| Problems with your man turning you down?
Posted: 2/8/2008 8:57:01 PM | | Does anyone else have problems with their man turning them down? I mean isn't it usually the women who doesn't put out? Lol. Im 20 years old and my bf is 27. Im not sure if it has anything to do with our age differences and energy levels, but really I feel like everytime I try to initiate, its just the same answer every time. | |
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| Problems with your man turning you down?
Posted: 2/8/2008 9:12:53 PM | Wow,thats kinda sad,& no,ive never,ever had that problem,ever.
So.....have you talked to him,asked him why hes not interested?
Is this just a recent occurence? How long have you been together?
Think i would tell him how its making you feel.........but,be kind & gentle.
Good luck,Op ! | |
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| Problems with your man turning you down?
Posted: 2/8/2008 9:35:37 PM | It could be stresses at work or being overtired. You need to talk to him about it. Ask him if there is something bugging him.
Mind you, the only time this has ever happened to me, he was messing around with somebody else! Not a nice option to think about, I know, but it does happen.
Good luck to you! | |
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| Problems with your man turning you down?
Posted: 2/8/2008 9:40:08 PM | Well have you told him lately how lovely he looks in that new blouse?
When was the last time you sent him flowers just because?
Do you jump right into it? or do you seduce him?
:) I know I am a smart ass. . . . . Sex is funny that way. . . all joking aside, is he smoking a lot of weed? Does he work out regularly? Is he on blood pressure medicine?
Have you asked him what turns him on?
Those might help......
Sorry kiddo, I wish no one was in this position. Get to the root of the issue, but try not to hit him in the head with comments like "So why haven't you been a real man lately?" :) | |
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| Problems with your man turning you down?
Posted: 2/8/2008 11:00:50 PM | | My last relationship was like that for a while, it wasn't until i realized I had started asking whether I wanted it or not just to see if the answer had changed. I quit asking. He got the message pretty quick. | |
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| Problems with your man turning you down?
Posted: 2/8/2008 11:46:53 PM | I think you two really need to talk he may have a physical or emotional problems, don't just dress up pounce on him. Go out have a meal talk calmly just you two. Get to the bottom of this, sooner the better.
Good Luck hope you work it out | |
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| Problems with your man turning you down?
Posted: 2/9/2008 12:36:16 AM | | He is your BF and he is 27 and he is not interested. Ok, it does not add up. You had better ask him where he is getting it. And by the way, you have a BF, what are you doing here? | |
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| Problems with your man turning you down?
Posted: 2/9/2008 1:41:34 AM | well, there's always that old saying...if he's not getting it from you..then he's getting it from someone else.
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That old saying comes from the prickings of a guilty consience. It's actually twice as many women who cheat as do men. | |
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| Problems with your man turning you down?
Posted: 2/9/2008 1:51:45 AM | Go the whole 9 yards and try seduction
If that doesn't work hes got problems lady
Other option is just to ignore him for a few days
[Buy some batteries first]
Maybe he wants to be the chaser/seducer not the chased/seduced | |
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| Problems with your man turning you down?
Posted: 2/9/2008 2:53:11 AM | | started losing my sex drive around last year too and for the person who said you have a b/f what are you doing here,i have a g/f i do not look at other peoples profiles on here and there is a section saying NOT SINGLE/NOT LOOKING,i actually come on here for this[forums]it passes away an hour a day when things are boring.In answer to your question,maybe he suffers from erection problems,pre mature ejaculation cheating or he developed gay tendancies or as someone else stated he could be doing a lot of drugs or drinking heavy,none of which happened to me[well maybe the drink] i just like women dressing up like porn films and if they dont i generally tend to have little or no interest so maybe he is just into different things and is afraid to tell you what he is into | |
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| Problems with your man turning you down?
Posted: 2/9/2008 4:09:52 AM | | I had a similar problem with someone I was dating and, with further investigation I realized he has some trouble keeping it up. Confront him on the issue, make it about you, not about him so he doesn't get uncomfortable. Ask him if he''s not attracted to you anymore or something. Even if he tells you something you don't want to hear at least you won't be wasting anymore time on him and you can move on. You know there is something wrong now go with your gut feeling so your not kicking yourself later. | |
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| Problems with your man turning you down?
