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Posted: 2/8/2008 8:28:30 PM | | I'm a person that doesn't have problems with "authority"...i'm a teamplayer in most of situations, but i have this superior at my job that i can't figure out, he jokes around with the employees and trys to have this "I'm one of you"...demeanor to things but everytime i try to treat him like a equal or "one of us"..he becomes slightly insulted and wants to put on his "authority figure hat".......it's usually with me (from what i noticed)....then i'll get back "in my place"..for a few weeks then he'll, invite me to a strip club with him and his buddies or something until the next time i "cross the line"..but i don't think i cross the line with anything, whatever he's offened by must be something i say more then something i do, i feel like a yo-yo...has anyone experienced something like this?...i'm thnking about just ignoring him if he wants to discuss or do something that doesn't have to do with work...and i'm not going to try to hold my thong, and think a 2nd and a 3rd time before i attempt anything around him, i can just treat him like a superior if i'm going to do that....lolol | |
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| fake authority figure?
Posted: 2/9/2008 6:33:10 AM | | I think that just treating him like the authority figure that he is would be the best course of action. The more you continue to socialize with him, the more comfortable you'll become, and the more likely you'll be to eventually slip up and do or say something that could be held against you in the workplace. I wouldn't "ignore" him if he suggests doing something outside of work, but I would definitely decline the invitation and let him know that you've decided to keep your social life and your professional life separate. | |
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| fake authority figure?
Posted: 2/9/2008 2:25:41 PM | Definitly...keep the xocial life and the work place totally separate.
I tried the idea of "going out with the boss/co-workers", and found it really wasn't that great a thing. I was much happier just going out with my own friends, rather than spending my valuable off time with people I worked with every day. | |
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| fake authority figure?
Posted: 2/9/2008 5:44:04 PM | Oh. I thought this was about something else. Every once in a while, one of my friends will agonize about having another slice of cake (for example), and I'll say "Mr. Authority Figure says it's alright!"
If you go to the Monster employment website, and do a search for "christmas parties" you'll probably see several entries for people who made themselves look like a dumb ass at a company function, and are regretting it. Something like going to a work-sponsored party shouldn't be considered social, it should be considered work... you keep your professional hat on. I'd say the same thing applies if you go to the strippers with your boss, or just don't go. | |
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Posted: 2/9/2008 7:11:23 PM |
...he jokes around with the employees and trys to have this "I'm one of you"...demeanor to things but everytime i try to treat him like a equal or "one of us"..he becomes slightly insulted and wants to put on his "authority figure hat"....
Let me guess - your boss is named Michael Scott and you work at a paper company called Dunder Mifflin?
I love that show! http://www.nbc.com/The_Office/ | |
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| fake authority figure?
Posted: 2/9/2008 8:01:52 PM | Egomaniacs with a smidgon of power.
If I had a nickel for every 1/2 wit moron I've been managed by, I'd be retired.
I've been self employed for years but remember how threatened my managers would get, and then impose some BS mandate on me to keep me from showing them up.
If you ever have a chance to apply for a management position, make sure you give it a try. That way you keep the morons in check. You know those people I'm talking about. They are specifically the ones you've mentioned in this thread. | |
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Posted: 2/9/2008 8:39:35 PM | | Wow, that is so creepy, you just described my last supervisor's personality to a tee. I do naturally have a problem with authority, so my advice would probably be the worst to take, but the archetype of that type of person is the most important thing to have your finger on, or you will most definitely screw yourself somewhere along the way. Maybe not with that guy, but somebody like that guy. You see, he's basically trying to give you a brush so you can paint yourself into a corner. It's all come here and step off. The closer you get, the worse he can reprimand you, the better he feels, the more psyched out you get, then you try to get closer, vicious cycle, etc. So I'd most definitely keep the guy out of your bubble. You don't go to work to make friends. Work is work. One of those nights at the strip club something bad is going to go down, he'll say he has your back and the next day you'll be packing up your stuff. | |
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| fake authority figure?
Posted: 2/11/2008 4:25:46 AM | | i managed a video store for almost 6 years on and off. i kept getting demoted, and promoted, fired, rehired, raises, paycuts... they were retarded. they couldn't figure out if they wanted to fire me, or promote me. but i always hung out with coworkers. i didn't really care about my job, and as long as the management who didn't work in the store weren't bothering me, i didn't bother them. i told them exactly what to do so that none of us would be bothered, and that was that. i would never be the type to really care about anything that went wrong as long as it could be fixed w/out telling anybody above myself. but i mean, if i actually had to *be* a manager, and i had to actually care about the job, i probably wouldn't have been so friendly with a majority of them. i say just ignore any chance of a social life with him... i mean, why would you really want to hang out with an ***hole anyway? i'm sure you've got better things to do, too. go to work, do your job, and go home. i wouldn't bother with him if he's going to be a****about it. | |
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Posted: 2/11/2008 4:57:50 AM | Managers and supervisors never can seem to figure out which way to go with employees. It's always best not to get too chummy with the management.
What I really hate are the supervisors who are really incompetent at the jobs they are supervising and so torture everyone with picky little things.
Sometimes, you really have to wonder how most businesses stay afloat with the idiots that run them. | |
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Posted: 2/11/2008 6:04:01 AM | sounds very confusing, maybe the supervisor is insecure so doesn't know where he fits in
anyhoo, from your perspective, i'd just let the supervisor call the shots and not initiate anything yourself... keep in mind that he's not really your friend, no matter how he acts, so keep your guard up around him... if you can get out of doing things with him without jeopardizing your job or working relationship, then do so - it'd make it easier for you... if you feel that it's for the best (professionally) to go out with him and his mates occasionally, then treat it more like a business thing in your head - take your cues from his behaviour and don't go beyond it
sounds like fun, eh? (= insert slight edge of sarcasm here.. lol) | |
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Posted: 2/11/2008 4:45:25 PM | I work in management and I have a firm rule, which is I do not get too involved with my employees at a personal level. If I allowed them to do that they would take complete advantage of me and not take anything I ask them to do seriously. I certainly would NEVER invite an employee to a strip clubs, bars, dinners, etc.... This may cause a lot of trouble and other employees may feel outcast and think certain individuals are receiving special treatment. This however depends on where you work.
However, occasionally I would joke with employees just to show them that I am human and not just a pissed off boss. At times I can be a very tough boss, but if I did not act this way things would never get done.
I have heard a few employees that can't stand me and think I am too strict, but those are the ones that need constant supervision; and to be honest I really don't care. I think I am fair boss, I try to reach out to employees the best that I can and I think they see it too.
In the workforce, management and employees should never mesh. You should know your boundries with your boss because he/she is the one that hires you and he/she is the one that fires you. | |
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Posted: 2/15/2008 5:56:10 PM | | I never cared about if a supervisor/manager was "strict" or "laid-back", as long as their ONE THING!...and of course not an ***hole, the switching back andforth is annoying...lolol | |
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