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Posted: 2/6/2008 1:44:17 PM | | As I roam through these profiles, I find quite a few where women describe themselves as "classy". It has always been my understanding that those who are classy would never attribute that adjective to themselves. Part of being classy is being understated and a truly classy individual would prefer to earn that distinction. In general, I find it troubling that people use value judgments in their self-descriptions . I tend to mistrust those hollow recommendations. It is particularly the case with the designation "classy". Comments? | |
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Posted: 2/6/2008 1:47:50 PM | It's the same as attractive, smart, nice, or anything else that others should be the judge of.
If you have to say you are, you probably aren't - if you were you wouldn't worry who knew about it. | |
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Posted: 2/6/2008 1:56:15 PM | I think it's a rather meaningless descriptor. A bit like stating that you have a good sense of humour! We ALL think we have a good sense of humour, so it really is a redundant piece of information. What matters is.....whether your sense of humour is compatible with mine!
Classy is a bit of an odd one really. I suspect that the person who wrote that wants what she considers to be a classy mate, or perhaps she has been told that she ISN'T classy in the past and is posting as a form of validation.
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Posted: 2/6/2008 2:33:37 PM |
If you have to say you are, you probably aren't - if you were you wouldn't worry who knew about it.
I agree.
Another definition might include not subjecting people to pictures that burn a horrible image into their brains.
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Posted: 2/6/2008 3:00:23 PM | My Grandmother always said "Those that use that word regarding themselves usually have very little."
I have found that to be true. | |
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Posted: 2/6/2008 3:04:48 PM | At least I am honest in mine... I am ugly, stupid and boring  | |
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Posted: 2/6/2008 4:52:00 PM | There are some qualities that I have yet to truly grasp the meaning of and this is one of them. I hear it used often to describe people and the first thought that pops into my head is " what do they mean by that?". I truly don't know; I have heard men talk about wanting a classy woman in one breath and then realize what they really mean is they want a woman who wears high heels to bed. I have seen women who appear to be classy cuss a blue street and spit on sidewalks. Is it in appearance, dress, or is it mannerisms, language, or maybe something even more subtle? And, if it's so subtle, how does a person know they are even doing it?
I would never use that word to describe myself because, again, I am kinda unsure of what is meant by it. I certainly know I am "graceless" and therefore probably "classless" as well, but, for starters, I would think anyone who describes themselves as "classy" is probably the farthest thing from it. | |
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Posted: 2/6/2008 5:04:04 PM | What if she said she's a classy sassy??? | |
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Posted: 2/6/2008 8:28:26 PM | I will translate for you, it is an airhead bimbo who dresses nicely, trying to reassure people she is not a cheap quick lay..... be sympathetic this person IS, at least trying very hard to not be treated as chewing gum...
I agree the genuinely classy, would have no need to describe themselves as such, she is trying to weed out the derros...be kind. | |
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Posted: 2/6/2008 10:04:44 PM | Anyone can fake it for a while. But my definition of true class is different than what a lot of the men and women seem to mean when they're describing themselves.
A man will say he has class because he owns cuff links and more than one suit and remembers to open doors and pull out chairs. He might even get his nails buffed! Oh MY! But how does he react under stress? How does he treat other men and women and children and dogs and critters? Does he have empathy? Is he self centered?
Likewise a woman that thinks going from jeans to an evening gown makes her classy. Ooo whoop de do! I'm in a dress! I own pearls! I drink martinis! I'm classy!
Nuh uh.
Class is like chivalry — It's who you are, not the mask you wear to make an impression. | |
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Posted: 2/6/2008 11:06:35 PM | "Classy": I imagine a guy wearing a black shirt, black pants, white belt and white shoes. He has a thick gold chain around his neck and a diamond pinky ring. He may speak with a Joisey accent and reeks of cologne. He may sell used cars or cheap furniture. "Classy" is how he describes his ideal babe.  | |
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Posted: 2/6/2008 11:08:48 PM | "Classy" is how he describes his ideal babe.
Actually I think "Classy broad" would be the terminology used by the "gent" you describe. | |
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Posted: 2/6/2008 11:15:35 PM |
Part of being classy is being understated and a truly classy individual would prefer to earn that distinction
well? your not gonna know that now until you meet them are You?
I think your jumping the gun in the judgement department. | |
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Posted: 2/6/2008 11:31:15 PM | Being classy is not about being stuck up; it is about having style and taking care to be polite to others and to reflect a genuine interest in them. It is also about being confident in yourself.
Choose your battles--and your friends. Few are truly worth fighting. Stand up for those who cannot stand up for themselves (mentally disabled, animals, children, etc). Be wary of those who appear to enjoy bickering. If someone is rude to you, either ignore them completely (recommended) or, once you have completely calmed down and are thinking clearly, calmly put them in their place. Never stoop to their level, and do not be hasty. Surround yourself with positive, polite people who encourage and live your classy, intelligent lifestyle.
