| When a girl calls you nice does it = boring
Posted: 2/9/2008 6:50:16 AM | | Took a girl out the other nite and we both decided on a few drinks and a chat. Went out got on really well I THOUGHT! had a laugh and there were none of them awkward silences. Since tho i`ve been getting the usual cliche - your a nice guy BUT! Its now turned into your a nice bloke maybe too nice for me. Does this mean it were sh1te for her and i bored the pants off her! or am i reading into this too much!! Were still texting and i`ve left the ball in her court whether to go out again. This is not a self pity thread!! Just want a female perspective to whether i still have a chance or has that finished! Used to be a bit of a lad but packed that in now and its not the first time this has happened!! | |
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| When a girl calls you nice does it = boring
Posted: 2/9/2008 7:04:46 AM |
Went out got on really well I THOUGHT! had a laugh and there were none of them awkward silences.
I think most women are looking for something more than a laugh and no awkward moments. It's that old 'chemistry' thing again. A man can be perfectly nice, but there is just no interest. | |
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| When a girl calls you nice does it = boring
Posted: 2/9/2008 7:36:25 AM | Maybe..but being online is far different to meeting in person..do you not think? it's meeting in person which is the important bit..otherwise people would fall in love online, propose, and meet each other on their wedding day... | |
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| When a girl calls you nice does it = boring
Posted: 2/9/2008 7:48:46 AM | I don't think that nice = boring. She said that you were nice but too nice for her. Nothing wrong with you.. just some feel it and some dont. Some times you can feel the chemistry and the other person feels nothing. Keep casting your line out there Micky.
Happy Fishing | |
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| When a girl calls you nice does it = boring
Posted: 2/9/2008 8:01:07 AM | to finish the sentence
' you're a nice guy but i don't feel the chemistry'
she's actually complimenting you when saying you are nice.. would you rather be called a jerk?
i think not
accept it and move on.. or you two could just be friends and continue to get to know one another! | |
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| When a girl calls you nice does it = boring
Posted: 2/9/2008 8:12:41 AM | | No I dont want 2 be called a jerk or anything like that but when i was a prick it always seemed to go past the first date but now it doesn`t!! What am i supposed to do? Go back to my old ways!! | |
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| When a girl calls you nice does it = boring
Posted: 2/9/2008 8:25:48 AM |
No I dont want 2 be called a jerk or anything like that but when i was a prick it always seemed to go past the first date but now it doesn`t!! What am i supposed to do? Go back to my old ways!!
What WERE your old ways? Were you a player, or just a little more aggressive? BTW, looks have very little to do with 'chemistry' for many women. You can be a male model and not 'click' with some women, or look like a nerd and have the chemistry with other women. | |
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| When a girl calls you nice does it = boring
Posted: 2/9/2008 8:32:12 AM | | No never been a player!! Always been a one woman man always will be!! Wouldn't and couldn't cheat on anyone!! Never been violent with women and kids never would do, not a chance!! Just used to like brawling with like minded people but realised its not worth it. | |
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| When a girl calls you nice does it = boring
Posted: 2/9/2008 9:15:40 AM | | Well, saying you are too nice is definitely a bad thing....she is probably not interested and doesn't want to hurt your feelings. However, it doesn't mean she isn't being sincere...you probably are really nice, and what's wrong with that? Something to consider....you don't need to be too nice and show that you are so interested...we women don't like major game players, but we do like a man to project a sense of confidence, especially if he can do it in a funny way. | |
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| When a girl calls you nice does it = boring
Posted: 2/9/2008 9:22:46 AM | | I would say no, it doesn't mean you're boring, she just doesn't feel anything more than she met a nice guy. A nice guy yes, but not a nice guy she felt sparks for - chemistry as Desi wrote. | |
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| When a girl calls you nice does it = boring
Posted: 2/9/2008 11:47:58 AM | If you're too nice, it's usually means you're too passive for her, when she may want someone more in charge. Perhaps she wants someone who can stand up to himself without being walked over. You should be glad they tell you that rather than lead you on to take advantage of you.
If a guy is too nice, too passive, and I have a thought that he'll do what I'll tell him, then it's a turn off, cuz I hate taking advantage ofpeople, and cant' stand a person who doesn't stand up for himself and make his own choices/decisions.
when you go on dates, take charge of the conversations, ask her questions, give her an insight of yourself. Don't always wait for her to be the one to talk. If you go on a coffe date and it's nice day out, suggest to walk around the area. don't offer flowers on the first date, sorry to me, it just seems cheesy and wierd. | |
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| When a girl calls you nice does it = boring
Posted: 2/9/2008 10:34:20 PM | | I am convinced that guys who complain that women want a bad boy or that "nice guys finish last" are just missing the point. A nice, average-looking or under average looking guy for some reason always assumes that the place that they went wrong is that they were too nice. They'll see a guy that all the girls go nuts for and assume, because he's not being as nice as they are, and assume that is how he is getting the girls - by being less nice. That's ridiculous. It's because he is hot. If he was hot AND nice he'd get even more girls. I disagree with the post that said that what a guy looks like has very little to do with who they have chemistry with. It's true that there are a lot more women out there who will see beyond a guys looks compared to men. But looks are not irrelevant. I guess nice guys want to make themselves feel better by saying that women are messed up and wanted to be treated like dirt, rather than admit that the other guy is more physically attractive. | |
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| When a girl calls you nice does it = boring
Posted: 2/10/2008 12:08:43 AM | | What a shock, a girl dismissing a guy because he was nice? I never thought I'd hear that story. Here's my advice, try and take her out again, and if she says yes, while on the date, act like a total ass and be very arrogant. She'll like you then, I guarantee it. I've never tested this out because 1.) I've never been on a date, and 2.) I can't act like that, but from all the stories I've read on here and everywhere else, and observing my family and friends for many years, that's what will work. Being nice and polite will get you nowhere with girls anymore, maybe a hundred or two hundred years ago it would have though. | |
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