Posted: 2/9/2008 4:35:40 AM | Run! If it starting now, it won't get better.
He could have a porn addiction, and have lost his mojo when it comes to a real woman.
If you get married - it won't change. Nip it in the bud now. | |
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| Problems with your man turning you down?
Posted: 2/9/2008 5:42:00 AM |
well, there's always that old saying...if he's not getting it from you..then he's getting it from someone else.
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That old saying comes from the prickings of a guilty consience. It's actually twice as many women who cheat as do men.
I would like to know where you get your information. Do you have links to support statement? | |
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| Problems with your man turning you down?
Posted: 2/9/2008 9:44:47 AM | That old saying comes from the prickings of a guilty consience. It's actually twice as many women who cheat as do men.
I believe there is JUST as many women who cheat on men as men who cheat on women, but twice as many???? I want to see something to back that up. | |
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| Problems with your man turning you down?
Posted: 2/9/2008 4:23:51 PM | There's always someone who's all self-righteous and quick to point someone's in a relationship as if that has anything to do with the question at hand. Someone was pouncing on me because they thought I was wearing a wedding ring in an old profile picture (wrong hand, wrong finger... and it was a class ring). Even if it were their business, it's not relevant, it's childish.
Now... on to the question... If he never initiates sex and always turns you down, there's a problem that needs talking about. if your guy initiates sex himself, then maybe he's just shy about you being the aggressor. This also needs discussion. The why he's turning you down is significant. Also, frequency does matter. If your partner turned you down once... well, just because we're guys doesn't mean we always say yes to sex (and I mean from their partner). | |
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| Problems with your man turning you down?
Posted: 2/9/2008 7:29:41 PM | Well, you haven't reposted except to answer the question about why are you here.
How long have you two been together? Have you experienced any changes in your life or his that have created stress for him? Has he pretty much always seemed to want sex less or is this a new thing? At some point, the bunny rabbit stuff that happens at the beginning of a relationship cannot be sustained. People need to sleep, there are other concerns in their lives, any number of things can make someone look like their sex drive has gone down.
As others have noted it may be not really getting into the foreplay or hell, maybe even guys don't want to have sex if that is the only time you touch him is when you are going to have sex.
I think to get any better advice you will have to provide more information. Answers to some of these questions and any others as I have not read all of the posts. Sometimes you need to do something to get a man's interest after you have been together for a while. He may be depressed. He may have substance abuse issues. He may have developed some type of erectile dysfunction.
You may also have discovered that you have different sex drives and depending on how far apart they are, you may be able to deal or it may eventually split you up. I think it is a wee bit more difficult for guys to have sex when they don't really want to. | |
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| Problems with your man turning you down?
Posted: 2/9/2008 7:45:20 PM | | I had this problem with a guy once but he was a recreational drug user! There is usually reasons ehind it and it doesnt neccesarily mean its you. It depends how much pressure your putting on him too! | |
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| Problems with your man turning you down?
Posted: 2/9/2008 10:16:31 PM |
what am i doing here? obviously one of the options of being here is for friends. maybe i needed advice?
OP - if you want advice, you have to help us out. You didnt give us enough information to make any suggestions about. Does he take meds? Does he use pot? How long have you been together? Has it always been like this with you two or is this a recent change? Do you think he is cheating? I mean, I could offer advice, but it will be pointless until I know more.
I say dump him, based on what you have offered so far. Why sit around and wait? Most men are horny as hell WAY past the age of 27. Shit, one of my best lovers was 35 when I was 27, so I would say something is WRONG with this picture you have painted. | |
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| Problems with your man turning you down?
Posted: 2/9/2008 10:37:11 PM | | I don't think it's a common problem with men in their 20s. It happened to me once in my whole life's experience, and actually it was because i got the urge in the middle of the night, while bf wanted to keep sleeping. | |
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