Exercise social graces. Remember what your father and mother (hopefully) taught you: open doors; do not curse; chew quietly; stand up straight, et cetera. Bad manners are unsophisticated and may cause you to appear unintelligent. If you find yourself in a more or less formal situation than you are accustomed to, observe those around you who seem to "fit" and follow their lead, provided that this does not compromise your personal standards.
Choose your words. The classy individual listens more than they speak. Having a strong vocabulary is important, but do not use a word unless you are certain of its meaning. Use words to express yourself lucidly. Importantly, do not correct others (unless you are an English professor). Differences in background, family life, and education cause people to speak differently, and often people use slang for effect. More than this, it is irritating and degrading to be corrected by a know-it-all. Do not insult, gossip, or slander. When necessary, voice your opinions appropriately and constructively. This encourages your audience to listen carefully when you speak.
Do not be a doormat. You must be courteous, but do not bend over backwards to please others. If you do, you may find yourself being taken advantage of in the future. Limit your time and availability and draw boundaries with others so that they are aware of your limits.
Break the stereotype shackles. More often than not, using labels in any way, whether to identify yourself or others, shows a lack of creativity, lethargic social skills, and a lack of careful observation. Give everyone respect and the benefit of the doubt.
Be assertive. Avoid passive-aggressive thinking; this is likely to trip you up eventually. Assertiveness demonstrates maturity, thoughtfulness, and confidence. Class requires balance, and assertiveness is a prime example of this concept.
Make sure your clothes fit well and that you are well groomed. Excellent presentation is half of the battle. Wear clothing and accessories which flatter your body and never wear anything you feel uncomfortable in. It is important to remember that modesty is key in earning the respect of others.
Avoid getting caught up in trends. There is nothing wrong with enjoying fashion or buying clothing you find attractive, but it is important to stay in control. Do not become a slave to fashion, or you may be regarded as foolish, "high maintenance", and/or shallow. The clothing you wear should enhance your personality, not create or alter it. This advice can be applied to many aspects of life in which you may feel pressured to "fit in."
Avoid desperate behavior like the plague. This is the kiss of death for the classy person. Only desperate times call for desperate measures. Take a deep breath, be strong, and move through the situation with elegance and grace. You will be the victor for it, no matter the outcome.
Seek wisdom. As difficult as it can be to heed the advice of those more experienced than yourself, it is a necessary step at times. No matter your age or ability, allow yourself to learn from the mistakes and victories of those older or more experienced than you. You will win their favor and be available to pass on your own wisdom or advice.
Be open to personal development. Do not berate yourself, but be receptive to constructive change. In our world, change is inevitable. Be a positive and flexible part of it and show others the way as well. Face life rather than burying your head in the sand and others will know instinctively that you are someone whose opinion counts. | |
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Posted: 2/6/2008 11:33:09 PM | valjean1789 wrote:
As I roam through these profiles, I find quite a few where women describe themselves as "classy".
It has always been my understanding that those who are classy would never attribute that adjective
to themselves. Part of being classy is being understated and a truly classy individual would prefer
to earn that distinction.
LOL, that's a very good observation. So the best we might say about those
who claim themselves to be "classy" is that they might want to be viewed that
way, but perhaps they're just not quite there yet.
CJ | |
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Posted: 2/6/2008 11:48:50 PM | | from the above responses I know I am alone....however I cannot help but giggle at the fact a man almost 60 years old, in a rainbow speedo, is questioning the "classy"-ness of people on a free dating site. I love the irony of life. ('') | |
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Posted: 2/6/2008 11:49:34 PM | | It is absolutely impossible to discuss the meaning of "classy" with anyone wearing a rainbow speedo. | |
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Posted: 2/6/2008 11:50:24 PM | | LOL thank you mojo!!!! | |
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Posted: 2/6/2008 11:50:29 PM | | I agree with the OP. They wouldn't attribute that adjective to themselves. That is something others should notice of them. I've seen some who say they are classy and are actually trashy. | |
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Posted: 2/7/2008 12:05:50 AM | To me it is the same as when someone writes on their profile that they are attractive. Maybe they are and maybe they are not but if they have photos up, why do they say that they are attractive? Isn't that the point of a frakking photo, for the person looking at it to think if the person is attractive or not.
I might be many things in life but I do not think I am classy so therefore if I think I am not, does that make me classy?
Anyone with class would not say they are classy as that lacks class in and of itself.
A rainbow speedo can be classy when worn with the right shoes. It also depends on how the person pulls it off.
~Carrie | |
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Posted: 2/7/2008 12:22:09 AM |
A rainbow speedo can be classy when worn with the right shoes. It also depends on how the person pulls it off.
I think everyone is praying they don't pull it off at all! | |
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Posted: 2/7/2008 2:20:06 AM | Classy= moves the dishes before peeing in the sink. May also like jazz.
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Posted: 2/7/2008 2:21:37 AM |
Dayum!!!
Guess I failed...
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I guess that also covers swearing like a trucker in public. | |
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Posted: 2/7/2008 3:41:04 AM | | To me if someone promotes themselves as 'classy' in their own profile...I tend to replace that word with the phrase 'high maintenance'. There IS a difference.... | |
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