if so, what did you do about it? Were you comfortable with the situation, or did you just let it fly by? And by approached I mean genuine interest.... | |
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| what's an appropriate age differential?
Posted: 2/1/2008 11:40:35 PM | Umm, no, because that would make them 92. And most 92 year olds don't have a computer.
That being said, I am constantly approached by men on both ends of the inappropriate age spectrum, I am not going to go much more than 6 years either way. To the younger, because my oldest kid is 22, and I would like to date someone closer to my age, than to my kids age...and older than that, because with my energy level, I just might do him in. Unintentionally of course. | |
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| what's an appropriate age differential?
Posted: 2/1/2008 11:49:18 PM | I recently went out with someone 10 years older... I thought it went well and would've liked to have seen him again. I must've been mistaken since I haven't heard from him.
Younger I would go 8 years, not any younger than that though.
I haven't been approached by someone twice my age, anyone that age is most likely in a nursing home or on their way there. | |
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Posted: 2/2/2008 12:10:24 AM | This is true... those guys have one foot in the grave.
Actually I might consider dating a 90 year old, if he was rich and I didn't have to have sex with him and he was on the verge of death with no dependents. I changed my mind I would date someone twice my age but they would have to meet certain criteria before hand. | |
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| what's an appropriate age differential?
Posted: 2/2/2008 12:26:59 AM | | Twice my age no, they're dead. But ever since I turned 40 I have been approached by people half my age or more. I wouldn't say no to anyone if they had a personality that I liked. | |
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| what's an appropriate age differential?
Posted: 2/2/2008 12:48:38 AM | as yummy and tempting as youngsters can be, I just don't go down that road. there has to be some common ground to hold my interest. plus, I wouldn't want to be confused for their mother while out on a date.
I've met men my age that were 'too old', and men younger that were 'too old', I like a man to be young at heart, but not a fool pretending to be a young man. | |
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Posted: 2/2/2008 3:52:02 AM | | Not anyone twice my age. The closet in age came from a woman who was 27 at the time, I was 19, I didn't pursue because of thing..... I didn't have my drivers lliscense. I doubt women 3 yrs older than me would be interested in me. But you never know. | |
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| what's an appropriate age differential?
Posted: 2/2/2008 7:25:29 AM | | Right there with you Mom and QT, twice my age would be scary,and although being a MILF might be flattering, it just doesn't do it for me. I would probably consider 10 years older, but really not more than 5 years younger. | |
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| what's an appropriate age differential?
Posted: 2/2/2008 9:03:34 AM | On being a MILF:
There are two words I do not want to put together under any circumstances.... And those two are "mom" and "fcuk."
While I do realize that is how I got to be mom, sexualizing motherhood? Not so much... Euw.
I find that whole idea rather distasteful. | |
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| what's an appropriate age differential?
Posted: 2/2/2008 9:40:29 AM | I can go 10 years in either direction. I have a 35 year old friend who really has it together, and a 65 year old friend who is fun and young at heart, and know some guys my own age and older who are walking train wrecks. It all depends on the individual.
I received an email last night from a 20 year old who wanted to be my "friend". Obviously, I told him no and wished him well because I ain't going there.  I would also not go for a 90 year old....my own dad would have been 88. No thank you. | |
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| what's an appropriate age differential?
Posted: 2/2/2008 10:05:42 AM | | When I started on POF, I set my limits at a few years up and a few years down....but since I have found that nice dating-friendships can come from people with much different ages than that (although a decade seems 'safe' somehow to me as a limit...but that's probably my own comfort zone more than anything else). However, I will say though that I still have not figured out if there is a differential limit for LTR's. I would think that it's unique for each couple. | |
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| what's an appropriate age differential?
Posted: 2/2/2008 10:53:18 AM | | I have some friends who are 11 years apart. Her husband was 30 when she met him and she was only 19, she didn't know he was that much older. He didn't tell her and it didn't come up or perhaps he didn't realize she didn't know. They ended up moving in together just a few months after meeting. He had custody of two toddlers so she became an instant mom and then went on to have two more. They have been married over 30 years now. So sometimes an age difference of 10+ years doesn't matter. | |
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Posted: 2/2/2008 12:45:53 PM | I have also been messaged/IM'd by 20 somethings! But I also will not go there because of family members around that age and just can't do it...
But my dating history has been with 10 year age difference, young or old! I think it's all about the maturity of the person. Some of the 10 years older have acted like they were much younger than myself. So there you go.
A funny story, I was walking to my car after work one evening. At that time I was working at a prominent University and young kids would skateboard all over campus. Well, this young boy had to be about 13-14 and he asked me if he could have my digits (phone #)? I had a good laff and told him I would if he were only 20 years older!!! | |
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| what's an appropriate age differential?
Posted: 2/2/2008 3:50:37 PM | | I had the opposite, someone half my age, but I just could not see seriously dating someone who's just legal. I admit, I flirted with the idea and him, but that's about as far as it got. I've dated a guy 8 years younger and I think that's about the lower limit. I have quite a few friends who are 10-15 years older, but just never dated anyone more than 2 years older than me. Perhaps I've just never met the right older man. | |
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| what's an appropriate age differential?
Posted: 2/2/2008 8:32:09 PM |
Sorry but I don't go out with centenarians. No offense to you centenarians out there, mind you. Just not my preference.
Now if some hot 40-something woman came along then... 
BTW - Not to go off-topic but...ahem...I can't figure out what this (see below) is s'pose to be. Is it what I think it is? Momi will know, I hope. Looks like a toy to me but I could be wrong. Is it just me?
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| what's an appropriate age differential?
Posted: 2/4/2008 9:38:44 PM |
Actually I might consider dating a 90 year old, if he was rich and I didn't have to have sex with him and he was on the verge of death with no dependents. I changed my mind I would date someone twice my age but they would have to meet certain criteria before hand.
grneye, you didn't happen to have a sister by the name of Anna Nichol by any chance ? ~  | |
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Posted: 2/5/2008 11:42:29 AM | The biggest age difference for me previously was 7 years my senior-sad part is that he was even more immature than people normally seven years my junior.
As soon as I turned 30, it seemed like every 21 year old within a 50 mile radius started looking for their modern "Mrs. Robinson" or something.
Would I date someone twice my age? Not likely unless he had no heirs, and a big, fat life insurance policy with my name written all over it...
I gotta draw the line at dudes older than my parents. | |
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Posted: 2/5/2008 3:12:08 PM | My largest age difference was 16 years.
The was a great lady, but we were just going in two different directions. But it was fun while it lasted. | |
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Posted: 2/5/2008 3:51:29 PM | i get messaged by too old plenty - the appearance means more than the number-
but the too young thing doesnt exist- well over 18 of course... but i dont have teens throwing themselves at me anyhow heheh | |
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Posted: 2/5/2008 5:05:57 PM | The answers I'm seeing can be mostly narrowed to my answer, which is that it depends on the individual. I have dated a woman 14 years older than I...but she had the maturity of a 14-year-old. I was with a woman 10 years older for almost 15 years.
However, I have met sub-30-year-olds that I would say are mature enough to date.
Whether younger women have any interest at all in me is another question altogether...I've only had one case of someone much younger (17 years) being interested, and she is great but not someone I am interested in more than friendship with.
So, I try to ignore the number and focus on the person. | |
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| what's an appropriate age differential?
Posted: 2/5/2008 7:51:32 PM | Well I try to keep an open mind, I have dated someone 24 yrs younger than me, and actually we got along well, OK for dating, but LTR, I don't think so. I have to say I am surprised how many men 15 yrs younger than me are interested, but are they looking for a Sugar Mama or what--OK I know what.
Have to say I am most comfortable with a 7+ or a 10- range. You never know what will happen though, so never say never.
No one more than 10 yrs older than me has approached me. It would be great to find someone near my own age, if only he could keep up with me! | |
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| what's an appropriate age differential?
Posted: 7/17/2009 9:38:44 PM | Since I dated a 28 year old this year and I am 46 I am going to go with 19 years so I feel less like a french man or Roman Polanski. This is not something that has an answer, it can be right at 25 years and wrong at 5 (try 20 year old and a 15 year old if you don't believe me), it depends on the people, the maturity level, and the motivations.
Thanks folks I am done! | |
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